Most girls have irregular periods for a while, some last up to ten days - though this is rare. If you're only having blood flow when you are urinating, or if it is painful when you urinate, if you're having extremely bad cramps/back pain, you should see a doctor immediately - this could be a urinary tract infection or kidney infection. If you're not having those signs, wait till the end of ten days and if you're still on your period, consult a doctor.

[thewretchedmelody]

I've dealt with this - only it was my [ex]boyfriend.

I don't even know why he became so depressed.. we were together and, I thought, happy with each other. He didn't want to break up with me, but he was a cutter.
I held my feelings in - BAD MOVE. I ended up doing it too, because he kept saying how much better it made him feel and..he was wrong.

In the end, it was one of the reasons I had to break up with him. At everything, he cut or wanted to.
I told him, numerous times, that it was a huge problem in the relationship...but it didn't sink in until I broke up with him.

Try not to break up with your girlfriend, if at all possible. Tell her, though, how it makes you feel. Tell her that it's killing you and makes you sick. Let her know that you want to talk to her and help her. Always always always be open to talking to her - at all times. Tell her to call you whenever she feels like cutting. It's good for us females to know that our male counterparts are always looking out for us.

Also..if she's religious.. try getting her to talk to a pastor/youth pastor/clergy man/Rabbi about the way she's feeling.

[thewretchedmelody]

I know a little about this subject...
Just in case you don't already know, systolic blood pressure [the higher number] is the pressure of your blood when your heart is contracting. Diastolic blood pressure is the pressure when your heart is relaxed. It is read in mmHg, which stands for milimeters of mercury [Hg].

Generally speaking, if your SBP [systolic blood pressure] is over 160, and your DBP [diastolic blood pressure] is over 95, it is too high.

"Optimal" SBP is 120 or less, and DPB is less than 80. [written : 120/80]

Blood pressure less than 100/60 is too low.

I hope that answers your question.

[thewretchedmelody]

It doesn't matter how old you are if you're new to driving. You need to have a liscensed, experienced driver over the age of 21 in the passenger seat with you.

[thewretchedmelody]

Many teenagers go through depression, which is definitely what you're experiencing.

God CAN help. But for Him to help, you have to be a Christian. I don't mean you have to be a Catholic, or a Baptist, or a Protestant ... you have to be a Christian.

God loved you and me so much that He died for us. If you were the only person in the whole world, God still would've sent His son, Jesus, to die for you and bear your sins.

Being a Christian is really simple. But there are some things that you must do.

You must ADMIT that you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 : "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" Nobody deserves to go to heaven. Not even pastors, ministers, clergymen, or rabbis. They sin just as much as we do. Isaiah 64:6 says "All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel us like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away." You deserve to die. Because you've lied, and cheated, and stolen, and disobeyed you deserve to die. Romans 6:23 explains this, but also gives us hope! "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." Which leads us to our next topic..

You must BELIEVE that Christ is Lord.
Romans 10:9 says "That if you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved."
Jesus Christ is the only perfect being ever. He was completely perfect. He never sinned, not even once. He was completely man, but also completely God. He was born to a virgin - Mary. She had never been with a man, and when Gabriel told her she was pregnant, she was not even married. But Mary was faithful and she bore the child and named him Jesus. Jesus grew up just like everyone else. He experienced pain and heartache and suffering, but he never sinned. When Jesus turned 31, he began preaching and teaching throughout his country. When he was 33, he was crucified on the cross. Because he never sinned, he didn't deserve to die. But he did it because of his amazing, unfailing love for us. There is NOTHING you can do to make God stop loving you.

Now you CONFESS and repent. Like I told you earlier, Romans 10:9 says "That if you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." That's really what it means. Confessing with your mouth is as easy as praying a simple prayer. You can pray anywhere, any time, any place with anyone. You don't have to be with a pastor or at a church. You have an open line to God through prayer. Acts 26:20 says "...That they should repent and turn to God and prove their repentance by their deeds." Repentance is like doing a 180 on a skateboard. You're going one way then you turn around and go the other way. Suppose you have a bad habit of lying to your parents. Repentance would be apologizing to God for lying to them in the past, and then actively striving to not lie to them anymore. You are a person and you do have a built in sin nature [thank you, Adam and Eve] but with the grace of God you can overcome that.

Last, but most defintely not least, DONT wait. The Bible teaches all through Romans, Daniel, Revelations and others that there will be a Rapture. Though this word is never used in the Bible, it is a word that theologians have created to describe when God takes the Church to heaven. The church is not the Catholics, or the Protestants, or the Baptists or the Jews. The Church is all the Christians over all the world. What will happen is this : "Listen, I tell you a mystery: Well will not all sleep [which means die], but we[Christians] will all be changed-- in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the lst trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable and we will all be changed." - I Corinthians 15:51-52
What these verses are talking about is the Rapture. No one, not even Jesus knows when the Rapture will happen. Only God the Father knows. At the least expected moment, all of the Christians all over the world, dead and alive, old and young will be taken to heaven. Following this, the Antichrist will make his apperance. Then, the Tribulation. These are the final seven years of the earth. And God will bring down the most terrible judgments on the sinners. You may ask, "But if God is a loving God, why can't we all just go to heaven?" And I have an answer. God IS a very loving God - but he is also a just God. There must be rules. But God is merciful and forgiving - he wants everyone to live in heaven; but there are skeptics. There are people who doubt the existance of God and therefore will not believe in Him. Believing in him is not enough though - you must have faith in him, that He is Lord of all. Even the Devil believes that there is God. But the Devil does not serve God, he wants to be god himself.

God can help you through your depression. And you won't become a Christian and POOF! all your problems dissapear. However, God gave us the Holy Spirit which lives inside of us which encourages us. He also gave us the Bible [Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth] which is the ultimate love letter. On top of that, he gave us other Christians. Fellow believers who can encourage and support us in our most dire moments.

If you are not a Christian and you want to be one, to spend eternity in Heaven, never wanting, never crying, never being hungry or thirsty, never being sad or lonely - simply pray the following prayer with all of your heart :

"Father, I am a sinner. I'm sorry that I've disobeyed you and hurt you. Please forgive me. I know that You are the Lord of all creation, and I want to serve You. Come into my heart and be the Lord of my life. Thank you, God. In Christ's holy name, Amen"

If you prayed this prayer, and you meant it and you believe it, I welcome you into the family of believers! If you are already a Christian and wish to rededicate your life, simply pray and ask God to refresh you.

Begin to read your Bible regurally. You would be amazed at how much you really are refreshed and encouraged when you spend 20 minutes reading your Bible and praying daily. If you don't have a Bible, and won't be able to get one for a while, try going to http://www.bible.com/ every morning and doing the provided devotional and praying. Get involved in a local church. Talk to a youth pastor about the depression you're experiencing. Youth pastors are trained to help you cope with things like this.

One last thing : KNOW that you are loved.
If you ever need or want to talk, hit me up on my Myspace. The link is on my column. Just click the website link that is in my info column. It'll take you straight to my Myspace. Add me then message me and we can talk.

[thewretchedmelody]

Okay. I have acne too, kindof like what yours sounds like. It's not "bad" or anything, I just sometimes have a few little spots. What I do to keep them down is I thoroughly wash my face three times a day. What I mean by "thoroughly" is it takes me probably 5 minutes.

First I use hot water and get a washrag wet with it. I lay it over my face till the rag cools off. Then I wash my face with AcneFree solutions. This is a cheap alternative to Proactive. It was only about $20 and it works really well. I wash my face with the step 1 which is a face soap. Then I use step 2 which is a toner. After that I get really really really cold water and put my washrag in it and then place the rag over my face for a few minutes. This closes your pores. Then I use a moisturizer. The AcneFree solutions has a moisturizer included in it, but I use a walmart moisturizer that has SPF15 in it. I do this when I wake up and when I go to bed.

When I take a shower I wash my face with a really super cheap [like $5] face wash that I keep in the shower.

If you have a pimple, try sleeping with a baking soda-based toothpaste on it. The baking soda helps dry the pimple up.

Green tea also helps. Boil a bag of green tea, then let it cool. Dip your washcloth in it after you've thoroughly cleaned your face and lay the cloth over your face. It really does help close and minimize pores.

Try buying a cheap acne cream that is for existing pimples. Supermarkets like Walmart and Target sell these.

If you pop a pimple, use cotton balls to push against your skin instead of your fingers because this will keep the pimple cleaner. Be sure to wash the area of the pimple regurally. If you wear makeup, try to use a makeup that is free of oils if you use foundation. CoverGirl makes a great concealer powder that helps absorb oils which is fantastic. If you do pop the pimple, put Neosporin or Polysporin on it to help it heal faster. Baking soda based toothpastes will help reduce redness in pimples.

[thewretchedmelody]

I don't always wash my hair every day, but if I don't wash it every other day it gets really gross and greasy. If you absolutely CANT wash your hair every other day, you can sprinkle baby powder into your hair and brush it through. The baby powder absorbs the grease which is what makes your hair look so "gross." If you are still going to wash your hair twice a week only, try seperating your hair into layers and sprinkling baby powder on each section of hair. This will keep your hair looking fresher longer. My ultimate suggestion is just to wash it more often, but you may not be able to do that. Trust me though, baby powder is a miracle worker. Brush your hair often, this helps spread the oil through your hair more evenly and helps keep your hair soft and supple.

[thewretchedmelody]

There isn't a way, that I have yet found, to hide only the send message link without deleting the whole contact box.

Try http://www.myspacesupport.com/ and http://www.freecodesource.com/.

They may not be able to help you hide only the send message button.. but you can create custom icons for the add to friends, block, etc. buttons, that way you don't have to even have a send message button.

But that's the only solution that I have yet to find.

[thewretchedmelody]

For me.. piercings are AMAZING. I'll make a list of piercings and what I think about each one :

Nose : eh.. I'm not a big fan of this one. Septum piercings are better than nostril piercings for guys. Wayyy better.

Lip : YES. I love lip piercings. Not labret though. That to me says "female" - but just my opinion. Snakebites are gorgeous. Anything on the lower lip, though I prefer them to be on the side instead of in the middle. But wherever you have it, I'll love it.

Eyebrow : Yes. Eyebrow piercings are pretty awesome.

Ears : Earrings are fine, as long as they're not obnoxious. For instance : if you have a HUGE diamond [or crystal..whatever] stud in your ear.. I think it's dumb. I don't like it. However, if you have a 12 gauge horseshoe in, that's gorgeous.

Nipples : gross. I don't like that at all.

Surface : It's okay. But it's really a bit much if you ask me.

Genital : Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.

Tongue : [shudders] I really dislike tongue piercings. Kissing? Sorry.. not stimulating. Just disturbing.

Navel : Not in boys. No.

Call me "old fashioned" .. but I don't want a guy who has sixteen piercings in his face alone. I want to be able to see and touch his face. Lip is perfect for me though.
And even if the guy doesn't have piercings.. I'm okay with it. As long as he's got a nice personality.
But that's probably not what you're looking for..

[thewretchedmelody]

Pop culture. That's usually the source of something like this.

If yo're an African-American lady/gentleman who has her/his heart set on someone of the Caucasion race.. go for it.

Reject pop culture and follow your heart.

[thewretchedmelody]

According to www.urbandictionary.com/, an emo kid is described as the following :

One who rejects "pop culture" and joins the counter-culture realm. Usually has ideas contrary to popular opinion and seeks to gain a better understanding of life through artistic venues. May appear depressed, have black or red hair, and dress in a way that is contrary to what is popular. Thrift stores, art, coffee shops, underground music, and poetry are usually of great interest. Contrary to popular opinion, though an emo kid may seem depressed, within their own group there is an element of deep understanding and friendship. Emo kids see the world as beautiful, but its inhabitants as lost and depressing.

A very long definition from the same website of a scene kid is as follows :

The word "scene" coves a large spectrum throughout recent history, but its most modern definition is used to describe certian subcultures and movements. The most notoriously famous and targeted is the alternative music scene, or more specifically, branches of the alternative music scene such as hardcore, indie, fashoionxcore, etc. A breed of scenesters (people on the scene) has begun to come to the forefront. These scenesters are usually very music-savvy and loyal to a few specific genres (typically hardcore, metal, indie, retro, 80's new wave, classic rock, etc. to name a few), of which they dress to exemplify. It is hard to pin down a style for a scene male or female, considering the trends amongst them vary from coast to coast, and certian fads come in and out within their ranks. Typically, though, many scene kids will have facial piercings, tattoos, and longer hair. It is not unusual to see teased hair with long bangs on males, or short fauxhawks (a mohawk without the sides shaved, a fashion-friendly version) on females. It is almost a throwback to the revolution of Britian's glam era, very androgynous and fresh. Scenesters take a lot of pride in their overall image, and often they appreciate shock value. Oftentimes they are thrifty, employing their abilities as bargian-hunters and do-it-yourself gurus to do something unique with their style. Large vintage sunglasses, retro patterns, tight jeans, classic metal/band tees, plastic jewelry, and heavy eye makeup are just some of the incorperations into scene style for either sex. This style and showmanship is at its height during shows (concerts), where often scene kids will meet their friends and size up strangers who visit their turf. There indeed is competition among scenesters...sometimes friendly, sometimes not. Shows are in fact not just concerts, but often a means of socialization for those on the scene. Those people who partake in scene lifestyle often choose to date/socialize only with those like them, which can cause bitterness or rejection to outsiders.
The music scene is often associated with other areas that scenesters are interested in, which is liekely, art, photography, creative writing, poetry, tattoos & piercings, civil rights, animal rights, etc. Many scene kids have strong beliefs about these things and consider those who do not to be "posers." They feel that their scene style is not only a fashion statement, but an all-encompassing lifestyle. Many scene kids incorperate their future plans into their lifestyle, going into careers such as journalism, photography, artistry, piercing, tattooing, working for magazines, being musicians, hairstylists, running venues and/or coffee shops, etc. This tends to cause scene kids to congregate, visit, or even move to big cities to find opportunities to meet other scenesters, find jobs that suit them, or to live where they have a plethora of activities that they enjoy readily at their disposal.
Recently internet revolutions like myspace.com have provided a new means for the ideas of scene culture to be spead, for scenesters to find new friends, bands, and activities. Scensters design stylish and graphic profile pages to both draw attention to themselves and to find others like them, and many people have joined up with the scene fad due to internet advertising.

So you see, while similar, scene kids and emo kids are different.
As a general whole, the way they dress is close, but not the same.
Emo kids generally don't wear as tight of pants as scene kids do. Emo kids do not always wear black horn-rimmed glasses; but occasionally may be found with them. Sweaters and vintage tshirts are common, as are messanger bags, converse and studded belts.

A scene kid will almost always be found with super-tight pants [girlpants on boys, skinny leg jeans on girls], a vintage and very small tshirt, perhaps from the thrift store, or from a younger sibling or from years past. Girls enjoy putting bows/clips/headbands in their short hair which is usually cut in a choppy manner with bangs, on guys and girls. Bandanas are a must, and they can be worn on the head, neck, wrist, or in a pocket. Vans slip ons, converse and other flats are classically defined as scene footwear. Your average scene girl will have multi-colored hair, usually a darker color with light blonde and honey colored dyes in choppy sections. [Note : completely different from high- and low-lighting] A scene kid's hair is usually at least two different colors, maybe more. As a general whole, scene kids love dinosaurs, robots, polka-dots, stars, pokemon, and younger child television shows - but not all of the scene kids are like this. Some, but not all scene kids are vegetarians or vegans.

I hope this has helped you some.
I tried to be non-biased and I didn't attack anyone. If you read through most accounts in www.urbandictionary.com/, the descriptions and definitions of a scene or emo kid are very biased and attack the nature and character of the person, which I find highly offensive.

[thewretchedmelody]

I understand your discomfort for putting up a question that is really personal.

I'd like to assure you though, no matter if you're a guy or a girl, it's completely normal.

Though, as a general rule of thumb, guys have a stronger sex drive, girls can defintely experience sexual desire - which is totally normal. If we didn't experience sexual desire, population rate would go way down, right?

It's completely normal, hormones and all.

Some teenagers fill the 'desire' with masturbation.
You shouldn't feel pressured to masturbate, or not to masturbate. Some teenagers do, some don't feel comfortable doing so. It's all up to you.

[thewretchedmelody]

Find the picture you want to put as a caption and upload it onto a server such as www.tinypic.com/ or www.imagesource.us/. Copy the "direct link" for the uploaded picture. Go to Myspace and into "add/edit photos." Choose the picture and click on "add caption."

In the caption space type and save the caption. Don't delete the space between img and src. That is a very important space. In "YOUR URL HERE" you should paste the direct link you copied.
NOTE : before you upload the picture onto a image host, RESIZE IT! It's got to be smaller than the picture you're putting it under. It doesn't have to be tiny, just smaller than the big picture.
[thewretchedmelody]

I was anorexic for 8 months. That doesn't sound like a long time.. But I wasn't fat to start with. I was 4'11'' and 96 pounds. After 8 months I was 5'0'' and 85 pounds. I couldn't possibly loose any more weight because I was working out and gaining muscle weight.

It would only take 3 or 4 sips of water and 1/4 of a peanut butter and jelly sandwich to make me so full I thought I'd throw up.

Because when you're anorexic, which you probably are - just not a "serious, case classic" anorexic - your stomach shrinks. Then when you eat, your stomach bloats and you look almost pregnant and you feel fat which makes you eat less... Well anyway, your stomach is shrunk so it won't hold as much.

If you want to - and you need to - stretch it back some, just try to eat smaller, well proportioned meals every day. It's hard when school starts back, but it's really healthy to eat 5 or 6 times a day instead of 3. Like eat at 6:30AM, then 9:30AM, then 11:30AM [or 12:00PM], then 3:30PM, and 5:30PM. This will help stretch your stomach. Remember the key is balanced. Like for breakfast, milk and 1 piece of toast. Then the next meal water and a piece of fruit - or if you're in a pinch, a breakfast or energy bar. Then crackers and cheese, some veggies, 1/2 a low-fat turkey sandwich or even "cracker stackers" - lowfat turkey, cheese and crackers.

It's better not to eat really late. It's hard for me because my dad doesn't get home usually until after 7:30PM and my mom wants us to eat together. On the nights that he doesn't get home until late, I just have to eat without them because I don't eat after 7:00. I like to eat at like 6:15 and no later - nothing after 7:00PM at all. It's better for your digestion, sleeping, and body.

[thewretchedmelody]

A scar is a little different from what you're talking about.
What you're seeing now isn't scar tissue, but damaged skin.

Before popping a pimple next time, try heating it up with really, really hot washcloths, or putting toothpaste and a bandaid on it for several hours - or overnight.

If you must pop it, put a really hot washcloth on it for 10 or so minutes. Then get a small sewing needle, disinfect it with rubbing alcohol, peroxide etc. and find the opening to your pore if possible. Using a needle will help minimize the redness because you're not squeezing as hard.

If possible, use cottonballs or Q-tips instead of just your fingers, it'll help some with the redness.

For now though, put some toothpaste on it for a little while. Then put a bandaid and Neosporin on it to help it heal. If you have to go out, use some green concealer makeup to balance out the redness of the pimple, but then immediately wash it off when you get home.

[thewretchedmelody]

Making sure that everyone knows how to play their instrument, then holding band practice. And often. Using someone else's sheetmusic from a song you already know [an easy song to start with] and practicing it. Practice at home AND at band practice.

That's the most important step - getting everything all together. Once you sound good, record some of it with a cheap-ish recorder from wal-mart and upload it onto a CD, then put it on PureVolume and Myspace. Once you're on Myspace, set up a "whore code" and have your friends show you off to their friends - the more friends you have as a band, the more likely it is you'll be noticed.

Try to get into local shows. If you're not planning to be a hardcore band you can still get shows. They're fewer and further between.. but search the internet, ask around and you'll probably be able to find something somewhere. Post it on your Myspace and PureVolume profile that you want a gig; somebody will bite. Though you might not get paid at first.. it's still worth it.

Good luck

[thewretchedmelody]

If you straighten and blowdry your hair in the morning, try taking a shower at night and letting your hair dry naturally. It's bad for your hair to blow-dry it and to straigten it with a flat iron.

If you don't straighten it, you just blowdry it, try to reduce how much you blow dry it.

This sounds gross.. but don't wash your hair every day.

Be sure to wash your hair a BUNCH. Brushing your hair will help spread your hair's natural oil throughout all of your hair which will help restore some of the shine.

Use a heavy moisturizing conditioner.

Wash your hair in cold water. I mean as cold as you can stand it. Then right before you get out of the shower, rinse your hair really well with freezing water.

[thewretchedmelody]

I can't tell you who to choose, because I've never met you or either of the guys so I don't know your style in guys.

However, to help you choose, why don't you take a piece of paper and write down the pros and cons for each guy. This may help you decide who you like best.

You also might want to write down what YOU want in a guy before making the lists about the guys. Then you can choose the guy that has the most qualities that you want in a guy.

Think about whose personality you believe you'll be able to get along with best.

For the guy you don't choose, be gentle when telling him no; be careful not to hurt him - but don't leave any loopholes.

[thewretchedmelody]

I have a friend that uses Nair and Veet sometimes, though I don't know which products.

I too hate shaving, but I found out very quickly that I was allergic to Nair. If you're considering using a non-razor hair removal product, try it out on a small portion of your leg. I failed to do this and both of my legs had hives. It hurt quite badly.
Just a bit of advice there.

Try reading these consumer reviews on this website :

http://www.mouthshut.com/product-reviews/Nair_Cream_Hair_Remover-925022694.html

[thewretchedmelody]

Well you do have to take into consideration that it has only been two months.

Try to remember though that gifts aren't everything.

My boyfriend and I decided not to swap gifts for "anniversarries" even though he and I have been together for sixteen months. The only time we swap presents is birthdays/Christmas, though flowers on Valentines day are always nice. :]

Roses are definately a nice gesture... but don't overuse them or she'll see them as a cop out; just you being too lazy to think of something else, you know?

But for now, roses are wonderful.

Happy 2nd month! :]

[thewretchedmelody]

I'm Alicia.

I'm against :
abortion
anti-Semitism
premarital sex
opression



I have very strong faith
but I'm not going to push it upon you.


I'm in love with music :

mostly hardcore;
emo;
and indie.

I'm my own person, no matter what you think about me.
I dye my hair strange colors alot.

I want to be a doctor or a scientist of some kind when I "grow up"

I'm one of the coolest people you'll ever meet.

I'd love to talk to you;
just not on Advicenators.

I don't care what you think about me.
So don't waste your breath.

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