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my dad left
my dad and mum seperated before i was born, and when i was 11 they finally divorced.My dad abused my mum and my mother put a restraining order on him so i wasnt allowed to meet him.I have to wait till im 18 to meet him wich really sucks!I know what he looks like cause i saw the wedding pix.I really want to meet him but i dont want to wait!Im thinking of leaving to meet him when im 16 and have my licence should i or not?
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There's a reason why they seperated & why she got a restraining order against him. I wouldn't see him period. Who knows what he's capable of doing to you.
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No. He is a stranger to you and you would never leave home to go meet a stranger. It is not safe. He could still be very violent, into drugs, around scary people, we just don't know. He left you. He hurt your mom. He is not a father. He was a sperm donor. That is all. I know it is painful...I really do. At least talk to your mom and agree that if you do ever meet with this man, that you do it honestly and with the appropriate safety measures in place.
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You need to talk to your mom about this. If he was abusive to her he could be towards you too.
Think about it. Has he tried to contact you? Has he gone to court to get visitation? If he isn't considered a danger to you then he would have every right to see YOU regardless of how your mom feels. Has he sought help for this problem?
Do not just go off and meet him without talking to your mom. I understand your curiosity about him and its awful you have to pay for the mistakes he made.
Someone in authority with more information on the situation than you have has decided its in your best interests not to see him. Don't do something you might regret.
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you have every right too.i think you should go seee him but you dont need to .if you waited this ong ou can waut longer
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie
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This is like a story of my life. the same thing happened to me but my parents divorced when I was 6. Does he want to meet you? He is a woman beater so would it be safe to meet him? Would he hit you? When I was 16 I went to my dads mom, my grandma and she arranged a supervised meeting. Of course she was the superviser.
Do you know where he is? I don't advise you to just show up at his front door. It's only polite to call someone before going to their house.
Hope I helped.
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