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bestfriend and her current boyfriend
So my bestfriend just got a new boyfriend. When they first started going out they really didn't talk much and now he is her whole life. Which means she has forgotten about everyone else including me. We used to hang out all the time but I've only hung out with her twice this summer and both times she has blown me off for her boyfriend. He also isn't very nice to her and will ignore her and stuff. So i just want a nice way to tell her that her friends matter too but I don't want her to get mad at me. So any advice helps. Thank you!
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Basicly, one of my best friends did this to me, and it was NOT nice. I thought I had totally lost her because she was always with her boyfriend. But sooner or later she is gonna get her heart broken, don't ya think? And she will probably run straight back to you. This is what happened to me, it really wasn't good.
But the point is, you should just talk to her about it. Ring her one evening and just talk to her about what is bugging you because if she was your friend she would listen and do something about it so you felt much better. She will probably say, "Oh but (name here) and I are in love! There's nothing wrong" blah blah blah. But really, you need to STOP her from going on about him all the time and make her have time for YOU.
Ask her if she wants to hang out at the weekend or something, and get her to promise you so she wont bail. If you ditchs you, then you have that against her (if the worsest comes to worsest).
She will eventually need you when something goes wrong and her boyfriend isn't there or wont give her the time of day to listen. This is why you need to tell her everything that you feel. Just completely vent everything out.
My best friend and I fall out sometimes because the other one is so selfish and only talks about their problems, but eventually we both just vent it out and we are the best of friends. It really works, trust me. Just talk to her about everything that us bugging you, otherwise you are left empty. If she forgets about you, then she is simply not worth it.
Good Luck! :)
Ox'Jess
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I know so many people in this type of situation. Some people get "blinded by love". It's stupid, but it does happen.
I can't guarantee you she won't get mad because sometimes they do get mad about it. But, that shouldn't discourage you from bringing it up. I mean, she's your friend! You have a right to hang out with her too!
This is a link to yahoo, where a similar question was asked:
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It may help you out.
But, try telling her how you feel..tell her that you feel left out and you miss hanging with her because she's always with her boyfriend. A true friend will make time for you !
Hope I helped! :)
Good luck.
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Alright, this is a tough situation, but you haveta understand that if you don't speak up, you'll never be heard. So take it from me [since i've been on both sides of this equation] that you have to talk about it, no matter how mad you think she'll get afterwards. If you take a nice approach to it, she shouldn't get mad. In your postion, being her really good friend, she'll want to hear what you think, but you can't just be like, "uhm, have you forgotten abot your friends? what the hell." you should say something like, "hey girl ! It's been forever, you like dissapeared off the face of the earth ! haha come back into my life :] lets hang out with the girls on [pick a date] at [pick a place] :]" if you talk to her about it in a nice way and a fun way like carefree, she won't react in a negative way. she'll feel wanted and missed. and feel free to tell her that you miss her and that you want to spend more time with her hahaa you could even say, "geeze girl ! your boyfriend is hogging you ! I want some of your time too, tell him you're with me all day on [pick a date] at [pick a place]" hahaa it's those kinda ways you say it that make the difference on how the conversation will go. and if that doesnt work, talk to her seriously about it, tell her EXACTLY what you told us on advicenators and that you dont want her to be mad but that you really mss your friend :[ yuh know ?
Hope I helped ! tell me how it goes, good luck :] and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
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