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Abortion: To be, or not to be?
I'm 13 years old and I got pregnant. My friends think I'm ready to be a parent, but I haven't told my parents about it yet because they will scold me. Should I go for abortion? WIll it hurt? At least I won't drop out of school, right? I'm really at a loss! I know abortion is wrong but I hate babies! I don't want one!! What do I do?!
Signed,
Helpless
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You need to talk to your parents, they would be the most helpful. I'm personally agaist abortion, it's murder, and this child doesn't deserve to die because of a stupid mistake you made. You should go to a planned parenthood, or talk to your parents and see what they think. I also think your friends are complete idiots, even when I was 13 I wasn't stupid enough to believe I could raise a child. Do you have a salary? 'Cause you know, diapers, and food, and clothing, and all that cost money. So then you do have a steady job, at the age of 13, well then someone needs to come do something with your boss because he's breaking the child labor laws. And you have a place to live, your parents will let you raise a baby in their house right? There's room enough for it? And at the age of 13 you can really put up with all that crying? All the stress? I know in my first few months of high school I was 13, but I could barely handle the stress of a teenagers life let alone raise a child!! Now if you think somehow you have money, shelter, food, supplies, and brains enough to raise a child, far be it from me to stop you. But you hate babies, so why the heck would you?!
Even if you have the child you won't have to drop out, you wait until you start showing to stop going to school, then you get homeschooled for the remainder of the time.
Anyway, I always decided that if I make the mistake of getting pregnant, then I will not make the mistake of murdering a helpless child. I always chose that even if I were to be raped and got pregnant, I'd put it up for adoption, because even though I would love to have a child, I know at about 15yrs old I couldn't raise one, I don't have a job, besides there are 2 other factors with that... everytime I would look into that childs eyes I'd remember what happened and even though something horrid like that happened the child doesn't deserve death, plus my mom already told me I'd either put it up for adoption, or I would have to leave.
If you really don't want a baby, then have it, and put it up for adoption. But I hope you realize that pregnancy is a hard thing to go through, and also same with the birthing process. You'd probably have to get a ceserian section (C-Section) where they cut you open, because your vaginal hole won't be big enough for a child to get through, you've obviously hitten puburty, but not enough to go through birth. A lot of mothers who are older than you, anywhere from 16+ have had complications with birth, some have even died afterwords because of all the stress and the pushing and all that. It would be easier on you though if you got a C-Section.
But PLEASE don't abort it, that's sickening, it's murder, and when you're older you'll feel super guilty about it. If other people find out, rumors will spread, and people will look at you with majaor disgust. Now if you were one of my friends and you had an abortion, I would probably find it in my heart to forgive you, mainly because it would have to have been really hard on you to make that choice, but I still think it's the worst choice to make.
But all in all it's your choice to make, please, make a smart, wiiiiise choice!!!
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Tell your parents. They'll freak, but then they'll help you.
At 13, you aren't ready to be a parent. But I personally believe abortions are wrong. Find a pregnancy resource center. They can help give you info on adoption and such.
Also, have you talked to the father yet?
You won't have to drop out of school. If you feel uncomfortable, you could homeschool for a short while, 'til the situation is resolved.
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Hey. I know this is tough. You can totally get through this. well I'm not going to scold you or w/e lol, you get that enough from your parents and family, so it's no use saying "you shouldn't have had sex at such a yound age!" So here it goes. Abortion is wrong. Tell yourr parents, if anything it's the best thing to just be honest, they'll really help you out in the long run. See from there. I know you're scared, but you need to do it!
Hope it helps.
-M
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First things first... you need to tell your parents. Yes, they will be mad, and yes they will probably scream and hollar. But you must talk to them. I can't stress this enough. Try to keep a mature and calm approach about it, even if they get upset. If they start screaming at you, dont scream and cry back. You must remain calm to work through this.
Next visit a family counciler to work through your options. You are too young to be raising a child right now... you need to get through high school first. Abortion is a choice if you are willing to do that, but if not you can always opt for adoption. There are pros and cons to every choice, and a family counciler will be able to walk you through it all in person.
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I really think you should go for the abortion. It cant hurt half as much as child birth. at 13 you are definately NOT ready to be a mother. If you have this baby, your friend will grow up, get a life, go to college, leave the state, and you'll never here from her again. But you wont. If you have this child now you will have to give up any future you could ever have. You would be practically a slave to this child until you are far to old to start again. it will cry, always. It wont care if you dont sleep. Also do you think you have responsible means to raise this child? Money? Transportation? If you dont want to have an abortion, then for the child's sake, please set up an adoption before hand. There are plenty of stable, loving couples who would love to have this baby and for different reasons cant have children of their own. A 13 year old who hates babies will not be able give the child everything it needs to grown into steady stable person. Well, good luck, whatever you do. Take care.
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Greetings Helpless!
You do need to tell your parents about this as soon as you get the chance. It will be much worse if they find out without you telling them, that is for sure. Also don't listen to your friends when they say that you are ready to be a parent, because at this point they don't know any better. And as for abortion. Personally I am very much againts it because it is murder to me. Also you should also consider (please do not harbor any anger to me for saying this) that if you dislike babies to much, you should have thought about that before you did get pregnant. I think what is best to do in your case is to tell your parents about this, seek out good people to adopt your child, and have your baby adopted when it is born. I sincerley hope everything gets better for you and you make it through this ok. God's blessing's upon you.
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well... your friends dont know how hard it is being a parent.. now about your parents.. you are gonna have to tell them sumtime because your stomach is goin to start getting big cause the baby is goin to grow.. but before that happens take your parents or mom in the living room and tell them that yall need to have a serious conversation.. and then like cry a lil bit which i know you would be doing and just tell them that you are pregnant.. BUT DONT have an abortion thats like murder and you will regret every moment of your life.. but have the baby and either keep it and get home schooled or give it up for adoption or sumthin but NO ABORTION!! SAY IT WITH ME NO ABORTION!! hope i helped you!
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I think your friends don't know how hard it is to be a parent, if they are telling you that you're ready at the age of 13. It's actually a lot harder then it looks, especially when you're at such a young age. You know your parents have the right to know that you're pregnant, right? So really, I think the best thing to do would be to tell them the truth. They're your parents and no matter how dissapointed they might be in you, they will still love you, your their daughter. I'm sure they will be right by your side and will support whatever choice you make. I know it's hard since you are so young, but you need people that love you to be by your side and help you along. I'm not a big fan with abortions, I think they are totally wrong. And to get an abortion you need to be 4 months pregnant. So really, either way, your parents are going to notice at some point in time. I think the best thing to do would be to tell you parents and talk this over. You should either keep the baby, or give it up for adoption. But please don't get an abortion, that's just like murder. You're killing something that hasn't even had the chance to see the world yet.
♥ Krissy
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Hi Helpless! I personally think abortion is wrong. i think you should tell your parents because they may find out later and not feel they can trust you later on and just be hurt you didn't tell them. you might want to talk to them about this, they may be very upset, but the may be able to help you make a decision. You may want to consider having the baby adobted before you give birth, then you will know for sure where it's going. All you will have to do is give birth the rest would be up to the adopted parents. Hope I helped, and I hope you can make the decision...i know it can't be easy.
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...So, you are going to end somethings life because you are a moronic whore?
If anythings life should be ended due to your moronic antics, it should be your own.
Suck it up, give birth, live destitute.
Your "friends" that think you are ready to be a parent.
They are idiots.
And will probably end up in similar situations.
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Well i've never been a supporter of abortion. i think it is totally wrong, but you could have the baby and have someone adopt it before you even give birth. That way u know where it will go and everything, and u dont hav to send it to an orphanage. Before taking anyone else's advice though, you shoudl probably talk to your parents.
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Tell Your Parents the truth, rents dont like when you hold back for such a long time, you should tell them you desided you want to put it up for adoption so the baby can still live! and that your really sorry...add something like that
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