|
why cant i get over him
Ok this guy im crazy about him. I've told him how felt like two years ago he didnt' feel the same. Were like really close now, and this summer we hav been talking a LOT! I really thought I was over him but when I saw him today all those feelings came rushing back. I've tried getting over him in the past but it just doesn't stick. Everytime he gives he smiles or teases me the emotions come back. I want to get over him I do, but part me just doesnt want to. I'm so confused and I have no idead how he feels about. I'm stuck and need help.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Okay, I don't know if this will help you but it might. this is the first time I answered any of these so here we go. OKay I know how you feel to the T. cause im going through it right now at this very moment. (and just to throw this out I feel alot better cause I thought I was the only person who is going through this, so this help me so thanks)I'm not saying that you shouldn't tell him how you feel, cause you should. I know im freaked out about telling the guy i like about me liking him. and so i thought you might too. so i think you should give it a little time, not alot, if your in school like me, or maybe at a job, or anywhere you might meet a new guy you'll like and forget about your feelings about your friend, and you won't have to tell him anything. (thats what im hoping for me!) cause if your like me you don't want anything awkward to come between your friendship. And if your feelings don't die down, then you should tell him your feelings. but it doesn't have to be straight out like "Hey i like you do you like me" be like "hey I want to know your feelings about me cause im starting to really like you and i want to know if Im wasting my time or not" I hope this helped a little, cause right now im telling you what I think I should do about my problem and i thought that it might help you. cause i read this and went "wow...Im not alone like i thought" so i hope it all works out for you!
]
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
From there:
I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Here are some more tips:
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck! :)
-Laura (17-f)
]
Feelings can be really tricky. I too have been in a situation where I was crazy about the guy, but he was crazy for my best friend so we remained friends. I tried to get over him and be happy for her, but it was difficult. Anyways, I think you should tell him how you feel. You never really know how he feels now unless you ask. I made the mistake of never saying anything and encouraging my best friend to go for it and well they were happy but I was miserable. Then I moved away and had to forget about him. Although I still think about him from time-to-time. I really don't want you to live like I did the way I felt sucked. I think you should just come out and tell him how you feel and tell him you liked him two years ago and tried to get over him, but you couldn't you still like him. He might turn around and say that he felt the same way then and still does now and then you two can get to know each other more. Good luck
]
Simple answer: you're not over him.
Simple soloution: none.
Okay, haha, you are in a complicated situation, no matter which way you look at it. and i have been in your position, and it blows MAJORLY. It's confusing and takes up your brain until all you are trying to figure out is what to do, yuh know ? and you even said it yourself in your question, the first 7 words you started with, "ok this guy im crazy about him" .. notice how you didn't use past tense and say, "ok this guy i was crazy about him" .. see the difference. just the way you write things make the difference. it's your heart telling you not to give up on him, but your mind telling you the exact opposite. So don't fight your feelings. if you are trying to convince yourself that you don't like someone, thats when you KNOW you like them. and you can't help who you like.. you can try, but you'll just keep running back to them until you get your feelings out, so tell this guy how you feel. what's the worst that could happen ? he says he just doesnt feel the same way ? big deal. there are other guys WORTHY of you out there, he's not the only one and plus :] he could always want to try dating you .. but you have to be honest with YOURSELF before you are honest with him. Obviously he flirts with you, which means he's into you, helloooooo :] thats a GREAT sign right there. if you don't know how he feels about you, you have to ASK him, communication is key .. I know its scary, but it's a risk you have to be willing to take or you'll be thining for the rest of your life, "what if i told him how i felt and made the first move?" and you'll never know, unless YOU TRY :] ! you can do it ! or you can get one of your friends to ask. but keep talking to him and don't ignore your feelings ! flirt with him and act on your impulses [unless you impulses are totally insane, then don't do that]
But really, fate is fate, you can't fight it. and you have to learn to trust your heart. I'm almost positive that he will not shoot you down when you tell him how you feel, he'll AT LEAST consider it :] you could say something like, "I don't know how to say this, but i'm starting to really like you, and i just wanted to know if maybe you were feeling the same way because i dont want to fall for someone who isn't falling for me too." something like that will grab his attention and make him think :]
good luck and have fun ! hope i helped, and dont sweat it so much, go with the flow and follow your heart ! if you need anything else, feel free to send me an inbox, xxo.
]
More Questions: |