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I need some good advice in life. What job should I do to become wealthy and successful? What would be some good goals? What should I not do?

Always be friendly with your co-workers (even if you really dont like them)Always think BIG..be creative!Be bold!Think of things that no other human being can possibly think of!Being an individual is definetly succesful.Try designing clothes.Everyone has to wear clothes and for them to express themselves with creativity is even better.Someone has to design them, so make that someone you!
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I can't seem to focus enough to get my school work done, does anyone have any tips on how to focus better?

Try to cut down on conversations with friends.Make sure you try to solve conflicts inside and outside school to prevent getting distracted.These are your grades you're working for and they only help YOU.Think how badly you want to get into a decent college and have a bright future.If you set your mind to it and show you're dedicated you can make it happen.
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How can a get a tighter butt, stronger stomach, stronger arms, and stronger legs.

I'm not fat, I'd just like to be stronger.

pushups..pull- ups...In the cosmogirl magazine they have a whole bunch of exersises...make a list of those and set a goal every night put aside about 15-20 minutes for a workout
Good Luck!
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I'm 13 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm blonde, blue-eyed, nice, sweet, smart, 128 pounds, 5 feet 1 inch. i have no idea why absolutley no guy wants to go out with me. please help!

It's not just about how pretty you are or how nice you may be. They have to feel some sort of connection and comfortable around you. You need to find a guy who has the same interests as you.There are a lot of single girls I know that are nice and a lot of single boys I know are nice but you can't just put any nice pair of people together...they have to have things in common.Find some people who you could relate with and enjoy doing the same things as you.Say you like baseball..go to a baseball game and you could possibly meet someone there.
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Hey gals,
to any of you who arent very close to your moms, how did you tell her when you started your period and how did she react?

It's not that I'm not close to my mom, but I'll answer anyways. Just tell her and she will give you pads. Trust me, she had to go through it so there's nothing to be emberassed about.

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My periods are very irregular, even though i've had them for almost 4 years now, my hair is falling out, im always tired, i get contipated and my nails are really weak. Does anyone what these symptoms could mean? my mum has a thyroid robleem and thinks i could have it also, i want to go to the docters but im terrified of needles, and they'll want a blood sample.
Please help

i recently got some blood taken out so they can test the same thing.Actually just last week. I was terrified of shots to but all they do is tie a rubber band around your arm to push some blood out and poke you with the tiniest needle.It wasn't bad at all.I was so proud of myself because I didn't even cry like I usually do.
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i have a lotta vivid dreams, and theyre always frightening, stressful, or sad, so i keep waking up scared, panicked or even crying. so it takes me forever to get back to sleep again. i know i probs cant stop the dreams but does anyone have any tips on how i could relax when i wake up from them? ive tried everything from stretching to listening to music to breathign excersizes and nothing works until i just drop off back to sleep again and have another scary/panicking dream. what else can i do?
the dreams are usually about me being lost somewere and panicking that i cant get back, or me dying, or being chased by something, that kinda thing if that helps.
ta muchly.

Grab a teddy bear.It's comforting.Also, make sure that you aren't cold and you feel warm.You sleep better when you are warmer.Try not to eat before bedtime.
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i am a 17/m and i really want to do something sweet for mine and my girlfriends anniversary. i already have a dinner planned out but i want it to be more sexual. I am not a virgin and i know she isnt either but i want to know things that girls like guys to do to them, even sex if thats what girls like. Thnx, i rate high

you're only 17..in the end she wouldn't thank your for taking her virginity.She probraly wants to save that until she is married and she will get all depressed when she feels guilty about it.Sorry, I don't have any ideas but I just want to keep your relationship safe
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Does you know a place that I can get layouts for MySpace? I just started an account there and I barely understand it. I just need a good site for layouts. Thanks.

hey this site works really good
http://www.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=7039108&Mytoken=20050101104128
im pretty sure you can paste the code anywhere in your profile.
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Ok well i've been talking to this boy for a year and almost 2months.. We've been on and of with the best days and worst.. But through out it all I love him to death.. and i would do anything for him. But he lies/cheats but then again he loves me and is always their for me. And this other boy i went out with in the summer wants me to go to prom which i am going.. I still like him but i love the other boy.. And the one i've been talking to for over a year says you know if you get back with him were over.. and the other one thinks im going to leave him again because i did before... Who should i go for?! I mean their both their for me but the first one i've been threw everything with and he always tells me he loves me and he is sorry for everything.. But i dont want to hurt the other one..

Well, the one that lies/cheats doesnt understand that he has to be honest in a relationship. Tell him you need to know the truth and that you don't like keeping secrets from eachother. If he continues to do this go out with the other boy.
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I need help in my neighborhood there is a lot of families with little kids and I herd they need babysitters but they don't know that I babysit so how do I let them know

Maybe post a sign in your neighborhood or go door to door handing out flyers.Also, if you see the parents outside give them a friendly smile and ask how they're doing.When you see they're kids just say 'aw, they're so cute' people love those kind of compliments
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Let me start out by saying that my sister is a nightmare. A big fat nightmare who makes your life turn into serious Hell. She is a thirteen year old snob who gets in everyones business, demands things from my parents who take it even though they don't like it. She has been damaging my life the most by trying to beat the crap out of me in front of her friends when I was severly sick, she didn't beat me up, but she kept trying to, and it made me upset, and I cried because it my body was aching. She has tried to smart mouth me in front of her friends, when my mom tells her not to do something, when shes not around, she will do it anyways, and when I try to stop her, she get up in my face, and says, "What are you gonna do about it?" Now, when things like this happens, I call my mom, and she'll just say, "stop it" even though thats probably about the hundreth time shes done it. She also lies, very bad. My parents know, but not as much, she tries spying on my phone conversations with my boyfriend, she is also known to read my other sisters diary to her friends on the phone, and laugh about it with them. She also told all of her friends something SO personal, I am not going to say, but it was so personal about my older sister. My parents do nothing about this. No matter how many times I try to ask them nicely, or I just slam it in their faces, they go talk to her, and she plays the innocent one. I told my mom tonight that she has made my life a living Hell, and all she said was, "well, she said the same thing about you" That made me so angry, because she looked at me like she believed her over me or she didn't know who to believe, HELLO! I am the innocent one here, everyone always says mean things about her, so they know shes the one whose rude! She is also known to hurt me in front of people, she'll grab underwear with blood in it, and will announce to everyone that its mine! When its really hers! I have dealt with this for a long time, and today, I just couldn't take it, I screamed in my room so loud, and tore all of the posters off of my wall, and scratched my face. I have gone crazy! When I heard somebody pick up the phone while me and my boyfriend were talking, I ran to my mom and yelled, "GET HER OFF THE PHONE NOW I HATE HER SO MUCH SOMEBODY JUST KILL HER!" And then, I went rambling on to my boyfriend how much I just want to kill her, and now I keep day dreaming about ways that I can kill her. I also kept saying, "shes a slut, a whore, a b*tch, a little sh*t, and an a*shole." I know shes a slut, but I will not get into detail about that. But I am asking somebody to please not tell me I need anger management, I know that this behavior is not abnormal, what person would not go crazy after dealing with a lying sister and parents who won't do anything about it? My behavior is scaring me, I've never hated somebody this much, I usually just like everybody, but everytime I think about wanting to kill her and it makes me feel good I get scared! I can't really talk to my parents, I've screamed it in their ears, and I've told them nicely, they don't listen to me.


Also, do not even think about having me talk to my sister, she is greedy, and selfish, all she cares about is herself, seriously, if its not her way, theres no way, shes a spoiled brat. So I guess what I'm asking is does anybody think I might be taking this too far? I know that I'm not, but does anyone think different? I know that this shouldn't get to me, but I have to live with her! I need ways to take my anger and sadness out, because all of my posters are ripped off of my wall. Also, my dad is getting me a therapist, so I can at least have somebody to talk to, but the whole time I'm probably going to ramble on about how much I hate her and wish she was dead, I have truly never felt this deeply of hate. My silly boyfriend wants me to fight her, but I'm not going to. But I hate her enough to. So, could anyone say something about this, like advice because I am in a huge puddle of misery. I just wish somebody would just think, "Maybe Sarah [me] has feelings too" when she makes fun of me, I wish she'd think, "Maybe since Sarah has depression, I shouldn't call her names because she feel pain too" And it makes me cry at night wondering how I'll ever get out of this Hell hole, somebody please give me comfort or anything that could help me. I've told my parents about my misery, so don't think that I havn't told anyone about this. I will rate.

I'm sorry she does this to you.You don't deserve it at all.It seems like she's extremly insecure and has to impress her friends to feel liked.I know it's difficult, but try your best to keep your patience with her and see if she wants to play a board game..watch a movie...try an activity to calm her down.When she does something act like it doesn't bother you, but when you get to somewhere private you can scream if you have to.Trust me, it will drive her insane if she thinks you don't care when she makes fun of you.
xO LiSa*

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A little while ago I made myself throw up cause I didnt like the way I looked.I promised my friends I would stop so I am,but my so called best friend wrote on her xanga that im bellimic and that everyone says I was just doing it for attention and for those who dont know wat an xanga is its like a website u can write things on and EVERY1 reads it cause alotta my friends have them and I didnt want any1 to know.Now I know that was wrong of her to post that on her xanga but I got really mad at her and I wont talk to her and we were just fighting last nite and we were cursing eachother off and I called her a backstabber.Do you think it was right for me to get mad at her? Do you think I should just let it go and apologize? I kno this gurl wont apologize to me cause thats how she is,but i dont know wat to do cuz I dont really wanna lose her as a friend but shes just really gotten on my nerves lately and she hasnt been a good friend to me.Thanks for reading this!

You had every right to be mad. It wasn't her place to tell people your bussiness.Forget her, she's not worth your time. Anyone who is going to talk behind your back isn't a real friend.
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Im just wonderin, do like a lot of people get messages straight into their inbox??? I hav eonly gotten 1 REAAL question from someone...thats all. Some one else that obviously know me wrote somethin in there but it wasnt a real advice question. Is there somehting i need to know? I mean i do answer many questions...

not that many people will send something directly to your inbox because if they do only you can answer it.most people on this site will post it on the main website so everyone can answer it and they could get more help.
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i have a friend and she always lies to me. i tried ignoring her but she just puts me on a guilt trip and i end up being friends with her again. all of her friends talk about her behind her back because she is like... socialy chalanged. all of my other friends who dont pretend to be her friend hate her and they rnt shy about showing it. ive for the most part exepted my friend's lieing problum but i still cant believe annything she sas. can someone help me? thanx and i will rate 5s for annyone who is not jokeing or being sarcastic

i remember this girl last year who didnt really lie but just did things that ruined my life with friends..tell this girl she has one more chance and if you catch her in a lie again it's over for good. i understand that you are willing to forgive her but that doesnt mean you should be friends with her again.If you don't like being lied to then end it at her next lie.She was warned so you shouldn't feel guilty.
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ok i have a boyfriend im 13 and he recently asked me to have sex with him. I really want to but i dont want him to go on and tell everybody and stuff i want to wait til summer though what should i do?

you're only 13..you have a whole life ahead of you..please don't ruin it by having sex..your body is the most precious gift you can give somebody and if he isn't right for you in the end..you are going to regret this whole thing.Most guys at this age will tell their friends just so they feel accepted in the crowd.Truth is, not everyone saying they are having sex really is..they just say that kind of stuff to impress others.Think of all the things that can happen...sexually transmitted diseases..even with a condom you can get pregnant...you are too young to start your life with a child and it wouldn't be fair to the child either.Just please hold off until marriage.There's more to a relationship than just sex.

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I really need some advice.
I am a 15/F ....I have gone out with this one guy about 5 or 6 times (we arent datiing just hooking up). We were introduced by a friend (he's 16) and is (or seems) like a really good guy. My parents are away for the whole weekend and my sister is going to be out tomorrow night and I think this guy is coming over. We have hooked up.. but nothing more then that. I am kind of concerned that something is going to happen that I don't want to happen (i am a virgin). I don't know If i'm just overly worried or what. do u think its a bad idea for him to come over considering the circumstances? Is it suggesting that I want something more then just hooking up? Please give me your advice. Especially the boys here. Thanks.

I strongly advise you to change your plans to something safer.Maybe go to a movie.Nobody's home, so he could do anything he wants with you.Until you know him a little better don't get anywhere alone with him.
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i have this guy friend who me and him want to be sex partners and still be the best of friends were like best friends but he might be going out with this girl i dont mind i just dont wanna have sex with him if he goes with this certain girl who me and the girl have been in a bad argument already over him. but i dont like him its just i like the attention from him and i dont know if he goes with the girl should i stop talkin to him or should i not care cuz in the end we still best friends.

signed
-lovers and friends mix-up

unless you love someone as in you are head over heels and want to live your life with a guy never..ever..have sex with him..personally, i think you are selling yourself short and not giving yourself the respect you deserve. people will look down on you when you have sex with him..also, think of the things that can go wrong...sexually transmitted disease..pregnancy..unless you are ready to possibly face these life changing situations this isnt a good idea at all.if you do get pregant who's going to help? not him...at least not full time if he's not your lover but only your sex partner..in the end, please make the right descision..
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hi, i just recently turned 13 and im in the 6th grade. my mom doesnt know thati sahve my legs. i've een using her razor for about 2 months. i had to just do it because everyone else was doing it! i was the only one! all the girls stared at me and it was really embarassing. me and my family are going on a cruise very soon and my legs will be showing most of the time. if she notices i dont know what to do. if she says something about it what should i say! i dont wanna say like,"well, i've been using ur razor because everyone else at shools been doing it!" shed hav this grudge. i know this is long but i'll rate. pleeeaaase help me out! i need really goos advice! i dont think i could just talk to her..i have a pretty bad relationship with her. help help!

'everyone else is doing it' doesnt count as an excuse. Also, if you are going to shave you should get your own razor.Maybe your mom has a reason of why she wont let you shave. Does it have to do with your culture? Honesty is the best policy...trust me!If she wont let you shave tell her the hair on your legs makes your run slower..lol idn!
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Hey. um. well when my friends and I play truth or dare. I usually just watch ya know..well they;ve been getting on my nerves about me being a chicken.. the truth 'how far have you even been'..always comes up..and well when I was 8 years old I was, well raped.. and I dont want to say that I was raped..but other then that, I've never been anywhere (still severely afraid of guys and what they're capable of)..and if i say that, well i'll be considered prude..which i guess is the case..any way to avoid this??

Sorry-its so long.

no! definetly not. If any thing it shows respect for yourself that you haven't done anything yet. Most of these girls are all talk anyways and just saying they're experienced so don't worry. And you don't need to bring up the rape situation because you had no control over that.
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