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Do I go or not?
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Well I attend these protests that usually happen once a month. A girl I'm supposed to be friends with strongly disagrees with what I'm protesting against, and instead of just agreeing to disagree and try to never discuss it, she never lets go and bitches at me all the time about it, and says I don't know my facts. When I hit back and send her mountains and mountains of facts, she can't defend herself and then just does some more bitching.
Anyway, these protests have gotten in the way of our friendship. Not because of me, I always dodge the subject. As I said, she's the one who makes a big deal out of it.
Anyway, she only asks to hang out on protest days. Obviously so I don't attend these protests. The last 2 I told her I couldn't because I was protesting, however she got in super early for this one coming up, so I thought 'well I can't keep saying no forever' and I agreed to hang out.
Anyway today I find out her and our 'friendship' group (By the way, above what I meant by 'hang out' is with people. We never hang out alone) are hanging out for the next few weeks in a row, and I of course haven't been invited, or even told about it.
So it got me thinking...obviously if I'm only being asked to join in on protest days they obviously don't want my company and are only stopping me from going to the protests. No idea if it's because they disagree with the cause or they're just being spiteful, or perhaps both.
So should I go to the protest? I get on with people well there, and they're really nice and I'd have a better time. It just seems if they don't want a genuine reason to hang out...I should just go do what I want to do.
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I went through the same thing once. luckily my friend and I were able to set our differences in opinion aside and just be friends.
you don't have to agree with everything she thinks and she doesn't have to agree with everything you think. try explaining to her that you don't htink that this is something to end your friendship over, it could ebt aht she is getting a different message by you avoiding the subject.
but if you guys still can't get along, then it's probabally best to just stop being friends. don't give in just because someone else disagrees with you. your opinion is just as valuabe (if not more valuable) than hers.
hope this helps
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I'd go.
Even if you don't go, you will still disagree, and she will continue to make a big deal about it.
So why not go?
When she wants to attack your stand on whatever your protesting about, just ignore her. Your mountains of facts will not change her opinion, just as her bitching won't change yours. Right? You're just wasting your time.
And if your group is meeting on days they figure you won't come, then I think reevaluating your friendship might be a good idea...
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