Oh, that's not pathetic at all! I know someone who's 18 and hasn't had a boyfriend. You have no reason to feel pathetic.
Anyway, onto your real problem:
So you're shy around the guys you like, and the guy you like knows you like him.
You can't technically get a guy to like you, really. But you can get to be friends =) Just talk to him like you'd talk to anyone. I know, easier said than done. Trust me, I know. But you've still gotta talk to him. He knows who you are. So what if he knows you like him? You can use that to your advantage! You can talk without flirting, or flirt a little. If he responds decently, keep it up. If not, tone it down. You'll know what to do.
Go with your instincts. Every girl has them, you just need to be more confident in yours!
You won't come on to him as a stalker if you don't follow him around, don't go out of your way to talk to him - just talk to him when he passes by, etc.
I hope this helps - if you wanna talk more, or anything, you can contact me again, or IM me (SirenCytherea) I'm always willing to try harder!
-Siren =)

Wow, this dream is filled with symbols...Okay, what I get from this is that something you want temporarily will be out of your reach in one way or another, and you won't quite recognize that it's what you want. The fact that the "elevator ball" dropped when you tried to show it to your friend symbolizes that it could possibly "fall" into your reach, but by the time it does you may not want it anymore. The dizziness suggests instability - perhaps an uncertainty of what you really want? The puffy eyes suggest blindness to something, maybe blindness to what you want...
This makes me think of a crush, maybe getting a crush on a guy but not realizing it until its in your reach, and then when it gets into your reach, you may not want it anymore...
I never guarantee ANY of my predictions or analyzations, just so you know. These are just things I "get" from the dream.
I hope this helps - if you have any more questions or details you forgot or you feel like I missed something, lemme know!
-Siren =)

Aww, sweetheart...
You're not on birth control, right? Okay. The first two times I did it with my guy, I wasn't on birth control, and my periods were NEVER on time. Freaked me out to no end, until I figured out that they came between 23 and 30 days, not every 28 days.
You're fifteen, though. Chances are, your periods will still not be perfectly on time. If you want them to be perfectly on time, get yourself on the pill. Even then, they can be a few days early or late.
Give it a few more days, and if you still don't get your period, test it again.
If it comes out negative again, you might wanna tell your mom you haven't gotten your period in awhile, and you wanna go to a doctor to see what's up.
Parents are one hell of a lot more understanding than you'd think, really. They're also your best resources. I strongly reccomend talking to whichever one, you're more comfortable with.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

I love singing - there's nothing dumb about wantng to be a singer. =)
Well, definitely take lessons. You've gotta develop good technique so you can sing for hours on end and not kill your voice. ^_^ Even if you don't wanna do classical singing like I do, classical TRAINING helps you sing everything without killing your voice. (This is how I can sing Evanescence at the top of my lungs for an hour and still go sing at a concert and sound great).
As far as getting your name out there, competitions. Do stuff with your choir, etc. Just be active in the music area.
But mostly, take lessons. Your teacher will be able to give you tips and give you things to compete in, etc.
The vocal world is very competitive, just as a warning - but it's a lot of fun.
Good luck with all that, and if you need/want more help/advice, don't hesitate to talk to me. I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

The only stupid questions are the ones left unasked ^_^.
I know you don't want to hear "tell him the truth," but honestly, that is, in fact, what I would do.
My deal is that I want a guy to like me, or wanna have sex with me because of who I am, not because of who he thinks I am. If he knows you're inexperienced, he'll probably be gentler. There's also nothing gross about having sex with a virgin.
If you are a virgin, chances are you may bleed, the first time. My first time, it hurt like hell...and there's always the possibility that he'd find out you lied to him, due to all that.
If you AREN'T a virgin, however, he may know that virgins sometimes bleed, and if you don't he may figure out that you lied to him anyway.
I always expect the worst, and I always end up thinking "if I don't tell the truth, this'll happen, and then THIS'll happen, and ohgod, they'll figure out I lied!"
I learned after awhile to tell the truth.
Though since your question was really about what guys in particular like, I would guess that they like to hear "I'm a virgin". As you said, getting a virgin to lose her virginity is big, and would probably make them proud.
Unless you're going after a really sleazy guy, I wouldn't pretend to be more experienced than you are. Or less.
If you're going for a pretty clean-cut kinda guy who's just curious, tell him you're a virgin, if you are.
More experience doesn't necessarily make sex better. For instance, my guy and I have been having sex for awhile, and I still don't orgasm every time. More experience just means you know what to expect (and possibly what you like).
Just to clear this up, I do not advocate lying in ANY way, shape, or form, and I stand by the saying "honesty is the best policy" because so far, for me, it really has been. I completely disapprove of lying.
Really, the truth can't get you hurt any more than lying can. If the guy doesn't want you because you're a virgin, you don't want him. Sex should not be all that a relationship is about. The same goes with not being a virgin. If the guy doesn't want you because you've had sex before, you don't want him. Just felt like I should say that...
I hope this helps! If you have more questions, comments, whatever, don't hesitate to talk to me!
-Siren =)

Hmm...it'd probably be a bit easier to analyze this over IM so I can ask you questions, but so far, what I gather from the details I have is this:
- you have either a fear of alcohol/alcoholics/alcoholism, or someone in your family/someone close to you is an alcoholic, and you're afraid they'll hurt someone.
- I'm guessing you're pretty close with your mom. As we all do, you're probably worried about her getting hurt.
(Does your mom have a connection with anyone who used to be an addict to anything? If so, that could be what this whole dream is about)
- The plastic bag...clear/white/black? If it was clear, I'm guessing it's a symbol of distorting a truth, or something confusing you.
If it was white, I'm guessing it's a kind of "this will turn out good" sort of thing.
If it was black, I'm guessing it's a bad omen of some sort or another.
If there are more details of the dream, or you feel like I'm missing something, don't hesitate to talk to me again, or IM me (SirenCytherea) I'm on pretty much every night.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Oh wow, that's so great! I'm glad I've been able to help! I doubt I'll ever stop - I love to help people. You totally made my night. Thank you!
-Siren =)

Wow, that's stupid. It's also extremely immature, and I'd point that out to them. Some of my best friends are guys who sing, and NONE of them are gay. I take offense to that statement. I'm not a guy, but I do sing. Gr.
Does vocal ability determine your sexuality? If guys sing and it makes them gay, if girls DON'T sing, does that make them gay? It's ridiculous. Try giving them that little spiel.
Have you told them he's not, and you'd appreciate it if they stopped? If so, and they haven't, I would, more than anything, try to ignore it. I know it'd be difficult - trust me, I've been having to ignore and disprove rumors about myself and one of my guy friends lately, and it's driving me nuts - but if you let them see that it doesn't get to you, chances are, they may stop.
They're just trying to get a reaction. Either that, or they're just really, really stupid.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Whoa, you want to wait 'til marriage to KISS a guy? Kissing is definitely a special thing, but it's not nearly the same as losing your virginity. I mean, kissing doesn't have to be a huge deal. It's fairly innocent. If you think about it, all it is, really, is touching lips. If you're going to wait for marriage for something, I would make it sex - chances are you're not planning on doing that before marriage either, but really...
Kissing is fun. Nothing beats that lightheaded, off-balance feeling a really good kisser can give you. You can't get pregnant from kissing, and you don't HAVE to get carried away in the "heat of the moment". Save that for later.
Just go with it. You like him, he likes you, let the boy kiss you.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

That's so cool that you like interpreting dreams too...I love to advise people who don't think I'm a total nutcase...I'm glad you asked me! I'll see what I can think of...hmm...
His thinking for a moment, then thanking her could definitely mean he's concerned. He probably does care about you if he's concerned, but I don't pretend to be able to read guys like a book, so don't hold me to that...
That's interesting that he said "What's up" while with his friend, possibly in the middle of a conversation? If not, still, it's interesting.
It shows that he cares because he REMEMBERED you were sick, and asked how you were.
No, it's definitely not wrong to say "you're so sweet" to a guy. I say that to all my guy friends...but then, I'm a touchy-feely kinda girl.
So he did look you in the eye the second time? As for the not stopping and walking on, he may have been in a hurry, but wanted to take the time to talk to you and let you know that he heard about your illness. He may also just not have realized that he should stop. I mean, sometimes I'll say stuff to a person and I'll keep walking away when they're trying to talk to me 'cause I don't realize they're still trying to talk...
Don't be dumb if you can help it, and I wouldn't try to make him jealous. Honestly, unless he's your ex boyfriend, I'm not sure that will get you anywhere. He might think you're not interested and move on. Oftentimes, guys don't go after girls if they look like they're interested in someone else.
As far as him being calm sometimes...I really couldn't tell you. Guys do work in mysterious ways. He might be just as confused as you are, you know, but not showing it, or showing it differently.
I hope this helps - if you want clarification or something new happens and (providing you like my advice) you want someone to help you figure it out, feel free to talk to me here, on on AIM (SirenCytherea). I'm on almost every night.
-Siren =)

Aww, honey, I feel your pain...literally, lol. They can't figure out whether I have crohn's disease or colitis. I can totally sympathize. It sucks. You'll get better though, just hang in there. What med(s) did they put you on? They decided I needed to be on Asocol...>.< Anyway, to the real problem...
If your friend's not there for you and you need her to be, you've gotta talk to her. Call her one day and tell her what's going through your head right now, even about wanting to end the friendship. The answer to most problems is "talk to the person". Point out to her what a bitch she's been, and how you would really have liked her to come visit you, just to make you feel a little better emotionally, like your friends are still there for you, even if she can't make you feel better physically.
But I really would talk to her about it. Don't just end the friendship - find out if you can fix the problem. If it's not fixable, then I would think about ending it.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Wow, that sounds familiar. The exact same thing happened to me. My guy said he loved me and I was like "...whoa, too fast..."
I just told him "I'm sorry, I just don't feel as strongly as you do - at least not yet."
Just be honest. If you aren't in love and you're not sure you will be, don't tell him it'll come along just to make him feel better.
So be honest, but be nice about it. Tell him it freaks you out that it's so soon. Telling him you're not sure was good.
But whatever you do, don't say "I love you" until you're really ready, and really in love.
Just go with your gut instincts. I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Talk about your childhoods!
Like, what you two were like as children, stupid things you did, funny things you did, cool things you did, etc...I talked about childhoods with my boyfriend and we ended up talking for like three hours.
I hope this helps a little!

Ohhhhh sweetie! I sympathize totally.
My guy and I are both seniors, but he was planning to go to a college in Vegas and I'm staying where I am, so we'd like never see each other. Plans changed slightly, but we're still going to different colleges.
You've just gotta trust in your relationship, and trust HIM. Has he ever been untrue? No? Then you have no reason to worry. If he's loyal, I don't see any reason for you to be afraid. Of course, that doesn't mean you won't be afraid. If you want him to understand, sit him down and tell him what you just told us - he'll be invited to parties, meeting new girls, and you're just afraid... - etc.
Just tell him everything on your mind, and explain to him that at the moment a promise isn't enough. But you can't be untrusting when you two split directions or the relationship will dwindle. Trust is everything.
If he loves you, and I'm sure he does, he'll remain faithful to you while he's in college. Your problem is you need him to tell you - and show you that, and he can't necessarily. Only time can prove it to you.
If you need/want someone to talk to about this, you can IM me at SirenCytherea anytime.
I really hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Well, there is a clear nailpolish that's supposed to harden your nails, but I've never tried that. I like to keep my nails long, and mine don't bend. I take two calcium pills every day because I don't like milk. Calcium really does strengthen your bones - and your nails are bones. It therefore strengthens your nails. So I'd said calcium is your best bet - but the nailpolish probably works as well.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

You know what, I really don't...lol. I think I'd be confused too if someone asked me that.
Why don't you ask the pool of advicenators?

http://www.advicenators.com/question.php

Someone else will probably be able to take a stab at it. I just don't wanna tell you the wrong thing!
Sorry!
-Siren =)

Halls Vapor Action strawberry (or cherry) cough drops are life savers.
I figured out the hard way that it is possible to get addicted to those...lol, so don't eat just those.
Those are good for a short, temporary fix, but drink a LOT of water. Like, carry around a liter of it and just drink and drink...
Mint tea works very well also, and so does tea with honey to soothe a sore throat.
But I really do reccomend mostly water, and tea in the morning. Whatever you do, don't push your voice this weekend!
I'm a singer, so I know exactly what you're going through, lol. The natural flavored Ricolas are good for keeping your throat clear right before you have to sing, drink water with them in your mouth to get some more of the mint into your throat (my own trick) just don't choke on it...lol.
So just guzzle water until your throat feels better, and if your throat hurts the day of the competition, you can do a little bit of dairy like half a glass of milk or something to just coat it a little and help soothe it, if you have an hour or two before you have to compete.
Trust me, I know you're not supposed to do dairy before you sing, but if your throat hurts, coat it with something that'll stop it from feeling so raw - but make sure you drink a lot of water after it!
I hope this helps, and good luck at your competition!
-Siren =)

Hey, that happened to me. My boyfriend once told me that my voice was "okay", where everyone else was telling me I was amazing, and his opinion was really the only one that mattered to me.
It's hard, but you have to only listen to your OWN opinion. Had I listened to him, I wouldn't have gotten any further, and I've already gotten a $900 scholarship and I made it to the national level of a competition with a $2000 cash prize.
It's all about confidence, sweetie.
Don't let ANYONE tell you you're not as good as you think you are. Talk to him one day and tell him how much it bothers you that he thinks you can't sing - not to mention that he seems to be the only one that thinks you can't.
But whatever you do, don't stop singing. If it's what you love, go for it! Don't let anyone stop you, especially not some moron who obviously doesn't know music, if he thinks you can't sing, and you can. You've just gotta know how good you are and keep working on it.
If you want to see if your friends are right that he's just joking, the best way to find out is to just ask him. It might be awkward, but you want to find out, right? You've just gotta go up to him one day and say to him "hey, I was just wondering, were you serious when you said I can't sing? 'Cause it really bothered me."
Just be upfront and tell him what you're thinking. But keep your confidence up and don't stop doing something just because one person told you you were bad at it. If you think you can sing, you can sing. Self image means a lot, and so does self confidence, especially in the long run. Keep it up!
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Oh sweetie. I have to kiss my costar in the musical like three times for three nights - I feel your pain. Just sit your boyfriend down at some point and explain to him that you only have eyes for HIM. This guy that you had to kiss means absolutely nothing to you. Make sure you emphasize that you HAD to kiss this guy. It was part of the act, and you couldn't just cut that out of the song. It would lose its purpose completely...
Just like you can't cut the kiss out of a love scene...I mean, what are two characters in love and alone (and in my case, on a footbridge) going to do? Kiss, duh. Just explain the situation to him in a calm way and you should be fine.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Okay, first of all, it is not nearly as bloody and gory as everyone seems to be making it out to be. I have done it before, though I found it less pleasureable than it usually is.
All I reccomend is make sure your boyfriend knows you're on your period so he won't freak out if/when he sees blood.
You can have sex on your period, but make sure you know that you can STILL GET PREGNANT ON YOUR PERIOD, so make sure you still use birth control of some sort, and I do recommend a condom, depending on your flow. If it's light, you may not even see any blood, but y'never know, so I say condoms all the way.
Sex on your period is just as safe as it is at any other time. Take the same precautions and all that. Have fun, lol.
I hope this helped a bit!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

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