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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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is that true though? while having a sex we suck so many body part like vagina or your partner gives u a blowjob,is that is possible that HIV can enter from mounth,tongue,slyiva.? becouse i never put inside her without condom,or if i have HIV,then is thier any way i can put stop on that illness,

STD's can be spread. Say you have genital herpes, if she gives you head, she can catch them. Or if she has herpes, & you eat her out, you can get them. Unfortunately, there is no cure for STD's or HIV/AIDS, however there are medicines that you can go on to help with them so they're not so bad. So anyways, make sure you protect yourself everytime, and get tested every 6 months. =)

"Just say hi. If you know people, but don't talk to them much, say hi. Start a conversation by asking what their favorite music is, or how their day is going."

They say good then what do I say after that

Ask them what type of music they like, or ask them if they like a certain band. Also, talk about the current movies out, or what they like to do after school, or just in general.

Hey, I just started modeling and I need to lose ten pounds (the healthy way) by April. I already take yoga every other day and I work out every sunday for about an hour. Advice and eating plans?

Exercise everyday for 30 minutes. Drink a lot of water, and lots of milk. You're supposed to drink about 8 glasses of water a day. And I would recommend 4 glasses of milk. Don't eat anything that's high in sugar or calories. Refrain from fast food. And stay away from sweet things like candy, or chips. Also, eat small meals. Cut your meals in half.

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I was best friends with a girl who started getting on my nerves and she bossed me around, it got worse one day i school we got into a fist fight never talked again we hate eachother now. I tell her im better off and i have more friends. we have many classes together one. In one of them we have to do a group project of 3 and no more. The 2 girl I thought I was working with didnt want me working with them anymore and everyone else already had groups. She had two people to work with from the begining. I was one of the only people working by myself=/ I was devastated and almost cried but didnt let anyone see that it hurt me so i stayed strong especially in front of her. The other person working alone is really smart but also kind of weird and not exactly sociable. Im a pretty girl in school hes the total opposite of what I am and I asked him to work with me. Im afraid people will laugh at me and Im afraid ill be commiting social suicide becasue we have to make a presentation and its embarresing for me to not have anyone but him to work with I dont know how to deal with things im stressing so much about it the project is due soon their is no way I would ever get together with him helppppp!!! I feel like crying everytime we bring up the whole situation of the project hwo cold i even do it.

If you hate her, the things she does shouldn't effect you. Don't let her get to you. You hate her, you're not friends with her, so she's not important.

Anyways, I think you should do your project alone. If you're that shallow & scared of "social suicide", then you don't deserve to work with him. That's shallow not to work with somebody just because they're not good looking, or popular like you are. If he's nice, & smart, it shouldn't matter if it's weird or "socialable." If people laugh at you, tell them to fuck themselves. You can your projects with whoever you want, be friends with whoever you want & hang out with whoever you want.

But, work by yourself. This isn't very helpful, but it's an opinion. I think you're a shallow, and you care too much what people think.

Okay...is a hickey basically when like youre making ut and then like the other person...a boy for me in my case...will just move down to my neck and bite?

I'm confused as to how it all comes about with getting one and stuff...

It's more like sucking your neck. But I've never gotten one.

Dont know how and pretty shy.

Just say hi. If you know people, but don't talk to them much, say hi. Start a conversation by asking what their favorite music is, or how their day is going.

i had sex with a girl 7 mounths ago, we had sex like 10 time in a row,like every day, after we left each other for while and after few days i came to know from some one that she used to have had sex with few other guys too, i am scared please tell me that is it a couse of HIV or any other illness, but i wanna tell you that i use condom each time,but she suck my penic she took off my condom every time, please guide me what should i do,??

Get tested for HIV. If you're positive, she had it. She could've had it herself, or got it from someone else. Condoms & birth control don't protect from getting HIV/AIDS or any other types of STD's. Get tested so you know, and so you can learn more about it.

what does that stuff do to you?
*not for sickness*

If you use it wrongly, it could do some pretty horrid things. It can get you sick, and you might throw up. It depends on how much you take. It's like taking a coughdrop when you're not sick. I do it, but if you take enough, you can get sick.

Don't use any type of medicine for the wrong way, and don't take more than you need, whether it's working asap or not.

my girl friend is not telling me that is she is virgin or not,becouse according to my religion a girl should be a virgin before marriage,we never have sex , i allways ask her that are you still virgin but she is telling me that my useing unappropiate style like,,,u dont belive me"" by getting mad,but she used to had a boyfriend in four year ago,i am confused please help me how to fined out that is she is realy a virgin still,??

With the way you write, I wouldn't answer you about my virginity issues either.

With that said, just ask her nicely. If she refuses to tell you, accept it. Usually when you have sex with a girl, you can tell if she's a virgin or not. Some girls are loose & you can just go right in, but some girls are tight & it's hard. But then again, when you don't have sex for a long period of time, you tighten up.

I'm fourteen, female, and I've never done anything majorly bad in my life. My biggest mistake was probably insulting an idea a teacher had that got me yelled at by her, honestly. My parents used to trust me with anything, and it was great because I'm very responsible. But latley, I've grown up even more and they decided not to trust me at all. I've always had guy friends but they've never minded, and all of the sudden they're totally against my best friend as well. They keep me from seeing any of them, and when I ask why, they tell me to 'deal with it.'

I'm not sure what to do. I've tried countless times and ways to talk to them about what happened with the trust, but they simply don't answer with a reasonable statement. Please help, I want my life back.

It depends on how you're talking to them about this. If you're rude about it, or demanding or just all "OMFGWHERE'SMYTRUST?" they're not gonna be reasonable; AT ALL. If you come at them like that, then you don't deserve trust.

Sit them down, & talk to them reasonably, and show them you're trustworthy. Insulting an idea a teacher had isn't something to lose someone's trust over. Some teachers have some really stupid ideas & honestly, I do the same thing. Usually when I let my teacher know that the idea or whatever is bad/stupid, they try to fix it so it's something the class & me will be interested in. But just talk to them calmly & come up with something.

okay me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7 months, its beeen great everythings goood, except he has an ex girlfriend that really bother me cuz she still tells him how much she loves me, he knows it bothers me tooo. then theres some girls he talks to as friends but still bothers me b/c it looks liek he likes her and recently he hasnt callled as much, and hes just being really weird and i dont want to say ne thing liek " is our relationship ok" and blah cuz i dont want to start ne thing, but i really need to no what it is, like right now he has tha " upper hand" in our relationship, i had it earlier but i just need to no how i get that back, how i make him fight for me again.. leik doo i not answer some of his callls, or keep him in tha dark abotu things leik what do i dooo.. i neeed toooo get backkk in this

pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee helppppp me!

Ask him if he's been feeling okay, and ask him what's going on. I hate it when some of my ex boyfriends acted weird when they were with me or whatever, and I got upset over it. I'd think the relationship was at stake and they'd assure me that it wasn't & tried acting a bit better.

I'd just ask if he's feeling okay, and if it gets to the point where you always have to call, or you always have to hang out, question the relationship because something may be going on & he's keeping it from you.

I've always wondered, do guys like big butts or small butts better? (sounds silly) I have a relatively large (not like fat, saggy or anything) butt, and you always hear in songs (aka I like big butts...) about it, but I also dont wanna be a "fat ass" lol.

Thanks!

Every guy is different. Usually, guys don't really like girls with big butts. Sometimes an ass can be too big & it's just really unattractive, but so is having a long back with a crack. Honestly, it depends on the guy. Have an ass, but don't have it deathly huge to the point where it's digusting. An example of that would either be my fat ugly cousin, or Delishis off of Flavor Of Love 2.

What are some turn ons for guys? I need tons, thanks!

Every guys different. But just flirt & smile a lot.

I use to really really like this one guy and three months after I get over him he decides to pursue me. (idiot) So my feelings for him come back and we went on a date and we're suppose to go out again this weekend. But there's some problems....
1. my feeling for him aren't as strong
2. I'm always busy so it's hard to amke time for dates
3. because of # 2, I don't really want a boyfriend because I wouldn't give him the time and attention he deserves.
4. He probably wants a girlfriend...me specifically
5. I have wandering eyes

I'm 17 and never really have been in a comitted relationship

Everyone's eyes wander, but unless you act on it, there's nothing wrong with it. My eyes wander, and I'm sure my boyfriend's eyes wander, but unless me & him do something about it, then it's okay.

Anyways, tell him you're not ready for a boyfriend, and that you're always busy, so it will consume all of your time & you won't be able to hang out. Just tell him the truth, I think he deserves it.

around my vagina it's dark and around my inner thighs too....is this normal?

thanks.

It might be dirt. Or maybe the pigments in your skin are darker down there than they are with the rest of your body.

i was jacking off and i ejaculated and when the cum came out a little blood came out also i have ejaculated before and his has never happened what is wrong

That doesn't sound normal, I'd see a doctor.

There's this guy I kind of sort of like. And we've been on a date. Bu I don't know if I want to keep dating him because...I feel like I can do better. I feel really shallow, but I find myself interested in other guys too. I don't know what to do because he's really a great guy but I don't feel comitted.

You're right. You're shallow. This guy is great & you don't wanna keep dating him because "you can do better?" You don't deserve him at all. So go out with a good looking guys who's a dick, and let this guy get a girl who appreciates him.

I really hate shallow girls.

okay, sorry this is long but i need some advice.
well i hang out with a group of people,
and the guy i like is in this group, so if we ever hooked up it would kind of work.
problem is. i know he doesnt like me like that
second is we barly talk at all
and third is we are into some different things like music.

well i really like him alot, and is there any way i could talk to him more, if i do what about ect ect.
and is there anyway i can kind of flirt with him??
eh idk what to do
i like him ALOT
soo.

please help
xoxo thansk

Ask him what movies he likes. Or ask him what he thinks of a certain band.

I'm auditioning for a musical tomorrow (Thursday, March 1st...sorry if I didn't give you enough notice in advance...) and I really want to be cast as a character that has a "Mezzo (A3 to D5)" voice. I want to be prepared for my audition, which means knowing what "A3 to D5" means. I saw that you like music, so I decided to ask you. I'm not sure if A3 would be the 3rd A key on the piano or not...? Thanks so much!!!
~Lauren

Honestly, I'm not really sure. I've never been in a musical, so I wish I could help. =( Sorry.

I have been best friend's with a boy for two whole years. he always makes me laugh and we always have a good time. He broke up with his girlfriend in October. since then she has not left him alone shes basically like a stalker. and because there not dating she takes it out on me, calls, IM's, and talks a lot of things behind my back. She told people she wanted to kill me and that she wanted to hang my dog, now thats just immature. i am sixteen and she is fifteen and im not the least bit intimidated. Today as i walked by in school she yelled shit at me and now im just frustrated i tryed being nice and telling her i dont like him like that but i shouldnt have to explain myself or be nice to somone whose arrogant. I am not a fighter, but i honestly believe the only way to gain respect from her is to hit her. The only thing that is holding me back is im an honor roll student, im one of those kids that cares about school and hates missing it.. stupid i know. I dont want to go tell a conselour or anything, because things like that always get worse, because my friends have been through it. I just need some advice on how to approach this girl, and what exactly i should do to avoid getting hit back. i really need your help, thankyou

Tell her to cut the shit. If she doesn't, I'd just smack the shit out of her anyways. Honestly, you can make everything you miss up, and I don't think your Honor Roll with be affected. Don't be nice to her about this anymore.

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