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Hi, I'm 15/f and these past couple years I've gotten really close to two of my friends. This summer my two bestfriends (who weren't at close to eachother as they were to me) and I kind of formed a group of five with two other girls that I wasn't as close with but still was pretty good friends with. We were always doing stuff together, hanging out whenever possible, going to events together, ect. Up until mid October this year, all of a sudden my two original bestfriends started getting REALLY close. Leaving me out, ganging up on my opinions, taking sides with eachother and telling eachother everything about their love lifes. This is what they both used to do with me rather than eachother. I'm glad that they got really close but now its gotten to the point thatI don't hangout with either of them that much anymore and that its just akward when I do. I would love for me to become closer to them again but I don't want to be the only one trying. Does anyone have any advice on how to act in the meantime, what my additude should be towards this situation, what i should do in general? Please help me, I'm like really depressed :/

Well think positively in the mean time if you think negative it will only make things worst if your friends aren't willing to try then you make the first move and explain to them how you feel say that you feel left out and it would make you happy if you and them could be close like you once were talking goes a long way also say that you'd like to hang out with them and that some of the things they are doing is making you feel sad
tell them that you don't your friendship with one another to be ruined and that if they are willing to try and make the friendship work then your willing to try also

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Okay well a few weeks ago I snuck out. And I got caught, and punished. About a week after, I snuck out again, and got caught and punished. I had my parents convinced that I wasn't like that, and that I wanted to change. But a couple nights ago, I snuck out.. and got caught. I am being badly punished now.. and I don't even think my parents like me now. I have no idea what to do, I need their trust! please help..

Your parents will always love you no matter what i think they are just disappointed at the fact that you snuck out i would let things die down
lay low i'd try talking to them and say that you made a mistake try apologizing and ask them if they need help with anything around the house don't disobey them do everything they ask you too :)

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Tonight I called my ex, (i broke up with him in early october). We haven't spoken on the phone since the break up, just occasional texting. Well tonight I told him I still and always loved him and he said that he always knew i loved him. He wants to hang out when i come home for thanksgiving. I don't know what to do. It's sort of like we're starting from scratch? But we went out for 8 months.

Well we need something to do that won't involve sitting in his bedroom because we know where that leads, and we just need to be able to reconnect and talk. I'm basically asking for date ideas?

My suggestions are getting something to eat going to see a movie shopping at the mall you both could sit and talk somewhere nice drive around if one of you has your license the beach or park :)

Hope you liked those!

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)Ok, heres the story... I work with this guy at a restaurant. we have known eachother for 3 years now and have been friends ever since. Until recently, he showed interest in me. I have always been some what aware of him developing a crush on me over the past few months but i never acted on it.. I myself, have had feelings for him for a long time so hearing of this news pleased me. we started dating and hanging out.. he introduced me to his parents, took me to a fancy dinner, and slept over just to cuddle with me.. its been about a month now and something has changed in him, for example.. he doesnt call as much.. used to text me goodnight all the time and now i dont hear from him.. used to ask me to hang out more, and was a gentleman. Now, its like he lost interest.. he told me that he was looking for a relationship and that i was the perfect girl for him. he told people at wrk that we were dating and he seemed proud of it. now every time we hang out, its like we're friends again except we kiss.. it used to be special and exciting at first. i felt that he was super interested and now im not sure.. is this just in my head or is something up? what should i do? how do i react when i get no reply from him?

Give him a chance he could be busy if you don't hear anything from him i'd confront him about it and ask if he'd like to hang out with you maybe then he'd tell you why he's been acting different
you and him kissing is a advantage i don't think he lost interest in you if you don't get a reply from him then i'd still try and talk to him and see what's up i don't think he'd abandon you seeing as you've been through some things together :)

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My last job was very racist..or atleast it dealt with a lot of people who were very racist and discriminating towards me..I was framed and fired. Now 3 months later I'm trying to apply for the same company but in a diffrent location..my only problem is what to write in the space "if fired please explain" part of the online application. I'd leave it blank but they'd find out about me being fired when they pull up my record..I know being fired lowers my chances of even getting a first interview but it doesn't hurt to try right? ..

No it doesn't hurt to try it's worth a shot if it doesn't go the way you wanted you still know that you tried trying is better then not doing anything at all i'd explain the situation of you being fired and say that you were framed and there were others who were discriminating aganist you both of those aren't right to do you should defend and stick up for yourself see what happens
i wouldn't get discouraged i'd go for it things may turn out completely different then you thought they would! :)

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Ok, so for a while I have thought that I was bi-sexual (I am 15/female) I am attracted to boys, but i offten feel for girls too.
So, I have known this girl for a while and we have only been friend for about 6 months, but recently we have been getting along better, and spending more time together.
She has started to joke around with me more and touch me and poke me and stuff, and it isn't helping because I have these strange feelings about her that I am trying to make go away!
I am pretty sure that she is heterosexual. So I am kinda dissappointed because I really want to do something with her like... sexually. and I sometimes fantasize about her and stuff like that. I have felt for girls before but nothing like this.
How do I stop feeling this way? Do you think I am bisexual? Do you think I should kinda hint to her about if she likes girls a bit? Any advice is appreciated, thanks. :)

Yes i do think your bi also it's worth a shot to
hint to her about if she likes girls i say go for it if for some reason something goes wrong you'll still know you tried trying is better then not doing anything it seems to me like you like her which is a advantage for you if you feel those feelings starting to come then take a deep breath and calm yourself do something to take your mind off them keep yourself busy :)

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I need to learn how to dance... BADLY! There is a school dance coming up and I no longer want to stupidly stand around while everyone else has a good time. I found the book dancing for dummies in my school library, but can you really learn how to dance from a book? I mean did anyone YOU know ever learn to dance from a book? Thank you!

Hopeless dancer

I don't know anyone who has learned to dance from a book personally but i think your best option is to read the book and see what it's in it if the information doesn't help you i'd ask your family or friends for a few pointers on dancing hopefully one of them will be able to teach you
if not then you should try taking dance classes those usually help :)

Good luck!

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So I was in my room last night and my mom just walked in to bring some towels in and there I was on my bed. :(

She didn't mean anything bad to happen she didn't even think I was there cause I snuck in to do it before I told her I was home. Stupid me!

Anyway, now she is looking at me differently.

What do I do about this?

Has this even happened to anyone else?

I feel terrible! :(

I wouldn't approach her right away i'd give it sometime to die down and give her some space she's probably still surprised from what she saw give it a few days and once you feel ready talk to her and see how it goes this hasn't happened to me seeing as i don't do that type of stuff :)

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If I keep coughing over and over again can I lose my voice from that? I really don't want to sing and the only way out is if I lose my voice. :(

Is it possible? Is there any other way to lose my voice so I don't have to sing in front of all those people?

I don't think you'll loose your voice from coughing i wouldn't try coughing seeing as if you cough alot you could possiblity crack or break your ribs try screaming for a while that should do the trick but if it doesn't then i'd just stop try your hardest to get over your fear of singing you don't want to risk damaging your vocal cords or throat :)

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Alrighty then this is really freaking me out! I have had the same dream every few nights for weeks now and it is always the same and always about the same person. Yes I have a crush on them and yes it is that kind of dream that you want to have and at the same time feel bad for having. Does this mean anything?

Am I going insane or has this happened to anyone else?

If you see that person often then i think it's possible for you to dream about them it hasn't happened to me but iv'e watched my favorite tv show and had a dream about it many times it's known that whatever you watch before bed you'll most likely dream about it i don't think your going insane i think it's normal for this to happen everyone's dreams are different :)

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Guess I really am a baby but I have to ask. So do they? Have you had one and what was your experience?

Different people handle pain differently you may think it hurts and others may feel it doesn't my experience was actually bad since i was dehydrated and they couldn't find any of my veins
and they had to get two people to try and get the blood out seeing as it was going slowly and they had to get a smaller needle you aren't a baby there are people who are afraid of needles there's nothing wrong with that :)

Here's the biggest tip of all-
Drink plenty of water before you go so you aren't dehydrated and it's easier for them to find your veins!

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I think i am depressed. I am 16/f. I am 5/7" and weight like 215. I look at everyone else, and think about how pretty they are, and how I am not.
I am embarresed alot. I hate talking to others. I don't like anything about myself. My friends are all changing! I will never change...
I have the best family and home. ANd I can't be happy like everyone else. For some reason. URG>> i know people who live in foster home, to foster home. No money no one at home
how can i be healthy and happy and my friends stilll wanna be my friends whats happeneing?

Everyone has things they don't like about themselves or they'd like to change it's normal
to think that way you'll change you've just got to be patient and give it time we all change it's apart of life try thinking positively thinking negative only makes things worst you said it yourself you've got the best family and home you should be very thankful for that since there's others who aren't as lucky as you are and who struggle your friends should love you for you and accept who you are and if they don't then you probably shouldn't be friends with them :)

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I feel like this is never going to end! I get headaches every single night and I don't know what to do about it. i have taken asprin tylenol and excedrin but they only help a little. It is every night. is there anything I can try or do to get rid of these darn headaches?

You maybe suffering from migraines go visit your doctor they'll be able to help you the sooner you
go the sooner you'll know what's wrong you can get headaches from staring at the computer screen also the tv too also from not eating being dehydrated stress & many other things :)

Also tell your doctor that the medication you took only helped a little he or she should know
that!

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hi 15 year old here okay this is probably going to be long


okay well me and this gurl have been bestfriends since the 7th grade soo she met my ex and my boyfriend and she liked my boyfriend better than my ex and well my boyfriend i broke up with just not to long ago and she got mad that i got back with my ex and now shes not talking to me and she said that i talk behind peoples back and that i am a lier and shes saying that she dont talk behind peoples back and the fact that she got so amd at me that she came down the street and tried to make me jealous about them going out if they were which there not but why would she do that anyway im sick and tired of her talking junk what should i do when she approchaes me again saying that i have her name in my mouth


what should ii do?

I think she's just making stuff up about you to make you angry i wouldn't let it bother you she's acting very immature i don't see how both your ex boyfriend and current one has to do with you talking behind others backs and lieing it doesn't any make sense she's just jealous if she approaches you i'd just walk away and not talk to her if she's stressing you out you don't want the situation to get worst then it already is :)

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Is anyone here sure about that? Has anyone actually done this or knows a girl who did this? can you definately pop your cherry by masterbating or is someone just telling me this because...?

Thank you!

I don't think you can i think you'd have to hit a certain spot for that to happen and do it many times if you go deep enough you probably could iv'e never done it i don't know any girls who have done it either :)

Hope this helped!

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Ok everyone please try not to make tooo much fun of me, but I am 25 and never had a boyfriend. I guess what I am asking is simple: Is my life over? Is there any hope if you haven't had a boyfriend by 25?

I don't know what I am doing wrong. I just haven't found anyone that I find really interesting yet.

Should I stop waiting for interesting just to have someone in my life? Is it better to be bored WITH someone than bored without someone? I don't know anymore! Help!

No your life isn't over yes i do think there's hope for you there's hope for everyone there are plenty of boys out there you've just got to find the right one for you if you haven't found anyone that's interesting then i'd continue to wait he'll show up at some point be patient it's better to be bored without someone because if your bored with someone then they'll most likely bore you and you'll lose interest in them very quickly :)

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I am sorry to say that I have just found out that my brother is smoking weed! What do I do?

I am afraid that he will end up like his loser dopehead friends. :(

What can I do to help him? Anything? If I go to our parents they will probably kick him out if he won't stop it. I don't want him to hate me, but I want him to have a future and you know if he keeps doing this his future is gone.

Help? Anyone?

I'd sit him down and talk to him about how you feel don't be afraid to be straight forward and to tell the truth say that drugs are illegal and if he gets caught by the police he'll be in some serious trouble and have to suffer consequences tell him as your sister you don't want him to ruin his future and if he continues with the drugs he'll be doing just that tell him that he's not only hurting you but also your family members too it's affecting both of you tell him to quit while he's ahead before the problem gets worst and the police get involved



I hope for his sake and your families also for yours that he stops since it isn't a fun experience to go through :)

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Is it true that drinking water can make your period go away faster?

If it is then what kind of water should it be? Distilled, vitamin water gatorade? Does it matter? can drinking water make your period go faster or is it something some girl at my school made up?

Please and thank you!

I actually looked this question up and found the answer seeing as i was unsure myself yes it's true water can make it go faster try drinking bottled water it's also true that water flushes out your system :) I say go for it and see what happens!

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Okay. So, I'm 18/f and I want to tell my mom that I recently lost my virginity. If you must know - I'm not technically "with" the guy, but we've been talking for a little while, but she hasn't met him yet. Also, I don't regret it.
My mom & I are fairly close and she knows most things that go on in my life, I just don't know how to bring it up to her because I don't know how she will react. It's not that I anticipate problems with it, I just want to have her behind me and aware of what's going on in case anything unexpected happens. Any positive advice would be wonderful.

I'd tell her that your no longer a virgin also
be good to say if you used protection tell her about the boy if she doesn't already know and say that it's not something you regret doing it's good that you and her are close things may go smoother for you since you both are say that you wanted her support incase something did happen also say that you didn't want to keep what happened from her that might help as well :)
-Kristina

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I have been friends with this guy since 9th grade and we are currently seniors. So we have an interesting relationship- we freely and often say we love each other and stuff. Ok so yesterday my friend randomly sends me a text saying "I love you" mind you, I have not spoken to him since last Thursday. So then he texts he saying that "Life is short and i had to tell you while it was on my mind" then he says "Why hide how you feel, knowing can make a difference because tomorrow is not guaranteed". So basically Im throw off by this and then i ask him today about it but he brushes it off as something totally different than the inherent meaning of the texts. I have sorta always liked him but I did not want to mess with our friendship. My friends who have known him since middle school says that he obviously likes me but Im not the one to say anything. What should I do?

Well i'd try and talk to him take things slow seeing as you don't want to rush anything maybe ask him again about the text messages non chanlantly and see what he says if he says the same thing then i'd just drop it and move on but if it's something different then i'd try and get some information out of him it's worth a shot there's no harm in trying it's a advantage seeing as he does like you if he didn't then that'd be a different story i wouldn't leave this alone seeing as you might regret not doing something about it

-Kristina

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