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What to say?
Hey, I'm 21 years old and female. I have a problem. My boyfriend of 4 years (5 October 3rd!) and I havent had sex yet. He is really not that kindof guy to ask for sex or anything. He's really patient and all we have do is makeout. We were best friends for 2 years before going out and he really respects me. I am ready to lose my virginity to him, because after 5 years of going out shouldent it be time to have some fun? lol I have been on birth control for 2 months just incase when I do ask him if he wants to have sex, he will say yes. I want to tell him I want to lose it on our anniversary but I'm really scared because how am I gonna start the conversation of sex? And since he really respects me and cares for me I think he wouldent want to. But I'm not 16 anymore, I'm a woman and I want to do this. I love him a lot and I just dont know how to ask if he wants to do this! We are talking about marriage so should we just wait till were married? Help!
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if you are that kind of girl that wants to wait.. then wait! :) but just if u wanna have it on yer aneversery then just start taking each others clothes off or something.. just make sure YOU have a condom incase he doesnt!
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hey.. gurlll you should just go for it!
when yall are together for your 5 year..
just start kissin him and stuff and then
just go for it... tell him your ready...
hope i helped xpx nicicole
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Oh please wait. You seem so close to being married already. Sex will totally change your relationship. I am not saying it will be bad. I am saying it will be different. You will more confident if you are married to him because you know he will take care of you. It will be a more healthy situation. I know it isn't easy, but just hold on a little longer.
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You need to talk to him. If you've been with this guy for four years & are talking about marriage, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to talk about sex.
I understand that it can be an awkward issue, especially when you've just been not having sex for so long, but you'll just have to bite the bullet and bring it up. Figure out, as a couple, what is best for you.
I think it's important to let him know you feel ready for sex and see what his reaction is. If he's really in love with you - no matter how much he respects you - then he's been struggling with not having sex. Sex is a natural way for people to express intimacy and love, and perhaps your boyfriend is not ready for that or is confused about his sexuality.
It's all a bunch of 'if's from my end, though. I really think you should bring the topic up in a loving, supportive way. Ask questions, explain how you feel, and let him know how much you love him.
I wish you the best.
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I don't see any reason why you should have to have a conversation before hand. You can set up a really romantic evening to celebrate your anniversary. Maybe a candlelight dinner, or something like that. Then just let nature take it's course. When ya'll start making out, you can just whisper in his ear that you don't want him to stop or that you want to make love to him. Then if the time is truly right, it'll happen.
But on the other hand, what would be more special than making love to the man of your dreams for the first time ever, on your wedding night.
Follow your heart and everything else will fall into place.
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u dont have to wait till marraige if yall are talkn about gettn married ne way, go for it!
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I wouldn't ask him If he wants to I would just iniciate it and then it's not a big deal. I'm sure he wont turn you down.
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I think you should take A.|v|arble's advice. It was very good! =)
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hey. okay if you said you are ready then on that special night...make it really mega romantic and be like you kno i think i'm ready to do this...you wanna and just ask him...i'm sure he'll no wut u mean. be like i kno you respect me and everything and i love you so i'm ready for this and just lead him on...i'm sure you guys will have a great time..lol Take Care...Hope I helped! x3 SweetStar.
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I would say just wait till you're married. You're so close already to getting married. Most likely he hasn't brought it up because he wants to wait till he's married. I know you want to do it but sometimes you just have to resist the temptation and you will find something even better. Maybe your relationship with him will be a lot better if you just don't have sex till your married. They always say it's not a good idea to have sex even when you're engaged because if you break up you have a tight emotional bond toward him and you already gave everything to him. Just stay strong hold it out and maybe even talk to him about it, he'll understand. I hope I helped! good luck
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Just casually bring it up, tell him you think you are ready and ask him if he feels he is and if he isn't then you're fine with it and you respect that, just let him know that you are ready and when he is ready he should tell you.
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I'm thinking that if he hasn't brought it up yet and he hasn't said anything about it, or made any move then he wants to wait until after marrige. You can talk to him about it, but he might not want to have sex just yet. If you're getting married soon, as in the next year or something, then I would wait. But if you're not then say that for your anniversary you want to do something special and if he asks what tell him you think you're ready for sex. Hope I helped! Leave me one in my inbox if I can do anything else for you! =c)
Love, RacheL
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I think after 5 years maybe your both ready. You guys seem very much in love so say something like "(name), I love you and after 5 years of being together, Have you ever thought of taking our relationship to the next level?" and go from there. :)
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