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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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one of my best friends recently has gotten into the phase where she wishes she could have a boyfriend that will basically love her and live for her. and she took it pretty far where now whenever i try to talk to her, that's all she talks about and when i try to give her advice, she says that she doesn't feel like talking. yesterday, i tried giving her advice. i told her that you are not necessarily going to get the man of your dreams at age 13/14. everything happens for a reason and everyone has a perfect match, they just might not come until later in life. & i also told her that she should really accept her friends giving advice because if she actually took time to read and thought about it, i bet it'd really help. she keeps telling me that i don't understand even though it runs across my mind everyday. i basically want her to just think of me as a higher person, you know? so when i give her advice, she can really think about it and actually think i'm good & smart. i want her to think i'm a better person to come to so she can think, "hey, she is really good so i'm going to trust her with my problems." & we've known each other since preschool and recently became closer and now best friends. i know it's impossible to control what she thinks of me, but is there anyway, to i don't know...impress her to show her that i am better than what she thinks? i will rate super high if this is good adviceee.

Tell her she isn't missing out on anything. Believe me,I know. Tell her she has her whole life to get a boyfriend. Especially if she's only 13 or 14. I was the same way. Maybe tell her also not to to be in such a rush because she'll probaly get hurt. If she keeps up with this, I'd support her in trying to find a boyfriend. But seriously, I'm only 15 and saying this, you guys have your whole lives to worry about guys. Don't start now.

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My Boyfriend tells me I'm not coming onto him strong enough and says that I need to put my hand on him when he's "hard on." I hardly know what that means...and i dont know what to do when my hand is there. What do i do when he gets like that and I put my hand on him?

He wants you to touch his dick. Get out while you can.

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Any other useless sites like VirtualStapler.com and Bubblewrap?

Try funnyjunk.com

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can i download songs on limewire for free?

Yes, but it's illegal, but I do it anyway.

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In your info it says I dont know if i really believe in god because of the whole world hunger situation and ect. God has nothing to do with that. If you take the time to know the things of god, you know suffering, pain, hate, fear..all of that isnt of god. its of the devil. Its just that. The world has become so evil, and most of the world doesnt know about god, or live how god had intended us too, or else there WOULD be peace. What do YOU believe is going to happen after we die? Most people believe you just go to heaven, but that isnt true, even if you do believe in god, you have to live for him to go to heaven. If you dont even believe that, what do you believe is going to happen?

When we die, I don't know what happens to us. You could sit and argue with me al day and I'll tell you the same thing. I don't know what happens to us. I have nothing to argue about because, I don't know. And I'm sticking to my guns with saying this. No point in arguing with me.

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I have to present a speech infront of about 30 people tomorrow for class and I'm REALLY nervous. I'm doing an oratorical speech and it's just so crazy. My friends have told me to breathe in and out but it only works for like 4 minutes. I've never done a speech before, this is my first time. So...is it alright to be nervous? And what do you suggest I do when I'm up there?
Thanks

If you practice in front of a mirror it may help. You could also practice your speech and say it over and over in your head until you feel comfortable with it. When I decided to play at my school's talent show, I was nervous as hell. What I did so I was less nervous was I thought of something that I liked or wish I had. That way it got my mind off all the people and I played in front of at least 200 people. Works for me. Also you could practice your speech infront of a couple of your closest friends and family and get their feedback. That way if you don't like my advice you can ask them. Hope I came of some help.

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in the morning I usually cleanse with facial wash, exfoliate, use astringent, put on moisturizing sunblock and then put on foundation & other makeup. Is this okay for my skin? Is there anything that I should add, take away or change? I will rate high.

If I were you I wouldn't use so much stuff on my face. I would just use a light cleanser twice a day and moisturizer. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. Hope I helped.

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Hey there. Im a 14/f that likes to play the guitar. My brother has an electric and 2 accoustics. One of his accoustics is a really good one that cost over a grand, i use his electric. the electric isnt such a good brand, so i want to get my own. he knows people at the shop so ill get discounts but anybody have a good idea of a good guitar? I know ibanez, fender, gibson..are all good. Any other good ones?

Depends on what guitar you're thinking about getting. For an acoustic I suggest either a Martin or a Yamaha. I have a Yamaha. It was only 200 bucks. It's a dam good guitar for only spending that much. I also have an Ovation. If you decide to get an Ovation I suggest getting an American made one and not a Celebrity. Only for the simple fact that there really not that good. They don't last that long. If you plan on going electric, a pretty cheap one that's really good is an Austin. I have a couple in fact. They work well. Especially since I'm pretty small for my age.

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im a 15yr/female and ive gots a problem.
i am in a 32 A bra size and i get made fun of because of it.(Except by my boyfriend)...well, when im at school everyone says that they wouldnt go out with me because i basicley have no boobs....know when my boyfriend tries to kiss me there i get nervous and i back away because of my boob size. what should i do? how can i make my boobs bigger? will people like me more then?

I have the same problem. I'm like totally flat chested basically. These people that say these things to you aren't worth it.There not even worthy of being called assholes. Asswipes maybe. Don't listen to them. Your boyfriend however really seems to love you for who you are. This is a person you really should feel comfortable around. So to answer your question, no I wouldn't change my boob size just because a bunch of little asswipes said some hateful things to me. Also even if you did get breast surgery, they'd still find something else to make fun of you about.(Sorry but it's the truth.) That's how people like that are. They'll find something that bothers you and they'll keep at it. Well hoped I helped you out seeing as I'm in the same boat.

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well,ok 13/f
i've noticed my vagina has looked different lately....and im getting scared (i think) im devolpoing breasts..and i want to no..is it normal for it to change?

Believe me your fine. Your just going through puberty. Your breasts are probaly getting larger and your developing pubic hair. Puberty for me started ocurring when I was 9. Your just a late bloomer. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Whats going on with you every girl goes through. So do guys but I don't want to get into that. Just wanted you to know that you are fine and nothing is wrong with you.

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How do I make my lips apear bigger?

This may sound weird but actually brushing your lips with a baby tooth brush can make them appear bigger.

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i need to get rid of my acne, quick. please help me. i know about pro active but is there anything i can use without buying stuff like creams. if not products are good too. at this point im desperate. anything will do. * automatic 5`s if you give me atleast 7 different ways to get rid of acne *

Hopefully this a girl asking this question.
First of all, the birth control pill really helps. Also Natures Cure helped me a lot. I know every body says chocolate doesn't cause acne but I break out but just to be on the safe side, I would eat junk food in moderation. Another thing is to clean your face with a mild cleanser at least twice a day. Don't over do it, but some sun exposure can help to. Before you go out though make sure you put on sun tanning lotion. Also keep your hair out of your face because the oils from your hair can get into your skin which can cause acne. Also if you have an oily skin probem like I do I would hold onto oil sheets which absorbs acess oils in your skin which can also cause acne. Hope I came of some help because believe me I've had my fair share of acne. I was once diagnosed with Acne Vulgaris, which is even worse than a bad case of acne. I eriously tried everything and finally I founda a product that worked for me which is Retina -Micro.

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my skin WAS usually somewhat clear...i had some acne, but nothing bad. well, i decided to take care of the acne i had and get rid of it. my acne is just WORSE now. the products i have used recently are Nature's Cure for Females, over the counter benzoyl peroxide by neutrogena, and makeup by Lancome Paris to cover. I am not sure which one of these is the culprit? How can stuf thats supposed to get rid of acne be making me break out TONS...please give me some tips on a skin care regimen that WONT make me break out and that will help me clear up my acne!!!

Well I guess different things work for different people. When I used the Nature's Cure for Females, it helped me a lot. What also really helped me was the "pill". It actually really helps. Even though it's not a cream or ointment, it helps. What it does is it settles down your hormones, which is a big plus because when you have acne it's usually because your hormones are out of control. Also I would go to a dermatologist and get something like Retina-Micro. Helps a lot. A lot of my friends also told me Proactive helped them a lot. It didn't me though. But I would still try it.

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I have this friend...Or I wouldn't call her a friend anymore..and we have had this hudge fight. All because of a guy! Fredrik is his name. He is my friends friend. I liked him, asked my friend if it was okay for me to go out with him. She said she was totally okay with it. But it turned out she liked him too. She didn't tell me though. I found though text messages on Fredriks cellphone. I got so mad. Mostly because she didn't tell me and giving me a hard time when going out with him. She was always the third wheel. It was so annoying!
Then there was this one time she got reallt mad for me hooking up with him, I didn't get why. I did ask her if it was because she likes him, because then I would back off, but she said no. So I keept on seeing him. She didn't like it. I dumped him though when I found out that it was something between them.
Now, she is the one who is mad at me! And it's because I was mad at her.. We had alot of other unfinnished buisness so I told her everything about why I angry at her. I wanted to clear everything between us so we can be friends again..But she got even agrgier and now she won't speak to me. And she is telling Fredrik lies about me..I don'tcare about him anymore. But my friend and me where best friends before Fredrik came into our lives..

What should I do? Sould I try o talk to her again? Or wait til she comes to me?
Please help!

Thank you!

&♥

OMG! Same thing happens to me all the time. I always get in spats about guys with my friends. Whoever you feel more strongly about I would keep. I would just talk to her and ask her what the hell is going on. Tell her how you feel about the guy and then she should back off. That's what usually works for me and I'm still able to keep the friend. After you could help her by fixing her up with a guy. Then I would suggest double-dating. Hope I helped.

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Hello people!
Here it is, I like this guy named Max. He seems to like me too, he went to see my play, he went to school for me and we went to play pool. Sounds like your typical puppylove right? Wrong! Now he is neglecting me. He dissed me last monday to meet "his friend". Yeah I don't believe him...And now from being really sweet to like not talking to me anymore...
I haven't done anything to make him loose intrest..has he lost all fellings, is there no hope left? Help!

Thank you ♥

I know exactly how you feel. My what I thought was my boyfriend did the same thing. I felt pretty crappy which is how I imagine you felt. What I would do is find someone better. You deserve it. Every deserves a guy that will treat them with respect. This guy sounds like a total jerk. But you could give him the benifit of the doubt that he could just too shy to admit it. Try talking to him away from everyone else too see whats going on. I hate it too when guys act like there interested and then they move on. What can I say? Guys are Assholes and have no heart or soul to see how other people feel for the actions they take.

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i randomly scratch my forehead and recently saw that i have strange scars. must be from acne, i thought.

can i get rid of acne scars?

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you but you can't get rid of acne scars. Believe me, I would know. Although there are treatments that can help them. Try using cocoa butter, or go to a dermatologist and ask them what would be good for you. Also over the counter drug like Proactive can help. If you feel very insecure about them, which I do about mine (mind you I have a lot of scars),try using some oil-free make-up to help cover them up. Make-up can actually help too. Usually scars will fade as you get older. It usually takes about six months after the pimple goes away, for the scar to go away. Hopefully I came of some help.

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i know this sounds kinda weird but im 13/f and im starting to get like pimples and stuff on my back(ew) and ive got a dance coming up and its got kind of a low back line. is there anything i can do to get my back to clear up? thanx i rate high!

Believe it or not, I was 9 when I started having complexion problems. When I was 10 I had fullblown acne. It's not that big of a deal. About everyone goes through it. Anyway, perscription drugs like Retina Micro can be a big help. Two over the counter solutions that help are Nature's Cure& Proactive. Seriously, I have had friends that have seen amazing results from it. I too as well. Just remember there is no cure for acne, but there is a lot of treatments.

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so ive been seeng this guy for a little while now and i totally do wanna wait to have sex with him but sometimes i just get so tempted! my morals dont seem near as strong and my promise to myself that id at least wait till im 18 seems harder and harder to wanna keep. (btw im a virgin) so what i wanna know is does anyone regret there first time? like it wasnt special or they wish they waited? any tips or advice is truely appreciated.

I'm 15 and I'm still a virgan. There's nothing wrong with it. It's something to be proud of. Anyway, if you feel strongly about and it's something you believe in, then wait.If the guy your with doesn't respect your decision, then you know he isn't the right one for you. If you start feeling this way again then explain to him how you feel. He should understand. Another option; when you start feeling this way leave the room your in, tell him you need some time alone to think. You'll usually start feeling this way after you guys are getting really hot and heavy. Like making out whatever. Go for a walk, listen to music, whatever you enjoy doing, and just think things over. Even if you can't control your urges and you guys wind up having sex, make sure you use protection.

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ok so i REALLY love my boyfriend..but lately since i told him that his best friend rapped me..he started getting...controlling and like now whenever i say somthing hell scream and say BITCH SHUT UP...then hell say "oh im sorry baby" and everything is fine but he hit me a couple of times..i told my best friend and she told me to break up with him..but i LOVEE him! and..if i i do decide to break up with him..im scared hell like..kill me or somthingg!

plz help me.i dont know where else im going to get help!

~lila

I went through the same sort of situation. I know you feel. When I went through this with my (ex now) I felt like if I gave him up the whole world would end. I loved him. However, I knew I had to get out, which is what you should do as well. Try talking to someone you trust, like a family member. When I went through it I talked about it a lot with people and it helped me get over him faster. You can do better than him. You deserve to be treated better. I felt like he was all I really had. But seriously, a woman needs a man like a frog needs a bicycle, meaning you'd be better off on your own. Take this from someone with experience. You'll get over him once you realize how much better you'll feel when your out of if.

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i'm really shy and i keep to myself at school, because i lost a lot of friends last year, and now i feel like a big loser. and i'm also fat, so i feel socially retarded. y'know, y'know. but anyways. i have this friend who isn't shy at at all, but she doesn't invite me to her social events anymore 'cause i never knew what to say. i know it sounds dumb, but i can't be myself, because i'm afraid that if i say things people are going to think that i'm dumb, which is probably true. at home i'm just like the people at school, but that's because i'm comfortable.

so suggestions on how to become myself?

I have the same problem as well. The only people I feel comfortable around is my family. Unless I get to know the people really well. If you want my advice I think you should join some clubs or go to events where you know kids your age will be at. Join a club that your interested in. That way you'll meet people that you have something in common with. And as for your "friend" doesn't really sound like a good friend to me. That's pretty low of her to not invite you to her parties just because you have a problem with being shy. You need to get some new friends that are there for you no matter what.

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