Erinn_the_bamf's advice column

my friend has been feeling sick often, he can't sleep that much anymore, because he does. last time, he went to sleep at 9 pm and woke up at 5 pm and threw up. and he just threw up like... 30 minutes ago also. >.

Unfortunaetly, we cannot diagnose him over the internet. He could just be sick or it could be food poisioning. He needs to see a doctor to find out.

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ok all summer ive been eaten by mosquetes ( bitten) and i scratch my bites so hard they start to bleed and i dont no how to make them go away because my lags are all ocvered wit red dots from the mosqqutes !!! plz ANY THAT NOWS SOME KIND OF CURE TO HELP THE RED DOTS GO AWYA PLEASE TTELL ME !!!

There's no way to really make them go away faster. As for the itching, you can slap it instead of scratching. It sounds crazy, but it works.

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There is this guy who really likes me he even sent one of his best friends to ask me out but i haven't even seen him. then my older sister and my younger cousin went to tell him to come over and talk to me. so he did and he is really nice and even cute. and we went for a walk around the block to talk and he grabed my hand and pulled me close to him and he kissed me. i wasn't offended and sorta liked it but i'm not ready for a boyfriend and i dont know what to tell him what should i do?

Just tell him you aren't ready for a boyfriend. I'm sure he'll understand. Be sure to keep in touch so when you are ready you can still contact him.

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I've got writers block. I really feel lie writing but I just can't think of anything to write about. And please don't say "take a break for a while" because that doesn't work for me. Help!

I just answered a question like this. Here are some this you can try:

-Read over your best work
-Read over your worst work
-Read a classic novel, such as Pride and Prejudice
-Read one that isn't a classic, but still good, such as Life of Pi
-Listen to music that you find poetic
-Read poetry
-Look for inspiration in photographs (ex of photos: nature, memories, fashion
-Talk to a grandparent or someone else who has an amazing story from their life

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ok someitmes i dont have my period for liek 2months
i skip a mnth.
is that bad?

No. When you are in your teen years it's normal for you period to be irregualr. This can go on for the first 1-3 years you have your period.

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i don't know for like school dances when to start dancin, like look at the guy and be like wanna grind or what just do it...? uggg and i don't know how to grind either, please help me..!

You can ask them if they want to dance or just start dancing. Either really works.

Grinding is simple. You put your behind to the guy's crotch and just move to the rhythm.

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how would you feel if your happy to see your friend because you missed her and you were RIGHT FRONT OF HER to give her a hug but she said"im gonna give hug alisha" and she went all the way back and hugged her instead of you?

I would feel slightly annoyed, but I wouldn't put much thought into it. She probably didn't really mean to do it or make you feel bad.

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This may sound silly...but I think I may have lost my writing mojo. Last year, it seemed as if I could write really well. I always received compliments from my teachers on how well I could write creatively. But now, as I'm sitting here and typing up an assignment, nothing comes to mind and my story sounds so amateur and horrible. And I can't think of good vocabulary either. Does it just seem that way to me? It disappoints me tremendously :( What can I do? =/

I've dealt with writers block too. Actually, I'm still somewhat dealing with it. However, there is a list of things you can do to help.

-Read over some of your best work
-Read over some of your worst work
-Read classics, such as Great Expectations
-Read books that aren't classics, but have great messages, such as The Five People You Meet in Heaven
-Read poerty
-Listen to music. Is there an artist you find to be simply poetic? Listen to them.

As for vocabulary, I generally use thesaurus.com. I'll write without worrying about vivid vocabluary then go back and change words around with synonyms. Furthermore, keep a list of vocab words you really like and add on whenever you find a new interesting word.

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I got a stain on my white skirt. It is red jello! How can I get it out?

I love Erinn!

Tide to Go.

If that doesn't work wash it with stain stick or the spray.

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When you wash your face with soap and water, what soap? Like a bar of soap??

My face is super sensitive and can go red form anything..

Generally, face soap is the best thing to use. Go to the Clinic counter at the mall and buy their soap. If you do not want to spend that much money, a bar of Dove soap would work well, too. Just don't wash any other part of your body than your face with it.

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why does in michael moore's documentary bowling for columbine he say that people in canada do not lock their doors. people can come in and out and like do stuff in houses and leave??? how is that allowed?

There is no law that says you HAVE to lock your door anywhere. And really, most people are good and don't want to come in their houses and such.

Furthermore, as Michael Moore stated, people in Canada do not live in fear like us. They aren't really scared of breaking in. Sure, it happens, but it doesn't phase them.

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i am 13 and my mom is a slut. She brings at least five guys a day. when she gets drunk and pass out. the man comes to my room. it is really scary for me. i can never have anyone over my house. My boyfriend really wants to do it with me, but i say no and he doesn't understand why. i don't want to end up like my mother. But i really love my boyfriend. What should i do. i need an outlet.

First off, at 13 you shouldn't be having sex. If your boyfriend can't take no for an answer then dump him.

Next, talk to your mom. Explain how you feel. Talk to her about maybe seeing a consuler. It's proven that many promiscuous women had something that happened to them in their childhood to cause them to be this way.

If she still doesn't change try asking her if you can live with another family member. Is your father alive and well? If so he is a possible canidate. If not aunts, uncles, and grandparents would work too. This is a really unsafe enviorment for you to be in, and if your mom doesn't change you need to get out.

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how come on TV they have to block out the "Suicidal" part a lot? why cant they say suicidal on TV? is this some new sort of cuss word? lol explain

The FCC (people who control ratings fro music, TV, and movies) believes that hearing the word "suicide" will prompt people to commit it.

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before you read this is feel like you should know i really need help, this is the last place i have turned to and i need sincere advice.

there are two boys, we'll call them bob and tom. i have to choose between the two, and either way somebody is going to get hurt... i just want to make sure i make the right decision!

here's some backround information

bob: we dated for 8 months and broke up 3 weeks ago. he was my first love and we are still incredibly close. He loves me still, but I had to break up with him because he was not a good boyfriend to me. He would never stick up for me when his friends would say stuff [his friend bill told everybody that i gave bill a handjob when that never happened, bob did nothing. his friends constantly call me rude names and are rude to me in front of him, he does nothing. this GIRL he was friends with was harassing me for supposively looking at her wrong and he just told me to stay away from her like i had some sort of say in what was happening, then took her side when she was bitching which really embaressed me. and there is this girl, we have somee real bad blood before bob was ever in the picture and i told bob all about it. she said she was going to break me and zach up, and he still hung out with her and talked to her and flirted with he rbehind my back. i felt so embaressed when i found out he was doing this behind my back, it really hurt the most. and finally, he lies to me constantly, he cannot stop. we have broken up many times before but gotten back together because he promised to change ut he never did. despite all that he has done wrong, i love him. when we are together he makes me happy, when i have a problem he ios the first person i call, he is the only person i have left that i feel like i can confide in. when he's not with me i think about him, and he is the same way about me and makes plenty effort to let me know he still loves me. right now my heart wants him, but i know things will never change and i will eventually be unhappy. but i am not sure i can be happy without him, he understands me and he makes me feel better, even hearing his voice can make everything better for me. and my parents just love him. but he has hurt me so many times,i don't know !

tom: he is perfect for me in every sense. he makes me laugh more than anybody i have ever met, and he has made me happy in even my darkest hours. we are so perfect for eachother it's scary and he loves me too. we just started dating and he has been such a great boyfriend already, and has been so understanding of everything im going through. he is mr. perfect but the thing is, he doesn't have the automatic spark i have with bob. i like tom alot and i feel lieki could love him if i only dated him for a little bit longer, and he could make me very happy, but right now i don't feel i am close enough to him to call him when i am crying. and since i know i am not in love with him my reaction tpo this problem was to just go with my heart to bob. But with tom i can see myself falling for him hard, i just haven't yet. i've given bob so mnay chances that he has screwed up that maybe i should give tom a chance, he seems deserving of one. he's my mr. perfect, but i dont have that passionate love i have for bob. csn that grow?

i need to choose between a guy who hurt me so many times before but he has my heart, or a perfect guy who will be the perfect boyfriend but i dont feel that love i feel for bob.

what my heart wants or what my heart needs?
maybe my heart needs somebody who i love completely
or somebody who i love as a person

HELP ME PLEASE!

Personally, I'd choose Tom.

However, we cannot decide who is right for you. You are the only person that knows that. What do you want? I think you already know.

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When you have sex with a new guy for the first time, Will he be able to tell if i'm a virgin or not??
He's not a virgin, neither am I, but will he be able to tell if I'm not?

No.

Sometimes a girl's hymen breaks, creating blood to flow. However, most girls break theirs before intercourse.

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I know this isn't really asking for advice, but the last few days I was just thinking about this and wondering why the people here joined.

I guess it is just out of pure curiosity. I would have just posted this in the moderator forum or in the supporter discussion, but I'd rather see why everyone joined rather than just those who have been here for some time and such.

So, why did you join advicenators and why are you still here? What about the site made you want to stay?

I'll probably be one of the first people to answer this (I'm not going to answer it in the question).

S_C

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I've been here almost 3 years, and I don't plan on leaving anytime soon.

I saw a link in this guy's profile. About a month later I decided I wanted to one day be a psycologist, therefore, I joined. Though I still don't have the same dream it's pretty fun, and I've met some pretty cool people (you being one of them!) Furthermore, positive feedback makes you quite happy.

Also, whenever I have a problem, I go here. I generally don't like taking advice from people I know, so it's a relief that I can come here and ask anynomously.

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Hi 14/m i am a freshman in high school and my first day was today.I met this girl in my math class she just moved here from Australia and she is kinda shy so hasn't made many friends. And i like her and was wondering what i should do to impress her. I sit right next to her soo yeah we talk a lot. Girls, what do u like to talk about with guys and what gets u goin, (if you know what i mean ;)lol) Please help me, even f it's a simple answer. Thanks!!!

This is going to sound so cliche, but just be yourself. If you go out of your way to try to make her think you're cool, she's really going to think you're trying too hard.

As to what you should talk about, the subject doesn't matter. What does matter is how you act during it the conversation. Be interested. Don't look around the room and don't give one word answers. Make eye contact and smile.

Also, make the initiative to ask her out. Girls aren't too fond of being the ones to ask.

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I'm really scared to kiss my new boyfriend and the last time we got together which was sunday (yesturday) and he just said his goal was to kiss me but it didnt happen because he was i guess kinda freaked out on the inside. well i know for a fact its gonna happen this saturday when we get together again. My problem is that im scared im going to mess up you know sit there all puckered up even after he backs up and be like oops.
so my question is
how long do you think it will last or idk i mean i want it to be perfect.

please give me any advice you have.

thanks for taking time to read this hope you can help.

and thanks in advance for helping :D

http://virtualkiss.com/kissingschool/kissing101.asp

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Ok so im going into highschool, and well i found the cutest out fit, but its a tube top, and well my school isnt SO strict about it, like after three weeks they don't care what we wear. But my question is On the first day of school do they really look out and care what we wear and stuff and were they really strict about it at your school? thankss

Wearing the tube top wouldn't be the best idea. My school is pretty strict about it and you get written up for breaking the dress code. If you really want to wear it, wear a hoodie over it.

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