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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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So, hopefully someone on here knows something about law. I have a half-sister that lives with my dad. I am out on my own and have been trying to see her as much as I can given my work and school schedule, but my father is making it very hard to see her, telling her she can't go out with me when I have time to see her etc. I was wondering if there is such a thing as a right to see your siblings. I cannot simply go over there and see her because of a conflict between my father and I, so what I can do?
My suggestion?
Assuming you live in the US, contact your county attorney's office, set an appointment to meet with them to go in and ask what your rights are in this situation.
There is no fee for seeking advice from the county attorney (your tax dollars pay them...)
ygs-30/f
Hey, for almost two years i have felt this feeling of lost and helplessness. But, in the last year I lost my best friend and my on and off again boyfriend.(they did not die, but the relationships has been completely damaged) I know I am only 16, but I loved them both so much. So many things have happened in the last year, that I don't think we can ever be friends again. I am just so lost and I cannot talk to my family or my other friends. It hurts to see my ex with other people, but yet the whole time we were together i pushed him away. I became involved with alcohol and i even tried drugs. (that is how i lost my best friend, she couldn't forgive me) Please help me, i do not know what to do.
I know you are pretty down in the dumps right now, but you have to realize relationships come and go. You will find a new boyfriend, you will make new friends. Perhaps your best friend will forgive you if you stop abusing alcohol and drugs.
Alcohol and drugs don't make your problems go away, they only cause more. Alcohol is a depressant and will only make you feel worse.
ygs-30/f
i was looking for a headband in my sister's drawers, and while i was going through it, i discovered a ziplock bag contained with sterile water in a blue case, a metal round spoon and lots of empty pistols with needles. I have told my mom about it and she is suspicious of whether she is on drugs or not but we don't really know much about it, like what people use when they do drugs or anything like that. Could she be doing drugs?
From what you found, I'd say that it's quite possible. But I'm no expert...
Here is a link to a site that has signs and symptoms of drug use. It may be helpful to you:
http://www.acde.org/parent/signs.htm
ygs-30/f
Okay.
Well I attend these protests that usually happen once a month. A girl I'm supposed to be friends with strongly disagrees with what I'm protesting against, and instead of just agreeing to disagree and try to never discuss it, she never lets go and bitches at me all the time about it, and says I don't know my facts. When I hit back and send her mountains and mountains of facts, she can't defend herself and then just does some more bitching.
Anyway, these protests have gotten in the way of our friendship. Not because of me, I always dodge the subject. As I said, she's the one who makes a big deal out of it.
Anyway, she only asks to hang out on protest days. Obviously so I don't attend these protests. The last 2 I told her I couldn't because I was protesting, however she got in super early for this one coming up, so I thought 'well I can't keep saying no forever' and I agreed to hang out.
Anyway today I find out her and our 'friendship' group (By the way, above what I meant by 'hang out' is with people. We never hang out alone) are hanging out for the next few weeks in a row, and I of course haven't been invited, or even told about it.
So it got me thinking...obviously if I'm only being asked to join in on protest days they obviously don't want my company and are only stopping me from going to the protests. No idea if it's because they disagree with the cause or they're just being spiteful, or perhaps both.
So should I go to the protest? I get on with people well there, and they're really nice and I'd have a better time. It just seems if they don't want a genuine reason to hang out...I should just go do what I want to do.
I'd go.
Even if you don't go, you will still disagree, and she will continue to make a big deal about it.
So why not go?
When she wants to attack your stand on whatever your protesting about, just ignore her. Your mountains of facts will not change her opinion, just as her bitching won't change yours. Right? You're just wasting your time.
And if your group is meeting on days they figure you won't come, then I think reevaluating your friendship might be a good idea...
ygs-30/f
Have been married for 24 years and happily (Female). We have a great sex life,lots of varied, fantasy even porn often initiated by me, but my husband love to go along and always has. I have found that he has been going to Porn sites sometimes daily, even after we have had sex. I guess I can understand this and live with it on the one hand, but it does make me feel a little inadequate (Actually I'm a pretty well kept and hot good looking 45 year old) What really bothers me is that I gentle confronted him a number of times, saying that I look at porn does he? Even taking him to some sites together that I know he has been to, during sex play. He refuses to admit that he looks at porn. What does this mean? What should I do?
He's lying and that hurts
Maybe he lies because he's embarrassed or ashamed by it.
I suppose you could just flat out tell him you know he watches it instead of beating around the bush about it. Perhaps that will get him to be more open with you about it.
Don't feel inadequate unless it starts interfering with your sex life. If it ever does start to interfere, then you are having to compete porn, and that is when you have problems.
ygs-30/f
Well I have been seeing the school Psychologist lately. To make the long story short, I've been seeing her for a few months. She says I need professional help; that what she can do for me is limited, so I need to go see someone. She tells me that since I am 18, I can sign this form to refer me to a doctor. I talked to my parents about it and they say I would be stupid for signing it. Well I am deeply depressed to the point where it's affecting my relationship with family, friends, and my boyfriend. I want to be happy again! It's just the money that is a problem for me sort of. But I am thinking well I am 18, so.. should I go sign it? What do you think?
You should always understand fully what you sign your name to.
Even though you are 18, you should have your parents get in contact with her about the referral so they can help you make the best decision on this.
ygs-30/f
can a baby become addicted, and feel the need for tobacco if the mother smokes? can it become addicted to alcohol? anything?
I smoke, and my kids never showed signs of withdraw after birth. However, I smoked very little during pregnancy.
I would be willing to say that if an mother drinks all through pregnancy, of course the child will likely go through withdraws, as well as suffer brain damage from Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.
One time, when working in a doctor's office, we had a baby patient who's biological mother was a crack-head. The child was born premature and addicted to crack.
ygs-30/f
13/f
ok
lets make this short.
my best friends bf likes me.
he has liked me before and they broke up.
and now they are back together,
i dont want them to break because of me again
what should i do?
how do i get im to stop liking me?
thanks for the help
Like said before, you can't make him change his feelings.
But honestly, if he likes you, wouldn't them breaking up be the right thing? It's not fair for your friend to be dating a guy who's mind is on someone else. Right?
If they end up breaking up again, don't feel guilty. Remember that she deserves better than that.
ygs-30/f
When I was 13 and stupid, I tried cannabis once.
Seriously, it was three drags from the joint, and I didn't even feel anything.
The only reason I did it, was cause I wanted to know what was so amazing about it.
Now I'm 15½, and even if someone offered me free joints, I wouldn't smoke it. I find nothing appealing in illegal drugs (I don't smoke, but I don't mind it, I do drink occasionally)
Do you think this is good, that I find drugs unappealing, or do you think this will affect me later on in life?
I'm just wondering :)
It's a good thing. Illegal drugs are supposed to be unappealing...
Okay, so I made a movie on Windows Movie Maker and I was almost done with it. But then, not thinking, while I was working on another movie, I rearranged some of the Collections folders, even deleting some of them also! =( So then when I went back to finish my first movie, all the files have those dumb red Xs on them!
My question: Is there any way to restore the Collections' folders I've deleted so that I don't have to start all over again?
On the timeline, you should be able to right click on the box with the red X, then select search for missing file (or whatever similar option it gives...). That should bring back the missing file to your collections.
You may have to do that for each file, but sometimes when you search for one, it brings back all of them. I don't know why or how it does that, though.
ygs-30/f
what, and when is the best way to off yourself, like the fastest and easiest (without a gun cuz i don't have one) i've tried almost everyway (but a gun obviously) but i always get caught in the act please help me. even just telling me household items to mix for instantaineous death (sorry can't spell) and don't try to talk me out of it my whole life people had tried to talk me out of it and it makes no sense i have nothing going for me everything sucks my family hates and abuses me, i have no friends, my soccer team sucks, i suck, please help
So you have nothing going for you... Have you even tried to change that? We can't sit around in life and expect good things to just fall into our laps. You need to strive to make your life better, not be a bump on a log who gives up.
Family hates and abuses you? Get out of that situation. Contact the authorities. NOBODY deserves to put up with abuse EVER.
You have no friends? Go make some. Don't give me the cock and bull story about how you can't, or it's too hard. If you WANT friends bad enough, you CAN and it's not that hard.
Soccer team sucks? Come on. That's a petty excuse.
How many children are born in Africa with AIDS... They are born with a death sentence... They would love to have your health, your life ahead of you, that you take for granted.
So you've tried almost every way and have failed.
Don't you think that's maybe a SIGN?
Hmmm...
Seek mental help.
ygs-30/f
Can you change your collumist name?
Your know like say your called Sleepy_Star (Made up) can you change it to someone else?
I really want to change mine
Also where can I get some really nice backgrounds? Ive only ever used the ones on this site.
If you could let me know that would be great
Thank
=]
You can change it if you have a paid account. If you don't have a paid account, you can contact DangerNerd, explain to him that you want to change your name and why, and he may change it for you.
dangernerd@gmail.com
Do realize, though, that it may take him a bit to reply. So have patience, for he is a busy guy.
ygs-30/f
do guys get hard 3 times at night while they sleep? like EVERY SINGLE NIGHT???
Well, since at night, guys are sleeping and surely don't know.
I'm not for certain, but I would say the answer would likely be yes, at least through puberty, early adulthood, and sexual peak years. As they get older and sex drive decreases, then probably not so much. But like I said, I don't know the scientific facts on it, so don't quote me.
Realistically, a guy getting an erection three times nightly isn't so outrageous. Being the mother of boys, my sons, who are 14 months and 1 month old, get erections all the time.
Trust me, bath time alone tells me that much. Three erections during one single bath is not uncommon for my 14 month old.
It's not weird, or anything- erections have to happen to boys in order for their penises to grow. You CAN quote me on that one.
Of course, once puberty hits, it may still be a matter of growth, but it has also become a matter of arousal. It is natural for a guy to be aroused a lot. It's not weird.
Men naturally think a lot about sex, probably more than you'd believe, during the course of a day. So, they surely dream quite a bit every night about arousing things, causing several erections per night.
But I'm not a guy, and I can't tell you exactly what goes on in the male brain regarding sexual thoughts most of the day, so DON'T quote me on that.
ygs-30/f
hi. you always give good answers so I wanted to ask your advice. here's my problem (sorry its long):
i'm going to be a freshman in HS next year. i tried out for cheerleader and made it, and i'm really excited because i love cheer. i've also been asked to be on varsity gymnastics. i kinda dont want to, because i've been doing gymnastics forever and im kinda sick of it. plus it will be a lot of work to do cheer and gym, not to mention im taking all pre-ap classes. but i know the coach will be really disappointed if i dont do gymnastics and i'm scared to tell her i dont want to. and part of me does want to do it, because some of my best friends are and it might be kind of fun. we'll have a really good team next year with a good chance at state. plus, if i quit gymnastics now, it would be pretty much impossible to go back to it if i changed my mind later.
so here's where it gets complicated. at my school, we can't have more than one athletics period. so in order to do gymnastics and cheer, i would have to change my schedule halfway through the year. first semester i would do cheerleading, and only go to the before-school gymnastics practices (7:00 am - ugh). but second semester (when gymnastics season starts) i would change to 1st period gymnastics and not go to cheer practice at all. it sort of works out, because cheer is basically over after football season (we only do a couple basketball games and they end in february). After february, cheerleaders really don't do anything.
so now for the problem. i really, really want to be head cheerleader. and i know our sponsor and a lot of the girls want me to, too, because (not to sound conceited, but) i'm like one of the only cheerleaders that can motivate people to work and be fair and postive and encouraging. most of the others are just bossy or negative or lazy. and i really want it to be a good year for our squad. BUT.. now some of the girls are saying that they wont vote for me if i do gymnastics, because the captain should be there the whole year. which i can sort of understand, but i WILL be there during the time we're actually cheering. once i start the gymnastics schedule, they wont be doing anything at cheer practice anyway. and i think the people who are saying that are the ones who want to be head cheerleader themselves (the bossy mean ones).
soooo... what should i do? forget gymnastics so i can have a chance at head cheerleader and keep things happy and positive? or do gymnastics and let someone else be head cheerleader? please dont tell me to do what i want, because i dont know what i want! i just want someone to tell me what i should do. haha. thanks!
Do what you want!
LOL, just kidding you a bit, there. ;-D
So your question is long. No worries, for you have yet to meet my lengthy answer...
Listen, though the schedule you came up with is confusing (as it always is when trying to work two things like this into one schedule) it sounds like the right option to me.
Personally, no matter what, I wouldn't advise quitting gymnastics unless you absolutely hated it or something. Why? Obviously you are VERY good at it to be asked to the varsity team your freshman year.
Being that good can land you a scholarship for college. (Scholarships are not for sure things, but definitely worth applying yourself for.)
Now, cheer can also do this for you, but you obviously have more gymnastics under your belt, and, not to sound rude, you are likely far better at it than cheer.
(Varsity... remember that... that's a privilege for a freshman... no matter how big or small your school... that means you are damn good and only getting better...)
So about head cheerleader.
Yah, you're probably right. They surely want that spot, and such girls will say whatever she feels she has to say in order to discourage you.
What does that mean? They're intimidated by you. Not that you're scary, but because you have talent. Obviously, you are good at it and have great potential.
All year cheer is really pointless to do since I don't think you should give up on gymnastics. I know you won't like this, but EVEN if you don't get voted head cheerleader, don't give it up. (You don't have to be uninvolved in cheer in order to allow someone else to be the head...)
As for extra cheer practice when you DO have time for it, try attending cheer camp during the summer. You can stay brushed up on your cheer skills, plus maybe learn some fresh new things for your squad from others at camp.
Something else you should do? Talk to your cheer sponsor and ask her(?) thoughts on this whole thing. She wants you on the squad, she will help you sort it out so you can be without quitting gymnastics.
Remember this- As well as the sponsor, a lot of girls want you on the cheer squad. Those same folks think you would be THE ideal candidate for head cheerleader.
Only SOME of the girls say they won't vote for you. SOME doesn't matter verses MAJORITY vote.
NO MATTER WHAT. Remember: You are positive, a motivator, fair, and encouraging in cheer. That is what cheer is all about. If you stick with that, you've already succeeded. Think of the bossy, negative, lazy girls... that attitude is where they've already failed.
You're obviously and awesome gymnast, and you don't need to give that up to succeed in cheer. If you give it up, you may be losing a lot for yourself in the future. I wager at the rate you are going with it, gymnastics will lead you through open doors to your future.
Whatever you do, don't forget to do cheer because you enjoy it, not because you feel you need to be head of the squad. Otherwise, what's the point? I mean, really?
It's good to have that goal in mind, but not the end of the world if you don't reach it this coming year. There's always the next year, and two more years after that. :-)
Good luck in whatever you decide to do. No matter how you shake it, you should already take pride in your acheivements. You deserve to.
So this is way longer than I had planned. I hope it was helpful to you in making your decisions, and didn't make things more confusing, sound like a dull history lecture, or even worse, sound like Mangy Momma's After School Special. :-]
ygs-29/f
I have this friend that is a very jealous woman over her husband. I am one of her husband's favorite people to talk to, but we have not talked in a very long time because he got a new job halling traliers across the country. I don't have any type of communication with him, but I do get to talk to her all of the time. She is actually more like a mother to me, or I thought. He recently came home for a visit and had dinner with her, some more friends and myself. After dinner she had to go somewhere and he went back home I am assuming, I went off and played with some of my friends and then went and talked to a classmate about some homework. According to my roomate she came up to her and asked her where I was in a angry or worried tone. She has never asked where I was before? My roommate said that maybe it is because she suspects that something is going on between her husband and I but that is totally bizarre and disgusting on so many levels. I don't know what to do, and I am afriad to ask her since all she told me when I got back with her was "I was just wondering where you were that's all" What should I do? And what are the likely thoughts of my friend?
Well, it's possible she is worried something is going on that shouldn't be, or it could very well be possible that she was completely honest in just wondering where you were. You don't really know unless you go to her with your concerns.
You need to talk to her about it. Don't be afraid to ask, and if she gives you the same reason, don't be afraid to tell her how you are feeling about it.
I mean, yah, you're friends with her husband, but obviously you are friends with her as well. Friends should be able to feel comfortable talking to one another about feelings and such, even about those feelings and concerns that are of an uncomfortable subject.
If you don't feel comfortable outright asking "Are you worried we're having an affair?" then explain to her how your roommate described her tone of voice, and that they assume she suspects something is going on that really isn't. Explain to her how that now has you worried that she may think you would do something like that to her. Then go from there.
I mean, if I were in her shoes, and IF I did suspect my husband and our friend were up to the dickens, I'd feel better about it if our friend noticed my worries and talked about it with me to assure me I had nothing to worry about.
You have to consider this- he hauls trailers across country. So he's an over the road driver, and is likely gone days at a stretch. When he's home, they hang out together with friends, then he goes off and does his own thing. (Well, this time we're discussing, at least.)
Perhaps she finds that bothersome? I think I would. Why? We spend days apart from one another, when we're together we spend time with others, then he goes off to spend time without me. I may get all hurt and think he'd rather spend time away from me. I may get all worried thinking he'd rather spend his time with friends than spend time alone with me.
That would tend to make me jealous, and in turn, I would likely not think rationally.
You know. Such as thinking my husband would rather spend quality time with our female friend...
Make sense?
ygs-30/f
Ok well ive been dating this guy for a week and a 2 days. Hes my bestfriends cousin. were both 13. Well continuing with the story me and him clicked immediatly. We both talked so much on the phone. Both of our parents didn't know. I know mine wouldn't mind. Well his were different.
He has a sister. So the sister me and him one day made up a plan, the plan was everytime i called his phone ( house phone he doesnt have a cell phone yet), and if the mom picked up i would ask to talk to his sister, then his sister would give him the phone to talk to me. So this went good for about 6 days or so. Well my friend was so happy i was dating her cousin, and her cousin was dating her friend she made a cute website about us it had seprate pictures of me and him, and a message box were us three could send messages. mostly him and me. yeah it was like cute messages like i love you. nothing sexual or anything i mean we're only thirteen. so the website was like nothing bad. but then somehow the mom saw the website! the mom didn't even know we were going out. Well she was pissed. I talked to my boyfriend earlier in the day. But then my cellphone was dying so i told him i would call him back. So like two hours later i called him back and his mom picked up! I said may i please talk to (sisters name). But the mom said in a not so nice voice, shes not here right now shes at baseball practice i dont know! So i said oh ok. Then the mom said i take my sons pictures off that website i didn't get permission and he's only 13. ( she said it really nasty), so i said in a normal nice voice " its ( her nieces/my bestfriends/his cousins website) because it was. So she said very nasty, "then i'll talk to my niece!"
So i was getting a little worried about my boyfriend and me.
I called him the next day but no one picked up. He usually picks up the phone.
But last night (wednesday) i called at around 7:30 and asked to speak to the sister very calmly and respectfully and the mom said whos calling and i said (my name). Then the mom said quickly shes not here right now. So by this point i was getting pretty pissed now i didn't talk to my boyfriend in two days! We both our very much in love with eachother. So i called my bestfriend aka her niece the second i got off the phone with his mom. So my bestfriend called the house and asked to speak to the sister and the mom said she was there and let my bestfriend talk to her! My bestfriend said Her cousin/his sister said he wasn't home.
Im getting really upset by this cituation.
-i didn't talk to him since monday its thursday now!
- Im in love with him very much. He loves me very much too.
- Hes never on aim that much anymore so i can't even talk to him on there.
- I think the moms making sure me and him don't talk.
I last SAW him saturday. So im going to see if my bestfriend can get us to hang out together. But thats in two days i need to talk to him hopefully by tonight! Please dont saw to break with him because we both really love eachother and also because i couldn't break up with him because i can't even talk to him.
SO PLEASE HELP ME AND GIVE ME ADVICE! I NEED IT!
-teezee418 :(
Well, I know you won't like this, but I can kinda see her point of view. I mean, you guys have been hiding your relationship, lying to her, and now her son's pictures are posted on the internet.
As a mother, I would be mad at you guys, too. Actually, mad is an understatement.
I don't like things hidden from me. If my son wanted to date at 13, and I didn't feel he was of appropriate age, I'd be furious to have him hide a relationship behind my back. I'd rather honesty. I'd rather be mad because him and his girl are telling me they are going against my wishes than to be in a fury over them going behind my back.
I hate being lied to. Even if I didn't want my son to talk on the phone to a girl, I'd much rather the girl be truthful as to who she's calling for. I may be more apt to give approval to phone conversations, in time, if they give me the respect of being honest with me. I'd be furious if a girl called for my son, but lied by asking for his... brother... because he doesn't have a sister. Or to lie to me by having friends call and ask for him.
I do NOT trust the internet. I do NOT want pictures of my children posted on websites without my consent. It is for their own protection, considering there are many perverts on the internet, and I worry "Lord only knows what perverts do with pictures of children." I'd be furious with the person who uploaded my son's picture without my ok.
I wager his mother isn't too far off from my way of thinking on that subject.
I can see how she would be angry with you about the pictures online, considering all of the prior dishonesty she's recently discovered. (Discovered via her son's uploaded photo, by the way...)
So. What can you do?
Again, from a mother's view point, this is what I would appreciate:
Call their house. This time, don't ask for anyone, don't get anyone to call for you.
Speak to his mother.
Sincerely apologize to her for all that has happened- the hiding, the lies, the website (even though it's not yours, you need to remember the website was how she discovered the deceit.)
If I were her, I'd appreciate the apology, as well as the showing of respect for me.
You have to admit, you kids haven't been very respectful of her. Right? Right.
It may not change her mind about you guys dating right now, but it sure would help her realize you aren't as bad of a girl as she surely thinks right now.
I know, I know. That's not probably good enough. But you know what? It's a step in the right direction. You've obviously got WAY off on the wrong foot with this woman. You need to do your part to make that right.
Then go from there.
If you don't want to do it because you want to make it right, then you need to sit and think hard about it until you realize that she DESERVES an apology. Not just from you, but from her son and his cousin. But don't worry about them- make sure YOU apologize.
ygs-29/f
I am a 17 year old girl who has lost 10 pounds in the past month. I am obsessed with weight, and I really want to lost 10 more pounds. I was never overweight, but it is just that I want to be thinner.
For breakfast, I have a few bites of applesauce. I skip lunch whenever I can. I eat a normal size dinner, though less than I did before I started this. I try hard not to eat dessert, and I only eat it so that my parents won't suspect anything. Right after that I chew sugarfree gum so I don't eat anything. I also drink a lot of water.
I count calories a lot, and my goal is definitely no more than 1000 calories a day, although I usually try for 800. I exercise a lot, burning between 250 and 400 calories per school day.
After school, I am more tired than usual, and I sometimes feel a little weak in my legs when I walk down the stairs.
This probably isn't an eating disorder, but could it develop into one?
Sounds to me like you DO have an eating disorder.
I mean, let's be real, here.
You obsess over your weight.
You don't want your parents to suspect your idea of a diet.
You are already not eating a healthy amount of calories in a day, and your goal is to eat fewer. You're tired and weak because of this.
Find a healthy diet, because this isn't. If you "just can't deal with life" on a healthy diet, you need to seek help immediately.
My advice is to just go ahead and seek that help.
ygs-29/f
Me and my hubby have always wanted to go to the beach. But never really had the money. last summer before my mother in law went she asked if we wanted to go. We told her yes but we dont have the money. Well my father in law agreed to pay for our hotel and all. A week after we got back he asked my hubby for all of the money back. Even though he didnt tell us before we went we had to pay him back. We finally got him paid back.
My sis in law can do the same but she dont have to pay back a dime. She can afford the whole trip too.
This is just one example. This has been going on for years and its just plain unfair.
What should I do?
Thanks
Yah, it's unfair. There's nothing you can really do about it. They are your husband's parents, so he should be the one to do something about it.
Don't fret and stew over what they do or don't do for their daughter. That's between them. Stewing over it does nothing but raise your blood pressure.
Best bet all together? Next time, thank them kindly for offering and decline. It's more hassle than it's worth and only causes hardship.
Remember that if you can't afford it to begin with, you can't afford to pay them back. They obviously expect you to do that, even when it seems they are offering a gift. Right?
ygs-29/f
please help me. my friend she left her mom's house and her mom is abusive and now shes living with her dad permanetly because her parents recently divorced but now that she is living with her dad should either she or i tell her dad? she has a little brother too and he still lives with his mom sometimes but she doesnt hit him. just my friend (shes older). my mom said that the dad must know and they divorced so he probably knows about her behavior but i dont know if he does really. my friend said she things he doesnt know how serious it is so should we tell him? cause i dont want to tell him if he already knows and it be awkward but i know making sure he knows is more important and i think to myself if he knew she was abusive why would he let her stay with her mom? right?? thank you so much this is so important-thank you :)
Well, they may be divorced for other reasons, and he doubtfully knows she is abusive towards his daughter. She could have hidden her abusive behavior from him even when they were living as a married couple.
You are right in thinking if he knew she treated his daughter this way, he wouldn't have left his children with her. If he IS aware that she abuses her child, then he is just as bad as she is for allowing/ignoring it.
YES. He needs to know. He can't protect his children from harm if he doesn't know they are being harmed. He has the right to know. He would WANT to know. I'm a parent, and I'll tell you, if my children were being harmed by someone, I'd damn sure want to know so I can protect them.
Your friend needs to be the one to tell him, and she should tell him EXACTLY how her mother treats her. He needs to know what is going on, and how bad it is. If she doesn't want to tell him, that is when you should say something on her behalf.
Nobody, especially a child, deserves to put up with abuse at anytime from anyone.
Remember that. Remind your friend of that.
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i have a 1995 5.0 convertible.
looking to replace the leather seats as they show their age for an 18 year old car.
any websites? i don't want racing seats, just stock leather, if they make Shinoda seats, that would go great with my decals.
so can you help me out? i'm out of resources.
Ok, I don't know how much help I can be to you, but I'll try.
I found this link, though they seem pricey:
http://www.mustangdepot.com/OnLineCatalog2/Interior/seats.htm
Here is another you may find of interest:
http://www.1aauto.com/1A/Interior/Ford/Mustang/1AISU00432/690601
I couldn't find much more than that. I'm not exactly sure what kind of seats you are wanting, (car stuff isn't really my department...), but hopefully that helps you out a bit.
Since your seats are worn, have you looked into having them reupholstered? That may save you some money compared to purchasing new seats.
Worth looking into, anyhow.
I'm not sure where you'd go to for upholstery work, but there's bound to be someplace around you who does it. If you ask around in auto body shops or even Ford car lots, someone may be able to tell you where to go.
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