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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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i am so sick and tired of myself! all of my real friends are gone (on vacation, working, etc.) All I want to do is get out of the house. I don't really have anyone to do it with. I mean there are some people I call my friends in school, but its not the same, they are not the people I would call up to hang out with...they have their own groups. My sister is at camp for a week more, and the one person I did ask to go to the movies (Meg) never even gave me a reply! I have this other friend, Annie, who is really nice. We are not very close friends, but last month we did get manicures together, along with my friend Sam whose on vacation. I don't know if it would be awkward or not to call her. Then I have a new friend,Melinda, who moved here this year, I am thinking she would do something with me, but I don't know her phone number. It's not in the phonebook I believe (since she's new to town). I do have her screen name, but she isn't online today! I just don't know what to do!! I am so bored, but I can't decide it it would be awkward to ask Meg if she got my AIM message (we are not the closet of friends, so perhaps she choose not to answer?) or to ask Annie if she wants to! What do you think? Thanks, I rate 5's for good advice! (link)
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I got pretty much the same problem. Nothing to do and no friends to hang out with. It is pretty boring. Probably..you would be best off trying to be better friends with Annie and Melinda, since you aren't really close friends with either of them. Hope it helps you become unbored.
-Ryan
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I'm going into high school this year as a freshman, and I'm SO nervous. I'm scared that I won't have anyone to talk to and I won't do well in my classes (I got all honors), so can anyone please tell me what high school is like ? Like, the classes, teachers, classmates, etc.. And any tips to make friends and do well in the classes ? kthnx. (link)
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I am gonna be a sophomore this year and I remember my freshman year being a fresh start for me. I had almost no friends from my time in middle school so it was like I was starting over. Don't worry about a thing, just got an pick some people to hang out with and try and get to know everyone. That's what I did and I pretty much had friends all over. Just talk to people and get to know em, it's easy. As for your classes, just do your best (you must be smart considering you have all honors) and you will do fine. And as for what highschool is like, it rocks, plain and simple. Good luck and hope this help you!
-Ryan
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okay well i dont know where to start my family is always on my case about my attitude which has gotten worse because my friends are always putting me down... How do i get into a better attitude without losing my friends?? i always seem to be in a bad mood and i dont like it.. my family is always on my case to get new friends but its hard...what should i do?? (link)
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First, get new friends. The ones you got now are not your friends if they continue to put you down. I been there before with people I thought were my "friends" and they were never there when I had trouble and they always put me down. I was going on the same course you were going on, my attitude on everything got sucked and my family really got onto me about. You need to find friends who will actually be your friends, and not put you down. Find friend who will take you for who YOU are, and not put you down on yourself. That is what I did, and since then my attitude has improved and I don't always have that bad attitude I once had (I still got some of it, but that is from another reason). Find new friends like I said, and your attitude will improve greatly. Hope everything comes out ok for you and hope I helped.
-Ryan
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well im 14 and my parents got divorced a few years ago and my dad married this person i hate! she is seriously like the wicked step mother and it blows. She always talks bad about my mom too and my mom is the sweetest person in the world. How can i tell her to shut the hell up without getting grounded forever. help! P.S. sorry its so long! (link)
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It's not too long at all so don't worry about that. You need to talk to your dad bout this for sure. Get him to step in and put a stop to it. And the next time she starts talking crap about your mom just tell her to stop, and if you can have your dad back you up on it. That should stop here or atleast show her you don't want her to talk that kind of crap to your mom. I don't know why people act like that, especially if for no reason, but if they have something bad to say, just don't say it at all. Not only can it hurt the person the stuff is directed at, but also those around to hear it (you in your case). I really hope everything gets better for you and this stops.
-Ryan
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hi, i have a great voice but im to shy to preform infront of people ! can u help me get over that fear?Any good advice i rate high!! (link)
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Hey I got the same thing too (well minus the great voice but I won't comment on that :P). I had to overcome this fear for a school musical that I took part in (which I did sing)and what I found worked best is to just go with everything that happens and to pretend (in your mind) that you are just at practice and the seats are practically empty. If you can't do that then just keep your mind COMPLETELY focused on what your doing and to try and do your best, despite your fear. After you get over it for one show, it just becomes something like second nature, and your fear goes away with each performance you do. Hope this bit of advice helps and hope you get over this and let people hear your voice!
-Ryan
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So my sister stole from my wallet and was really devious about it (she changed some bills that she gave me, because she owed me, for the bills I had had before she paid me back) I know she is really hard up for money and doesn’t have a job or anything and I can forgive her in time but what really bugs me is when I told my parents they both insulted me and said I was loosing my temper and being a liar. Now I’m furious and think they should have at least listened to my side but they didn’t! I’m pissed with my whole family and don’t know what to do about it! (link)
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I have a friend who has been in this similar situation. His older brother freeloads off his parents, really has no work, is lazy, and whenever my friend tries to bring this up his parents just kinda make up an excuse and let it slide. What I would say to do is catch your sister in the act if she tries to do it again (with either you or your parents, I'm sure if she can take from you she will have no problem taking from your parents). Because then you can show your parents what is really going on and will have proof to back it up with. If that doesn't work then just keep bringing it up with your parents about it and try and find a resolution. Also try confronting your sister on it, try and work something out. Also you might try putting your wallet in a safe location (just in case!). Also your right they should have listened to your side of the story completely before going off on you like that but the only thing you can really do againts that is stick with what you know happened. Also to settle your anger up a bit, find your own little "corner" of the house, a place where you feel best with yourself and have some privacy. Then when your cooled down a bit, go and try and find a resolution. I hope this helped and I hope that everything get's better for you.
-Ryan
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what do you do when you know your telling the truth but no one believes you? how do you get them to believe you? (link)
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Just stick to your story and nothing else. If you can just give them evidence that will definately prove your story. But for sure stick to your story. If you do that then sooner or later then they will have no choice but to believe you because you hadn't changed your story. If you were lying one would figure you would change your story. It is proven, one lie leads to another. But if you just stay to what the truth is then there can be no proving that you lied and those who didn't believe before will believe now because the truth will be evident. And for those who still don't believe you even after this, then there is (sadly) nothing you can really do. I hope this help and you get everything smoothed out.
-Ryan
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okay I like this one guy and he is one of my best friends I got one of his phone numbers and I want to call him really bad but I dont want to embaress my self what should I say to him the reason why I am asking you is because you give good advice and you are a guy so you probally know what to say
Please help me out I really need it
Love Brittany (link)
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To Brittany,
Well since he is one of your best friend you should have little or no trouble talking to him, really! Being a bit random would be a good idea, but not too random. You can talk about things at school or events that have happened anywhere. Maybe try talking about funny things that have happened to you both in the past. Just talk about anything that pops into your mind. Or maybe something to make him think a bit. If you were to call me I would say anything would be cool to talk about, anything at all. Talk about music and such, talk about hanging out some more sometime, anything at all! And as for embarrassing, I would only worry about that if the conversation gets real quiet, as in neither of you not talk for over a minute. That is prob one of the reasons me and my last girlfriend broke up, neither of us really talked to each other (even though I called her pretty much every night I could), it was just akward silences filled in with occasional bits of talk. That would be the only way I would think it would be embarrassing. So go and talk to him! It can't be that much different than just talking to him in person! Good luck with it and I hope it all turns out great for you!
-Ryan
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hello, im a guy and im 14. i have always been kind of quiet in school and stuff. i was just wondering, what should i talk about w/ girls? like i don't know what to say in person except like hi, how are you. and on line i just say hey, whats up, and then the conversation kind of goes quiet, i need real help. (link)
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Hey dude I got the same problem most of the time. Just be random and spontanious. But not too random. You can try talking about the day or week or whatever may be going on in school or your life. It's pretty easy. Hey and also you can try this word game I learned from a friend of mine while we were talking (friend was a girl).
First you should explain the game (which will be easy after you read this). This game is meant to make you think and to find out more about the other person, and it is a very good way to keep the conversation going. Alright you need to first pick a person to go first (doesn't matter which) and then the person who goes first will pick a question about anything (examples could be favorite color, favorite food, favorite day, Do you like to do *such and such*) and then the person who is asking will count down from 5, using a line per number. Then when 0 is reached both of you type your answer and can talk about it, laugh, or go onto a new subject with the answer (see if can generate new conversations!). Then the person who asked will switch with the person who didn't ask, so it is vice versa. So it goes on and on and can leads to you talking about whatever with her! Hope I helped dude. Good luck!
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I'm Jewish but not religious.I want to become Christian but what exactly does it mean to be Christian.What are their beliefs? Also, does anyone have any words of wisdom to make me feel better when I don't feel that important? (link)
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You have everything you need to become Christian. Have have studied the Torah? Does it not include the old testament, containing God's laws and his love for the people of Israel? Well if yes, then read the new testament. It shows God's love extended not only to the Jews, but also to the gentiles (everyone non-jewish) through his son, Jesus. My belief is that Jesus was the only son of God, born of the virgin mary, who suffered under the pontius pilate and through him was crucified, died, and was buried for ALL of my sins and the sins of the whole world. Was raised on the third day in his tomb and then 40 days later, ascended into heaven and now sits at the right hand of God, from which he will come to judge the living, and the dead, on the final day and take those who believe in him to heaven. That is what I believe.
Please if you have anything you want to know, please feel free to email me at alpha_0mega345@yahoo.com. God's blessings!
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14/f me and my boyfriend have been going out a little over a year now, and we both want to have sex. we're both virgins, and we are very eager to do this. problem is, since were "so young" our parents never will leave us alone. we never have any time to ourselves, which sucks. i would like to know if anybody has a way of doing this without our parents finding out. thanks (: i rate high. (link)
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Is nothing sacred anymore!? If I remember right sex was instituted by God for a married man and woman, not two 14 year olds who have been going out for little over a year. You seriously need to wait before having sex. It's something saved for marriage and that alone. That is the way it should be always, always! Jeez this is one of the reasons I do not like society today. Re-think this. It is sad that you don't get much time alone, but if you wan't time alone for that reason, then your parents should be around you everytime you see him.
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Basically I'm sick to death of my family. I really need to get away from them for just a little while. I love them, but for the moment, we aren't getting along too well. None of my friends are around and I'm not allowed to go anywhere without my parents.
Info that might help:
I have 2 younger brothers that constantly fight, and an older brother. My dad is in another state for the next few days, but my mom is here.
help me please! (link)
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Seems like you are passing through my life a little bit. Best thing to do is find your own little space in the house and spend some time there away from your family. I got pretty much the same situation, only it is all of my family in my house and there is alot of tension in my house for various reasons. It is me, my dad, my mom, and my sister with 4 cats at home and like I said there is alot of tension for various reasons. Best thing that works is to try and find your own little space in your house and spend some time there to yourself. Maybe try and volunteer for something to get out of the house or take up playing a sport or something. Hope everything gets better!
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I'm a mysophobiac (germ freak, afraid of things being contaminated) and I hate it because I wash my hands constantly and I go through a bottle of handsanitizer each day, and I don't trust people with my food or drinks (or anything along those lines)...does anybody know how to cure phobias? I'm desperate (link)
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Professional help can help you get over your phobia. Phobia's can't really be "cured" but they can be suppressed to the point where they are basically not there. Best thing to do is to see a professional on those sorts of things. Hope it gets better!
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ok for the past week or so, i haven't been sleeping. i have no idea why. it might be because i just moved into a new house. but like i'm comfortable in it, and i'm not like scared or anything because its a different neighborhood, b/c i know the neighborhood and a lot of people in it. so i don't know what the problem is. it might be stress, but i didn't know stress could like not make you sleep.
i don't know i'm totally lost. any answers or websites or comments would help! thanx.
signed...*the sleepless Mrs. M* (link)
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I have had the same problem with sleep. I would say you are just a little overstressed. Trust me stress can affect your sleep greatly. There have been times I have not fallen asleep at all because of some of the stress I have gone through. I would say to talk about it with your friends and maybe try and relieve the stress you may feel. It helps, trust me.
I hope it get's better for you!
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Well, my bestfriend and i have been best friends for 8 years *I'm going to be a junior* and we've been tennis doubles partners since 8th grade. This summer she's been slacking off and I've been working out everyday. I play tennis atleast 3x a week but i'm starting to play more, and the days i'm not playing i'm reading a book on it or running! I really want to get better and I'm working really hard. But she really isn't. She's played tennis 3x this entire summer! Sometimes she skips tennis practice for work *understandable but she's just afraid to ask to get off an hour early even though she's done it once before and they were fine with it*, but tomorrow she's missing it for a party for some girl she just met! And practice are over at 7- and i doubt the party is even started by then. My friend, who's a year younger then me but also is working hard this year has asked me to be her doubles partner for a tournament coming up. I was like heck yes! I really would rather play with her because I know we'd do really well and my other friend isn't even trying! What to do? (link)
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You should address your friend about this. If she is slacking off and it affects you then you need to fix it. The best way I think to go would be to try and talk to her about it when you can. If she really really doesn't care anymore then just say "Fine" and let her be to do what she wants to.
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I'm 13 years old and I got pregnant. My friends think I'm ready to be a parent, but I haven't told my parents about it yet because they will scold me. Should I go for abortion? WIll it hurt? At least I won't drop out of school, right? I'm really at a loss! I know abortion is wrong but I hate babies! I don't want one!! What do I do?!
Signed,
Helpless (link)
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Greetings Helpless!
You do need to tell your parents about this as soon as you get the chance. It will be much worse if they find out without you telling them, that is for sure. Also don't listen to your friends when they say that you are ready to be a parent, because at this point they don't know any better. And as for abortion. Personally I am very much againts it because it is murder to me. Also you should also consider (please do not harbor any anger to me for saying this) that if you dislike babies to much, you should have thought about that before you did get pregnant. I think what is best to do in your case is to tell your parents about this, seek out good people to adopt your child, and have your baby adopted when it is born. I sincerley hope everything gets better for you and you make it through this ok. God's blessing's upon you.
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