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im desperate, please help
before you read this is feel like you should know i really need help, this is the last place i have turned to and i need sincere advice.
there are two boys, we'll call them bob and tom. i have to choose between the two, and either way somebody is going to get hurt... i just want to make sure i make the right decision!
here's some backround information
bob: we dated for 8 months and broke up 3 weeks ago. he was my first love and we are still incredibly close. He loves me still, but I had to break up with him because he was not a good boyfriend to me. He would never stick up for me when his friends would say stuff [his friend bill told everybody that i gave bill a handjob when that never happened, bob did nothing. his friends constantly call me rude names and are rude to me in front of him, he does nothing. this GIRL he was friends with was harassing me for supposively looking at her wrong and he just told me to stay away from her like i had some sort of say in what was happening, then took her side when she was bitching which really embaressed me. and there is this girl, we have somee real bad blood before bob was ever in the picture and i told bob all about it. she said she was going to break me and zach up, and he still hung out with her and talked to her and flirted with he rbehind my back. i felt so embaressed when i found out he was doing this behind my back, it really hurt the most. and finally, he lies to me constantly, he cannot stop. we have broken up many times before but gotten back together because he promised to change ut he never did. despite all that he has done wrong, i love him. when we are together he makes me happy, when i have a problem he ios the first person i call, he is the only person i have left that i feel like i can confide in. when he's not with me i think about him, and he is the same way about me and makes plenty effort to let me know he still loves me. right now my heart wants him, but i know things will never change and i will eventually be unhappy. but i am not sure i can be happy without him, he understands me and he makes me feel better, even hearing his voice can make everything better for me. and my parents just love him. but he has hurt me so many times,i don't know !
tom: he is perfect for me in every sense. he makes me laugh more than anybody i have ever met, and he has made me happy in even my darkest hours. we are so perfect for eachother it's scary and he loves me too. we just started dating and he has been such a great boyfriend already, and has been so understanding of everything im going through. he is mr. perfect but the thing is, he doesn't have the automatic spark i have with bob. i like tom alot and i feel lieki could love him if i only dated him for a little bit longer, and he could make me very happy, but right now i don't feel i am close enough to him to call him when i am crying. and since i know i am not in love with him my reaction tpo this problem was to just go with my heart to bob. But with tom i can see myself falling for him hard, i just haven't yet. i've given bob so mnay chances that he has screwed up that maybe i should give tom a chance, he seems deserving of one. he's my mr. perfect, but i dont have that passionate love i have for bob. csn that grow?
i need to choose between a guy who hurt me so many times before but he has my heart, or a perfect guy who will be the perfect boyfriend but i dont feel that love i feel for bob.
what my heart wants or what my heart needs?
maybe my heart needs somebody who i love completely
or somebody who i love as a person
HELP ME PLEASE!
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Personally, I'd choose Tom.
However, we cannot decide who is right for you. You are the only person that knows that. What do you want? I think you already know.
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ok, well i know that "bob" is your first love, but he seems like a not very nice person. "tom" seems like a total and complete sweetheart. I say you ditch the not very nice person and go with the guy that is goign to treat you right.
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well this is hard to choose between to guys well u had said bob was bad and you gave him chances and you love him, but gives you the "sparks" and for tom the perfect boy friend of yours well i say you dont choose them i think you should find someone who will love you completely and is not a jerk to you liek bob i mean why would you love someone who had hurt you so many times and not stood up for you. yes he makes you happy and all but like you really going to go back and forth with this guy?
and for tom i mean he's the guy for you and i know you dont love or feel for him but like this is hard to choose and i say you think about this for couple days and than make a choice.
and if your scared don't choose them but for me if i had to choose between tom and bob i would say Tom even if you dont feel the love for him. i say you give him the chance and all but if you love bob i say you talk to him about him hurting you and all that and tell him the truth that you still love him and want to be with him but he hurts you so many times i say you sit down with bob and tell him all your TRUE feelings for him and about him hurting you and if he say he doesn't love your or if he aplogize and say i would change and doesn't i wouldn't go for him anymore i would go for tom. tom is nice and doesn't hurt you and i know when you have a problem he's not the one to help but i say you sit with him too and tell him everyhing and all and see what happens.
i hope i helped let me know thanx:)
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