When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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okay if i eat breakfast, little lunch and dinner, would that help me lose wieght and also exercise like walking? (link)
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Hey,
I've answered alot of questions about this topic before, so i guess i can help you. I'll give you some suggestions, and you can choose what you like, for example:
.Food
you can eat a healthy breakfast
All your lunch
No dinner
No junk food
And if you get really hungry, then drink alot of water.
.Exercises
you can go for long walks as you said
you can go to the club and run the track and exercise at the gym
there are certain electronic machines that you can buy and excerise on at home
you can use pilates, but thats only if your dead serious about losing weight
every morning when you wake up, you can do a few exercises, sit ups and stretches
Thats all i have to help you, but you can also refer back to my advice column where i answered some other questions about that topic too.
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Some people say that money isn't everything. But is this really true? If a person makes minimum wage and can barely afford food, can that person still be happy? (link)
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Hey,
when people say that money isn't everything, they usually say that to rich people who have alot and alot money, and because they do, then they think that they are better than the other people who have little money. But actually, they may be rich, and living in luxury and are considered from the high class people, but they will never be happy like those who have a suitable amount of money, because they are usually sent to jail, and waste their money on drugs and alcohol and girls.
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Well, my situation is as followed.
I have two best friends. One of which I dated, and we broke up. Now my other best friend whom is a girl, always thought my boyfriend was hot and lusted after him.
I trusted both of them completely, and not even a month after we broke up they had sex. Well, If one of them would of told me - it would of been nice but I found out thru HER ex boyfriend, and only because there was a pregnancy scare.
I feel betrayed because she promised she would never do anything with him, and I am still in love with him and she knew that when she did what she did.
He's away at basic in the army, and I had to deal with her. Her response was, "It's in the past, I cant do anything about it now." and her explanation for the event happening was that He started it, and she said (I quote) "I'm a ho, It's in my blood. Someone wants to hit this, I let them!"
I don't know how to deal with this situation. I didnt deck her like I wanted to, but I stayed over at her house and chilled that day because I wasn't sure how to react. Now she calls and I don't want to anwser her phone calls...how do I deal with this?
She seems to feel no remorse for it.. wants to be friends still..
But I know I can't just go on without having my say in it or else I will always feel bitter.
Yes it's in the past but the consequences are NOW.
I need help right away!
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Hey,
I know what your going through.And oh my god! isn't that really cruel and mean from her.
First of all, the person who betrays who and goes and has sex with your own ex boyfriend whom you just broke up with, then you most definitely can't call her a best friend or even a friend. And as a matter of fact, you can't even look at her anymore without spitting on her face when she passes by and tell her " what a horrible disgusting friend you are, bitch" and honestly, thats the only thing you have to tell her. Other than that, the friendship between you is over.Because you don't waste your time being with such a person, loving and caring and trusting her and being their for her, and laughing and gossiping and sharing smiles and jokes, because at the end, she just goes and sleeps with your ex boyfriend. That is such a bitchy and low act. So the next time, she calls you thinking that everything would have probably cooled down by name, you can and you should pick up the phone and tell her exactly what i told you to say,and then hang up the phone even if its in her face. Because thats it, you have to draw a line to that friendship, because i may not know you or anything about you, but i've read alot in your problem to know that you are the most caring and loving and considerate person, and that you don't desreve to be treated like shit from a low bitch like her. And i am sorry i am saying this all about her, but she deserves it, and if you really sat and thought about all what happened, you'd know that i'm right about every word i've said about her.
Finally, if you need any further advice or help, then please be free to contact me.
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my mom thinks that ever since i got my heart broken about 2 or 3 years ago, i like any boy that tells me nice things. that's not true. i had a boyfriend after that and it's been six months that i broke up with him after i found out he was gay. but, i really like this boy and she made me swear on everything that i wouldn't kiss him next time i see him or not to let him kiss me. and i kinda like this boy. and she's just being a pain about it. i don't see what's so bad about it. talking to her isn't going to help. i already tried
2 questions:
- how can i keep the kiss from happening that night? (like to make it seem like i want it but not at this moment--- kinda like play hard to get with the kiss)
- how can i stop my mother from thinking this
ps i already talked to her!!! she doesn't listen
PLEASE HELP ME
THANK YOU (link)
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Hey,
First of all, i know that your mom sounds really stubborn and thats she's being a pain about it as you said, but she's only doing that because she's worried about you, and doesn't want you to get your hear broken again. Thats her job, to take care of you, and make sure that your happy about it. And you know that your probably really happy with this new guy and all, but she just doesn't trust anyone after you got hurt by a boy before. So give her sometime, and mabye she'll start liking that new boy your talking about.
second of all, if your sure that you really like this boy and he does too and that he won't break your heart too, then kiss him, why not?
Live your life, and do all that you please, because if you are doing this , then you are doing it to prove to your mother that she's wrong about that boy and that he really does like you.
Finally, if there are any other concerns or troubles, please be free to contact me.
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How long after you have a coldsore and it goes away should you kiss another person? (link)
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It doesn't have a certain period of time, but simply after all the symptoms are gone, and you feel normal again, then you can kiss another person.
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Im 16/f
I want to go on birth control for sexual and period reasons. I heard that when you go on birth control you only get your period once a month for like a DAY or TWO. To me, that alone seems worth it. My periods are really irregular and annoying though. PLus, I am a sexually active teen with my boyfriend who i am in love with. (we use condoms too)... But yea.. how could i bring it up to my mom without seeming like im in way over my head? (link)
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hey,
I see your problem here, and i understand how you feel about it. But i have only one suggestion and i thought it could help you.
why don't you sit and talk with your mom, and tell her about your irregular period, and how its been really bothering you, and when you tell her that, show her how really annoy it is, so that you can convince her even more, and then very quietly and calm, suggest how you think you should go on a birth control.
But if she doesn't agree , then please be free to post a new question, and I will come up with another suggestion, to help you.Goodluck
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I dont know how to bring up the issue of birth control to my doctor. She knows my mom somehow and I think its weird for my moms friend to know i want to go on birth control. I dont want my mom knowing that I want to go on birth control.. But theres no way that I can get it without getting a prescription, meaning my mom would have to know!?? right???
HELP! (link)
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Hey,
umm... First of all, i am gonna answer that question for you, and yes that means your mom is going to know.
But you don't have to go to that doctor,or let your mother know about it,so why don't you just go to a different doctor, and pay the fees from your own money.
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what if your married....and the guy you love doesnt like your body? it would be totally foolish if you got divorced the night after?? plz tell me.. i am really curious (link)
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hey,
i thought about this question before, but i figured, that when a guy marries you, he doesn't marry you for your body, but he marries you for who you are, because your a good person with a good personality and he loves you. Because if he married you for your body, then he'd be simply using. And there are lot of people out there, who have really small boobs and not such a hot body,and yet they have sex all the time and get married.
so consider what i said and don't be worried.
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omg i think that its awesome that you're from egypt lol i didnt even know they had advicenators there! is it in english there? (link)
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Hey,
Actually, there is not much of advicenators here, there is just a few who like to help people.Besides I was born in saudi arabic, but both my parents are egyptians. And no its no in english there, but there are some american and british schools and stuff. But thanks for your questions anyway, if you have any problems or troubles, please be free to contact me.
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My dad is mad at me because I bought a bathing suit that cost $35. It was really good quality and material, and it's the one I've been wanting for a month now! It's really pretty and I don't have ANY other bathing suits that fit me. I think $35 for both pieces is cheap considering at American Eagle they are much more then that. Do you think it's a good price? My dad flipped out on me! He said to go to Walmart and get $10 ones, but personally I think all the clothes at Walmart are crap and they arn't even worth $15 ! How do I explain that $35 is a good price for a bathing suit, and even though Walmart's is cheaper, it's not good quality. He said if I can think of 3 good reasons to why the bathing suit is worth $35 I can keep it. Help? (link)
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First of all, i understand that you really like this bathing suit and want it. But this whole bathing suit between you and your father is honestly meaningless. I mean... its just a bathing suit and its not even expensive. So i have a suggestion, but i'm not sure if it'll work. Just buy the suit out of your money,if you really want it that much. And tell him that you've been saving up for it since a long time now, and i am sure that he'll be convinced, i mean, i always convince my dad this way.
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Nobody takes me seriously and they think that I'm this little kid who can't do anything right. I try so hard and have even worked loads of overtime to earn some respect but my boss still yells at me over tiny mistakes and I get treated like I'm 6 years old and don't know what I'm doing. I'm good at my job. I used to dress more flirtatiously so I changed my appearence to strictly covered officewear but that hasn't worked. I've tried everything that I can think of but it's draggign me down. Can anyone help me? (link)
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Hey,
first of all, as long as you are decent and loyal to your work, and as long as as you are a hardworker and get your tasks done in time and do them efficiently,then you shouldn't worry about what anyone says about you. And i trust that your good at your work and that you love your job dearly. Then give your self a second and think of this, why should you care about how they treat you? or that you don't have anyone's respect? They are probably just jealous because your too good at your job.Although, i know that its really hard for you, but i am sure you have a few friends at your work who support you and respect you.
Moreover, you shouldn't change your appearance or anything about yourself just to please your boss, if there is anything that you should give to your boss, then that would be well done complete and on-time work, but no more. Then, simply screw it. You are a good person, a hardworker, and a respectable person, and as long as you do what you should do , then nobody should yell at you or disrespect you.
Finally, just try to win all the respect of all the workers there, and have good friends and concentrate on your work,and don't make anyone yell at you, because you are a respectable person who works and does her work,and it is very rude of someone to yell at you.
so if there is any further questions or worries, please contact me.
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I'm not a good friend. I don't do it on purpose but I let friends go easy. They like, move to a different school and we say we'll stay in touch...but then I don't call.
If friends want me I'm like there for them and all but I dunno I find it hard to meet new people and speak to them cos I'm quite shy so I'm losing friends and can't make new ones so I'm left out a lot and feel very lonely.
What can i do to get new friends and be better at keeping the old ones? (link)
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Hey,
i understand what your going through,but after i finished reading your problem, i've concluded that you are most definetly not a bad person.
I, personally, have a problem in making friends, so i also find it hard to communicate with others. on the other hand, there are other people who are so friendly, and can make friends really easily and quick. But you know something, this people are not any better than you, and are not even different from you.Because there are certain people who have a certain group of friends, and they don't like to talk to anyone else outside that group. Thats just simply their personality, but it doesn't mean that they are bad or mean or anything of the sort.
so what you have to do is...
1- you have to talk to your friends who moved to a different school and you have to stay in touch, and believe me its not too late to call, and than later on, when you start calling, they will call back and soon,you will have your old freinds back, because i am sure that they are good friends, so don't lose them.
2- you have to start meeting new people, just act natural and friendly. For example, if there is a person in school with you in the same class, then go up to him\her and start a conversation very naturally,and don't worry, the opposite person won't think that your weird, because thats the way people communicate.
Just simply act natural and be yourself, because your a really good and sweet person , so don't ruin that by being reserved and lonely.no, just go out there and have fun and live your life. What are you scared of? your just making friends and knowing people, and its actually really exciting. So show them the good side of you and the friendly one.
Finally, if there is any more worries or concerns ,please be free to contact me.
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I have a secret crush and she dosent know it, or at least i dont think she does, she has a bf and she really likes him, i have had a crush on her for awhile even before her bf but i had a gf at that time, should i try to go for it or leave her alone? (link)
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Hey,
As i read through your problem ,i understood that you really like this girl and want her as a girlfriend. So i don't think that there is anyway that you can ask her out. But umm.. you can go and talk to her ,and get to know her,and get close to her, and be good friends with her, but don't act all romantic or anything. Then mabye later on, she'd like you. I think thats a good idea, because if you follow it, then you wouldn't have to go and ask her out and mabye you'd be humiliated if she turns you down and refuses, and at the same time, you can be with her, and you don't have to leave her alone.
so try to consider this, and if you need any other help, be free to contact me.
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What is dry sex? (link)
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Its to have sex with your clothes on.
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there is this guy i used to be best friends with years ago. he ignored me all of a sudden, and now its weird. i miss him so much, and i have finally have come clean and told him. we are friends now, but its not the same like it used to. we dont really hang out. my (girl) best friend now is bff with him just like him and me were. they are so so close and like each other and it makes me so sad and jealous. i am tired of beating myself up just because he liek sher and not me. =[ please help me i have no idea wat to do. (link)
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hey,
I understand what your going through , and i know that its really tough and it hurts so much. it also happened to me and alot of other people before, thats why i'm gonna help you now.
From some of my past experiences, I've learnt something very important,and that is, that not all friends stay forever ,some of them just come and go, even if they are the closest and bestest of your friends. And those who go, are not really true freinds, but are just there for a while to enjoy a good joke, laugh a bit, talk, gossip, and mabye sometimes use you( but in your situation i don't think he was using you).
I know that its really hard to accept the fact that this friendship was just practically a temporary one, but as i said not all friends stay forever. I know it hurts, and i know that you love him, and i also know that you miss him crazy, but i also know that this friendship between you and him was not one of those actual friendships which go on for a life time. You see, your friend moved on and made a new best freind, and is totally enjoying himself, and in a year or two, he'll probably start ignoring this new best friend, and find another one. I know it sounds mean, but sometimes people find themselves moving on and changing their friends especially when they meet someone new and are so excited about it. So all you have to do is to stand up fo yourself, and if he wants to talk to you, then listen, and joke a bit and fool around, and if he wants to ignore you and not talk to you, then you don't want anything from him either, and you will not run after him.
So just let go and take a step back, and if he wants to get back, then he'll come around ,but if he doesn't then it'll be too obvious.And i am sure that you will cry and feel bad and stuff , but one day your gonna make a new friend, and this time he'll stick around and won't let go, and he'll be one of those freinds which stay forever. And i promise you will find that person, and do you know why? Because you deserve such a person.
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My friends birthday is coming up. She's turning 12. She plays the drums and loves anime but she's alergic to make up. My other friend and I want to take her some where special. I also need to buy her a gift, but my friend bought exectly what I was going to buy her (a pair of drumsticks and some thing else.) It's my job to choose where to take her, but it can't be expincive. Where should I take her? What should I buy her? Any thing will help
Thanks! (link)
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hey,
I can't help you with a place to take her, because i don't live where you do, i live in egypt. But i could give you some suggestions about what to buy her. you don't have to get anything to do with drums, you can get her something different for example a watch, or a cute silver necklace or even a bracelet, or any other cute accessory, there are really cute ones and they are not cheap nor expensive.You could also get her a perfume. All in all, there are alot of new things you could get other than drums.
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I had been into a net relationship with a boy from Aus for the past 4 years. We never heard each others voice or ever saw each other (except thru the net pics we shared).Four years was a long time to me and I could not stand the pain of being away from my loved one for so long.I desperately loved him.There was a time when he took me for granted and stopped being in touch.But then he was sorry and came back.And he really changed. But loving a boy on the net so desperately and knowing that I would not be able to see him for the next few years was a real pain and so I backed off from the relationship. He asked for a reason and I gave it to him. His answer was something like..."Sweetheart, Thank you for replying back and wish you all the success for the future. I like to walk in the rain cuz no one can see me crying... Good Bye. Yours__Michael"
It was a pain to me too but I don't think he thinks so. Its so hurting. I've been a failure in relationships even in the past and I don't feel like going for a relationship ever again.But deep down I secretly long for a person to love me.Though I have a lot of really good friends, I long for someone who'll call me his own.I know I am loved and wanted but the feeling remains.I try to distact myself by engaging myself in activities but nothing helps.And I can just not stop crying and like to stay all alone. Please help me!! (link)
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hey,
i read your problem , and i understand what your going through. But honestly, online dating should never be taken as real relationships, because you just keep on chatting and chatting, sharing pictures and using web camera and doing this and doing that, but then at the end, something happens, and you let go and forget all about that person, and when time comes and you remember the memories you had with that person online, you will just say that you were wasting your time and having fun, and if it could be considered as anything, then it would be considered as a crush. you simply wasted all your time on this person, and you got so wrapped up in him and loved him dearly, that later on you discovered that your not going anywhere with this online dating thing.Thats exactly what happened to you. This is your story, and now you put an end to it, and i definitely agree with what you did, because you should have ended this relationship a lond time ago and you should have known that you weren't leading anything serious.
Moreover, we all want to be loved by someone, and to have someone to stand there beside us, care about us, love us, be there for us, ask about us, hug us, comfort us, wipe our tears, and share our smile, joke and fool around with us, and more and more of that. but you can't sit on a chair and wait for love, because life comes when it is time for it to come. So move on with your life, and meet new people and make good friends, and if you sometimes feel that you really need to talk to michael, you can , and i won't tell you not to, but talk to him as a friend, and mabye even a best freind, but i guess i'd be right when i tell you not to believe in online dating and i think you know now what i mean. Just try to concentrate on your life, and work on the past, but don't just sit and wait for the future and the love it would bring for you.But one way or another, i promise you that there is someone out there who you will meet later on in your life, and will love you and cherish you ,because from the way you talk, i see that you are a truly amazing and caring person and you deserve all the best.
So good luck, and if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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im worred about my friend shes in my grade 7th but shes only 11 im 13 so sometimes i think of her as a lil sister and im a little worred about her because she has a new boyfriend whos 16 in the 10th grade and she hangs out with him alone and im worred that somthing might happen how can i covinces her that this just isent right and dont say tell her mom because her mom dont care about her and i would like it if i didnt have to tell an adult because she wont listen to them (link)
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hey,
i understand the great age gap between your friend and her boyfriend. but while i was reading your problem, a thougt crossed my mind, what if your wrong and this boy really does like her and doesn't want to hurt her. I mean, there are some people who are too young like your friend but they act as if their older then their real age, and their minds are really mature.
But if its not that, then mabye you should try talking to your friend, in a calm and quiet manner, so she wouldn;t think your jealous or that your not happy for her, and try to explain to her that there is a huge age difference between them, or you could just tell her to be careful and that you are just worried about her.
I mean, in the same time, we can't judge about her boyfriend, becasue so far he hasn't done anything that annoyed her.So mabye you should consider what i said and try to give him a chance and then we'll see what will happen.
If there are any further worries or concerns, please be free to contact me.
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okay. there is this school that i am going to for my 10th grade year and i want to go to this school and then i dont. i have known my whole class scince pre-K and now everyone has a great bond with oneanother. i want to graduate with my class and i have made a huge friendship and here is this thing. i am so sad about leaving my crush. i know i shouldnt worry about a boy for this but this year i had this gut feeling that he liked me as well and i was afraid to ask him and im still afraid to call and ask him if he liked me and if he did i would really like to go out with him. he flirted with me so much at all these partiies and he did it infront of his g-friend and didnt care. they broke up like the next day. anyways its one of the top schools in the country and i got in and my parents want me to go and im really scared to leave. each time i think about it i just cry. i have had so much fun with my grade and NOW i have to leave them. i have told my parents how i feel but they say they want me to have this oppurtunity. my mom told me she would still keep me invloved and stuff but it just wont be the same. im just so confused becuase 1 its alot better than my other school 2 it hAS and excellent cirriculum and 3 it offers alot. my question is what i should do. my parents keep telling me that i dont have to do this but they really want me to. and if i do decide to go i would really like to call my crush. i just have this big felling that i was right and still do. how would i do that? i dont know what to do. and its so much pressure and my parents keep telling me they understand but i feel like they dont. what do you think i should do. im not quite sure anymore cuz at first i was so freaked out and thought it was so cool but now im not so sure i want to go anymore. im so confused right now and i cant get it out of my head. so can someone help me. i need real advice. its funny im always giving advice on this site and this is my first question asking. so please help me!! (link)
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hey,
I read your problem and i understand how much pressure your in, and i am really sorry that your parents are practically forcing you into doing this. And i have heard about his situation alot, about how people like their school so much and they love their friends, and they have crushes,...etc. and then something happens and they have to leave their school. so they keep on crying and feel really bad about it. And honestly, in such situations,there can't be anything done to try and make it feel the same, but there are things that can be done to say in touch with your school. Number 1, you can still go out with your friends and call them and tell them about your new school. Number 2, you can call that guy and ask him out and hang out with him at anytime,and i am sure that he'll agree because you sound like a really great person who really loves her school and friends and all.
Other than that, maybe this new school is really a great oppurtunity and you can meet new people and start a new life, and give people any impression you want. Actually, its really nice to be going to a whole new place and to start over again. So you know, there is always a bright side to everything, and thats what you have to think about , because thats what would encourage you and make you feel better.
Finally, if there are any further concerns or questions, be free to contact me.
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i started my period july 3rd. and the past 2 days its been stopping and starting and the times its started again its been a heavy flow. idk whats happening. please help. thnks in advance. (link)
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hey,
when a person starts his period, its usually irregular and unorganized, it keeps coming and going, and sometimes it even comes one month and doesn't come the other. But after a while, it will be organized and will come every month for about 5 days or even less. So there is no need to worry.
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