christina's advice column | Page 270

home view feedback ask questions add as friend advicenators

Website:

Gender:

Female

Location:

716

Occupation:

SAHM

Age:

27

Member Since:

February 1, 2006

Answers:

6717

Last Update:

August 9, 2018

Visitors:

297717

Favorite Columnists

Main Categories:

about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

i was seeing someone over the summer- but his worst enemy fancied me.
his "worst enemy" was/is a stoner, and a lot of people inclding my best mate told me that the guy i was seeing was one aswell. when i asked him about it he promised me he wasnt and i believed him, but i now know this is because he was under the impression that i would ditch him if i knew he was (i suspect).
in september, he dumped me and he was suddenly best mates with the guy who was once his "worst enemy" . he has since let me know hes a stoner in more ways than one and i really dont understand whether hes trying to prove a point or something but its really p*ssing me off
i wouldnt even be bothered if he told me he was a stoner in the first place, its just the fact that he lied about it and i even believed him over my best mate
gggrrrr
am i stupid or am i right to be mad?

I'd be pissed too. Instead of just telling you the truth, he lied to you. What an idiot.

20/f. I have become a part of my fiance's pseudo family and I'm having a bit of trouble deciding what I should call his parents. I'm not sure how old they are, but I would guess that they're in their late 50's to early 60's. I stay with my fiance at their house for a few months during the summer and during vacations from school. I've resorted to not calling them by name at all and even though this is possible, it sometimes gets very awkward. Since I'm part of the family, Mr. and Mrs. "Lastname" seems way too formal, but calling them by their first names takes away the respect that I feel I must give them, especially for taking me in after my parents ditched me and for being significantly older and old-fashioned than what I'm used to from my parents. They're like grandparents to me. Calling them Mom and Dad just doesn't seem right until I am actually married to their son. When talking about them with other people I just say my fiance's Mom and Dad. Should I just continue not calling them by name? What do you think I should call them? Thanks.

Ask them what to call them since you're not sure.

Hi. i need some help withh coming up with a new screen name for aim. haha. lame i know. but i really cant thinkk of any good names. well my name is danielle. and i love life. and boys. and candy. haha and myspace. i hate hoes. ha. and um im origonal? idk. just help me come up withh some names please. thnks :]]

DAN x YELL
DANI x ELLE
DANIELLE SAYS xx

ok so theres a guy at my school who im not really friends with. hes one of the "mans men" meaning hes always with the guys. so anyways the guys in my school argue with eachother a lot, even the girls. every time im talking to someone or just making a point and someone counters it [goes against what i say] he almost always defends me. for example my friends would be joking and saying "oh its her fault" and he would say no its not its mine its ok or "no you're wrong" he'd say well actually..etc etc. i dont think hes overly friendly, but is this a sign that a guy might like you?? thanks.

Yeah, he might like you. Ask him to hang out. =)

Are there any bombb Emo/ Scene / Rock/ Whatever, artists that no one know about? Also what are some really fun/funny songs that are by some artists [ex-fershure by medric driod,i mean i forget the name,sorry,but if you know it,you rock,and i mean things like that] Anyways,aside from that,any artists that are emo/scene/punk/rock that are good? just a list, and maybe mention your favorite songs/albums. thanks,sorry if this was confuseing.

Well, the songs are too much, but I can give you the names of the artists so you can download the ones you want.

The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
All Time Low.
Norma Jean.
Scary Kids Scaring Kids.
This Providence.
My Chemical Romance.
The Academy Is...
Breaking Benjamin.
Bloc Party.
The Blood Brothers.
The All American Rejects.
Boys Like Girls.
Coheed & Cambria.
Four Letter Lie.
Gatsby's American Dream.
Greeley Estates.
Gym Class Heroes.
Head Automatica.
A Heartwell Ending.
Shiny Toy Guns.
Hellogoodbye.
Lostprophets.
Meg & Dia.
Motion City Soundtrack.
Over It.
The Pink Spider's.
Plain White T's.
The Postal Service.
Rise Against.
Saosin.
Senses Fail.
Silverstein.
The Sounds.
The Hush Sound.
A Static Lullaby.
Sugarcult.
Taking Back Sunday.
Three Days Grace.
Thrice.
Underoath.
Thursday.
And Then I Turned Seven.
Envy On The Coast.
Down To Earth Approach.
Brighten.
Urgency.
30 Seconds To Mars.
Armor For Sleep.
The Fall Of Troy.
Against Me.
Anberlin.
AFI.
A Kiss Could Be Deadly.
A Fading Memory.
Brand New.
Bright Eyes.
Cartel.
Chiodos.
Cobra Starship.
Chevelle.
Crossfade.
Dashboard Confessional.
Endless Hallways.
From First To Last.
Hollywood Undead.
Jack's Mannequin.
I Am Ghost.
Kill Hannah.
Men Women & Children.
Matchbook Romance.
Ok Go.
New Found Glory.
Panic! At The Disco.
The Used.
Paramore.
Say Anything.
Saves The Day.
Safety In Rumors.
Smile Empty Soul.
Self Against City.
The Number Twelve Looks Like You.
The Killers.
The Fully Down.
The Black Dahlia Murder.
The Raconteurs.

I have wanted this qustion answered for a long time. For some weird reason i always get this bad bad bad guilty feeling if i do soemhting wrong even slighty like skip a problem on my homeowrk ita like wrecking me on the inside. MY mom like trained me to tell her evrything adn when i dont BAM! guilt trip! and it feels THE WORST uyou could ever feel i dont want to have to feel guilty for little things help me

Think about the good things you've done.

And when you skip problems on your homework, do you at least do the ones you know & then go back to that one?

my dad and mum seperated before i was born, and when i was 11 they finally divorced.My dad abused my mum and my mother put a restraining order on him so i wasnt allowed to meet him.I have to wait till im 18 to meet him wich really sucks!I know what he looks like cause i saw the wedding pix.I really want to meet him but i dont want to wait!Im thinking of leaving to meet him when im 16 and have my licence should i or not?

There's a reason why they seperated & why she got a restraining order against him. I wouldn't see him period. Who knows what he's capable of doing to you.

I was madly in love with my exboyfriend whom I've been dating for a year and 2 months and till this day I am still unsure why we broke up. However, about 3-5 days later I meet my other exboyfriend and he is now my current boyfriend and we've been going out for almost two years by the end of this month. I love them both very much and I hurt my current boyfriend alot because I always think about my exboyfriend. The thing is I cannot choose who I want to be with..these two are complete opposites...and I dont know why I love them both very much..my ex still loves me as much as he did and I love him to...my boyfriend loves me very much and I love him to...I just can't decide on whom I want to be with...they both love me and take care of me very well...my boyfriend is very career oriented while my ex is very love oriented..i love them both..but what should i do? whom should I choose? I can't explain everything in this paragraph but based on the situation that I am in love with both these guys..whom should I choose? my ex or my boyfriend?

Choose who makes you happy, and who would be able to take care of you when the time comes.

If your boyfriend's career oriented, he's the right choice.

I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.

Don't kill yourself. Life isn't always fair, life isn't always the greatest, but it's worth living if you get help, trust me. See a psychologist & see what they do. If it doesn't work, try another psychologist.

Suicide is never the answer. Why would anyone wanna be another statistic?

would i be able to lose maybe 10 pounds before april 17 and also see results? im going to florida and i want to look skinnier, right now im not fat but im not really skinny and i want to look nice in a bikini =]

Well, that's about a month & a half away, and I don't see why not. Just eat really healthy [no sweets/junk food/sodas] and drink lots of water & milk. Run a lot & do tons of situps. Don't exercise/eat before bed. Don't be discouraged if you gain weight though because muscle weighs more than fat.

well today my bff called me a pendeja(its a bad word in spanish)when i walked away she told me that she was just joking around and that i take everything to personnal she said that i was like her mom then she said that she was just getting revenge for freshmen year when i got mad at her for wat other people said(we are in 10 grade now)then 2day after school she waited for me but i was so mad at her that i walked ahead of her she then her friend asked why i was doing that she said that i was mad at her i just left and she just stayed wit her other friend.Wat should i do?

Nothing. She called you a pendeja, you have the right to be mad.

13/f

Well this is a really long story so Ill just give you the main facts

I use to have a boyfriend I really really like & he really really liked me. We broke up about a month ago, & I still like him. But I have a new bf & he has a new gf. I just got my bf today, but Its still really hard for me to think of him as a boyfriend, I still kinda think of him as my brother/bff. I still like my ex, we broke up over a confusion, and it still seems like he likes me since were in Jr High & his gf is in elementary school & i catch him staring at me & stuff like that.

So should I break up with this new guy? Im not sure I really like him or not.... but also what should I do about my ex? Should I leave it alone or what? And the truth is if he broke up with his gf I would break up with my bf.

Give the new guy a chance, and if you have no feelings for him, then tell him the truth, or tell him you just wanna be friends because that's more how it feels.

Wait, how old is this other guy's girlfriend? He's not with you, so he's with an elementaty school girl? I'm sorry, but that's funny. He stooped prety low.

If he still likes you, and you still like him, then talk things out.

ok so i have known this guy for 9 years + he is my neighbor and when we were little he would come to my house and we would play with eachother not thinking that we were different genders and we were playing house and we..made out. he liked me liked me when we were younger and i blew it. now i like him but he has a girlfriend. i have mixed emotions for him. what should i do, should i wait til they break up to tell him because what if he still likes me? it would ne so great for us to go out because then he can come up tp my house whenever he wants, that would be a great relatiponship. Help!

I would wait til they break up to tell him. If you tell him now, that could potentially jeopardize or cause problems for his relationship. Just tell him when they break up, and see what happens.

where's a site that i can find statistics on virginity & sex & PMS in the US

ok well heres the thing. im in love with my boyfrriend but sometimes he can be really mean like when hes having a bad day he takes it out on me and yells at me for no reason but he is like the sweetest boyfriend ever. andyeahh my friends think i deserve better but idk like when i hink about him being mean to me i wanna break up with him but then when i like talk to him and stuff i don't..so i do but then i don't...iu have no clue what to do!! Help Me!

Guys who are like that usually turn violent, or continue to say "Oh baby, I'm sorry." countless times & it never changes. I'd know, I've had boyfriends like that before. I wouldn't wait around for him to change, so when he's mean to you, I'd just dump him right there. You need someone that won't take his frustrations out on you, and someone who won't be nice when he feels like it.

i hate my best friend. we;ve only been friends for like 1 and 1/4 years we've never fought before, but now we fight like, every weekend. i always feel like its my fault, and she just doesn't get what im going thru, i've told her and she still doesn't get it. i just want time away from her, just for like 1 week, but if i'm not talking to her for like 2 minutes (like i stop talking and don't say anything again just 4 like 2 minutes WHILE WE ARE IN CLASS and im just doing what the teacher told us to, she gets mad) and then after shes mad, she goes and HAS to tell my other friend.... she always includes "that other friend" whenever we fight, she goes and tells them what we were fighting about and so iask the other friend what they are tlking about, so she (the other friend) copys and pastes it, and all my (best) friend is sayingis stuff that i do wrong, i mean i cant help it if im not perfect, and she is definetly NOT perfect. im just under soooo much stress right now, and fighting with her is just so annoying. and im starting to hate her but i don't want to lose her as a friend. how do i get less stress and stop fighting with her?

p.s.- sry its so long :(

thanx in advance

Don't have the girl in the middle play messenger. If you wanna talk to your friend & know exactly what she's saying about you, then IM her yourself. Tell her you're under a lot of stress & nobody is perfect, and if she doesn't like it, then she should just get over herself. And if she doesn't change, then stop being her friend. I know, I'm basically telling you to ditch your friend & throw that friendship away, but why be friends with someone who can't accept your flaws & deal with what you're going through? Exactly.

So there is this kid lets call him Greg. Well last April Greg and I started hanging out and getting really close. He liked me and I liked him that whole situation. We never really talked about it with eachother, like how we felt about one another but my friend would talk to him and his friend would talk to me and that how we both knew how one another felt. kinda akward i know. So after we had been getting to know eachother for about almost a month my friend who get jealous alot, espically with me since were so close decided to tell him that i dont like him and i dont want a relationship with him and that i only want to be friends just so she could hook up with him and get him instead of me. Well that didnt work out too well because when he thought I didnt like him he decided to find another girl and that he did. Well she had him whipped and he was wrapped around her little finger. Now they've broken up for good and she has a new boyfriend and all that. Now im realizing that i want to give him another chance, but I deffinatly want to do it differently this time. Im not sure how to start talking to him again and i dont want to and then be rejected. If you can help me out i would greatly appreciate it. thank youuuu =)

Talk to him directly, and tell him that your friend lied to him. She got jealous & just wanted to see you miserable for her own pleasure. Tell him you like him still & would love to date him.

ok well i am 13 ok n my bf iz older then me ok nd he keeps pressuring me into things what should i do? cuz like i have been goin out with him for awhile now n he iz like telling me wat to do n shit n its very confusing n on msn he keeps telling me to flash him n finger myself on cam ok nd i dont no wat to do about that either ok plzzz help me i dun no wat to do!!!

If he's trying to make you do something you don't wanna do, then dump him. He's a jerk, and he's more than likely using you for his own pleasure. Let him find a girl freaky enough to do that, and you should go find a guy that really likes you & could care less about sex. Besides, older guys are usually just in it for some ass. Dump him. =)

i already asked a question saying that my hair was straight and i wanted to know how to make it wavy.

this is one way someone sent me:
mix warm water and salt together and spray it in your hair when its damp

does it work? or is it bad for your hair?

I've never heard of this, so I probably wouldn't try it.

ok i have this close friend,we went to camp together last summer and we go to school together also.i remember one day at camp i was really mad at her and i sad some nasty things about her with my other campfriend behind her back.now everythings fine.. but i was just thinking about that day and i want to apologize. she doesnt know that i talked about her, but i want to be honest.
should i just not bring it up cause it will go bad?
or its worth telling her even though it happened so long ago? help is appreciated

It happened a long time ago, so you probably shouldn't bring it up.

<<< Previous Advice Column

Next Advice Column >>>