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I feel forgotten...
Hi, I'm 15/f and these past couple years I've gotten really close to two of my friends. This summer my two bestfriends (who weren't at close to eachother as they were to me) and I kind of formed a group of five with two other girls that I wasn't as close with but still was pretty good friends with. We were always doing stuff together, hanging out whenever possible, going to events together, ect. Up until mid October this year, all of a sudden my two original bestfriends started getting REALLY close. Leaving me out, ganging up on my opinions, taking sides with eachother and telling eachother everything about their love lifes. This is what they both used to do with me rather than eachother. I'm glad that they got really close but now its gotten to the point thatI don't hangout with either of them that much anymore and that its just akward when I do. I would love for me to become closer to them again but I don't want to be the only one trying. Does anyone have any advice on how to act in the meantime, what my additude should be towards this situation, what i should do in general? Please help me, I'm like really depressed :/
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I'm going through the exact same thing this year. My best friend of 3 years has gotten really close with two of my other friends, and, seemingly, forgetting me. Yes, it hurts a lot and there's really nothing help get rid of that pain.
Someone gave me some advice, and I think maybe it will help you too. What they told me was; Stop. Think for a minute. Evaluate the situation. Once you've done that, turn around and spread out. By that, I mean make new friends. Hang out with other people that you don't see often. Become close with other people. Then, maybe they'll have an idea of what you're going through. If they still don't understand after that, they aren't worth it.
Breaking off friendships is a hard thing to do, but once it's done, it will feel better than having yourself forgotten by two people you trusted completely.
I hope this helps. If it doesn't, you can kick me. :D Good luck.
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Well think positively in the mean time if you think negative it will only make things worst if your friends aren't willing to try then you make the first move and explain to them how you feel say that you feel left out and it would make you happy if you and them could be close like you once were talking goes a long way also say that you'd like to hang out with them and that some of the things they are doing is making you feel sad
tell them that you don't your friendship with one another to be ruined and that if they are willing to try and make the friendship work then your willing to try also
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