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one of my best friends recently has gotten into the phase where she wishes she could have a boyfriend that will basically love her and live for her. and she took it pretty far where now whenever i try to talk to her, that's all she talks about and when i try to give her advice, she says that she doesn't feel like talking. yesterday, i tried giving her advice. i told her that you are not necessarily going to get the man of your dreams at age 13/14. everything happens for a reason and everyone has a perfect match, they just might not come until later in life. & i also told her that she should really accept her friends giving advice because if she actually took time to read and thought about it, i bet it'd really help. she keeps telling me that i don't understand even though it runs across my mind everyday. i basically want her to just think of me as a higher person, you know? so when i give her advice, she can really think about it and actually think i'm good & smart. i want her to think i'm a better person to come to so she can think, "hey, she is really good so i'm going to trust her with my problems." & we've known each other since preschool and recently became closer and now best friends. i know it's impossible to control what she thinks of me, but is there anyway, to i don't know...impress her to show her that i am better than what she thinks? i will rate super high if this is good adviceee.
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If y'all are really good friends, then you wouldn't have to impress her with your remarable answers. You can help her all you want, but it's up to her if she decides to take your advice or not. You shouldn't make her feel that you're better than her or you make wiser decisions. If you're a true friend, you'll try to help her as best you can because that's all she really needs right now.
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Tell her she isn't missing out on anything. Believe me,I know. Tell her she has her whole life to get a boyfriend. Especially if she's only 13 or 14. I was the same way. Maybe tell her also not to to be in such a rush because she'll probaly get hurt. If she keeps up with this, I'd support her in trying to find a boyfriend. But seriously, I'm only 15 and saying this, you guys have your whole lives to worry about guys. Don't start now.
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Hi, maybe your friend doen't always want advice, if I was you Id just try sometimes just listening to her, and occasionally agreeing. I know your trying to help her, but sometimes maybe all she wants to do is vent. Than when you actually do give advice, it'll be rare and she will listen. As for trusting with problems, you just have to show her you won't tell anyone. Tell her she can tell you anything and you won't tell anyone. Start telling her some of your problems, and see if you can trust her. I hope I helped. Good luck!
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