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Q: I’ve never been kissed and I was wondering if that is a turn off for guys (if they know). I personally find it embarrassing because I am 15/f. So my second question is, is it stupid that I haven’t kissed anyone yet, at my age?

Well- guys wont know unless you tell them...so its not a turn off if you dont tell anyone...simple enough

It seems you are uncomfortable with your 'virgin lips' because your afraid of what other people would think...if youve been happy with yourself up to this point in ur life then thats all that should matter
gl-

Q: My best friend's name is John.. and see we dated once for about 4 months, but then broke up and since then have become really, really tight.. Recently, people have been telling me that I've been majorly flirting with him (but thats just the way we are.. but people have been commenting on it recently, like somethings different about it) and I've sort of been daydreaming about him.. But see I really don't want to like him like that because we have such a great friendship and I don't want to sacrafice it. What do I do?

If yall really are 'such good friends' then a break-up wouldnt hurt the relationship you guys have. tell him your feelings- if he feels the same, then go for it and dont worry about what would happen if it doesnt work out
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Q: hey i am really stuck on this essay topic-we have to come up with our own thesis(own supporting ideas) and we have to somehow compare the novels..To Kill a Mockingbird and The House on Mango Street..if you have any ideas I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks sooo much!

TKAM involves young, innocent minds becoming corrupt (loss of innocence)
if they both involve that motif then maybe that would work

sorry-havent read house on mango st.
good luck-

Q: I'm never really sure what to say to the question "I love your shoes! Where did you get them?" or any other clothing item because I really don't want to say anything to incriminate me. The popular kids will laugh if you answer anything like "target", "payless shoe store", or some other department store, and the kids that I'm friends with call me stupid if I tell them that I bought them at Hollister. What is a generic answer that I can say that will satisfy everyone?

i got them for a gift

always works for me but i just say that if i forget...

Q: soz if this is a bit long, but really need help. I RATE HIGH!!

im 15 f and yesterday me and my dad went out and after we went to the pub. after about 1 and a half hours at the pub we decided 2 ring my mum to tell her how long we will be. she was fine with that. and then about 15 mins later we decided 2 ring her again and ask her what pizza she would like and if she would order it (we deceided earlier in the day that we wonted pizza 4 tea)n she said she'd already had her tea, so when we got home, she started shouting at my dad and saying things like 'i wish you came home earlier' and things like that. they both started arguing and got me and ma brother upset (hez 11) and now they are not talking, but my worry is that we are going on holiday this sat and i want them to be friends again! SOMEONE PLZE HELP.

I would suggest just letting things go..try to have a positive attitude your family
always remember- time heals everything
eventually your parents will be okay again
dont worry
good luck in the meantime-

Q: My brother is 12 years old. A couple years back, we would always get into fights and I would always yell at him back. He would just take it in, or cry. Lately, everytime we get into a fight..he get's VERY physical and will fight for whatever he says! He is very violent..(he will climb on you and jump and scratch the heck out of you)It's starting to scare me because I can't even yell over him anymore. He's only 12 and I think he needs anger management! My parents think it's my fault because I make him mad first..but the only reason I yell at him is to set him right. He is VERY out of control when he's mad and he cries ALOT. Please give advice.. i don't know how to take this anymore..(I would hit and scratch him back..but that would only make the problem worse and he would keep on persisting to claw me out)..I'm a 16\F by the way. Thanks..I rate

Well- you need to realize that you aren't his parent..so you don't really have the right to yell at him to 'set him straight'- you should still assist him when hes done something wrong but he wont respect you if you keep yelling at him
good luck-

Q: We just moved from Oregon to California and we have all this winter clothes. I think we are haivng a garage sale next week. The problem is, I don't know how to price my items! They may be used, but they are in excellent condition. We have many different brands from gap to abercrombie to bcbg! How should I price my clothes??-I paid good money for it!

You should prob. only expect 1/10 of what you paid- nobody will pay over $5 dollars usually for something thats already been worn
good luck-

Q: were can i find music for free besides launch.com?

blastro.com also has good music videos
or mtv.com has some featured artists

Q: Ok heres the deal..im 14 and in the 9 grade and i feel like i have no friends..i mean yea i talk to people at school but idk like at lunch i sit with these ppl that my "friend" sits w. and i dont even sit by her i sit at the end of the table w. these boys and i dont even tlk to them i just sit there and eat my lunch. Then there comes the weekends and i have nothing to do and i usually stay home w. my mom and dad and i come home every day after school its really is pathetic..any idea to help me?

Well- i had to come brand new in 9th grade to a new school...and so i made friends by just being nice to everyone and not acting like i had a barrier around myself.
It's only your first year of high school..next year try to get into some clubs so you'll make friends who have the same interests as you.
You're not completely pathetic..there is definitely still hope!! just be yourself and hopefully your friends will like you for yourself and nothing else
good luck-

Q: here is something i dont understand and i sont know if anyone here understands it. Why are we here just why i dont understand it we were put here by god but why it makes no sense. i mean think we live just so we can die it makes no sense so i dont understan why we would be put here by god it makes no sense because one day we could be alive and the next we could be dead just why.

WOW- well you want advice on explaining the origin and nature of man?? That actually wouldn't be advice itd be an explanation

I personally don't think anyone can give the TRUE explanation for this..you just have to form your own opinion by being informed on different religions

Hinduism is a really cool religion because it deals with just being a good person..not having to worship god or jesus or anything.

Q: I REALLY like this one guy in my grade. But, my friends and some other people say that he's gay. I was REALLY upset when I heard this because I really like him!
I'm so confused with my emotions, and I'm wondering if I should still ask him out?

before you actually ask him out, make sure you REALLY do like him as a person first of all. then TALK TO HIM... tell him your concerns... then see what he thinks about you and how he feels about other guys
good luck-

Q: Can I Give My Kitten Infants Tylenol?

yes of course if you are trying to kill it since you obviously dont like it...come on! get some common sense! of course not!

Q: Ok. My cat Zoey will not stop pooping on the floor! She has a litter box and all she does is poop on the floor right next to it. She's not a baby, shes almost 4 yrs. old and she's always used the litter box fine, just recently she has started doing this, her litter box is clean because i clean it at least once every two days and i dont know what to do with her anymore, she has done this at least 10 times. I know that like putting their nose in it and saying no works on dogs but does it work od cats? Please if anyone knows anything i can do then tell me! Thanks in advance!

Your cat may just not be used to a new type of litter you have switched to...try switching back to the original litter and try not to change it because thats whats making your cat not want to go in her litter box

Q: AHHH !!!! my calves are really really short . they aren't fat , but because they are short , they kinda of give that image . not only that , my calves are very curvy , as i have small ankles , but a normal amount of fat around the centre part of my calves . i'm about 5 or 5'1 , 13 years old . my calves are about 30 cm long ,when you bend your knees and measure the part behing your knees until your ankle bone at the upper side of your foot . is this normal ?? help !

yes its fine and you shouldn't be so picky about the little things on your body, its just who you are...hope this helps

Q: I know I'm not skinny, but I'm not huge either. I really want to lose some weight, but I know its completely WRONG to starve yourself. So I refuse to do that.. and I don't like all of those confusing diets. Is there any way to diet normally without getting complicated?? Help!!

try eating lots of foods w/ really high fiber counts like nuts is one example..in addition cut your carb count but do not get rid of it completely because that is very unhealthy...hope this helps

Q: How many hours of sleep should a 14 year old girl get each night?
Thanks--

about 8 1/2 hours each night (not 12 on the weekends to catch up) try to get at least 8 EACH night...hope this helps

Q: okay i think i might get coloured contacts (just the ones that change the color cuz i have good vision) and i dont know much of anything about all this obviously so how do i know the size or w/e...??? im confused do i gotta go get em n see a doc...or cuz i went on this website w/ ctonacts that i want n it says like 600 or 000 or eh idk help! thanks by the way im the chick that asked about the pink contacts lol thankz.

to get contacts definitely go see an optomertrist because they have to measure the size of your eye and all that kind of stuff that way if you do decide to get color contacts the contact wont be too big and slide around....hope this helps

Q: well my mom was tellin me we would have to go to the gyno really soon.whats an normal age to go to the gyno.sry i dont know much about this

usually by the time you turn 18...or sooner if you think you have an infection

Q: can you put water on your contact if you're in school and don't have your solution?

overall no- it is not okay..but only if you absolutely HAVE to do it school its okay. Try carrying a litte contact solution bottle in your back pack for the times you need to use it at school.. hope this helps

Q: I want some good slogans like for Kerry to win so I can put it in my info.. Anybody got any good ones.. I only have this one so far:

Bush trying to lead america, is like a blind man trying to help deaf people. - Paul O'Niel..

Thanks!

First of all I'm REALLY happy that your supporting Kerry and not the idiot bush.
-Moron Wants a War'on
-RE-defeat Bush
-the only bush i trust is my own
hope this helps xOxooo