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Okay, here goes it. I'm in marching band. Band camp has started, I love it, it's my life. I know I can count on any single person in the band. They're like my second family. I spend everyday with them during the school year and three weeks of summer with them, getting sweaty & muddy & nasty. It's an amazing opportunity, if one person in the band is upset, the entire band is, we have parties in the guys locker room before our home meets. It's amazing, I can tell anyone of them my problems & I know they will understand & give me amazing advice to fix it. so my question is: with a tight nit relationship with everyone in the band do you think it will be possible to start a deeper relationship (boyfriend girlfriend) with one of them? See, I'm falling for our drum major. I wasn't to close to him to begin with, we run in complete different social circles. However, seeing him direct us with the passion he has for music made me see the different side of him that I'm starting to like. Yes, we do talk, little sentences but not like 1 on 1 time, which i barely ever get him in seeming as he is always on the ball doing something to help the band in any way possible. What do you think I should do?
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If it was me I would strive to do anything I cold for the band,then he might see the different side of you and start to like it (i.e. the other way round from what is happening now). Also if it turns out you're both trying to help the team, then you'll have a common goal and theres a very common theory of attraction which suggests when we go through things together we often grow closer together.
Also I think its an esepcially good idea to have a relationship within your band since you share an interest and obviously you admire him not only physically but for particular characteristics of his personality, so it has potential. All you have to take into consideration is that if something does go wrong, it may be awkward but as long as you agree beforehand that you'll each try your best to avoid an awkward ending then you should definately go for it =)
Hope this helped
Mike!
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I think you should make more of an effort to talk to him. Get his phone number, and text him after band camp.
I think that sharing a passion for music will DEFINETELY help your potential for a relationship. Just get to know each other more and see where things go :)
-Laura (17-f)
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I don't see anything wrong with having a relationship with someone in the band. It was fairly common for bandmembers to date at my high school. You have to meet people somewhere. You seem you want a real relationship instead of a fling. A fling may be a bad idea but a real relationship doesn't seem so bad when it comes to gossip or team morale. You only live once.
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