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i have a few questions so plz read them:
ok so i was at this party last night and i had sex twice without a condom and im PRETTY sure nobody cummed in me but im still worried if im pregnant. ugh
alsooo, would you feel the guy cumming in you (without a condom) if you were having sex cause i've only had a guy cum in me with a condom on
ive heard you get sore and feel tired when youre pregnant but i feel tired and sore but that might be just not from sleeping but im just so paranoid!
i'm just freaking out, sorry if this question is just rediculous i'm just scareddd!
If you dont want to be pregnant you should go to a department store (walgreens) and get Plan B but you have to take it like now because after 3 days after you had sex it wont work anymore. you have to be 18 or older to get it (you can get someone to get it for you) and it can cost up to 45 dollars. Plan B is a morning after pill the sooner you take it the sooner it kills everything inside of you. Also the guy doesn't have to "cum" to get you pregnant theresw such thing as a precum and even that can get you pregnant. Usually yes you can feel them cum in you unless if you were drinking then i dont know. Also its to early to tell if you pregnant your probably sore and tired because your freaking out about it. You'll know your pregnant in about a week when all the side affects kick it. I would run up to the department store fast and get Plan B it doesn't work there after 3 days after sex because then egg attached to the uterus and your for sure pregnant. If you have anymore questions about the pill or anything ask me a question. Good luck hun.
I will try to sum this up as best I can. I have been single over a year now after having been with my ex, John for 6 years. I am 21, so as you can see, he was my only REAL relationship. It wasn't a very healthy one, & I have now been seeing someone new for about 2 weeks. Already I can see the damage from my past relationship affecting the way I interact w/ Wes (the new guy). The first example was when we were hanging out & he was being kind of sarcastic with me and then suddenly asked me for a backrub. The current circumstances & the way he said it made me have an actual flashback of my ex, who would constantly ask me for backrubs even after being a jerk to me, & then guilt trip me when I refused him. I blurted out, "you sound just like my ex". I immediately felt horrible & later apologized for my harsh words. Now I have come to realize that b/c of John I am afraid of intimacy. Wes & I sleep together, but I refuse to make the first move, or to throw myself at him for fear of rejection & being humiliated. John wasn't very interested in sleeping with me, and would push me away, telling me to get off him when I would try to initiate intercourse. Usually when we did get intimate, it was to shut me up. So, Wes has, in so many words, confessed that he would like me to show some initiative in the bedroom on occasion, & I do want to, but I constantly find myself sitting there thinking out exactly what I'm going to say & do, & then I clam up... and then I refuse. I don't know what to do. Because of my prior mistake, Wes does not want me mentioning my ex around him (understandably) but I am not sure how to tell him what I am feeling & going through without explaining what my ex put me through. What can I do to make sure I put in my half of the effort to make this new relationship go smoothly?
hey,
i know exactly what you are going through even though im 16 ive also been through this. My ex was a shitty person to be honest. He made me feel stupid all the time and he said things that made me constantly think he wanted to end it with me..and when he did end it awhile later he just straight out moved to a whole different state and never talked to me again ever. 2 weeks later i was so depressed i just wanted to meet a new guy to get my ex off my mind..unfortunatly im not to good at just "meeting guys" without having further intentions so i met this guy when we first started dating i kinda acted how you are now. i acted like my ex boyfriend. I acted like i didn't care about me and him so i wouldnt get hurt. Kinda like how you dont come on to him because you dont want to be rejected. But as time went on i actually really started liking this guy then i fell in love with him..and i started to break down my walls and everything was good for a little bit. Now we've been dating for about 2 years and im starting to worry hes gonna break up with me. Why? i have no idea We're perfect. I take the littlest things and make them into oh he doesn't care anymore. And i know its because of my ex because i never use to get like this. When this first started happening i would get bugged all the time n asked him do you think we're gonna break up n stuff..by doing that it just made the situation worse because he felt pressured and w/e. Now i just dont ask him anything and everytime i feel like that i dont bring it up at all. I just ignore it. Everytime i get mad or anything because i know it pisses him off and i know im like that because of my ex and ever since ive done that things have gotten easier for US not for me though..i still feel the same but i think as time goes by it will be done and maybe i wont feel like that. Anyways thats what i think you should do is act how you would normally act even if it bugs you because its not gonna bug him unless if your bothered by it. Dont let him see that because its going to make him feel bad. I mean i ended up with sucha heart ache and now im with this guy and its so amazing and it takes a long time to get over a guy you really cared about especially when they treat you like that because its like your never good enough. Dont let the guy with you now feel the same way. Be you forget the other guy and have some fun and a good relationship. I hope i helped hun
I need some really GOOD, HATEFUL songs about someone betraying you! THANKS. :)
Fighter-christina aguilera
Dont Tell Me and losing grip-avril lavigne
irreplaceable-beyonce
before he cheats-carrie underwood
like a boy-ciara
call me when your sober-evanesence
Stranger-hilary duff
hey dad-goodcharlotte
too little too late and leave get out -jojo
Cry me a river-jt
over it-katherine mcphee
since you been gone, because of you, behind these hazel eyes,never again - kelly clarkson
the untitles in the end-licoln park
shake it off-mariah carey
all you wanted, are you happy now-michelle branch
dont speak-no doubt
u + ur hand-pink
face down-red jumpsuit apraratus
underclass hero-sum 41
thats all i got i went through my whole itunes so i hoped i helped..i dont know what kinda music you like so i put some mixtures hope i helped hun
there are these girls at my school and from what happened last year i don't really want to go back to school and see them. they are mean and rude to me and my friends people call them ##### and the terrors. (i don't want to put the name for my safety) they make fun of what we wear then they get soemthing exactly like it and wear it and tell us we don't have enough class as they do. so what should i do? should i try to get back at them? should i gossip about them?
hey girl,
you shouldn't gossip about them and you shouldn't even bother to look at them. You don't want to stoop to there level of bitch. Girls can be mean sometimes and its not because they are better then anyone its because they are insecure. They like to make people they are threatened by be scared of them. You need to just ignore the pettiness your way better then that. School can be a blast so dont let your years be ruined by some stuck up wannabe divas. Be yourself and they have a problem with it then whatever. Who makes the rules of what is cool and what isn't? Definetly not them. If they have a problem with you its because they have a problem with themselves. Girl just dont even let it get to you. Have a good year. good luck!
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(Sorry if this is the wrong category) How can you get rid of dandruff (possibly without using head and shoulders shampoo) and how can you prevent yourself from getting dandruff? Also, whenever I don't wash my hair the same amount of days as my sis, my hair is greasy and smelly, but my sis's hair doesn't smell that much, only if you smell her hair upclose. Why is this? Is there anything I can do about this? (It's really annoying, cause she always complains about how my hair smells and she's only like 2 ft+ away from me :|)
To prevent dandruff there is alot of things you can do. There are scalp treatments that isn't head and shoulders that work. (Its like a shampoo). Another thing alot of people dont do that prevents it is scratching there scalp in the shower with any shampoo and conditioner. Also repeating helps. Now for your hair being greasy and smelly faster then your sisters could be from a lot of things. If your are more active then your sister that could be some of it. Also hair texture and color can have an affect. If you hair is thin and straight it gets greasier faster. If you have thick curly hair, you can go up to 3 days without washing and be good. Blonde hair also doesn't show greasyness as much as brown hair. To get rid of hair smell you can use a different shampoo, perfume, hairspray, moose, gel, etc. hope i helped hun
k, i tan outside rather than at a salon
so since its the summer, how do i get the perfect tan? what oil or lotion do i use, which do you prefer and how long should i stay out there?
also, how long do i do my back and front for?
for a summer tan you can use the same lotions you use in the booth..it actually works better outside i think. If you want a dark tan use a oil with an sph of 4 in it if your already tan and 8 if you aren't. I prefer the lotions you use in the tanning bed because they are meant to get you dark and also have bronzers in them. If you are fair skin 30 min will do on each side. If you tan well and hour to and hour and a half on each side. If you get burnt you can put vinegar on a clean towl and rub it in to your burn let it sit for 15 min and then wash it off. I gaurentee youll be sunburned free by the next morning. Better to do it at night. Hope i helped hun.
i really want my hair to look like miley cyrus's. my hair is extremely straight, and i want it to come out like in this picture.
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=85881757&albumID=0&imageID=3056560
any tips? thanks
hey, I cant see the picture of hannah montana that you gave but i know the kinda curls she has and i can give you tips on how to get those curls
1. IF you want wavy curls use a curling iron and spirl curl your hair. make sure you dont use to much hair spray and make sure you dont go all the way to the top of your scalp. Best done a day after the shower.
2. IF you want hannahs super curls take a shower get out and scrunch your hair with moose or gel. Wait til it drys (you can use a towl just make sure its scrunched) then curl the scrunched pieces with your curling iron. You can use hair spray but i wouldn't because you have gel AND moose in your hair.
3. IF you want a different kind of wavy look take a shower scrunch your hair have a friend braid it in 2 french braids (if you have a side bang keep it out of the french braids) it doesn't have to be perfect. Keep them in over night. In the morning when you wake up blow dry them if they are still wet then let them out. You can also curl pieces to give it that extra affect.
Hope i helped
p.s it doesnt matter if your hair doesn't scrunch the mouse and the hair spray should make it kinda stiff so when you curl it will stay hope i helped again lol
ok so basically i'm sick.....ugh..
well i have 2 questions
1. i've been blowing my nose like crazy and now the bottom of my nostrils are really sore and raw, what can i put on it to make feel not as sore?
2. today and tomorrow are TAKS days, i keep so i have 2 go 2 school, today i was coughing and coughing and coughing. i couldn't stop. well the teacher said i was disturbing the class with all my coughing. =,(!!! well what can i do to stop my coughing without taking cough syrup?
You can bring cough drops to school. You can also bring a bottled water if it helps. For your nose use a moisturizer and rub it in. once in the morning and once at night. You could bring some to school and when it starts hurting put it on. Also bring some of your tissues to school. Sometimes the ones at school are rough and hurt your nose. Feel better soon!
Okey So Im Trying Out For Cheerleading & I cheered last season but i didnt try out -- i sighd up late :) -- anyways. i have a roundoff hand spring with a spot & i can do two sometimes, i also have a tuck -- Also with a sopt -- my coach says i can do it bye my self but i wont :/ i can do a backhand spring.... anyways i was on level two last season. but see i kinda dont wanna be a level two again i mean yea it was soo fun but all my friends are gonna be moved up and i wanna be with them but i dont know what team im gonna make....
so yeah there level 1 level 2 level 3 4 & 5 what do you think ill make.
I think you need to prove to your coach that your working your but off get the tuck and make level 3! You can do it its just a mental block. I do cheerleading too and sometimes it helps me just to do things by not even thinking about it..just say in your head 1 2 3 and go dont even hesitate..if you dont feel comfortable have a spotter but dont have them spot you..just have them stand there. You'll def. make 3 if you prove to your coach you want it. Hope i helped hun! good luck!
what is the restaurant called that gives you penis shaped hats and writes naughty things on them?
Dick's Last Resort.
Hope i helped hun.
What is a hair diffusor for??
The hair diffusion is for when your hair is wet it makes your curly when you scrunch it without getting crazy and frizzy. It kind of forms curls. Hope i helped hun.
is blowdrying your hair better or worse than straightning it? i take showers every other day and i blowdry it, so it keeps it nice and straight which works. i don't know if i'm damaging my hair though. am i? is blowdrying your hair bad for it? thankss.!
Anything with heat on your hair is bad for your hair. Striaghteners, blowdryers, curling irons, crimpers...etc. If you do want to blow dry your hair here is what i suggest.
1. Put A LOT of syrum or whatever it is you put in your hair to protect it from damaging but alot only on the ends of your hair not the top though because it will make it look greasy
2. Buy a blowdryer that has a cold blow part. If it blows cold hair on your hair you can still dry it, it might take longer but your not damaging your hair.
3. Blowdrying isn't as bad as straightening in most cases.
Those are some tips for you. I know a lot about blowdrying and straightening because i have super curly hair and thats the only way to get it to look good and it sucks because your hair frys all the time. But those are some things i do. Instead of blowdrying your hair EVERY other day trying letting it air dry sometimes. That would be not so harsh on your hair as well. There are so many products you can buy to help damaged ends. Make sure your buying salon products. A lot of shampoos that aren't have chemicals that make your hair feel soft but that doesn't mean its helping your hair all around. Hope I helped hun. Have anymore questions just ask.
ok i have REALLY THICK AND CURLY hair and i might get my hair permantly straighten tommorrow. are there any cons to this especially with how my hair is(thick and curly)? Do you think it will look ugly because my thick hair?
thankss
I know exactly how you feel. My hair is so curly and thick and ive wanted to get it permantly straighten so many times. I found out though that it fries out your hair and not only that it make it puffy. You get a lot of damaged ends. My friend use t o have curly hair to then after she got it perm. straightened she can never curl it with a curling iron, scrunch it, nothing. The positive is that you wont have to deal with straightening it and it wont be sucha pain in the butt. No it wont look ugly. Hope i helped hun.
I know the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. So i've covered step one but I don't know what to do now. I have a problem with depression which results in hurting myself and I don't know what to do to stop being sad and stop all of this. What do I do besides go to a phyciatrist or the school counciler. Please i really don't have anywhere to turn.
Hey i really want to help you out. Today in health class we watched a movie about depression..and I never relized how serious depression is until i watched that video. Step 2 is going to see a doctor or psciatrist to talk about your problems. But also you need to realize who you care about and how they would feel if you died. A girl in the video who was dealing with depression said that she didn't think anyones else opinion mattered only hers because she had to live the way she did and deal with the depression and she hated it so much that she wanted to end her life. Think of all the people who care so much about you. I know i have no idea how it feels to be in your spot right now and im SOOOO glad that your trying to get help and fix your problem so you can live a happy life. Try talking to someone though and explain to them about your depression so they can find you a medication that is right for your kind of depression that will make you not feel so depressed. After the girl from movie was done talking about the stages she went through she told us about how not killing herself was the best thing she ever did.. and how life is so beautiful and how everyone is so blessed to have life. I mean think about it you only have so much time on earth..take advantage of it. Live life to the fullest. I hope i helped hun. If you dont feel compfortable talking to you phyciatrist talk to your friends or your family. I suggest getting a journal and writing out how you feel to. It helps you beable to sort out your emotions. If you ever need help with anything im here for you. Just leave a message in my inbox and ill give you the best advice i can. Feel better hun.
Hi, I'm 22 and new and very curious as to what normal penis size is for men. I measured mine hard and found that I was 3.7 inches long, 0.8 inches wide and 0.4 inches thick with a measured circumference of 2.7 inches. Is that normal big or small? I also have u-turn shaped curve to the right in my penis that makes is look smaller and weird. Is that normal and does jerking off cause that? My last 3 girlfriends said my penis was pathetic and they would get more pleasure from a toothpick. Please write back with answers as this issue is really bothering me. Thank you!
Hey i want to say that if your last three girlfriends made fun of your penis and called it "pathetic" thats pathetic because thats not all a relationship is so dont even bothering listening to their ignorant comments. But on the other hand i did some research and this is what i found.
Flaccid penis size is no indicator of erect penis size. In some men their penis hardly changes size between flaccid and erect states. Other men may have a fairly modest flaccid penis sizes but have a much larger erection. Interestingly, it is often flaccid penis size that concerns men the most.
Anyway, for those of you still concerned, here are some solid statistics:
Average adult flaccid penis is in the range 2.5 to 4.5 inches (6-11 centimeters)
Average adult erect penis is in the range 4 to 8 inches (10-20 centimeters)
So your pretty much normal. Hopd i helped hun heres the site if you want to look at it.
http://menshealth.about.com/cs/penishealth/a/penis_size_3.htm
os so i have blonde hair. i have had it ever since i was like about 1. other wise i was a red head. but i turned blonde. lol. well the thing is is that in the winter it looks darker but its not. its just i guess because of the way the sun chines or something but when im inside or something its liek it normally is. is htere anyway i can get my hair to be more blonde without using dye?
Well theres always lemon juice..but i heard from my salon that it kills your hair because if the acids in it and stuff. I would try to go to a salon and see if they have any shampoo that will keep the color in your hair or bring out the color of your hair. I know they do because ive used it before and it works good but your hairstylist should know whats best for you. Also theres Blonde spray that your spray it once on your head not close to your hair but kinda far and it makes it shine and it really brings out the blonde. I hope i helped hun.
Heres some shampoos
john frieda's blonde range is good brings out all the tones and keeps highlights
Vivid Color Golden Blonde Shampoo
Shikai Color Reflect Gold Shampoo
what are some good bikinis for the summer..
i have speed bumps but i got my period recently so by the time i have to start going swimming i'll have something,
im blue eyed
blonde
any advice?
im thinking maybe black or blue or blue and white stripes.. just ideas!
Poke-a-dots are cute..but like if your trying to get a good tan go for swimsuits with darker colors like black and brown. There are some suits that have gems on them that are really cute or there are some where they cut out a little shape in the suit like a heart or something and then when you go tanning you have a little tan tatoo heart on you. Its really cute. You should go to victoria secrets website and check out some. Goodluck!! hope i helped hun.
how come people who want to lose weight drink like, 5-6 bottles of water a day?
Drinking water cleans out your system so when you drink a lot your cleaning out your body so its easier for you to lose weight. Also when your focusing on drinking that many bottles of water a day, your staying away from drinks with calories. Hope i helped hun.
just wondering, whats a monroe? this girl said she got one and she has this thing above her lip..but was is it?
Marilyn Monroe use to have this mole above her lip and so people get piercings above the lip on the right side to resemble Marilyn Monroes mole.
I just thought I'd get some different opinions from different people... The question is...
What is the meaning of Love? [define love]
Thank you
I feel that love is an obsession. You are obsessed with that person and that person is obsessed with you. I know obsession is a strong word..but think about it love is when you think of that person all the time, you dont think of just yourself anymore you think of their needs too, love is when you can spend (not meaning you do) every day together and not get sick of each other, love is fighting over the little things and becoming more in love after the fight..love is being together for so long and still loving that person the same if not even more then when you started dating, love is when you cant stop thinking how amazing it is and you never want it to end..being in love is not being in love with the way they make you feel..but being in love with the person themself. Love is a challenge..people in love can overcome any obsticle...I can go on forever..but i gave you brief meaning of the word love. Hope i helped hun.