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Which guy?
There's these two guys I like. I have dated both of them before, and one knows what he's doing in a relationship, and one doesn't. They are two totally different people with two totally different personalities, and I honestly just don't know what I want. They both asked me back out tonight, and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to leave them both hanging for my answer, but I don't know who I want to choose! Help!
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I'm glad that you aren't going to leave them hanging for an answer and you shouldn't.
Let me remind you that you don't have to choose right this second. You can tell these guys that you need some time for yourself to think your love life over a little. I think the reason you don't want to do that is because you think that they might run off and find someone else by the time you have made your choice.
Let's face the facts. You know that you are likely not choosing your future husband, so it won't matter which one you choose. Do your friends have an opinion about it? Ask a friend or a sibling and see what they think. I know it's hard for you to just choose, but try to make a list of the good and bad about each guy. If one guy does drugs or has a history of cheating, you should probably check him off. Try choosing a good guy that pretty good. I don't think you want a bad guy.
Do whatever you want that can keep them from holding on for you. If you still can'y seem to pick, then you'll probably have to ditch them both and take more time for yourself.
Thanks! If you have anymore questions, please write me back!
-TheTeenGirl
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I can't tell you who to choose, because I've never met you or either of the guys so I don't know your style in guys.
However, to help you choose, why don't you take a piece of paper and write down the pros and cons for each guy. This may help you decide who you like best.
You also might want to write down what YOU want in a guy before making the lists about the guys. Then you can choose the guy that has the most qualities that you want in a guy.
Think about whose personality you believe you'll be able to get along with best.
For the guy you don't choose, be gentle when telling him no; be careful not to hurt him - but don't leave any loopholes.
[thewretchedmelody]
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I have had this problem just recently. What I did was, I told them both that there was another guy I had in my thoughts at that point in time. I told them that I wasnt ready because I didnt want to hurt either one. [Because I liked both of them.] I pretty much waited for about 2 months, and then one of them really screwed up. And then the rest fell into play. Hope my life expirence has helped you out :]
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The one youre gut is telling you to.
Listen to youre heart! LA la LA!
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Well, im going to tell you something you probly don`t wanna hear, but its really goodd advice. If any of those guys are "the guy" you would not have to choose. =/ sorryy
♥Sam.
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The nicest one, the one you can trust, and that you think loves you most. You could do some "tests" to see. Like ask them something they might lie about, or a little about their history to see if he isn't a drughead or something.
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dang thats hard....how long did you date them? tell me about the first one and what you guys did and stuff...same with the other one...i might be able to help you with it
~trisha~
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Dear Dilema,
I think you should tell them both that your not sure. Tell them you will give them an answer when you think your sure about it. Then see who sticks around. If one of them all of a sudden stops talking to you then mabey he was just rushing back into a relationship with you, and therefor i think you should go with the other one. If both of them stop talking to you...then mabey neather of them was the right choice to pick. So, wait it out for the next guy. Good luck in your relationship situation, and hope i helped.
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I personally think that you should go out with the guy you love the most. However, there are many other things to think about before you say yes to either of them. The guy that knows what he's doing in a relationship also knows what to do in a relationship. Also, think about their friends. If the people they roll with aren't nice, then maybe he might start acting like an idiot too. Also, if his friends are mean to you, you dont want them to be chewing you out 24-7! You should try talking to your pals about the guys too. Maybe they know something about them you dont, and you dont want them to ditch you because you picked the wrong guy. If your worried about hurting the other guy's feelings, let him down softly and say that you just dont feel the same way about him as he does for you(not now atleast) but that you love him as a friend. I really hope I did help.
♥Camille
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Hey, first I'd like to say thanks for posting a question in my inbox! I appreciate it!
Well.. if you are a religious person, you could always ask God to help you choose the better person; who is more suited for you.
If not, just trust your heart- it always knows what to do. I would personally go for the person who would treat you better as a girl friend.
One thing's for sure.. whomever you choose.. you have got to let the other guy know why you can't go out with him. Hopefully he won't take it the wrong way..
sorry if this advice is mediokre- I'm kinda tired as of now
Hope everything works out
let me know how it goes...
please continue to send me questions!
--Jack
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well, just listen to your heart, not your head. pick the guy your NOT going to choose and set him aside. tell him you like him, but you want to be friends for now. if he's a good person he'll understand. now, on actually PICKING the guy......thats up to whatever your heart is saying.....i would personally go for the guy who knows what he's doing. but listen to your heart.hope i helped. ~nickie
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