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wedding now or wait??
my name is Kristin and I'm 19 I am engaged to be married to a wonderful guy. I love him dearly and would do anything for him. The only problem is that he wants us to go to the JOP and sign the license so we can get BAH from the Army right away and have the ceremony part later on. I'm ok with that and told him we could have the ceremony in September. He doesn't want us to have the ceremony until almost a year after we've been married because money is a little tight. I don't think theres any point to the ceremony a year after were already married. I want to marry him but I want the perfect wedding and I have spent alot of time planning but he thinks we should wait. I don't know if we should bother having a ceremony a year later or just have it 2 or 3 months after we get married. someone please help.
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Firstly, congrats on the engagement. :]
Hmm, I think the best thing to do is to have a heart toheart chat with him about this. I think if I were in your place I would agree with you as well because I would also want it to be special and waiting a whole year would just seem to take that whole magic away of having the cerimony. Poor choice of words but I hope you undertsand what I mean.
I think having a talk with him and explaining to him about how you feel about it will do some good. Explain you want it to be perfect and you don't want to wait a whole year because of all the plans you've made as well. Tell him from the heart and why you can't/don't want to wait a year for the ceremony and I think he will more than understand. :] One way would be to just hold off on the getting married part until closer to the time of having the money for the big ceremony. That way you're both getting what you want although it would just mean being engaged for that little bit longer.
Hope I was a little help.
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