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just want to say right now
that im not prejedice against
anyone that is bi/gay

My Best Friend
Me = alexandra
friend number one
number 2
number 3

my best friend and i have had those three friends for about 2 years and this year they started feeling us up [they are girls and we are too] we thought it was just joke. BUT. today one of my friends said she was bi. and my best friend and i found out they all masturbate together and stuff like that. and latley all of them have ben kinda touchy with me and my best friend.

QUESTION- Do you think they are jokoing around? or Do you think they might be a bisexual? because we arent very sure.


sorry if its
a]confusing
b]long

p.s. i rate

Hi.

It wasn't long or confusing so it's all good. :]

Well, I see no reason why they would say they are bi just for the sake of it but then again some people say that just to seem 'cool'. :/

Assuming that they are bi, what they all do together is really their own business so leave them to it I guess but if you are uncomfortable with how they are touchy feely with you and your friend then the best thing you can do is talk to them about it and just tell them you both prefer they didn't do that because it makes you feel uncomfortable. That is... if it does make you both feel uncomfortable becuase if it doesn't then you don't need to say anything.

As for whether or not it's a joke I really don't know. My ex used to think I was gay and one of my friends was my partner becuase we were always joking around with each other (one of my other friends girlfriend thought there was something going on between him and my brother becuase they also used to joke around a lot). I guess my friend and I are quite close and we're always joking around about things like that with each other, it doesn't really bother us at all. :]

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okay so lately i just haven't had an appitite... i don't know why... but it's like whenever i look at food i want to throw up.. and if i do eat, even just a little i feel really sick to my stomach... so for the past week i haven't really eaten anything... today i had like half a cookie and two bites of my friend's pizza... that's it... does anyone know what's wrong?

I can't say I know what's wrong so I would strongly suggest you see your family doctor to find out because it could very well be something that may need his professional attention.

However, if you've not eaten in so long your stomach will tighten up and eating anything will just become harder without the feeling you're going to throw it up. I've gone without food for 3 days (that was because of a night iut with my cousin and a bottle each of gin - stay away from that stuff it's not good) and on the third day I was very hungry but didn't want to eat because I felt I'd throw it up. I ate anyway though and it made it a lot better. However, you've gone a lot longer without food so start slow with a little food but you MUST eat since it will only be doing your body more and more harm thelonger you dont.
If you really can't get any food down or the feeling of being sick becomes overwhelming then please seek some medical assistance just to make sure there's nothing seriously wrong and to just help with the whole situation.

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first off i wanted to know the percentage or being on birth control and the chance of getting pregnant? Me and my boyfriend had sex and the condom slipped off. He blow it up and it didnt seem to have any holes in it? I still want the percentages though just incase.

The pill is 96-99% effective against pregnancy which is generally why most couples also opt to use the condom as well as the pill.

I'm not sure if you're saying you are on the pill and were using a condom as well whilst having sex but if that's the case I think you should be pretty safe. If you were only using the condom then provided the condom only slipped off without there a risk of any sperm leaking then you should be perfectly safe as well but if you're still worried then you could always visit to your doctor to get tested or try the home pregnancy test just to make certain and get rid of any fears you might have.

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my friend is smart but he is lazy as hell he doesnt care and he brings things in late and just has his priorities mess up he dint do his reasearch paper because he was "sleepin" and he dint finish his presentation because he "needed" to watch a finally
we r onle in 9th grade and he thinks all i do is preach wat should i do i rele dont want him to end up fallin that happened to my cousin

The same thing happen to one of my cousins too so I know exactly how you feel but the thing is there is only so much you can do. You can't force him to be un-lazy because it just doesn't work that way - he has to make an effort as well otherwise it will do o good anyway. You've done your part by being concerned andshowing him you are worried about him (maybe tell him why you're so worried and 'preach' to him because the last thing he would want is ending up like what happen to your cousin). Make sure he knows why you're always on his case but tell him as well you can only do so much, you can't MAKE him get off his ass to do his work and such, he needs to take some responsibility himself as well. If he still doesn't get his act together then at least you had tried. At this point I'm not syaing stop caring about him but I am saying there's only so much you or anyone can do. He needs to take responsibility for himself as well.

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So i'm joining a new gym that has every kind of machine you could think of- and a pool. I just don't know what to do (like how many reps of each thing, and which machines should i use)

So if anyone could suggest a specific workout to do there that would be great.

also- how many laps should I swim and which strokes?
Today I did ten, but i don't know how much that is in comparison to a mile.


I'm teenage girl if that helps. I can run a mile at 5.5 mph without stopping- so I'm not completely out of shape or anything. I do need to lose about 20 pounds to be healthy though.

So I need a workout that will help me lose these 20 pounds.

thanks.

I'm not sure as to what exercise you should do because I can't really advise on that but if you've recently joined a gym most of them usually have their staff walkin around to help and assist the members (at least at all the gyms I've been to have and I've been to a low scale gym and to a higher scale gym as well) and they all are there to help you.

If you've paid to become a member and such you should seek their help and ask them to advise you on what you should do and how many reps you should do for maximum effect for the results you are looking to get. They get these questions all the time and are (or should be at least - if their not then I'd wonder why they are there at all) more than qualified to be able to advise you.

I'm a member at a place called David Lloyds and even though their membership is the most expensive where I live (we have 3 gyms in my town) all of them provide assistance and help when it comes to advising on what exercises their members should do. I was lucky when I had joined and was able to join a free program where they had arranged for me to meet with one of the people working there who went through and worked out a personalised plan for me.

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okay, I don't want to make this a really long story but I dated this guy for 8 months...we broke up the end of February. He was my first "real" boyfriend and I was crushed when he said we should see other people. After about a month I realized things about our relationship that I couldn't see when I was in it. I've met a new guy now and we've been dating almost two months. The two of them are like opposites. My new guy is so sweet. I've been feeling like he's the best thing that's ever happened to me. Yesterday, my ex called me and wanted to know if we could go out again. I guess he had looked at my myspace because he knew that I was seein someone else. He was begging me to give him another chance. I can't believe that I am thinking about it even though I know that it will mess up what I have with this new guy. Is it possible to like two guys at the same time? Why do I want to go back to the "bad" guy and chance losing this guy that has been nothin but great???

I'd have to agree with what VixenLuna said but I jus wanted to add that you also have to remember that the only reason he might now be coming back saying he wants another chance is because he has seen you have moved on. It seems it's more out of jealousy than anything else and the last thing you need is for him to be with you for a while and then a few months later decide you both should be able to see other people again. I can almost guarantee the only reason he even said that in the first place was probably because he had someone in mind he wanted to see but still wanted to keep you as a backup incase things didn't work out. I see no reason why you should have had to wait while he was out seeing other people and why you have to drop who your seeing just because he now has second thoughts or wants to carry on where you both left off.
I'd say you stick with the new guy you met and see how things go. He moved on and so did you. :]

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I'm trying to make amends with my best guy friend. We could talk about ANYTHING and we used to hang out. I miss that so now I'm talking to him a lot more to get closer to him again. I've noticed this though.. Right before he goes to bed, I say "I wuv/love you" He really does mean a lot to me.

I have a boyfriend who tells me he loves me. But honestly, i don't love him. I take LOVE seriously. It's only been 3 months.. I've talked to him about this and I'll tell him when the feelings right ..when I'm ready. But this is my question: is telling some other guy that I "love" him.. bad?

My best guy friend.. we had a past together and we dated for over 13 months. My boyfriend knows about that.

Is this cheating of some sort? I'm so confused as to what it is..

Hi.

I think the whole thing isn't a matter of right and wrong or black and white. It has that fine line in between or that 'grey area'. The thing is I don't see it as cheating or a bad thing at all, how can it be? I agree that you're only supposed to tell the person you truly love that you love them and you say it when you mean it but you can love more than one person right? Like your friends, family, your boy/girl friend.

Love between a family, friends and your partner are different forms of love even though the word is the same. You love your friend because of all the history, trust and so forth. You love your boyfriend because, well, the same reasons perhaps or because he makes you feel whole (eventually, if/when it happens that is). My point is just that the word is the same but the meaning (or should I say the actual feelings) are two different things. I mean I tell a few of my friends I love them too yet I could never see myself with them because I value and care about them as dear friends. Yet if/when I had a girlfriend I don't think I would be doing anything wrong in still tellingmy friends I love them - because me having a girlfriend doesn't change what they still mean to me as friends nor do I love them any less.

Hope you understand what I am trying to say - it's actually pretty hard to put it into words, hehe.

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ok well mum saiid i can only invite 3 boyz to my birthday now every one heard and there all saying y didnt you invite me and im noy allowed wat do ii say :(:(:( to say no sorry =[

Happy birthday for when it's your birthday. :]

Just tell them the truth, and say that you could only invite 3 guys and you invited them. If they ask why they weren't the 3 just say you picked their name out by random so it was all luck and they didn't get lucky. It should solve the problem with everyone complaining. I know it's a little white lie but in this case I think it's more than justified since they'll just whine and complain about it otherwise for God knows how long about how you didn't think thy were worthy enough to be picked. :| That's one headache not worth going through.

If they are still not asatisfied with your reason then tell themit's the way it is so complaining to you will make no difference since what your mom says is the way it goes. They should back off after that but if they don't just ignore them (then they wonder WHY they wasn't invited after being like that). Don't let them get you down though or make you sad - you have a good time and hope ya get tons of prezzies. :D

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what do you value the most? and why?

Life.

You only live once but I've been luckyenough to die once and come back - it gives a person a whole new perspective on life and how very quickly and without warning it can be taken away.

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my friends step brother is 25 and my friend is 13 ... he is 100 % philipino and my friend is half ... well he lives in the house with my friend and well ;awhile back like a few months ago she only told me a few things that happenedsuch as he was forcing her to touch his penis , and play around with him and other dirty stuff like that .
well her sister told my older sister that she got molested.
and i was wondering , does that me he put his penis inside of her , or did just playing with his penis also count as molestation ?
i wanna know
im scared for her
because my sister found out that she was molested and im not sure if i understood !

Being molested can be everything your friend said that had happen to her. If he had gone as far as having sex with her then it would have been known as statutory rape (having sex with someone who is a minor and underage whether they gave permission for the at or not) and not molestation. Molestation basicaly is known as sexual abuse in any forms be it non-consensual, forced or psycological.

I feel bad for your friend for having togo through something so horrible and the fact he has not been caught so far (it happen to her sister and now it's happening to your friend as well so he's moved on from one sister onto the next) and it will more likely continue until he can be stopped.

If she wishes to do something about it I would strongly advise seeking professional help to deal with this as well as her getting help to deal with and with mental and physical trauma she may have suffered from the abuse. Contacting the police would be a very good start as they will be VERY helpful and will protect her from him, so she shouldn't be afraid of seeking out help. If she is not able to or is afraid to seek help you may be able to do so for her especially if you fear for your friends safety. She may get mad at you for trying to help but in the long run better to have your friend mad at you than to have your friend suffer more abuse at this sick guys hands. This is and has to be your decision though (as well as your friends) because as much as I would love to try help more than just writing here I am unable to. You won't be alone though since the police may back track on where he's been staying before and discover it's not just happen with your friend and her sister.

You and/or your friend may alsofind this site very helpful so please do check it out. http://www.rainn.org/

Good luck and do let me know please how things go.

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my name is Kristin and I'm 19 I am engaged to be married to a wonderful guy. I love him dearly and would do anything for him. The only problem is that he wants us to go to the JOP and sign the license so we can get BAH from the Army right away and have the ceremony part later on. I'm ok with that and told him we could have the ceremony in September. He doesn't want us to have the ceremony until almost a year after we've been married because money is a little tight. I don't think theres any point to the ceremony a year after were already married. I want to marry him but I want the perfect wedding and I have spent alot of time planning but he thinks we should wait. I don't know if we should bother having a ceremony a year later or just have it 2 or 3 months after we get married. someone please help.

Firstly, congrats on the engagement. :]

Hmm, I think the best thing to do is to have a heart toheart chat with him about this. I think if I were in your place I would agree with you as well because I would also want it to be special and waiting a whole year would just seem to take that whole magic away of having the cerimony. Poor choice of words but I hope you undertsand what I mean.

I think having a talk with him and explaining to him about how you feel about it will do some good. Explain you want it to be perfect and you don't want to wait a whole year because of all the plans you've made as well. Tell him from the heart and why you can't/don't want to wait a year for the ceremony and I think he will more than understand. :] One way would be to just hold off on the getting married part until closer to the time of having the money for the big ceremony. That way you're both getting what you want although it would just mean being engaged for that little bit longer.

Hope I was a little help.

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okay so there's this guy i really like, we're pretty good friends. his friend and i went out for a while.. but we broke up... there was NO chemistry. so then me and the guy i really like, we'll call him nick, did some... *ahem* type stuff... but then we had a date planed, he stood me up, and ever since then it's been kinda akward with us. but latly he's been majorly hitting on me one day, and the next he'll completely ignore me... i can't understand him. And then yesterday i asked him to sign my year book and he's like "i'm not gonna sign your s**t." and since i was in a bad mood cuz of family problems i was like "okay whatever, f***ing prick." Then today he was really sweet, he did all his little i like you type things... but it's like i never know what to expect, ya know? so i'm just wondering what to think... i'm soo lost... can anyone give me a little advice on what to do? sorry this question's sooo long. Thank you in advance ^_^

Hello.

I just want to make sure I have understood this clearly...

YOu both were friends, then went out, broke up, stayed friends after that but still and did some stuff together then had a date planned for which he never showed up and now back to being just friends or sort of, since you can't figure out what's up with him, right?

Sounds to me like he wanted some fun but doesn't want anything long term. You're both not compatible with each other when it comes to a relationship since it was the reason you both broke up in the first place but then you did some stuff together and afterwards when you arranged a date he never bothered to show up. Perhaps because he didn't think that doing stuff together would have resulted in you both getting serious to the point you'd both end up in a date (which is something he may not have wanted and so just stood you up). Now, he's been acting a jerk towards you and I'm not entirely sure why since it sounds like a stupid way to be acting towards you but then all of a sudden he's all nice and shit. Maybe he's just after the same kinda thing that happen before with you both but without the strings?

I'm not sure to be honest but it's the impression that I get. He has no reason to be so hostile towards you so I think before it does come down to you giving in to whatever he says and something else like before happening again you make sure where it is you stand with him. If he wants to be friends keep it to that because having a friendship with benefits will just create problems (trust me I know especially when one of the persons gets emotionally involved) unless it's what YOU want as well. If you're after a meaningful relationship though then, again, think twice becuase you already tried once and there was nothing there so would it even be worth trying again? Not to mention he had the chance to try again with that date but he stood you up. If it really meant that much to him he would have at least said afterwards to re-arrange the date.

I think first and foremost though you need to find out where you stand with him. Does he want your friendship or not because it's unfair onyou to out up with his abusive outbreaks and then the next day be all friendly with you like nothing happen. People like that piss me off especially since I've had people act like that towards me as well. It gets really annoying. Good luck. :]

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my husband and i enjoy love making when we do get into it with out a question, he is very passionate and always willing to please me and i would really like to do the same in making him as happy as he made me, we have been married almost a year with blessings and very happy. no i'm not complaining beleave me so here it goes.

my question is can sex satisfied a man to the point of where he doesn't go a stray to look eles where?
can a man be happy with the same woman for a live time and be contented with sex if he is being pleasured always?

Hi.

Intersting question indeed and I don't think there really is an answer because every guy is so different. I personally don't even know why guys would stray away from who they are with because if they have something/someone special there by their side why risk it all for something so stupid? Has never made much sense to me but I guess it's all down to the very essence of what mankind really is.

I'd like to think he married you with the intention of wanting to be with and stay with you for good so doubt (and hope he wouldn't) really need to look elsewhere at all. Guys occasionaly do and will look though (remember the saying look but don't touch?) and thatin itself is not avoidable because a lot of women do the same thing as well. It's not a sign that something is wrong or anything it's just human nature. The real problem happens when either decide or have the need to want to act on those feelings. To answer your question more directly though I think yes, a man can be more than happy with the same woman for a lifetime AND be content with their sex life always provided there is communication. The only time when things go wrong is when there is a problem with communication. Sex is just one of the things that make up a marriage/relationship and provided there's communication there to ensure both individuals are happy and are satisfied with the other in the bedroom there shouldn't be any problems. Logically thinking about it, if you're sexlives are awesome and you're satisfied with each other then you wouldn't and shouldn't need to stray from the nest. But then there's nothing logical about how some guys act/think. :/

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I've been liking this guy for a while now, and I don't know what he's thinking. He sits with or near me in the classes we have together, and we have some very flirtatious inside jokes. We flirt a lot, but I don't know if he's reading my flirting as more than fun, and I'm worried he is just flirting for fun. Also, he gets VERY immature around certain guy-friends, but not as much with me. Does that mean something?
Oh, and my friends asked him out a while ago, and he did NOT take it very well.

To be honest it seems to be nothing more than innocent flirting. It happens but sometake it far too seriously and make something out of something that isn't there. His reactions though, from what you've said, seem to indicate it's just innocent fun to him hence he does the same with others too. I'm exactly the same with a lot of my friends and girls I talk to as well. It's all innocent flirting because I think if one of them turned to me and told me they like me I'd be pretty shocked. :O Although I do understand your frustrations in you flirting seriously and him not taking it seriously. The fact that he was very annoyed with your friends asking him out as well may indicate that he's not looking for that kind of thing at the moment, but I'm not sure. You're friends with him though so maybe you should ask him about it when you both are alone and talking? I'm sure it's no secret your friends asked him out so why not ask him about it and ask him how come he had taken it so badly as wellas how come he had said no to them/her. It may give you better insight into what he is looking for or who he's looking for.

As for him acting immature around certain friends that's normal behaviour so don't think anything of it. I'm immature all the time, lol. But more so when I'm around certain people - it's just who I am really. Like all my cousins, when we all get together we like having a good laugh and we let out the little boys in us. It's not about 'acting' immature at all with us - more just letting loose and being ourselves and being able to have a good laugh (which we always do). So I don't think you should think anything of it really. :] He may not be that way with you just because you're a girl. Not being sexist or anything but even with me - I'm the same as him. I am more immature with and around my guy friends than I ever am around any of my female friends. Not really sure why and have never really thought about it much.

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okay so there is this girl in our school and her dad recentley got a good job. it's not a great job though. she thinks she can afford anything and she told everybody that her mustang 2007 was over $100,000 dollars. NOT true. it isn't fully loaded and it has no special features. can that possibly be true???????? next she all told us she bought this dress for $400 dollars. no one believes her though because it's pretty plain and not that cute. she is crazy.

so here is the link
tell me what you think if it is
really worth $400 dollars ( and it fit her fine she didn't have to have any hemming or alterations done. nothing was done to it. ABSOLUTLY NOTHING!)

http://photos-042.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sf2p/v78/172/43/1439070035/n1439070035_5042_2806.jpg

tell me what you think about the dress, car, and her.

I'm not really sure about the car but then I'm thinking all the insurance and all that jazz to go with buying the car the price could be pretty high - she may have rounded the figure off including all the extras that needed to be paid (I'm not sure though since I would imagine it is slightly different from here in the UK to over there in the USA).

As for the dress - I have to admit the dress does look really nice, very stunning. As for the price, it's very believeable. Dresses, especially like those for formal/special occasions and such, seem to be extremely highly priced. As someone already said, the place she brought it from as well as the dress' make may all contribute towards the cost as some makes can be very expensive. I've seen original Rolex watches here in the UK highstreet stores selling for £1000+ and these watches looked completely plain and dull to me yet their price was extremely high - all because they are made byand have the Rolex name on them. A perfect example that people who fork out for these kind of things are paying for the brand they are wearing and not the actual watch (I mean seriously - a watch that's £1000 will tell the time just as good as a watch that's £10). So the dress being $400 is very much possible. :]

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okay so theres this guy named luke that i wasnt friends with until a couple weeks ago.i reaaaaallllllly like him.he is madd hott,a really good dancer,and absolutly hilarious.he gives me piggyback rides and we fool around all the time.bit i have a few problems.one of my best friends likes him-and liked him before i did.there was a long story to go with it but basically she asked him out and he sed no,so no shes hurt.but he didnt mean to hurt her.but no he has a new gf,which brings me to my next problem.shes a stupid whore who broke my friends heart by cheating on him...and im pretty sure guys only date her because shes easy,well thats what they tell me.after they break up he would prolly go out with me but what about my friend?oh and theres a dance this friday that hes going to and its gonna be really dark with only glow sticks as light--corny but SOOO fun.i cant go tho cuz i have to go to my stupid sisters graduation even tho she never comes to anything of mine.and then theres one more dance which is only for the 8th graders (me).oh ya lukes in 7th grade.and has a really hot body-sorry i forgot to add that.so anyway,what do i do? i really wanna dance with him and go out with him but i have no opportunities to do so.please answer all questions.thanks

Well, if he said no to your friend it's understandable she might be hurt but if he does like you and wants to go out with you it'snot your fault he feels that way about you but IF it comes to that then you could always talk to your frend and see how she feels about it all and if she's okay with it but bare in mind one thing - ONLY ask her if you intend to actually act on what she says. If she says she's not okay with it and such then you go out with him anyway would there have been any point in asking her? Alternatively just say to her that what's happen and that you're going to say yes and how she feels about it and just try and be there for her. I think better she hears it from you anyway than someone else going around saying how you both are going out.

However, this brings me to another question for you, is this the kind of guy you really want to be dating? He's currently going out with someone who is easy so how do you know that's not why he would be dating you? How do you know that's not what he thinks of you? You seem very certain that he will break up with her so how do you know that he intends to even have a relationship with you and not just a passing phase where he will stay with you a while - just until another girl comes along who takes his interest. You may well end up being the girl he ditches for this new girl and next thing you'll know everyone will be saying how he only went out with you because you were easy. :/ Worth thinking about. You seem to have noticed what he's like physically on the outside but that's about it - there's more to a person that just looking hott and being able to dance.

As for opportiunity, since it's a dance for your grade and not his I'll assume he won't be there in which case if you want to go out with him and spend time with him and such than talk to him and arrange to go out sometime. I don't mean on a date since he already has a gf (but hey - if he's willing to go behind her back to try things on with you then at least you'll know he has no problems with cheating on his gf). She may be a stupid whore but one wrong turn doesn't deserve another (just becuase she cheated on him it doesn't mean he has to stoop down to her level and do it too because it makes him no better than her). Just talk to him and arrange to go out to the movies with a unch of friends or something and you'll be able to send time with him that way.

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hi. i am 14 and a female. so, i just started going out with this guy a couple of days ago. i just met him about 4 weeks ago. but, he's had a bad past. like, with drugs and stuff. so.. yeah, my friend kinda in a way set us up though. like, i met him when she was around. well, just this last weekend, she told him to ask me out, cause he told her that he liked me. so, the other day, he got my number and called me. and he asked me out. i wanted advice from my friend, and she said that i could go out with him, even though, before this all even happened, she told me all of the bad stuff he has done before. but, in the end i said yes. he's pretty nice to me too. but i didn't want a lot of people to know, but somehow a lot of people ended up finding out. and all of those people are my friends, but today they were all like "you need to break up with him!" and "he's not right for you!" and just crap like that. and the friend that pretty much set us up, today she was like "you know that the only reason i told you guys to go out is so that this would be a life lesson kinda thing, right?" and i was like "what are you talking about?" and she said " i told you you should say yes so you could learn a lesson" and i was like "and what lesson would that be?" and she was like "to not date bad guys". and i was just thinking, omg, one of my best friends has pretty much screwed me over. everyone thinks i sould break up with him. i'm starting to think that, but i think it's because they are putting it into my head. like, ok, so what if hes done drugs and gotton into trouble and stuff before, he's only human, right? like, everyone makes mistakes. i'm pretty sure that he's trying to change. but i don't know what to do. i'm not sure if i sould break up with him, or go out with him. he is my first boyfriend i've ever had. so what to u guys think i should do? i don't know what to think anymore, and i already know what my friends think. thanks. bye.

Firstly you're 'friend' is an idiot. Sure people need to learn from their mistakes but that doesn't mean you throw your friend infront of the train so they learn not to step onto the tracks for next time!

As for the guys past - it's funny how everyone does say he's a bad person and such yet I'd be willing to bet that most of them can't really be all that innocent. What was it that someone once said? "He who is without sin cast why first stone..." Realistically, how many of us can really say we're without sin nowadays?

Thing is you don't really know this guy all that well so he may well be what everyone is making him out to be but on the other hand he may have changed. The only real way you'll know is by getting to know him better. Whether you want to stay with him as a gf will be your decision but either way I think you'd need to learn a lot more about him to decide for yourself whether he has actually changed for the better or not.

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so im single. and this guy and i kinda kiss like a playful one i guess. its just for fun and we both know it. what do yall think? should i stop?

why should you? I don't think there's anything wrong with kissing at all moreso if you're single and can do so without getting your other half mad at you. :]

I kiss a number of my friends when I meet them (as a hello) and when I say goodbye. It's only on the cheek but I have kissed others on the lips for the same reason before and it means nothing, just a friendly thing really.

I don't think just kissing this guy will make you a slut, at least not in my eyes anyway. If you feel there's no harm in it and you don't think it's wrong then by all means carry on. The only downside you may experience from it is that some guy/s who might be interested in you may think (from you both kissing) that you're a couple so would just back off and not do or say anything. It's why I sometimes have to be careful when I'm out with friends too since a lot of them like sitting with me cuddled up or linking arms etc. Apparently, I'm nice to cuddle. :-/

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15/f/Australia

Like, I know you drop the weight and stuff, and I was just wondering what else happens. I remember someone saying what happened but I forgot. Don't worry I'm not even thinking about only eating it, I'm just curious.

Don't worry I'm not even thinking about only eating it, I'm just curious

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ok so we connected internet, road runner, on my computer. so now we dont have dialup we have a modem. which is way easier and better.
but now my dad bought me a laptop and i tried to connect my modem to my laptop to get internet but i cant what can i do to get internet on my laptop. it doesnt matter if i cant get it on my computer anymore because my dad is going to sell it but i want to use my laptop but dont know how to get internet. please help thanks!

Hi.

I'm a little confused as to exactly what you are trying to do. Are you using an ADSL modem to connect to the internet or is it just normal internet (dialup) which you are trying to access through your laptop?

Normally ADSL modems are USB modems which you just connect into the USB port on a laptop, install it and then access the internet that way (this is how I access the internet at the moment since my computers graphics card died).

If the modem you are using has a normal telephone line connector on it (the kind you get at the end of the telephone cord that goes into the wall) your laptop may need a modem to be connected directly into it's card slot which is usually on the side in a compartment.

Hope this was helpful but as I said I wasn't able to completely understand the details of your question.

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