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age difference
im worred about my friend shes in my grade 7th but shes only 11 im 13 so sometimes i think of her as a lil sister and im a little worred about her because she has a new boyfriend whos 16 in the 10th grade and she hangs out with him alone and im worred that somthing might happen how can i covinces her that this just isent right and dont say tell her mom because her mom dont care about her and i would like it if i didnt have to tell an adult because she wont listen to them
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well, really there is no age for love, but also he is way older than her, & maybe he really does love her but maybe he is just using her. you should talk to her alone & make her understand that she is too young & that hes older than her. & we dont want her to end up with a broken heart and/or end up with different problems like being sexually abused or something. maybe im thinking too far, but you never know.maybe he really likes her but she is too young to suffer anything like that. so talk to her alone & give her time to think about it. she might let him go but if she is deeply in love with him, then it might take more time to make her understand this. whatever happens you can always message me, i went through the same she is going through, & i ended up al f*** up. i dont want her to make the same mistake. so i hope i helped & im always here to give you advice, help her understand. so good luck & write me back.
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ok you have to talk to her alone and set it to her straight tell her tht she is 11!!!! and he in 2 years is going off to college..he probably wont remember who she is by then this guy is just a lonely sick freak looking for a game to play with and im sorry to say that your friend is the game and she just is blinded by him to see it you have to tell her this ok well goodluck
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i'm thinking that perhaps he doesn't really have any bad intentions but... i can't help but feel she may be too young emotionally to deal with someone that much older than her. however if she was about 20 or something and the guy she is going out with was 25 or 26 then i wouldn't be so concerened but right now i feel that (she really IS only 11 years old right?) she is far too young to have a relationship like that with someone who is that much older than her. you are right to worry about her i think. you could try and talk to her calmly the point is NOT to raise your voice or treat her as if she can't make any decisions on her own. right now she is what i like to call 'exploring' her own limitations and things like that. make sure you express your concern for her (do not be patronising) make sure you understand what she is trying to tell you and when she says her bit - do not cut in or put her down. listen to it all no matter how rediculous you find it. if there is anything you do not understand even a little clear it up with her before moving on to anything else. talk through this with your friend and make sure that you won't be interupted at any point. finish it in one sitting ONE ok? if however you leave this discussion with her and still feel unsatisfied thinking thorugh all that she has told you then if you really can't be at peace with yourself or with her talk to her again and by the second time you really should clear it up. after two talks (and make sure that both are not interrupted at any point and ONLY resort to the second talk if you REALLY despreatly are not satisfied with the things you've disscussed before) it becomes like you are being controlling and she wouldn't like that - trust me on that count. good luck! and i hope this helps!
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hey,
i understand the great age gap between your friend and her boyfriend. but while i was reading your problem, a thougt crossed my mind, what if your wrong and this boy really does like her and doesn't want to hurt her. I mean, there are some people who are too young like your friend but they act as if their older then their real age, and their minds are really mature.
But if its not that, then mabye you should try talking to your friend, in a calm and quiet manner, so she wouldn;t think your jealous or that your not happy for her, and try to explain to her that there is a huge age difference between them, or you could just tell her to be careful and that you are just worried about her.
I mean, in the same time, we can't judge about her boyfriend, becasue so far he hasn't done anything that annoyed her.So mabye you should consider what i said and try to give him a chance and then we'll see what will happen.
If there are any further worries or concerns, please be free to contact me.
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Then, honestly you are her only chance. You need to talk to her && convince her to snap out of it. Say it is for her own goood. She has no business going out with a guy thats 16. He is just using her, Duh! You seriously need to talk her out of this whole thing. She will only get hurt in the end, if not pregnant!
good luck!
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omg this guy is way too old for her hes obviously playin around with her.tell her the truth...tell her that you care about her and that it wont lead her anywhere but depression because theyre gonna end up breaking up anyway.tell her that something bad can happen to her if she hangs out alone with him too much and hes only using her to have a good time and hes got a lot of girls his age he could be with...he probably went to your freind cuz hes got bad intentions...good luck
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