I am a 39 year old woman who has been seeing the same man sexually for almost 2 years. What we have is very special. We both admit that. We have made an agrement with each other not to sleep with anyone else except each other. My problem is that I want more out of this relationship. And because it has been sexual, I can't tell if he wants the same. In the past when I asked for a committment, he said he couldn't at that time, because he has goals he needs work towards and needs to focus on them. Even though he said he would like to the timing was off. I am feeling like it will always be sexual, nothing more. Can I be wrong? Should I wait it out? I do have very strong feelings for this man.
Thanks
Two years seems like he will never make a commitment. I would bring up the subject again, and he gives you excuses, then in order to move on you will probably have to end this relationship. It just doesn't work out to try to find someone else when you are attached (even if it is just sexual) to someone else. If you disappear for a while, he could change his mind and decide you are worth a commitment, and then the ball is in your court.
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now i am living another provence, next month i am going to my city, my wife she is carriying 8 month pregnency, during that time i can do sex(intercore),
You aren't supposed to in the last 6 weeks. Please contact your physician, he will be happy to sort this out for you. Just give them a call.
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there is this guy named michael and he is my friend but then he asked me out and i said yes so i told my best friendand she said i like that guy break up wit him or i wont be ur friend not more so what do i do?
I would break up with her. What a jerk. If she was your friend, she would be happy for you. And she should have told you before hand who she liked because you would probably not have gone out with him.
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when i'm going thru pms (the week before my period starts) i break out in pimples really bad. no matter how much i wash my face, they are still there for that one week. but after my pms is over, they go away on their own and i have PERFECTLY clear skin until my next cycle. but when i do break out its really bad, and my dad suggested taking me to the dermatologist, but i was wondering if it's worth going because no matter what medicine i'll use i still think i'll break out during that one week reguardless. what do you think?
If your dad is willing to take you to the dermatologist, then do it. The doctor can help you deal with it, and give you good advice on taking care of your skin. He or she may not be able to completely solve the problem, but they can help you feel better about it. It will probably do that less and less as you get older. I will not promise that it will completely go away.
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Woah... I usually GIVE advice here but now I'm asking for it. Because I don't know what to do. See... I started going out with this guy, Chris, on September 1. And I've known him since the first day of school (which was August 23). And I never really thought about it until I saw a picture of his family yesterday, but he's half Mexican (I'm white). And I don't have a problem with it, but my mom has this thing about interracial relationships. And she asked if he was white and I told her he was (that was before I saw a picture of his family -- he looks like a real dark-skinned white guy). Then my mom decided she wants to meet Chris, and she wants me to invite him to our Labor Day picnic/cookout thing. I don't know what to do... I'd love him to come here but I'm afraid my mom's going to say something about his race or she's going to make me break up with him or something. What should I do?
Well, I hope you invited him anyway because your parents do need to know who you are dating. I wouldn't tell her squat. It's none of her business. If you feel like you must tell her, then casually slip it in. And if she freaks out, ignore her and try to bring your children up to not be racists.
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i have a friend james and his away message use to be "glock glock ya kno what im sayin?" any 1 kno what this means?
Its probably something silly, but a glock is a type of German gun.
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Hi well my boyfriends friends come up and pinch my ass , everytime I ask them to stop they ust kiss me like Im thier own and my boyfriend lets them what do I do?
1. Threaten to turn them in to your boyfriend.
2. If that doesn't work, threaten to turn them in to the school.
3. Turn them in.
4. If that doesn't work, slap them one good time across the jaw.
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i only eat icecream about once a week. whenever i have it i get diarrhea. why is this?
It could be the lactose intolerant thing. But it could also be the amount of fat that is in ice cream if you don't eat much fat the rest of the week.
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i have a lowered s-10 truck and i was wondering if goin over sped bumps and hole and stuff will it tear up the bottom or do something else 2 the bottom and is there nething else i should that could posable do 2 my truck thanks alot
Yes it can ruin your ground effects. If you cut your wheel and slow down over speed bumps it helps give you a little more clearance underneath. And don't overload your truck with friends. I did that once in a Trans Am and it scraped really really bad, but it luckily didn't hurt anything.
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This question is for my boyfriend. Whenever he tries to go to sleep he cant. He says he stays up all night just tossing and turning. He has tried everything. He takes a warm shower before bed because he said that makes him tired and he will drink a warm glass of milk, he has even tried sleeping pills--they dont seem to work too well. He says that wen hes just laying there everything is racing through his head of what he has to do the next day what he should of done today, how conversations went during the day, basically ANYTHING. I'm all out of ideas for him and so isnt he because he has said this has been happening for a while. Hes not a doctor person and refuses to go. Hes 19. Any one know anything?
Thank You!!
Sometimes listening to soft music or general background noise helps. You can repeat a phrase or a song lyric over and over until you fall asleep.
Is he getting enough exercise? Sometimes even walking helps you sleep later. And not eating less than 2 hours before going to bed keep you from having problems while sleeping.
Worrying about falling asleep while trying to fall asleep does not help at all. He can try reading a book or getting up for a short period of time until he can try falling asleep again.
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im in love with this girl, i mean like IM IN LOVE.
but i dont know if she likes me. i have gone out places with her, like football games and shit. but i just dont know. shes really hot and its the first person ive felt this way about, i mean sure ive liked girls but not like this. i seem to never know when to kiss a girl or hold their hand or put my arm around them, its just sumthing i dont know, when do i do any of those things!?!?!
plz answer me ill rate a 5!
If you feel like kissing her or holding her hand, just do it! There is no prescribed time. Once you have done any of these things you will know what makes her feel comfortable. You can also ask for a kiss, hold my hand, etc. I would think that would be really cute and thoughtful.
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I'm 13/f and I asked this question here http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=187732 but well I still need help on more of it. I need to know what to wear and stuff like that view the question to find out more. I really need help I am scared I have never been out on a "date" before and ah just please help me.
(Moderators I know how you hate it when people say don't delete and they submit it alot but I need advice on this really bad so I have to submit it again at least let me have a couple answers before you delete it.)
We hate it worse when you break the rules and repeat a question..
Look, just wear something appropriate to the occasion. Be comfortable, but wear something cute. You know what you are cute and feel good in. If you are unsure, have a friend come over and help you pick something out. That's what I used to do when we were all hanging out together. Mostly, just have fun. He will probably even think its cute that you are nervous. Guys are weird like that.
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Hey, I'm 21 years old and female. I have a problem. My boyfriend of 4 years (5 October 3rd!) and I havent had sex yet. He is really not that kindof guy to ask for sex or anything. He's really patient and all we have do is makeout. We were best friends for 2 years before going out and he really respects me. I am ready to lose my virginity to him, because after 5 years of going out shouldent it be time to have some fun? lol I have been on birth control for 2 months just incase when I do ask him if he wants to have sex, he will say yes. I want to tell him I want to lose it on our anniversary but I'm really scared because how am I gonna start the conversation of sex? And since he really respects me and cares for me I think he wouldent want to. But I'm not 16 anymore, I'm a woman and I want to do this. I love him a lot and I just dont know how to ask if he wants to do this! We are talking about marriage so should we just wait till were married? Help!
Oh please wait. You seem so close to being married already. Sex will totally change your relationship. I am not saying it will be bad. I am saying it will be different. You will more confident if you are married to him because you know he will take care of you. It will be a more healthy situation. I know it isn't easy, but just hold on a little longer.
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okay well see im going to the movies with my 2 bestfriends and they are bringing their boyfriends!! see i dont have one so i feel left out what is a good way to get someone to like you?
Don't go trying to get some guy just to be going to the movies. If you have another friend you can invite so you don't feel like the 5th Wheel, do that instead. If there is a guy friend you like to hang out with, that works too. You don't have to have a boyfriend to go to the movies.
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yesterday i fell off my bike cuz my chain broke and my hands r all scraped up and hurt is there n e thing i can eat or drink or do that will make it heal faster and school starts really soon and i dont want my hands to hurt cuz im in sports and stuff plz help
There is this stuff called liquid bandaid that you can put on your scrapes to help them heal. It seals them up so you don't get more dirt in them.
As far as what you eat, just eat healthy and maybe include a vitamin supplement.
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hey ya*ll i really like this guy and he really likes me 2 ...but there is a bad thing.. he dosent want any1 to kno and i cant help thinkin its cause im not that pretty...please help me and tell me what to do...SiGnEd~DaNgErOusLy In LoVe~
Red Flag. He doesn't want anyone to know because he may have a girlfriend already. It isn't you that has a problem, it's him. If he continues to want to keep it a secret, drop him like a bad penny.
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Ok, this may seem like a pathetic question, but I really don't know what to do.
Well, I started talking to this guy in one of my classes, and he's pretty cool. So I ate lunch with him (because I didn't know anyone else in that lunch). And so I was eating with him and all his friends. Then today, (and a little yesterday...its the second day of school)him, and some of his friends started to hit on me, and try to flirt with me, and wink at me and all that stuff. And it's making me feel really uncomfortable. But, I don't know how to get away from their table now, because I think that they think I'm going to keep sitting with them. I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I also don't like feeling uncomfortable like that. What should I do?? Please help.
Then don't sit there tomorrow. Ask you guy friend to sit with you somewhere else. They are just trying to get rid of you anyway. They know they are making you feel uncomfortable. At least they are only doing it at lunch.
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ok...ive gone on three dates that were awesome, i thought so and so did my date. i got my first kiss onthe third date and i thought everything was going awesome. but she got out of a 2 yr relationship 3 months ago and still considers her ex her best friend along w/ another guy as her best friend. me and her were messin around and she like gave me a nipple twister when she was layin on me so i flicked her boob and it freaked her out...she like made this wierd face and i said sorry cuz she didnt like it...we kissed l8r that night. then the next day she showed up at my work with the guy that she considers her best friend, not her ex though, and she was like in a bad mood that i l8r found out was cuz i flicked her boob and she wanted to make me feel bad about it. she waited for me outside the front door so when i would get off work we could make up...but i park inteh back for work so i didnt know till she called askin where i was and i didnt wanna talk to her neways cuz she was bein mean to me. we got over it l8r on, and the next day she wanted to come up to c me, but she said that she spent the day w/ her ex, so i got pissed and jealous and told her that she shouldnt come and c me. then she said i was an ass to her, so today i apoligized by surprising her with roses. am i in trouble here likin this gurl with her havin her ex and another guy as her best friends? i dont really want to think that i wasted my first kiss on a gurl that doesnt care about me, cuz she used to say taht i was so awesome and so unlike her ex bf and taht taht was a good thing. plz help, thx.
It's ok for a girl in a relatioship to have guy friends. It is not ok to use them like pawns in a chess (or chest ha ha) game. I can't see holding a grudge against a guy for doing one little thing that he already apologized for. I mean if you kept doing it after she said or indicated you to stop, then she could pull all of this garbage. She is just a jerk. I am sorry she was your first kiss, but there are plenty more girls out there that aren't frogs.
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I have this boyfriend, whom I cheated on 3 times already. (He lives 14 hours away from me, he moved). I love him so much, but sometimes I just get lonely of not having him here and I go out and do stupid things. I love him to death and everytime I cheat on him I tell him. I hurt his feelings so much but he always takes me back. I don't know what to do... it's just sometimes, he doesn't even get mad when I tell him I cheat on him. (Or maybe he just acts like hes not mad, but he really is). I've been with him for almost a year, we BOTH love eachother so much.. I just don't know why I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?
Why don't you ask him if you two can just see other people? Then its not cheating. You are obviously feeling lonely and wanting to play the field. Tell him you don't mean not seeing him, but that you need some companionship. He probably doesn't get mad because he is lonely too. There may be a time in the future when you can be closer together, but if its 14 hours you won't see him or have much of a relationship.
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Hey...trust me I know ratings arent everything..but sometimes i think i desserve to get rate for answers i put all my thought,effort,and time into. Im not a rating fanactic...but i just wish people would be courteous to press a simple button and rate me when i really give a good answer. Anyone else agree? I put a lot of time into answering questions for people..i would just like something in return sometimes.
The best thing you should receive in return is that you helped someone who needed it. For some of the best things in life, there is no reward other than someone else benefitted from your actions. It does feel good to get some feedback, but you have to depend on yourself.
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