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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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how I can dress like the girls on seventeen and teen vogue and celebrities for cheap. just really cute stuff for not a lot of money.

:)

You can go to the stores like the columnists suggested below, but it's not all about where you shop. You have to know how to use what you've got.


When you go shopping, buy things that you can wear with more than one different thing. For example:
Buy a cute sundress that you can wear in the summer with flip flops, that you can dress down with leggings and a cardigan in the winter. Get what I mean?


Learn how to mix and match the articles of clothing that you already have, and you'll go much farther than strictly shopping for individual pieces :)


-Laura (17-f)

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Is it weird if I get emotional when I (18/f) or my boyfriend (22/m) say I love you? I can say it without getting emotional most of the time, but sometimes if I really get to thinking about it, and what it means to me I sometimes cry. Not a huge blubbery cry but I definitely tear up for a couple minutes. Is this weird lol? Or is it just because I honestly mean it?

I think it's totally fine.


"I love you" is tossed around so freely in our society these days, that it's almost relieving that you get teary-eyed; it shows you genuinely mean it when you say.


But like I said, I think it's totally fine :)


-Laura (17-f)

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ok. so i don't want to say that i'm boy crazy, but it's just that i always find wonderful things in every guy. and there are so many fish in the sea. but i kind of want a boyfriend. so what are some ways i can decide what kind of guy would be good?
-the weird, nice, funny artistic one
-the sweet romantic, but boring one
-the boy in the band,funny,nice,cute


You go with the guy that you genuinely like.


You stop judging them by the stereotype you place upon them and date the one that you want to date. You actually get to know different guys and date the one you are attracted to and happiest with.


-Laura (17-f)

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Hey. Okay so me and my best friend are fifteen, and her mom died this past friday of a blood clot of some form. For the funeral, they have posterboards of random pictures of her and her family. My friend wants to find two quotes that can go at the tops of the boards. Does anybody know any good ones that are good for her mom, or any good sites to look at?

The quotes shouldn't be about like teenage love or anything. They should be moving and promote thought, but also not be dark and gloomy. We (my friend and I) want the quotes to be perfect.

Somone PLEEASE help!?

"On dark and stormy days, somewhere it's glowing." is my favorite :)


Some other good ones:


"Tough times don't last, tough people do."

"The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the most of everything."

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song."

"Aerodynamically, the bumblebee should not be able to fly. But it does not know this, so it keeps on flying anyways."

"Believe you can, and you're halfway there."


Hope these help!


-Laura (17-f)

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Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up a couple months ago and i cant seem to function. I was so in love with him. About a month ago when we were in school together he would say he missed me too and all this stuff but then when school ended i didnt want to be the pathetic person so i stayed away from him. No calling and no texting. Well about 2 weeks ago he requested to be this guy i dated right after him's friend on facebook. I thought this was weird and it made me stop and think about him again. Then last week he started texting me to see how i was..(and we made plans while we were still together that we would go see a movie on the 4th of july even if we broke up.) Anyways, he texted me and i was very aloof and tried not to get my hopes up. he said one comment that stuck which when asked how my summer was i told him i was enjoying it and he said "just dont have too much fun you know how i worry." Anyways, so he brought up the movie and i was like ok text me on friday. He didnt text so at 630 on friday i texted him about seeing the movie the next day.. He seemed completly different and said oh can we go to an early movie i have to go to a fourth of july party. I felt like crap because i felt so pushed aside...i mean hes the one who made plans with me. then he makes other plans. so i said i had plans and then he was like ok another time. and whatever. basically i got upset and now i cant stop thinking about him. It sucks that im always left feeling lonely and incomplete. what i want to know is should i just move on... i mean if he really wanted me he would make more of an effort. and any tips on how exactly to move on. Its tough :/ I was really in love with him...

17 F

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


From there:


I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:


Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...


Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.


Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.


Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.


Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.


Best of luck! :)


-Laura (17-f)

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can I do this summer. I want a long list of stuff i can cross off to do this summer. i cant do much because im pregnant but i already have like boating swimming camping and the basics down and i cant go to a concert cause i cant find any good ones out.
Thanks :)

Draw with side walk chalk.
Catch fireflies.
Watch cloud shapes float by.
Bake home made cookies.
Make a new friend.
Pick up a new hobby.
Buy yourself something that you really want.
Have a movie marathon.
Write a song.
Have a spa day.
Read a book.
Clean out your closet.
Have a picnic.
Fly a kite.
Watch the stars at night.
Wash your car.
Paint a picture.


Have fun! :)


-Laura (17-f)

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Recently I've noticed that I seem to be carrying excessive things in my handbag or missing some vital things, so I'm just wondering; what do you, girls, keep in your handbag that you take with you wherever? The things that you always have in your hand bag?

Thanks :)

My keys, chap stick and/or lip gloss, sunglasses, my actual glasses, wallet, cell phone, comb, Band-Aids, iPod, a few pens, hand sanitizer, body spray, some tissues and oil blotting sheets for my face.


Obviously- I like big purses ;)


-Laura (17-f)

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my boyfriend of 6 1/2 months broke it off today. i guess we're both the problem in the relationship somewhat, we've broken up a few times in the past. one thing wrong with me is im a very moody person. one day ill be totally fine. and then ill get depressed after awhile,..and then my boyfriend will annoy me and ill get really bitchy. he told me today he was sick of all my bullshit, and i knew he was referring to my on and off moodiness. i got pissed at him and the argument got way heated. we were screaming at eachother and i even kind of jumped on him? like i guess i was trying to hurt him or something, i dont really know what i was doing. and i made the mistake of doing that in front of his mom -.-'' so obviously, im the main point of this while breakup. i dont really know how things are going to work out for us, and if they do eventually pass and we become friends in the long run, ill be way lucky.

i just want to know how to not fuck up another relationship. im 16 and ive had 11 failed relationships. i hate dating around, and want to find one guy to spend my life with, and obviously thats not working out. how do i hide my emotions? how do i control my anger? how can i stay cool even when im a total emotional wreck on the inside?

can someone help me?

I'm sorry about your break up, here's some help:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


From there:


I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:


Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...


Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.


Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.


Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.


Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.


On another note, I think you should take some time off from relationships. Just give yourself a break from all the stress and heart ache for a while.


Best of luck! :)


-Laura (17-f)

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well, i need some new songs and bands. Some of the ones i like already are:
RBD
Tickle Me Pink
We the Kings
and some songs i like are
Rascall Flats - Here Comes Goodbye
Moulin Rouge Soundtrack - Le Tango De Roxanne
Jamie Cullum - I Only Have Eyes For You
Goldfrapp-Felt Mountain
Five for fighting - Superman
Dj tiesto - Forbidden Paradise (Deep Trance Mix)
Buckcherry - Crazy Bitch
Billy Porter - Time
All Time Low - Dear Maria
All Time Low - Poppin' Champagne
Cradle Of Filth - Vampire
Crash Romeo - Die in your arms

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532581


-Laura (17-f)

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i don't remember my dreams.
i haven't been able to in years.
do i even have dreams?
is this not normal?
unhealthy?
i'm concerned and not sure why i don't remember them.
thanks.

Everybody dreams. Whether or not they remember varies from person to person. Some people (like you) just don't remember. Then there are other people (like me) who remember their dreams very often. I'm pretty sure it's totally normal, too.


-Laura (17-f)

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Being bored and curious one Saturday afternoon, I ventured into a random online forum, signed up, and started chatting. Weeks after that, I met a guy. Great. So we kept talking, liking each other more and more, and having a lot in common. Then we started "dating". But has become so much more than an internet relationship, for both of us. We share everything with each other. I'm in love with him.. in love with him for exactly who he is and by some miracle, he loves me the same way.

Now here's the problem. He thinks I'm 19 years old, like him, because that's what I claimed when we first met. I didn't think it would matter because no way could it turn into anything serious. I'm actually 15 years old. We've never done anything sexual, obviously, or even seen each other. I do plan to be with him for a very long time and meet him the day I turn 18. But how am I going to explain, when I do meet him, that I'm actually 4 years younger than I claimed to be? That I lied to him for years?

Or a more important question would be.. am I just caught up in false feelings? Can I really love him if I've never met or seen him, and could he really love me and accept my confession? I feel as though I do because I believe that you love someone for who they are and how well you get along, not because of a physical attraction.

As you can see.. this is a very messed up situation, but backing out is not an option for me right now, nor will it ever be. Help!

You need to come clean with him. You can't keep lying about your age, because it will only cause more and more trouble as time goes on. If he's really into you like you say he is, then age shouldn't matter.


As far as false feelings, I know from personal experience that you CAN make friends with somebody you meet on the Internet. I met one of my very best friends on the Internet, and we tell each other everything. However, we're not "in love", so my knowledge is limited.


If you want my opinion, then honestly, I don't think you can fall in love with somebody you've never actually met before. Part of being in love is being physically attracted to somebody (even though it's a small portion) and knowing that you are comfortable and happy in their presence (this is a much bigger portion). I think it can one day lead to something great, but I don't think that talking strictly via the Internet is enough to fall in love with somebody.


-Laura (17-f)

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ive been with my boyfrend on and off 10 months and im done he's done but i'm just not over him and me not being over him shows there's a chance we'll get back together which i do not want is there anyways to get my mind off him to move on please help!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


From there:


I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:


Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...


Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.


Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.


Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.


Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.


Best of luck! :)


-Laura (17-f)

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hi, i just got a new laptop and i was wondering if there was any way i could transfer my itunes library from my computer and a friends itunes library from her computer both onto my laptop?
does anyone know if you could do this or how to do it? thanks!!

I know of sites that you can use to transfer music from an IPOD to the COMPUTER. Maybe you can just do that for both iPods? If you want to try it, send me an inbox and I'll help you out :)


-Laura (17-f)

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I think I have Swimmers ear! My ear really hurts, it feels like it's stuffed with something. I can't really hear a lot out of this ear, and it is REALLY aggravating! I was swimming a lot yesterday and today (for HOURS). Can anybody help me? Should I see a doctor? Do I have swimmer's ear? I feel like I'm going to go crazy because of the pain and the hearing loss over this. Ugh. PLEASE HELP

Swimmer's Ear is really not that serious of a problem. Yes, you SHOULD go to the doctor, but it's nothing to freak out about.


My suggestion (aside from seeing your doctor) is to buy ear drops for after you swim. I used to have them because I used to get Swimmer's Ear all the time. I think you can buy them at your local pharmacy, and you just put them in your ears after each time you're in water.


-Laura (17-f)

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I heard that TLC was going to add Jon Gosselin's mistress girlfriend (Deanna Hummel) to the Jon and Kate Plus 8 television show! Does anybody know when Deanna Hummel is going to be on the TLC Jon and Kate Plus 8 show? I guess it would make since for Deanna to be on the television show with Jon since they're a couple and she's made such an impact in the lives of Kate and the Gosselin children.

Anyway, anybody have some information about it?

I doubt they're going to put her on the show. Why would they? It's called JON AND KATE plus 8, not the JON AND HIS AFFAIR variety hour.


However, I'm not positive, I just really don't think they would put her on the show.


-Laura (17-f)

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there are some friends i have that are boys and usually they say hi to me but sometimes they just completely ignore me. they know im there and they look at me but dont even say hi.
why would they do that?
and also this one specificly used to always smile at me but once me and his best friends stopped having a thing he acted like we werent even friends.
now dont get me wrong these guys are my best friends i barely talk to them. they are just one of those people you say hi to be nice and you talk to them if they are around barely. "small talk"

They're guys; that's why. Us girls will never understand them and their mindsets.


Why don't YOU try and talk to THEM?


Here's some helpful info for starting a conversation:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311


Good luck! :)


-Laura (17-f)

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Hey, im sure my question is in the wrong category, but not really. Lol.
Im having 2 surprise parties in one for my 2 bestfriends.
Theyre both girls & I want a really cute theme for the party.
Theyre also both turning 15.
Any idea about the themes?
Or dress code or anythingg?
Thanks(;

How about a beach theme? Since it's summertime and all :) You can serve tropical smoothies with those little umbrellas in them, and have plate of fresh fruit.


Or, you can have like a time era (50's, 60's, 80's) I think an 80's theme would be awesome. You can play 80's music and everybody can dress like they're from the 80's.


For more ideas:

only search advicenators.com



Have fun!


-Laura (17-f)

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Have you ever wanted to tell someone something but didn't? if so why does it happen? it feels like that when i want to tell my friend about me something is stopping me from telling them thats why i cant....why does it feel that way?

This happens to everybody. Everyone on the planet has an instance where they want to tell somebody something (I love you! I hate you! etc) but don't.


Why do we do it? I think most do it out of fear and/or doubt. We're afraid of what the other person will say. We're afraid they won't accept it and things will end badly. That's just how human minds work.


-Laura (17-f)

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my boyfriend and i are going great but sometimes when i try to discuss things or try to talk about how im feeling he yells and gets mad and end up being an arguement about it.

Talk to him about it. Let him know that you don't like arguing (because I'm assuming you don't).


Sit him down and tell him what you told us, that you feel like the relationship is great, but sometimes he freaks out on you. You shouldn't have to put up with this, and when you try to talk, he should listen. That's a big part of being in a relationship.


-Laura (17-f)

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what does it mean if your period blood is brown?

That your period might be coming to an end. It's really not a big deal.


-Laura (17-f)

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