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tell my mom I lost virginity
Okay. So, I'm 18/f and I want to tell my mom that I recently lost my virginity. If you must know - I'm not technically "with" the guy, but we've been talking for a little while, but she hasn't met him yet. Also, I don't regret it.
My mom & I are fairly close and she knows most things that go on in my life, I just don't know how to bring it up to her because I don't know how she will react. It's not that I anticipate problems with it, I just want to have her behind me and aware of what's going on in case anything unexpected happens. Any positive advice would be wonderful.
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Maybe a note will suffice asking her to talk to you further about it. Believe it or not she will be happier knowing about it and that you are being safe than not.
This could also be an excellent opportunity to discuss birth control and become completely protected. If a note isn't your style just try talking to her and letting it out. She may not like it but honesty is important here.
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Well i give you props for being honest and close with your mother. I'm not sure how you normally talk about serious things with her, some people sit down at dinner, others go out to ease off any tension, some people just get home and Blurt it out, w/e your way is with her, do that. Tell her that you want to always be honest with her and that your relationship means alot to you. let her know that you were seeing a guy and tell her that you guys "did it" or "had sex" whatever the words you want to use. Make sure she knows you protected yourself and that even though you are not dating him you do not regret it. make sure she knows that you are not planning on sleeping around but that your first time was an experience you were ready to handle and glad that you did becasue you learned from it. most importantly be honest and hopefully everyone will be open minded about this! good luck!
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I'd tell her that your no longer a virgin also
be good to say if you used protection tell her about the boy if she doesn't already know and say that it's not something you regret doing it's good that you and her are close things may go smoother for you since you both are say that you wanted her support incase something did happen also say that you didn't want to keep what happened from her that might help as well :)
-Kristina
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