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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
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Hey i'm 15 and all in love ^.^ and i'm a girl. So i like really was wondering if someone could help me out here on finding a song to dedicate to my boyfriend. I want something poppy and fun. something like 'it's so amazing being in love with you!!!' and preferably sang by a girl. More then one song would be helpful and nothing too mainstream if ya get what i mean. It would be really greatly appreciated thank you

I'm really into bands that aren't mainstream.. so here's a bunch I think you'll love :] ...

- hey monday: 6 months
- Kate Voegele: Manhattan from the sky
- Audio Summer: we're perfect
- The summer set: Love
- Trillit: A perfect feeling
- Trillit: It's love
- A rocket to the moon:
- Stereo Skyline: Heartbeat
- Stephen Jerzak: Cute
- My favorite Highway: Dreamer
- Automatic Loveletter: changing skies
- Lostprophets: all ways always
- Anberlin: Inevitable
- The follow through: so high
- Hellogoodbye: here in your arms

if you need anymore, just inbox me :] good luck and have fun ! enjoy. xxo.
- cashcash: sugar rush

I have spent so long knowing people talk shit about me behind my back both because of my different personality and my physical appearance. I just want the physical appearance thing to stop ... I can't handle it sometimes ... why are people so cruel? It's not like I am really fat at all, but I'm a big guy ... I just hate how cruel the world can be when even close friends talk shit behind your back about shallow things like the way you look ... why?

People suck.
it's a simple as that, but also just as complicated as that because ot every person is bad. and i think we've all been down that road, where we've been talked about and bitched about for multiple reasons. I know I've been through it, and still am. it's not something I enjoy, it really hurts me. and honestly, they are NOT your friends if they can do that to you .. and make you feel so low, when you're not. dont listen to other people who are only trying to bring you down so they can bring themselves up and feel better baout themselves because they are insecure and IMMATURE. people like that are going to be the ones who end up with absolutley no friends, or at least no REAL friends. People are cruel by nature .. it seems like everyone needs and WANTS something to talk about and gossip about. like, what happened to talking about random things like, unicorns ? haha, honestly. like.. now, its like gossiping and beating on one person gives people common ground and someone to equally hate or dislike. It's not fair. and I'm so sorry this is happening to you. But don't let it get to you. you are who you are, and that is a GREAT person. But stand up for yourself ! That's the best thing you can do, don't just let them walk all over you, because then they will keep doing it. talk to them, make them aware that you know and that it's NOT okay on any terms. They just want to make themselves feel better. Just remmeber, you're awesome. and i give you so much credit for dealing with it, it gets really hard trying to keep this all inside :[ so dont. and try to find new friends, who are actually worthy of your freidnship and deserve you.
good luck ! hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me [i can relate] xxo.

is it okay to not want people to go to your house?
cuz i always go to my friends houses.
do they want to come here?

It's totally normal, I mean, your friend might want to come over, but I don't think it matters, if it did, they'd probably mention it and say something like, "hey, why don't we go to your house today instead ?" then you'd know if they wanted to come over your house or not.. you could also bring it up with them and ask them about it, but thats your choice and your perfectly normal, so don't worry about it :]
good luck ! have fun and hope i helped ! xxo.

Why do guys take pride in protecting their girls?

It makes them feel like the "alfa male" so-to-speak hahaa. they like to feel needed and kind of liek "marking" their territory. It's like if you had a million dollars in a bag and you wanted to protect that bag from anyone who could potentially try to take it away from you, you would take pride in knowing you didn't let anyone take it away from you.. it's the same way with guys, but instead of bags of money, it's their girl. haha. I really hope that made sense, it's just, it makes the guys feel really masculine and good about themselves, like they're so tough. they also do it to show off a little bit for their girls, even though they don't admit it, it's so obvious :] its really just a possesive thing, instinctive.
hope i helped ! good luck :] xxo.

I am 12 and I NEED A JOB! Where does someone this young get a job? How do you get babysitting customers? I dont want to babysit my friend's kids because it feels awkward getting paid by someone you know. HELP

I'm 16 and I can't even get a job because this economy sucks .. haha, so, not to discourage you or anything, but it's going to be really hard to get a job right now .. but you seem pretty responsible, so I guess you could try getting a job babysitting .. make a website online and e-mail it to your friends and family, asking them to e-mail it to people they know that have young kids in need of babysitting :] because, most people don't usually look at flyers, yuh know ? You could also ask people from different neighborhood if they need any yard work done .. like watering flowers or anything for a little cash. you could also just stick to chores in your own home and getting your parents to reward you in some way .. or yuh know, there's always the "lemonade stand" approach, which on hot summer days, actually brings in a lot of cash. no joke. :]
good luck and have fun ! hope i helped, xxo.

i am living with my boyfriend at home with my mum i am 16 & he is 25 & i have been with him a year now i know about our age diffrence but i love him so much and i want to be with him forever but we have been arguing latly and one day i went on his imesh a website were you can download music and meet people and he had set his own account up and he had pictures of himself with no top on and o the acount it asks a question 'what i'm here for and he has clicked the date and hook up choice i confronted him about it and neally kicked him out but he got really upset and told me it was a mistake i forgave him but now he should be making up to me but hes just acting the same way as he always did and i am startin to wonder wether i had made the right decision ????

No one on this site can tell you what to do, but we can guide you in the right direction.. therefore, if your giving yourself two options, to either forgive him and forget about what he did or get rid of him .. my vote is for the second option. I say kick him out and dump him. Obviously he never thought you were gonna see the site, and by being sneaky, that is one of the WORST signs. thats like .. number one warning sign, going behind your back and LOOKING for other girls to get with when he's with you .. technically, thats cheating. so think about it, do you want to keep wasting your time on him ? Obviously he isn't as commited to you as you are to him, and he's probably acting like nothing happened because he wants you to forget about it, but he'll just keep looking for other girls. some guys just never change.
Just because he got "upset" that you were about to kick him out, does not mean he's not faking or lying about that feeling just like he was faking not being in a relationship on that site and lying to you about it .. by not telling you it even existed. honestly, put aside how you feel about him and THINK about what he did. you can't have a relationship with no trust, and like .. trusting him after what he did .. is what he wants. he thinks you'll just forgive him after everything .. and he's going to take advantage of that .. in my opinion, if i were you, i would tell him that "this relationship is a mistake just like the mistake you made on the website." then kick him out. but it's up to you.. follow your heart and picture your life with him a couple months or years from now .. are you going to be really happy, or just pretending ? I mean, you can do so much better than a 25 year old who is willing to go behind your back and cheat on you.
good luck ! hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to contact me. xxo. :]

18/f 18/m
Okayy so i met michael on Myspace and we talked for a while. So about two weeks later we actually met face to face and that same nighht he asked if i got sneak him in so i did. We had sex about three times with a condom but the 4th time we didnt use one and he got scared that i might get pregnant so he bought me the "plan b". And we never spoke to each other again.
So now 5 months later he texted saying he wanted to see me and me being so stupid i said yes and we had sex again and he told me he loved mee but that he didnt wanna be with me because he's leaving to the marines and i said i'd wait for him and all he said was that it wasn't gonna work out that wayy and walked out the door:(

what do i do to make him realize we're right for each other and that it'll work out when he leaves...
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

I know this probably won't be what you want to hear, but hun, think about it ... if he wanted to be with you, he would make it work .. actually he would have MADE it work by now, but it seems to me as if he's just using you for sex. and you are SO much better than that, you deserve someone who wants what you want. I mean, when you had the pregnancy scare, he ditched you .. what kind of guy does that ? guys that don't care and who are insignificant assholes. Obviously, he doesn't know a great girl when he sees one, because he's losing you, and you're a great person ! His loss. I just think that you should consider not going after him, or beggin for him to believe that you guys are right for eachother, because i believe that you can do 100% better than him. It's guys like him who keep you hanging around for when they want you ..
But okay, if you REALLY want to try to get him to believe tat you guys have something real and that you are meant for eachother and can make it work, go after him. call him and tell him that you won't let him just leave like that because you actually have strong feelings that aren't just going to go away when he walks out of the door .. you have to take charge and show him whos boss. maybe even write to him while hes gone .. but the only thing you can do is try to talk to him to get him to know how you feel .. and if he doesn't agree, you did all you could .. and should just let him go because you deserve better and there IS better out there.
good luck girl :/ I really wish guys didn't suck so much, I'm sorry. this isn't your fault and you'll be okay, I promise. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me anytime, hope i helped ! xxo.

Ok this guy im crazy about him. I've told him how felt like two years ago he didnt' feel the same. Were like really close now, and this summer we hav been talking a LOT! I really thought I was over him but when I saw him today all those feelings came rushing back. I've tried getting over him in the past but it just doesn't stick. Everytime he gives he smiles or teases me the emotions come back. I want to get over him I do, but part me just doesnt want to. I'm so confused and I have no idead how he feels about. I'm stuck and need help.

Simple answer: you're not over him.
Simple soloution: none.
Okay, haha, you are in a complicated situation, no matter which way you look at it. and i have been in your position, and it blows MAJORLY. It's confusing and takes up your brain until all you are trying to figure out is what to do, yuh know ? and you even said it yourself in your question, the first 7 words you started with, "ok this guy im crazy about him" .. notice how you didn't use past tense and say, "ok this guy i was crazy about him" .. see the difference. just the way you write things make the difference. it's your heart telling you not to give up on him, but your mind telling you the exact opposite. So don't fight your feelings. if you are trying to convince yourself that you don't like someone, thats when you KNOW you like them. and you can't help who you like.. you can try, but you'll just keep running back to them until you get your feelings out, so tell this guy how you feel. what's the worst that could happen ? he says he just doesnt feel the same way ? big deal. there are other guys WORTHY of you out there, he's not the only one and plus :] he could always want to try dating you .. but you have to be honest with YOURSELF before you are honest with him. Obviously he flirts with you, which means he's into you, helloooooo :] thats a GREAT sign right there. if you don't know how he feels about you, you have to ASK him, communication is key .. I know its scary, but it's a risk you have to be willing to take or you'll be thining for the rest of your life, "what if i told him how i felt and made the first move?" and you'll never know, unless YOU TRY :] ! you can do it ! or you can get one of your friends to ask. but keep talking to him and don't ignore your feelings ! flirt with him and act on your impulses [unless you impulses are totally insane, then don't do that]
But really, fate is fate, you can't fight it. and you have to learn to trust your heart. I'm almost positive that he will not shoot you down when you tell him how you feel, he'll AT LEAST consider it :] you could say something like, "I don't know how to say this, but i'm starting to really like you, and i just wanted to know if maybe you were feeling the same way because i dont want to fall for someone who isn't falling for me too." something like that will grab his attention and make him think :]
good luck and have fun ! hope i helped, and dont sweat it so much, go with the flow and follow your heart ! if you need anything else, feel free to send me an inbox, xxo.

When you get braces do they put any needles in so they have to numb you like getting a filling?

Nope, no needles. trust me if there were needles, I would have had a MAJOR problem with that hahaa. wow, i had braces so long ago, and they never bothered me, it didnt even hurt getting them put on .. HOWEVER, your mouth starts to get tired after a while because it has to be opened at all times. so annoying. hahaa. but you'll be fine, don't worry about it :] it's a piece of cake.
good luck and have fun ! hope i helped, xxo.

how do i get a guy ive been goin out with to talk to me again? he just doesnt seem 2 want talk to me anymore. plllss help

take it from me, guys are just as complicated as us girls hahaa. I honestly have been going through the same thing, and it is SO frustrating. But all you can really do is talk to him. communication is key, without that, nothing will be solved. I agree with the advice below me, he's probably just nervous getting into a relationship, and he might not want to say something wrong to get you to not like him anymore. so assure him that he can tell you anything, no matter how serious or random it is, that will definetly make him feel better. If you take the seriousness out of it, it puts people at ease. trust me on this one :] just give it some time to get everything comfortable.
good luck, hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

What is your favourite type of pizza?

SALAD PIZZA. ohmygod. that stuff is like heaven :] hahaa and ITS HEALTHY. i just love it, thats definetly a favorite for me :] or white pizza with spinach. I'm not a health freak or anything, those are just my 2 favorites, besides plain :]
hahaa, love the question, interesting :] xxo.

Do you usually use Maxi Pads or Tampons? And do you know any kinds that work good?

I use both :] hahaa. but i have a heavy flow so, i use nightime maxi pads in the day time ... i have no other choice pwhen i dont feel like wearing tampons] i use kotex with wings [nightime] they really work well for me :] [just remmeber to change them]
but for tampons i use tampax pearl [regular size] but dpeending on your flow, you can pick the size. tampax pearl slides in really easily and you can't even feel it.
well those are my two i use :] good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

Hi, I'm 14 and I have a problem...my boyfriend is really really short and I'm rather tall, I'm about 6 inches taller than him. Everyone at skool makes fun of us whenever we're together all all the stuff. And he sucks at kissing. My friends have told me to break up with him because of our height difference, but I'm very close to loving him. I like him alot and I really don't wanna break up with him, but I don't know if I can stand the jokes anymore. What should I do? And is it true that shorter guys have big dicks?

Don't ever let other people influence you to do something you don't want to do. all i can really tell you is to follow your heart, and your heart seems to be telling you to stay with him. Who cares how tall or short he is .. what matters is your feelings for eachother, and the truth is, people will always joke about it because they are immature idiots who don't know the first thing about loving someone. Don't let them ruin something potentially good for you. and i bet as much as the jokes are taking a toll on you, they are also taking a toll on your boyfriend, so talk to him about it. and if he's a bad kisser, tell him what you like or what he can do better to improve in that category, guys like feedback :] trust me, if they can do something better, they're gonna wanna know. and uhm, the dick thing ? I think it's different for every guy hahaa, it depends on the genes. but the size of his dick shouldn't matter..
good luck ! hope i helped and keep me updated :] xxo.

Ok my dad died a couple months back and i've been trying to get over it. get back to normal. but now my mom is out looking for another guy and is always talking about. like if we might move, or i'll get step brothers or sisters. im just not ready for it, should i be upset?

You most definetly have a right to be upset ! But also, that might just be your mom's way of coping with what happened. Maybe talking about the future and thinking about it will consume her mind and she won't think about the past so much because it hurts to think about the past because your father passed away in the past [if that makes sense] .. she probably needs something to look forwad to, yuh know ? Like, if it's only been a couple months ... people need time. You do too, and if it bothers you, you need to talk to your mom about it. Sit her down and share your feelings. You can't hide this from her, because in the end, all of these feelings that you are feeling, will bottle up inside of you and eventually explode.
I'm so sorry to hear about your father :[ but you honestly do have a right to be upset because it SHOULD have some sort of effect on you ... but you really need to talk to your mom about it and things will improve, i promise. you seem like a strong person, and i am so proud of you for being this strong and brave :] i support you :]
good luck ! if you need anything else feel free to inbox me ! I wish you and your family the best of luck, xxo.

what do you think the meaning of life is? perhaps happiness for our short time here?

You make your own meaning of life. In my opinion, it's looking back at your life 30 years from now, thinking about the things you went through, who you were with through the good times and the bad, how many hours you spent crying or laughing or being angry .. the amount of time you just smiled for no apparent reason. the meaning of life isn't just one big thing that can sum it all up, it's all of the little things that make up the big thing .. yuh know ? and the big thing is "life" and when you're life is coming to end, i think you'll know what it means if you can look back on everything and think that you were accomplished and happy and in the end, nothing will matter but how you became the person you are today at that very moment.
It's about the moments that take your breath away, not the breaths you take. :]
hope i helped, have fun, good question ! and good luck :] xxo.

Why are some people so afraid of commitment?

Eeveryone has a different reason for being afraid of things, especially being afraid of commitment, it could be a large amount of different reasons. Some people are afraid of commitment because it means being vulnerable, and that scares them because then the person you are commited to has the power to break you. and maybe, you could be the only one commited and that FREAKS people out, because let's face it, no one wants to get their heart shattered just to pick up the pieces afterwards. It sucks. and commitment is a risk .. it's also a huge step, you have rules that you need to obey now .. like, when you are commited to someone, there should be NO ONE ELSE and sometimes being with only one person for a while scares the living crap put of people because that means growing up and getting serious. its change. and sometimes, people are scared of that too. so it's not just being afraid of commitment, its being afraid of the things that come with being commited to someone.
I hope that made sense :] hahaa it did in my head. good luck ! hope i helped, have fun ! xxo.

hi i'm in love with a girl but my friends keep telling me to stop liking her cuz i'm a girl.so wa to do?

no matter the gender, when you love a person, you LOVE them and no one should ever try to convince you otherwise. If your friends have a problem with it, then they're not really your friends and you don't need them. Tell them that if they can't support you or aren't able to deal with the fact that you're a girl and you like another girl, then leave them behind and find friends who deserve your friendship and don't care if you are in love with he same sex. just keep liking the girl you like and don't care about what your "friends" think. i think this is a quote from dr.seus but it is TOTALLY called for i in this situation, "those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter.." i think thats the way it goes. hahaa :]
good luck ! have fun and just be yourself :] dont let anyone change who you are. xxo.

So my bestfriend just got a new boyfriend. When they first started going out they really didn't talk much and now he is her whole life. Which means she has forgotten about everyone else including me. We used to hang out all the time but I've only hung out with her twice this summer and both times she has blown me off for her boyfriend. He also isn't very nice to her and will ignore her and stuff. So i just want a nice way to tell her that her friends matter too but I don't want her to get mad at me. So any advice helps. Thank you!

14/f

Alright, this is a tough situation, but you haveta understand that if you don't speak up, you'll never be heard. So take it from me [since i've been on both sides of this equation] that you have to talk about it, no matter how mad you think she'll get afterwards. If you take a nice approach to it, she shouldn't get mad. In your postion, being her really good friend, she'll want to hear what you think, but you can't just be like, "uhm, have you forgotten abot your friends? what the hell." you should say something like, "hey girl ! It's been forever, you like dissapeared off the face of the earth ! haha come back into my life :] lets hang out with the girls on [pick a date] at [pick a place] :]" if you talk to her about it in a nice way and a fun way like carefree, she won't react in a negative way. she'll feel wanted and missed. and feel free to tell her that you miss her and that you want to spend more time with her hahaa you could even say, "geeze girl ! your boyfriend is hogging you ! I want some of your time too, tell him you're with me all day on [pick a date] at [pick a place]" hahaa it's those kinda ways you say it that make the difference on how the conversation will go. and if that doesnt work, talk to her seriously about it, tell her EXACTLY what you told us on advicenators and that you dont want her to be mad but that you really mss your friend :[ yuh know ?
Hope I helped ! tell me how it goes, good luck :] and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

ok well me and my boyfriend have gone off and on for a little while now and well... he says he loves and that he wants to stay with me for a long time but he says that it doesnt feel like we are going out and that it should feel like we are and at 1st i agreed that it didnt feel like it and we both decided to wait and see what happens. but now i do feel like we are going out and i like him...ALOT! but he still does not completly fell like we are and i can tell it worrys him a lot. should i just wait or move on?

p.s.
he has thought about breaking up with me and i really dont want him to.

I know how you feel ... been there, done that. hahaa. Okay so how much are you seeing your boyfriend ? The amount of time you spend with your boyfriend has a big effect on the relationship, because it determines the feelings between you two, because if you guys are never together, you'll never know how it FEELS to be together. For example, with my boyfriend, he has football EVERY SINGLE DAY of the week, we hardly see eachother, and in the beginning we didn't see eachother for an entire month. It was bad, we were getting angry and frustrated and then.. the next month we made a promise that we'd see eachother AT LEAST one day every week. and now that's what we do. usually its sunday, or saturday and sunday but its still good :] like, we almost broke up because not seeing eachother is hard. you feel like your in a relationship with yourself. but we talked about it, and its great now :] But sometimes talking isn't enough, and okay IF you do hang out with him alot or sometimes, maybe hang out with him more or less and the show your affection in other ways. Maybe make him a mix CD of all the songs that remind you of him or tell him how you feel. When you're with him, make him feel like he's the only guy you see ... tell him things that remind you of him and how you can't wait to see him. If he doesn't feel loved, the relationship will sadly, end. He seems like a guy who this quote applies to, "actions speak louder than words" so SHOW him that you love him. and im not talking about doing anything sexual, im saying like.. when you're with eachother don't just kiss him, look him in the eyes and say, "I really want to kiss you right now." then do it. it's little things like that and holding hands and such that just make it feel like a relationship.
But don't worry :] I'm sure you'll figure it out, and if AFTER all of your effort he STILL doesn't feel it, let him go, and maybe hoe sould be the one trying a little more. because a relationship is a two way street, not one.
good luck, have fun ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] follow your heart, xox.

I hate answering guy questions on here, but I'm stuck. I was wondering if anyone else has been in this situation before too?

There's this guy, Ben. We've been friends for years but recently started hanging out. Whenever we watch a movie, he'll put his arms around me, hold my hand, rub my side, or I'll fall asleep curled up in his lap. As soon as the movie is over, so is the romance. I thought maybe he liked me, but when I talked to him about it, it scared him off and we didn't talk for weeks. He came over tonight, and once again the movie thing happened. His friends are there, my friends are there. Everyone's seen it, but no one is able to tell me- is this guy into me or is this some sort of movie relationship?

He is definetly into you, there's no doubt about it. But something is holding him back and making him lose his confidence. During movies, it's qiet and non committed, nothing is expected and that probably makes him more comfortable and braver. Because like, when whatching movies you get lost in the moment and he could get carried away without BEING in a relationship. My guess is ? .. He's scared of commitment. I mean, he's doing this stuff without even noticing which means he's really into you and the fact that he does it infront of yours and his friends is already a step in the right direction, he's not hiding it from everyone else, just himself. So next time he comes over your house, try bringing it up again, but more playfully.. say something like, "so why do you hold my hand during the movie, it's okay I know it's harmless ;]" then wink. haha. because if you take the seriousness out of it, he's most likely not going to be like WTFICANTDOTHIS. Rather than you just coming out and saying, "during the movie yu act like you like me, what's up ? do you like me ?" yuh know ? There's different approaches to different situations. BUt if you don't think that will help, get one of your friends or his firends to ask him about it.. somebodies bound to get the information out of him.
good luck and have fun ! tell me how it goes :] hope i helped, xox.

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