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WHY is it ok for black guys to date caucasian chicks but it's not ok for black ladies to date caucasian guys.
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It`s okay either way. People are judgmental & you don`t deserve to be discriminated. =)
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Either is perfectly fine.
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who says so hey i am white and i had 2 kids w/ a black man. and they are screwed up cuz i am a fat lard
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Ugh, freaking stereotypes. If more people don't give in to them, maybe over time people will become more accepting. I hope so.
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You know what? I honestly can't relate to you on that because I live in a multi-cultural place and everyone dates everybody.
But I guess you can look at it as peer pressure. The hardcore black urban scene dictates that a black man will always have more street cred than a white man.
These days we have a lot of reverse-racism going on in the world. Because the whites have enslaved black people, the black people refuse to let anyone else cross the line.
So a black man can get with a black girl or a white girl and what is a white man going to say about that? "You're a dirty n---. Get away from white girls." I doubt it. Unless he has a death wish, he'll run away fasted than you can say "race card".
And when a white man starts going out with a black woman, the black males will accuse the white man of stealing what belongs to "his kind".
A black woman looking on a black man/white woman relationship can't do much except bitch about it. But sometimes that's enough to break a couple up too.
Sometimes things like these aren't exactly as I put them either. They might not be verbal at all. Instead, a white guy might unconsciously back off black women forever, knowing that he might get in trouble.
It's a honestly all bullshit. People spend too much time representing their colour or their kind or their "people" instead of understanding that the type of person you are isn't what you look like, it's how you act and how you think.
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Where did you hear that? I see people all over the place/ guys w/girls, girls w/guys. I don't even notice anymore whose with whom. What's important here is chemistry/love. If you strike it up w/someone and feel an attraction I think everything else is elementary. The fact of the matter is there is no such thing as "race" in the first place. We are all descended from a South African bushman tribe called the Le San. We have all be genetically traced to them. There is not a human being on this planet that can't trace their genealogy back to them. There have been scientific studies that prove this and they have been put into a documentary called "Journey of Man". You can purchase it on line from PBS for $29 or you can wait for it to air again. They've also put it into book form. It explains how some of us ended up lighter skinned than others. Just keep in mind there is no such thing as race. This is just an illusion we seem to choose to live with. I personally choose not to to live by the illusion.
Now to answer your question: in some areas of our country there has been a stigma which makes it looked down upon for a darker (black) skinned woman to date a lighter(white) skinned man. I think this may be because of what happened during slavery in this country. Back in those days the male owner of the plantation would take female slaves on his plantations as mistresses. They'd sometimes set them up in their own homes, their own servants/slaves, and would use them for only one reason. There are many stories of women who fell in love w/these men, had children with them and thought it possible they would even marry them, but of course this never happened, at least not openly. These women died being looked down upon by both races. Now for black males, after the war, it was looked upon as a status symbol if he were to be able to have a white woman at his side. As a matter of fact I think up until the 60's it was still on the books in many states that it was against the law for a white person to develop a romantic relationship w/a black person regardless of gender. There were people who have been arrested, in those days, for that very thing. The point here being the different set of rules that were set up because of the circumstances of those times. I think that in many cases people have lost sight of where these stigmas have come from and are reacting to feelings that have been handed down. For this very reason I think it is important for us to ignore those feelings and not pay any attention to those who express them. These are people who are stuck in their feelings of fear and they are to be pitied, not encouraged. If there is someone who you have special feelings for and they have them for you than there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to explore them to see if this person isn't the one for you. I have included some websites below for you to explore. Good luck to you!
This is a short synopses of what "Journey of Man" is about.
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This is where you can buy the book "Journey of Man".
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This is where you can purchase the 2 hour CD.
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This website goes into what happened to slave women here in America.
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This is where you can purchase one of the most amazing books ever written "Jubilee", by Dr. Margaret Walker. I feel strongly about this book. I feel that if "Gone with the Wind" is on required reading lists than so should this book. It's an amazing true story about a young woman who was born into slavery.
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This is a synopsis of a PBS documentary about a black male boxer in the early 1900s who married white women. He was highly publicized and I think this is one of the places where it was treated as if it was a status symbol.
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A shorter version of Jack Johnson.
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Namaste!
LULABELLE
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Who says?
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Pop culture. That's usually the source of something like this.
If yo're an African-American lady/gentleman who has her/his heart set on someone of the Caucasion race.. go for it.
Reject pop culture and follow your heart.
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no one said that it was not ohk. I know tons of black ladies dating caucasian guys. Whoever told you that its ot ohk is wrong.
Date whoever you want.
kim:)
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Who says it's not ok? I've seen many black women date white men. I guess it depends on where you live, but it's becoming widely more acceptable now.
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