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Im lost
Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up a couple months ago and i cant seem to function. I was so in love with him. About a month ago when we were in school together he would say he missed me too and all this stuff but then when school ended i didnt want to be the pathetic person so i stayed away from him. No calling and no texting. Well about 2 weeks ago he requested to be this guy i dated right after him's friend on facebook. I thought this was weird and it made me stop and think about him again. Then last week he started texting me to see how i was..(and we made plans while we were still together that we would go see a movie on the 4th of july even if we broke up.) Anyways, he texted me and i was very aloof and tried not to get my hopes up. he said one comment that stuck which when asked how my summer was i told him i was enjoying it and he said "just dont have too much fun you know how i worry." Anyways, so he brought up the movie and i was like ok text me on friday. He didnt text so at 630 on friday i texted him about seeing the movie the next day.. He seemed completly different and said oh can we go to an early movie i have to go to a fourth of july party. I felt like crap because i felt so pushed aside...i mean hes the one who made plans with me. then he makes other plans. so i said i had plans and then he was like ok another time. and whatever. basically i got upset and now i cant stop thinking about him. It sucks that im always left feeling lonely and incomplete. what i want to know is should i just move on... i mean if he really wanted me he would make more of an effort. and any tips on how exactly to move on. Its tough :/ I was really in love with him...
17 F
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I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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Are you serious?
Man, no this is wrong...
Look guys like to have what they can't get, so when you ignored him, he followed you and then when you start responding, he started to back away.
He is obviously confused and an idiot, jerk too.
Don't make any effort and if he asked you to go to the movies again, refuse and say you have plans.
Usually distance is good for moving on, so i'd advice you to stay away from him for a while.
And if you liked some guy don't think twice about dating him.
Good Luck =]=]
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Well it does seem like he's still interested in you..but since he did make plans with you and then decided to never text you, that's very rude of him. It's hard to tell whether or not he's still interested because there could've been so many things. Like maybe he was busy so he didn't have a chance to text (doubtful), maybe he forgot..you just don't know. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him if he does still have any feelings for you? just so you can decide if you want to move on or not. It is tough moving on..I'm sure if you keep yourself busy this summer with sports, hanging out with friends, dating, etc.. it's possible you might get over him. But since you were in love with him, it's going to be hard. But you definitely should try talking to him first.
Hope I helped!
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