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should i be okay with this?
hiii,
i have a big problem with my mom. my parents divorsed when i was about 5 years old. my dad remarried and has kids. i have never been close to my dad so it doesnt really matter to me. he hurt me a lot so i am not close to him. My mom has a bf and its really hard for me to be okay wit this. i really want my mom to be happy but i think this guy is just going to come in my life and try to boss me around and be like my dad. i have never had a dad i dunno how it feels but all i know i dont want him here. can you guys pliz help me i dont know what to do about this? thankz
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Of course its going to be hard to deal with mom having a boyfriend. Thats natural. So is being a little jealous of the guy.
I can't believe some of the answers you have gotten.
You treat this man, who cares about your mom, as you would anyone else. He didn't make your dad leave and he probably won't come in and start bossing you around. Unless he is doing that now, he probably won't.
What you are afraid of is change. You don't want to share mom with some guy. One day though you will be out on your own. Your mom has to have a life of her own now.
This guy shouldn't be considered a dad replacement. I'm sure he doesn't want to be that either. Mom likes him. He may make a good friend at least. Give the guy a chance. :)
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Okay, maybe my answer isn't the best but it's from the same prospective as you are seeing it from. Firstly, let this guy know he is only going to get very limited respect from you. (Cold looks work great) I wouldn't go as far as to say anything unless it was action provoked. If he looks at you STARE directy in the face... Don't dis-respect him, but don't respect him either. Then it will just be as you two are equals.
I know it was a little different (yet real)
16 M USA
HTH
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tell your mom that you understamd that she wants to date and your okay with that but you are not okay wit a man bossing you around. say that your fine with him and her ebing 2gether but you will not respect him as an authority figuire
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give this guy a chance. he most likely is genuinely interested in your mother and wouldn't want to overstep any boundaries. think of your mom, she needs companionship just like anyone else. if time goes by and this guy really does start to boss you around, talk to your mother about it. and maybe you will end up really liking him; i have a stepmother that i was unsure of at first but now we are really close. good luck. :)
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