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Girlfriend, Cutter
okay, so my girlfriend and i have known each other for only over a year, and we dated for 5 months, then broke up (terrible for both of us) and she cut herself, now we are back together for 3 months and she still does it every so often... is there anything i can do to help her, becuase i know that she wants to stop, and every time she does it, she feels so terrible about it, it nearly makes her sick, and all of this is absolutly killing me, what can i do to help her?? please i only want good answers...
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when i was with my boy frined i was cutting and he did not know it we broke up and i got to the point were i wonted to die because i felt like a worthless trash so all i can tell you if she really dose love you then talk to her about it and if she knows that some cares she will stop
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hi.
i use to cut. its something you need to get her help with. this might be hard to do. and she might resent you for this. but i would have to say try and get her into theropy or rehab. theres not much else you can do.
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I've dealt with this - only it was my [ex]boyfriend.
I don't even know why he became so depressed.. we were together and, I thought, happy with each other. He didn't want to break up with me, but he was a cutter.
I held my feelings in - BAD MOVE. I ended up doing it too, because he kept saying how much better it made him feel and..he was wrong.
In the end, it was one of the reasons I had to break up with him. At everything, he cut or wanted to.
I told him, numerous times, that it was a huge problem in the relationship...but it didn't sink in until I broke up with him.
Try not to break up with your girlfriend, if at all possible. Tell her, though, how it makes you feel. Tell her that it's killing you and makes you sick. Let her know that you want to talk to her and help her. Always always always be open to talking to her - at all times. Tell her to call you whenever she feels like cutting. It's good for us females to know that our male counterparts are always looking out for us.
Also..if she's religious.. try getting her to talk to a pastor/youth pastor/clergy man/Rabbi about the way she's feeling.
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dont do anything to upset her, and dont be depressed in front of her cause that will make her depressed. and call her every once in while just to check up on her.
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You need to show her that you really care, love and will always be there for her and never leave her. Tell her that you're always a phone call away and that you'll listen to whatever she has to say and never tell anyone else about it. Tell her to instead of cutting, listen to music, write poems , sotries, or just in her journal about anything when she is feeling down, draw, or do something that involves kicking or hitting a ball (soccer is sexy may i add. lol. it's fantastic) when she has the need to cut.
Take away whatever she uses to cut with (blades, razors, whatever) and instead give her something meaningful. I suggest a locket with a picture of you two in it or a bracelet that you made (braid three embroidery strings, ribbons, whatever..jsut make it pretty) so it can ALWAYS be with her and she can look at it when she's feeling down. Also give her a rubber band to keep on her wrist and pull on if she has the need to cut (I know, sounds wrong and weird but it REALLY helps). Tell her that everytime she cuts, it's going to be like her cutting your heart apart and that you can't stand it.
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I think you need to tell someone..before she does it to bad shes gone.. you know? Or give her a chance and be like ..the next time you do it im going to have to tell someone because this scares me and i dont want you to hurt yourself so bad that you could die. Maybe have her ask her mom if she can go to someone to talk about her problems..I hope i helped you hun..good luck
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You have to tell somebody (like her mom/dad) You may not want, she may not want you to. But you need to. They can get her the help she needs to stop. The only you can do is be there for her.
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i know this may sound bad but you need to confront someone. i once new someone who cut and i confronted someone and he ended up thanking me. you need to tell someone or she could get hurt. in a long run she'll thank yu. if you want to kno what he does now he acctually uses a rubberband and putts it around his wrist and snaps it *pulls it back and releases* he says it is so much easier and makes you feel better.
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