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WHat would be a good thesis statement for this prompt:

Evaluate the relative importance of the following as factors prompting Americans to rebel in 1776:
-parliamentary taxation
-restriction of civil liberties
-British military measures
-the legacy of colonial, religious and
political ideas

and some examples of each bullet would be amazing... im dying here haha

Although there are four major factors that led to the American revolution, including parliamentary taxation, restriction of civil liberties, British military measures, and the legacy of colonial, religious, and political ideas, they do not all contribute equally.

I hope this helps for an overall thesis for a paper

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Briefly, the facts of my situation are as follows:

I had an emotional affair. It was a long-distance matter between me and a woman I used to know before I met my wife. When my wife began to realize what was going on (and it didn't take her long, because I'm lousy at keeping secrets and she's very perceptive) I ended it, and told my affair partner that I would not be contacting her again. I meant it, too.

That might have been the end of it, but a couple of days ago my wife looked into my e-mail account and discovered everything had been going on - things that she had not been aware of and which I had not intended to tell her. To make a long story short, the nature of the affair had turned sexual, and there were E-mails sent back and forth where we described that sort of thing in detail. There were confessions of love from both sides, and intimate revelations of other sorts. There were also plans for us to try to get together sometime soon (plans which I aborted before my wife even found out about anything, because I came to my senses about that much at least). I was lying to my wife about all of these things, and now those lies are fully exposed.

Of course, my wife is furious and terribly hurt, and she is considering ending our marriage.

I am deeply remorseful of what I've done. Right now I can barely look my wife in the eye, because I am so ashamed of myself. I think I might take my own life if I didn't know that it would only make things worse for my wife and child (for now, my child remains unaware of anything wrong, that goodness for that).

I know that I committed a terrible wrong, and I want to make amends and repair my marriage. I need advice on how to do that. I am willing to do literally whatever it takes to make things right again. I want to change myself so that I will be a better man, someone she deserves to have for a husband, instead of the lying cheater that I have proven to be.

Does anyone have any thoughts on what I can do or say to convince her that my intentions are sincere, that I truly am sorry, and that it absolutely will not happen again? Are there any of you out there who have gone through this on either end and might have some advice for what I can do now? And can anyone give me some idea on how I can work to improve myself and my own personal integrity so that this doesn't happen again?


I ask only that responders refrain from slamming me down regarding my wrongful actions - nothing that anyone can say will make me feel worse about it than I already do, so to harp on that will be pointless. Please, just tell me what I can do now.

I think to set things right between your wife and yourself and to feel better about yourself and your character, you need to start at the heart of the problem. Why did you start contacting this other woman? it could be something as simple as you not having enough alone time with your wife.

as far as making it up to her, there's no way to win someone's trust over instantly. it'll take time and several examples of your love, care, and respect, as well as apologies, for her to see that everything that happened is really in the past, and you deserve her trust again. presents help too, but don't make the mistake of expecting them to fix things. when you do get her to start trusting you again, tell her about everything. she's your wife and deserves to know how it started and how you're ending it. it may hurt her at first, but she'll always wonder if you don't fill her in.

hope this helps :) good luck

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I have a scar on me that I got when I was about 7. I'm 13 now, and its really bugging me. It's on my right kneecap, and it takes up the whole space of that part of my knee. It makes me feel insecure when I wear shorts and skirts. What could I do to feel less secure?

hey. no one's perfect. your scar makes you unique. I know this sounds weird but I like showing off my scars.it makes you unique, becasue they each have a story. so try looking at it in a positive way. it doesn't have to be soemthing that's ugly and inmperfect, it can be your unique mark. I hope this doesn't freak you out. bt honestly you're prefect the way you are. no scar can change that. hope this helps.

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I'm doing a report for my end of the year english research paper. It has to be 5-8 pages. My assigned topic is "William Blake and his use of art."
The resources I use need to come from scholarly writers. I have no idea where to find scholarly writtings on such a specific topic. My first thought was to look online, but I found nothing there. My second thought was to look in the library, but I still found nothing. It is not possible for me to change my topic. Does anyone know where I can get any scources for my paper?

Thank you and God Bless!

don't give up on the reaserch just yet. when seraching online, go to yahoo search and find the advanced options somewhere near the top of the search box. on the options type in William Blake and click the ".gov" button. don't use wikipedia or any other ".com" beasue these sources are not reliable. however if you have access to an online datdbase or can find useful information on a .edu or .gov use those. make sure you site each source and print each online source as you go becasue in the long run it will save you time. the library is also a good source. try looking for books written about authors of his time period. also be sure to use a copier to print these. but most importantly, don't get frustrated. research takes time. and if you don't have enough when you start writing, you can always go back and get more. hope this helps.

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both my questions have to do with the face.

1. i have scars from acne (not indented scars) ive had before and this was like 3-4 months ago. i dont even pick at my pimples but these scars are REALLY annoying me. i wash my face every morning and night. acne free at night and morning burst in the morning. is there any products or secrets to get rid of these scars? if so, where can i get these products? thanks.

2. idk why but my face seems to be paler than my body. it hasnt always been like this but it really bothers me and makes me feel really ugly. is it just me whos face is paler than my body or is everyones like that? thankss.

I actaully used acne-free at one time, but I quit and switched to using the neutrogena face soap. it comes in a bar and it works very well without making my skin pale, the way acne free did. for your scars try an on the spot scar remover.

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I'm not entirely sure if this is in the right category or not, but whatever. Is it normal to have an obsession with suicide? Not as in "I'm gunna do it, or I'm thinking about doing it." But like getting inside the head of those who do want to. Cuz it just seems so tragic to me and I kind of want to learn more about it. Understand a mind that's going through that thought process. Is that at all normal?

it's totally noraml. you just have an interest for things that some people aren't daring enough to try. have you ever considered a career in psychology, particullary in the criminal sector? It's what i plan on majoring in and I too, like you, think that that sort of thing is fascinating. so relax. you're not a freak. hope this helps :)

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so, im 17.. about 5'7 and 150lbs. Its not exactly overweight, but I do know I've got some extra flub that I really don't want. I try to eat less, and lately it seems like all I've been doing is eating.. and nothing healthy. I get so bored that that ends up all I do. What are some ideas to keep myself from over eating? and what are some ways to lose some weight by summer?! thanksss

well first of all, body weight is not all about food. get out and excersice, even if its just walking. Not only will mind stay occupied and not be thinking of food, but you'll also be burning calories. second cut out sugary drinks and excessive desserts from your diet. try to limit yourself to one glass of juice a day, but no soda! another helpful tip is to drink a glass of water before every meal. if halfway fills you up, without the calories. be sure to eat a well-balanced diet. take low fat snacks and fruits and veggies for on the go.

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i'm very confused at the moment, i have this boyfriend and we keep going on and off. and i'm getting so sick of it! so this one time, we broke up AGAIN and decided not to get back together in two weeks, but it became shorter than that. and now SOME people knows we're going out and the others think we're not. I like the feeling of being single, but yet when we break up again i feel very sad. and i can't talk to my friends about it, because they think i'm single you know? and sometimes i feel like it's better off being single, but yet i really like him. and this one time when we broke up, he was about to kill himself by getting anti-depressing pills or whatever. but then he emptied it. i don't know what to do, i'm not sure if i should be single or not. i like to be treated as if i was single, but yet i also like to be taken by him. but i guess it's that i need some space, but he could never understand that and we end up breaking up again. what should i do?

okay first of all if your boyfriend or ex, i don't know what he is at this point, is suicidal, you need to break up with him. chances are that he may be doing it just for the attention, and if that's the case, he is never going to be satified with you. I know that sounds harsh, but he needs to straighten his life out before you get involved. however, you don't have to abandon him, tell him that you want to be friends. and if he's seriously suicidal, then tell someone who can help him.

trust yourself. if you like being single, then by all means be single! it's less stressful and you said yourself that you like it better. I don't know what exaclty is causing the break-ups between you two, but remember BOTH of you have to agree to work out your differences. If he can't give you your space then hes not the one.

hope this helps

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Okay.

Well I attend these protests that usually happen once a month. A girl I'm supposed to be friends with strongly disagrees with what I'm protesting against, and instead of just agreeing to disagree and try to never discuss it, she never lets go and bitches at me all the time about it, and says I don't know my facts. When I hit back and send her mountains and mountains of facts, she can't defend herself and then just does some more bitching.

Anyway, these protests have gotten in the way of our friendship. Not because of me, I always dodge the subject. As I said, she's the one who makes a big deal out of it.

Anyway, she only asks to hang out on protest days. Obviously so I don't attend these protests. The last 2 I told her I couldn't because I was protesting, however she got in super early for this one coming up, so I thought 'well I can't keep saying no forever' and I agreed to hang out.

Anyway today I find out her and our 'friendship' group (By the way, above what I meant by 'hang out' is with people. We never hang out alone) are hanging out for the next few weeks in a row, and I of course haven't been invited, or even told about it.

So it got me thinking...obviously if I'm only being asked to join in on protest days they obviously don't want my company and are only stopping me from going to the protests. No idea if it's because they disagree with the cause or they're just being spiteful, or perhaps both.

So should I go to the protest? I get on with people well there, and they're really nice and I'd have a better time. It just seems if they don't want a genuine reason to hang out...I should just go do what I want to do.

I went through the same thing once. luckily my friend and I were able to set our differences in opinion aside and just be friends.

you don't have to agree with everything she thinks and she doesn't have to agree with everything you think. try explaining to her that you don't htink that this is something to end your friendship over, it could ebt aht she is getting a different message by you avoiding the subject.

but if you guys still can't get along, then it's probabally best to just stop being friends. don't give in just because someone else disagrees with you. your opinion is just as valuabe (if not more valuable) than hers.

hope this helps

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hi everyone!
i was wondering, is there any really way to make an easy application? on facebook. maybe somthing like a competition where people could vote for who they like better. it would have to compare and contrast. somthing like PINK vs. BLUE
i want to make it so i can personalize it. its for school. any advice would be great. thanks so much!!

I don't know how you would actually go about creating an app, however I wanted to suggest that if you do make an application, you might want o reconsider your idea. The problem with ceraying another compare/contrast type of app is that there are already so many, that it's not likely that your app will become popular. just a bit of advice.

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16 f, okay so i recently made a demo of my songs and also karaoke songs. i want to add them to my MYSPACE music page becuase hopefully im an up coming artist. so i want to make my page background with a picture of me you know like all the other celebrites have? is it possible? and is okay if i put the karaoke there sung by me i dont want to be sued or anything? i would also appreciate to take the time to ask you guys to request me and listen to my 2 songs i have uploaded, and tell me what you think. www.myspace.com/kittymusiic thanks soo much!!!

to make a page layout with your picture inserted in it, go to pimpmyprofile.com or one of the many other layout-making sites on the web and customize your layout. there should be step by step instructions on what to do. hope it works out for you.

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Is there a website (not CollegeBoard) that SUMMARIZES collegess... Like what they focus on and such?
Like one for Boulder would say: Boulder is the good college for ones looking for nice scenery, small college, etc..
you know?
Like I was really interested into Pepperdine until I heard it was very religious.
Thankss :D

I've run into the same issue and the way solved it was by searching by state. it narrows the search down more and you get better results. hope this helps :)

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almost every year i dont go swimming because i am a soccer player so i have HUGE thighs, and when i wear jeans it cool. but i cant wear shorts or anything. and then because im 13 i have a little bit of a tummy. and i want to get rid of that too. and fast. so..
- how can i get rid of tummy fat (not alot)
- how can i make my tighs smaller
- i have like rolls on my side when i like reach over the side. how can i get rid of those
- and how can i do this all in less than 5 weeks

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME

ps. i have an hourglass figure already.

okay lets start at the top. if you want to get in shape, swimming is actually the perfect thing to do. it's a full body workout, and it doesn't even feel like it. to tone up your stomach, lie flat down on the floor and raise your legs about 6 inches of the ground. stay in this position for 10 seconds and repeat 10 times.to tone your thighs, do a couple of sets of squats each day.

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Hello everyone:

I was recently told by a girl who I really do not like that most every girl before the age of like 18-20 has had sex. Now I know that it really isn't true and that there's girls out there who are still virgins. I'm a virgin myself and am 22. Do you think that this statement is true that almost any girl good or bad has had sex before marriage? Why or why not?

the fact is that more and more girls are having sex before marriage. it's hard to believe that at one point it was actually illegal. actually I take that back, it IS illegal, but for the most part, our society today thinks nothing of that. however, don't let other people effect the decisions you take in your personal life. and especially don't do something your uncomfortable with or you're just not ready for, just because other people say that everyone has done it.

it's true that the numbers of teen pregnancies had been rising, so there must be more sexual activity outside of marriage going on, however, like I said the number has actually gone down some. now the only question is, is it because more people are choosing to remain abstinent or is it because of protection?

hope this helps :)

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okay so my skin was so nice before.
like everyone i would get a zit once in a while but i was so happy with the way my skin looked.
but these past few days my skin has just been getting kinda bad, its not one zit its like 10 on my cheeks and chin. and theyre all like under my skin and only come up a little.
my mom booked me an appointment to meet with my doctor so we could get a referral to see the dermatologist, but thats on june 2. if i even get the referral itll be a few months before he can see me.
i was just wondering what i could do to clear up my skin as fast as possible ?!

thanks ♥

wash your face once a day with your choice of cleanser. I use neutrogena and be sure to apply some non-oily lotion. you don't want your skin to become dry in the process of fighting zits. don't pop them! it hurts and it creates a scar. other than that watch what you eat. chocolate is one of the worst things for breakouts. some people also breakout with acids like the ones found in orange juice. so until you meet with the dermatologist stay away from these things.

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for baby names can anyone think of any names that start have an "on" or "en" ending like :

braylon
brighten
lyndon
aiden


any other names like that boy or girl?
or just any unique cute names you can think of could help
thanx

taran

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