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YA i know this is weird since i have an advice colum (lilcutie1212) But i really dont know what to do. Im in middle school in 8th grade and my boyfriend is in 10th grade I dont see him alot becuase he is like at terravilla and i am at westglades. I love him alot and everything but i dont know if I should trust him like if he would cheat on me. But i dont know what to do because I dont want to dump him because he is the best thing that ever happened to me. I love him sooo much! Please Please Help me! Ok?
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Sry its long!

The fact that you don't trust him is a bad sign. Trust and communication is everything in a relationship. Try talking to him about it if you feel like you need to. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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hi im 14/f/uk and all of a sudden my breasts and under my arms have started 2 itch. i dont no what it is and im really worrid.
can someone please help and if you have any advice that would be helpful
thanxz luv nicki xxxxxxx

That just happens when you're growing, I guess. It might also be your bra, so check to make sure it's comfortable and fits right. And the underarms might be razor burn. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok i have a puppy, i just got the other day and she will be 7 weeks old tomorrow...well my problem is...she wont stop useing the bathroom on my floor in my bedroom and everywhere else in the house...even though i tell her no...thats bad and not to do it again but she keeps on and on whenever i see that shes about to go to the bathroom i pick her up and rush her outside....its annoying and i need advice on how to get her to stop useing the bathroom on my floor...thanks...i'll rate anyone who answers this for me!

Make sure the bathroom door is closed. Put newspaper where ever you want her to do her business. Here's a trick we used on my dog. It's works great. (she's 7 y/o now, but this was when she was a puppy): Get someone to nail a hole in the wood part next to your door or somewhere close to the newspaper, and hang a bell or chimes on it. Whenever you see that she has to go, pick her up, and put her nose on the chimes so they ring, then take her to the newspaper. If you keep doing this, she'll know that before she goes, she has to ring the bell. And once she catches on, and rings the bell, you'll hear and always know when she has to go, and you can make sure she goes where you want her to. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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my boyfriend told people he dumped me even though he didnt and we sorta went to far one day n we did it it felt good i guess but it wasnt mi first time the thing iz wuz he just using me but he neva told me it was over so technically were still going out but the people he "told" hate me and they know that were hella close n sexually active but im scared that hes going to break up with me like rite after we had sex and i realli dont know what to do i was cryin all day because i thought he was cheating on me but i told him a lot of personal stuff and i realli like him alot i kno itz cheesey 2 cry bc mi bf wuz supposivly cheating on me but i cant help it were thos ppl he told really telling me tha truth? was he realli using me? im realli confused n i kno if i ask him hez guna act all sweet n tell me it wuz all liez n try 2 get in2 mi pantz agen

please help

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CONFUSED

Listen to your conscience. It's always right. If you think he's cheating on you or using you, then he might be. Try talking to him about it and see what he says. Just know that if he is using and you ask him that, he might say he isn't. Just be careful, you don't want to get hurt. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I'm a 30 yr old male. My situation is a bit complicated. Several years ago I became very close to this girl. Problem was she was seeing someone else and her family expected her to remain with this person. Our relationship was never really defined, but we were close. Abruptly, things changed. She wouldn't see me or talk to me anymore. I suspect that someone may have mentioned me to her family,which caused a problem. We were supposed to talk about it but were not able to after that. Anyway, this was seveal years ago and I've always regretted not getting the chance to say goodbye or tell her what she meant to me. I would like to write a letter resolving these issues, but seeing as so much time has gone by, I don't want to come across as a nut or scare her off.
What kind of things should I write and what should I avoid writing? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Tell her exactly how you feel. Ask her what happened. Don't worry, it won't scare her off. And maybe at the end, say that you understand if she's moved on, but that you just wanted to know. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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How do i get rid of zits FAST! im already doin the daily face wash and the hot water thing... but whats the best clenser to use that works really fast? Plz help, and to those who do... thank you som much! (i rate)

Try using Rapid Clear. I'm not sure what brand it is, but it's supposed to work in 8 hours. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I like this guy, hes my friend, and I wanna know if he likes me back. I wanna kind of ask him out, but not REALLY ask him out.. Like i wanna give him hints and see if maybe he will ask me out or something. I'm afraid that if he finds out I like him or if I ask him out and he rejects me, then things will be akward between us and our friendship will be different. And I couldn't stand it if I wasn't able to talk to him afterwards. So how do I ask him out.. or give him hints.. in a VERY subtle way, so that if he doesn't like me, it will seem like I never liked him in the first place?

When you're alone, be like, "My friends keep bugging me about how we'd be sooo cute together. What do you think?" And see what he says! If he says yes, then there ya go! If he says no, then just be like, ya me neither. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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oKaY, i have this problem where i get white dry spots on my skin especially during the summer when i tan. In the winter they fade. They started appearing two years ago, when i was in the sun all day during the summer! They are really annoying, it seems like theyr dry spots. I believe it might be because I'm not moisturizing enough or whatever. What can i do to make them go away?? i asked my doctor and she just said to use a moisturizer and not to tan (she didnt help AT ALL)..even if i spray tan or w/e they still appear and they look really gross!!!hElp!!!

It's probably pigment problems from always being in the sun. Sunless tanning can also cause problems. So you need to stop worrying about being bronze, and always use sunscreen. Also, I heard the Aveeno products work really good. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok, I miss this guy that I like, really badly. I haven't seen him in like almost three weeks because he hasn't been at church or anything. I don't have his phone number, AIM, or anything like that. What should I do? It's not like I can just go over to his house or anything like that. I could see him in a few days if he goes to the church stuff, but what if he's not there? What I am I supposed to do?

Talk to some of your friends who know him and ask where's he's been. Try asking for his screenname or his number or his email address. And talk to him! You'll be glad you did! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok one day I was skateboarding and I turned because my friend called me and the skateboard ran into something and I fell off. I was having pains in my knee after that(I landed on my hands and knees) so I went to the doctor and it turns out I tore ligameants in my knee and have to wear a knee brace for 1 month! I dont know what to do. I skateboard all the time and rollerblade(and play TONS of sports) but now I cant do any of the things I love for a whole month. I hate it. Any ideas on how I could play sports & skateboard again?
15/f

Maybe you could go through physical therapy or just work on stretching out your knee. This might make it stronger and heal faster. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok so when I was six (i am 18 now) my mom died from Multiple sclerosis (MS), I never really knew her because she suffered alot of the years when I was young with MS and she could hardly communicate and move and do things, I have a few vivid memories of her but nothing really happy. (one memory was she asked me to get her something from the cupboard because she was in a wheel chair and to weak to do it and i couldnt hear her or understand and we both ended up being mad because of it) Well for my whole life I have never really had a motherly figure or knew how to be a girl like the other girls my age , like i try being really girly and do make up and such but i cant do it, my older sister was never really around much to help ... like i get upset all the time and I feel that I am never going to be a normal person because I was "abandoned" like... when I have children i will have NO idea what to do, like my boyfriends sister just had a kid and i was trying to change his diaper and a 12 year old but in and was like "this is to big of a job for you" . I am always upset over the fact that I have had no mother and am totally jealous of everyone who has had an easy life growing up with a mom. I guess i am asking what should i do to gte over this? And please no one respond with "get over it loser" blah blah... i dont want to hear it, i just want to know what someone else would do in this situation.

Aw, I'm sorry. Just remember that you were never abandoned! Your mom is watching over you in heaven. If you want to learn how to be a girl and eventually a mom, try talking to God and your mother about it through prayer. They're listening. And also, maybe ask a really good friend's mom if she could show you how. I'm sure she'd be happy to! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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okay, so me and my boyfriend of about 5 months got in a huge fight at homecoming a few months ago and the next day we broke up. during homecoming, i was really upset, and one of his friends was telling me everything was gonna be alright, and he kept hugging me. well after me and my boyfriend broke up, me and his friend sort of became friends with benefits, but then he broke it off when his old girlfriend wanted him back. i was really devestated, cause i had been in a really vulnerable state. then about two weeks later they broke up again, and we started hanging out again. i know its not right but i cant help myself. what should i do?

Try talking to him about it. Say something like, "My friends keep saying we'd be really cute together, what do you think?" And see what he says! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Ok i am DAting this guy and i am like the kind of girl who likes to take things slow and build up are relationship first and on or third date hoe is already wanting to kiss me i dont want to hurt his feelings but i do want him do be my boyfriend _HELP_

Talk to him about it. Tell him you want to move slow. If he really cares about you, he'll wait for you. If not, then he's not worth it. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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my freind and i have been flirting so much and people would tell us oh why don't you two go out already! well i told him i liked him and he told me he wasn't ready for a gf right now and i'm kinda waiting and yet i'm kinda forgetting about him! we talk more then we have done in the past! does this mean something?

Maybe try asking him again. If he's ready, then great, but if he still says he's not ready, I think he just wants to be friends. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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ok, i like this guy named bob. bob and i went out before but broke up. then theres collin, i went out with collin for a few weeks and then we decided that because my grades were suffering poorly and i was grounded for a very very long period of time that we would break up, plus we never got to see esch other. then the third guy, josh is very sweet but i don't like him. the reason i can't learn to like him is because he likes a different girl every week or two and he'll soon brag about going out with me if i say yes because everyone knows what kind of guy he is and doesnt want to go out with him. i know this isnt right but also, he is shorter than i am and considering im very short, i dont like that. i cant stand it! my question is: do i try to go for bobby again? since he's the one i like the most and miss him. do i go with collin again? i know he cares for me alot and would stay with me for a long time. or should i bite the bullet and go out with josh even though he is shorter than i am. ? please help me!

I would go out with Bob, because you said you like him the most. Even though Collin cares about you and everything, what really matters is how YOU feel. I probably wouldn't go out with Josh, because like you said, he likes a different girl every week, which means he can't commit. So I would definitely go for Bob! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Theres this guy who've i've gotten really close to recently, and i'm kind of starting to like him. hes a 3 years older than me, but we realte to each other so well. i know this sounds cliche, but i reaaaally don't wanna ruin a friendship, since we can talk so easily with each other. should i leave it alone, or drop some hints and see if he catches on?

I was in the same situation, and it didn't work out. We went out for a week, and decided to just be friends. I'm not saying you shouldn't try thought. When you're alone with him, be like, "Hey, my friends keep on saying how cute we are together. What do you think?" If he says no, then leave it at that. If he says yes, then there ya go! Just remember, if it doesn't work out, you can still be friends. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok, i like this guy, lets call him Ryan. And im positive that he likes me back. But i get really nervus around him. I'm not shy to call him but i sound all shaky when i talk because of the nervusness. (sp?) Should i ask him if he wants to go to a movie with me and my friend to get to know him better?

Yes, definitely! The nervousness is normal. And the more time you spend with him, the less nervous you'll feel! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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my friend and i just started talking again and i am asking like how skool is going for her and how she has been! but all her answers are just "good"! how do i get her to talk more?

Try talking to her about it. Ask her if anything's wrong. Maybe try emailing her if it's easier. It's probably easier for her to answer you through email anyway. If you were just in a fight, it'll pass overtime, don't worry. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Hey!I am about 5'6" or 5'7" and around 140 and 145 pounds and I want to lose maybe 10 or 15 pounds..if I do yoga and crunches will it help me any?If it won't what can I do to help me lose the weight?Thanks!

It'll help, but try doing sit-ups and push-ups, other exercises like that. And running/jogging will help, too. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little while now.. we were really good friends before we started dating and he is so awesome. he lives down the street from me and comes over alot and my parents like him. but they are really overprotective so i havent told them that i am dating him yet. im really worried about what they would do because i dont want them to stop letting him come over and stuff.. i meet his parents the other day and they think im a good person & his mom want to take us to a movie. but im afraid that when she meets my mom she will tell my mom that i am datin her son. so i dont no if i should tell my parents or not? what do yall think? i will rate 5's

ps. my sister knows that we are goin out but is waiting for me to tell them.

You should tell your parents. I know they're overprotective, but are they so overproctective that they won't let you date? And if so, just tell them how much you like him, and you'd devasted if they said you couldn't date him. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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