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hi. i am 14 and a female. so, i just started going out with this guy a couple of days ago. i just met him about 4 weeks ago. but, he's had a bad past. like, with drugs and stuff. so.. yeah, my friend kinda in a way set us up though. like, i met him when she was around. well, just this last weekend, she told him to ask me out, cause he told her that he liked me. so, the other day, he got my number and called me. and he asked me out. i wanted advice from my friend, and she said that i could go out with him, even though, before this all even happened, she told me all of the bad stuff he has done before. but, in the end i said yes. he's pretty nice to me too. but i didn't want a lot of people to know, but somehow a lot of people ended up finding out. and all of those people are my friends, but today they were all like "you need to break up with him!" and "he's not right for you!" and just crap like that. and the friend that pretty much set us up, today she was like "you know that the only reason i told you guys to go out is so that this would be a life lesson kinda thing, right?" and i was like "what are you talking about?" and she said " i told you you should say yes so you could learn a lesson" and i was like "and what lesson would that be?" and she was like "to not date bad guys". and i was just thinking, omg, one of my best friends has pretty much screwed me over. everyone thinks i sould break up with him. i'm starting to think that, but i think it's because they are putting it into my head. like, ok, so what if hes done drugs and gotton into trouble and stuff before, he's only human, right? like, everyone makes mistakes. i'm pretty sure that he's trying to change. but i don't know what to do. i'm not sure if i sould break up with him, or go out with him. he is my first boyfriend i've ever had. so what to u guys think i should do? i don't know what to think anymore, and i already know what my friends think. thanks. bye.
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if he's not being a bad guy to you, then why should you break up with him? i would consider your 'friend' a bitch for doing that, because thats really mean. just ignore what everyone says and plus, everyone wants a bad boy once in their lives ;)
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dont fall into the peer pressure. i know how corny that sounds but its true. just because people want you to break up with him doesnt mean you should. if everyone told you to jump off the empire state building would you?haha. he may have had a bad past but people always change. everyone deserves a second chance,right? if you really like him, then stay with him and see what happens. if he continues doing the drugs and stuff then you should probably break up with him..because he might try to get you to try them too. i think you should just give it another week or so and see what happens. if he doesnt change, then you can dump him if you want. but its your call. i hope i helpedd =]
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Firstly you're 'friend' is an idiot. Sure people need to learn from their mistakes but that doesn't mean you throw your friend infront of the train so they learn not to step onto the tracks for next time!
As for the guys past - it's funny how everyone does say he's a bad person and such yet I'd be willing to bet that most of them can't really be all that innocent. What was it that someone once said? "He who is without sin cast why first stone..." Realistically, how many of us can really say we're without sin nowadays?
Thing is you don't really know this guy all that well so he may well be what everyone is making him out to be but on the other hand he may have changed. The only real way you'll know is by getting to know him better. Whether you want to stay with him as a gf will be your decision but either way I think you'd need to learn a lot more about him to decide for yourself whether he has actually changed for the better or not.
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