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my mom is cheating
ok here is the deal. my mom talks on the phone all the time to this guy from her job. she even goes to his house sometimes. every since she met this guy she has been acting differently. she dresses different, talks different and just acts different!!! one day she even bought a porn movie ( something that she has never done before). she is married to my step father who i hate but that doesnt matter because cheating is cheating. so i need help. is this really cheating and if it is what should i do? also she is 42 and has a total of 4 kids. two of them belong to my step father.
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Yikes...that is a difficult position you are in. Parents idealy are supposed to set a good example and not compromise the marriage and home, but parents are just imperfect humans and make many mistakes. I don't know your mom and more importantly we don't really know the relationship she has with your step-dad. We cannot judge her. However, you need to talk to your mom in private about how YOU FEEL about the situation. This does not mean she has to give you details or answers to all your questions. She is an adult woman and has a right to privacy in some areas of her life. Whether it is a parent smoking behind his spouses back or a parent cheating, it is between the adults. You do have a right to voice your concerns, fears, and feelings, but try to do so respecting the fact that she is still your mother. Let her know what you know and what you think your know and at least she can be aware of how her choices are affecting her kids. It may straighten her up and bring her back to reality or it may not. It is not up to you to fix the situation or her. If it is confirmed that she is cheating, then that is still between her and your step-dad. She can still be a good mother in other aspects of your life, and I pray she will.
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...Talk to your mom about it. I agree with the other comment about how it's not your business at all, but at some point you do come in and try to figure out what's going on. Just don't go around telling others about this...If news reach your dad or someone else in the family, things might get really effed up for your mom.
I'm sure she'd tell you herself if it was serious...
Best of luck with this,
Kay.
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You should keep your mouth shut. Its not your business.
I know that sounds rude but he has to find out on his own if she really is cheating. Hanging out with this guy isnt consider cheating, unless you are sneaking around doing it. Like your stepfather doesnt know about this man, but obviously he does if you know.
If its bothering you that much confront your mom. Straight out ask her about it. And when you put her the spot she might feel bad and stop.
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