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Hi my name is Brandon I like this girl she is fine ok and so I asked her out she said yes and her mom said I was to old for her what should I do??

Hey Brandon. How old are you and the girl? But, age is just a number too though. But, maybe you can get to know her mom and talk to her and she'll realize what a great guy you are and she'll let you date her daughter. Or, you can say "I'm not after anything, I just really like your daughter and thats why I want to date her." Something like that, just tell her how you feel about her daughter and why you want to date her and you're not after like sex or anything. But, if that doesn't work, just let the mom get to know you and work from there. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok so heres my problem. i really like this guy.. we will call him david. ive told his friends that i like him and they say.. well thats a possibility for you. i know that david knows that i like him.. im just not sure if he likes me or not. what should i do?? HELP!

Just talk to *David* and just be like "I heard you like me, well I like you too, but I just want to know if those rumors are true or not." Just say something like that and just ask him if he likes you or not and see if there is any chance you two could go out or not. But, I would try talking to him if I was you! Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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i have this boyfreid and i like him alot and we grew up togeather and i want more from him and i feel like hes not giving me enough we only kissed and i want to do more wut should i do!

Maybe he's just not ready yet. I mean you wouldn't want him to pressure you into doing something you didn't want to do. But, try talking to him maybe he feels like you're not ready to do more stuff. So when you two are talking just be like "I don't know if you're ready but I am, I think we should do more than just kiss, but if you're not ready, then I'll wait, so whenever you're ready then I'll be ready too" Just say something like that. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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another poem yall

I look in the mirror
But what do I see
The person I look at
Isn’t the real me
No one knows
What I want to see
Someone that loves
Some one that hates
Someone who isn’t just the someone
That everyone thinks is me

another

Who is louder our hearts or our minds
When it comes time to decide what do we find
We listen closely but it is hard to tell
Almost as if they are two little bells
But which one masks the other
It is so hard to hear
Why should we even bother
It will only cause a tear

another

I shiver in the heat of the day
I wish I could just get away
I have these dreams at night
I don’t even try to fight
For this feeling isn’t something I can escape
Now my heart is out of shape
I can’t run of hide
From these thoughts inside
You will stay there forever
Giving up never
You torture me day and night
Because this will never be right

one more

I shiver in the heat of the day
I wish I could just get away
I have these dreams at night
I don’t even try to fight
For this feeling isn’t something I can escape
Now my heart is out of shape
I can’t run of hide
From these thoughts inside
You will stay there forever
Giving up never
You torture me day and night
Because this will never be right

WOW! I really liked them!! And I'm sure many other people do too. Sometimes I feel like I could just get away. I can relate to some of the stuff in the poems. You did a really great job on them. Keep up the good work and keep posting them!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I like a girl and she says she likes me two........but also she has a boyfriend but i really like her.......What should i do

I know that must be hard, but the only thing you can do is wait til they break up. I mean they won't last if she's telling you she likes you too. Just give her time to break up with him and once they break up, tell her how you feel and ask her if she would ever go out with you. If you really like her, you'll wait, but if they don't break up soon, then I would suggest meeting another girl by going to the mall or something and getting there numbers! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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I need help because i dont kno if i should call this guy to tell him i like him or if i should just keep it to my self???

I think you should call him, he'll never know if you keep it to yourself. Who knows he may like you, but you'll never know if you don't tell him! Just call him up and be like "Hey its _____" And then when you two are talking just be like "I was also calling you because I like you and I just want to know if you like me too" And just tell him how you feel about it all and see what he has to say. Good luck hun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay so i have this friend that we will call David. He's my best friend, but I think i like him and he might like me, im not sure. I can't get him outta my mind. I'm going crazy. Should I tell him that I like him or just keep it to myself? I mean I tell him everything and he came to my b-day parties and everything. I really don't know what to do. I hope someone can help me soon.
Signed,
Confuzzed

I think you should tell him how you feel, I mean it shouldn't be too hard since he is your best friend. When you two are talking just tell him you have something to tell him and its serious. And then tell him "I don't know about you, but I've been beginning to realize I like you more than a friend and I just want to know how you feel" And tell him "If you do like me, our friendship will never change, you guys will always remain friends no matter what." Just tell him something like that and how you feel about him and you want to know how he feels about you too. Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey i like this guy ALOT and i dont know if he likes me but um he is going into 10th grade and is frickin hot!! i dont know what to do! should i ask him out?! PLEASE HELP ME!

Hey! I think you should just talk to him and tell him how you feel. Just be like "I like you a lot and I just want to know if you like me or not?" Just say something like that, that gets the point across that you like him and you want to know if he likes you too. And if he turns you down, its his loss! But, you'll never know if he likes you, if you don't ask him. Good luck!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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hey yall i jus found out that my bf is probly cheating on me and this stuff happens to me all the time i always get used at and it really sux and wel i jus dont no how to deal with it cus wenever this stuf happens i get really depressed and shit and i think about cutting and stuff but i never actualy do it i jus need sum way to get out of this place or idk i jus idk

Hey. I'm really sorry this happened to you! =( Guys can be so mean. When I want to go out with a guy, I get to know them for a couple days and see how they act and stuff. Maybe you should do that too. But, don't tell them thats what you're doing because then they'll just put up an act or something. So, when you start to like someone, get to know them a couple of days, like a week or something and if you like what you see, then tell them they can ask you out or something. Everything will be fine though. You just can't think about it, which I know is hard, but if you just go out and have fun, that'll get things off your mind. And thats good that you didn't cut, if you ever feel like it, just put a rubberband around your wrist and snap it when you feel like you want to cut. If you still need to talk about it or something, just leave one in my inbox. =D

xoxo Kourtney

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Is this poem OK?

people always tell me i'm not like others,
i don't fit in with the preps and am not like the brothers,
I like to listen to Aerosmith and P.O.D,
Is there any other way i should be?
I don't have a certain way to dress,
For someone i hardly know to impress,
I don't watch movies about cheerleaders,
And i hardly go to the movie theatres,
I just am myself and no one can change my rep,
Except maybe good old johnny depp

That last verse was a joke

Pleez rate the poem 1-10. Thank you
Lizzy

I think a 10 because first, you write really well, if this poem is about you, I think thats really cool that you are your own person. Thats awesome! But, I like the poem a lot because it expresses a lot about you (if it is about you lol). So good job!!

xoxo Kourtney

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there is this girl that i love more than anything in the whole world, and i know we love each other. but she has a boyfriend that she cares bout. i dont like anybody else but her. but i figure if i wait too long i will be hurt even more. what the heck do i do

First off thats so sweet! But, you know that saying its something like "When you have to wait for your love one, you'll appreciate it more" Its something like that. I know how it feels though, I think we all go through it at one time or another. Its hard I know. And since you love her so much, I think you should tell her. But, I mean don't get in there relationship or anything, just tell her "I love you and I just want you to know, so if you want me then I'll be here for you." But, for now, maybe you should move on to get her off your mind or something. But for now just tell her that and tell her "I'm not trying to get in your relationship or anything, I just wanted to tell you that" But, if you still need to talk about this, then just leave one in my inbox or something. I know how it feels. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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another 1-

The day will come when you must choose, will you gain or will you lose.

Tell them now, choose with care, the one you love might not always be there.

So tell them now, dont leave it to fate, tell them now before its too late.........

Like it?

I really liked that one because you should always tell someone when you love them because then they know. That one was really good! I liked it a lot. So keep on writting! You're good at it =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i met this awsome guy at world changers, if u didnt kno world changers is where youth groups from all over the united states comes and worships. i found out from him that he likes me n i told him that i liked him. weve benn talkin ever since he left for home and well hes a cute, great n funny guy but the only problem is he lives in texas and i live in louisiana. what should i do?

It just all depends on what you two want to do. Try talking to him about it and ask him what he would like to do. Does he want to try and have a long distance relationship or just become good friends. Just ask him what he would like to do and talk it over with him. Just be like "Since we both know we like each other, do you want to try to have a long distance relationship or just be really good friends. Because if we do have a long distance relationship we can try to work it out and see each other." Just say something like that and how you feel and just ask him how he feels about it too. Good luck hun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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my bff just told me she was liking gurls. do I treat her different, or the same? help me.
signed
***/confuzzzed/***

No, don't treat her differently. She just now came out that she likes girls and you didn't know before. She'll always be the same girl you know, its just she likes girls and thats the only thing that is different about her. Just act like she doesn't like girls at all, its really no big deal. Just pretend when she looks at a girl that its a guy. lol. But, no don't treat her differently because I'm sure it was already tough enough to tell you she is starting to like girls.

xoxo Kourtney

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write me about em...
ugahottie321 on AIM and Advicenators

WOW! Those are really good!! I can relate to them and I'm sure many other people can. I can really relate to the first one. But, you did such a great job on them!! I really liked them and it looks like other people did too. Keep posting more because I'll sure read them!! Good job!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I waz talkin on da phone with him...& i wuz about to he off....& he said ok iloveyou i paused 4 a min. & i didn`t want to hurt him so i said it back...but i totally didn`t mean it....i take iloveyou very serious!thats not the first time he has said that wut should i do?
~Joyful~

When you're on the phone with him again just be like "I take I LOVE YOU very seriously and when I said it I didn't want to hurt you so I said it back, but I'm not ready to say it yet and when I am then I'll tell you, I hope you understand" Just tell him the truth and how you feel about saying I love you. Good luck and hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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theres this boy thats one of my friends n we hang out all the time like wit other ppl n stuff wit us. n durin the day this boy is the BIGGEST asshole. but then when night time roles around hes all touchy feely n wantin me to flash him n we mess around. it doesnt bother me or nothin because i love sweet guys...n when hes sweet...hes sweet! should i still let him be an asshole n then mess wit him when he 'becomes' sweet?

Thats weird lol. I think you should talk to him about that and just say "Why are you such an asshole during the day but all flirty and nice with me at night? Whats up with that?" Just say something like that, so you know whats wrong with him. If he doesn't change, then you shouldn't put up with that, no girl should. Maybe he'll learn not to be so mean. But, just ask him questions and just get your point across of why he's so mean during the day and nice at night. Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey ok so I have this really good friend lets say his name is (Shane). and Me and my friend like him and I kinda think he likes me,?, so when were alone we are really loveable , but when my other friend is around, we act like just friends to not let her know. What dod I do??

Hey!! Well, I would first talk to your friend before you did anything with this *Shane* guy. Just be like "I really like *Shane* and I just don't want to try to hook up with him if you're going to have a problem with it, so thats why I'm asking you first to see what you have to say about it" And if she's not cool with it, then I wouldn't try hooking up or anything else with *Shane* because friends last forever while boyfriends come and go. So, talk to your friend first before you do anything else. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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Im babysitting a 4 yr old boy from 7:30am to 4:30pm and i need some ideas of things to do. I dont have a liscense so i cant drive anywhere and i live in maine.

Ask his parents what he likes to do. But, you can put his favorite movie in and make some popcorn and some candy and make it like a movie theater. Play games with him, draw, color, etc. Ask him what he may like to do also.

xoxo Kourtney

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anyone have any good webisites that have fun quizzes like personality ones and stuff? thx

Try:

www.ym.com
www.cosmogirl.com
www.alloy.com
www.seventeen.com
www.teenpeople.com

Hope those help. Have fun! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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