Hey. I recently recovered from depression with my medication. Still comes back sometimes, but im not really cutting any more. Im 15. If you have questions about anything, hell, ask me. I've been thru depression, I've been a cutter, I go to high school. Shoot.
Anyways, more about me... umm my name is alyx, im female...check out my xanga. Some feedback would be nice, not because i really care about any of this rating crap, but just because i want to know if my advice is being read....and if its helpful...or not. If you dont like advice i give you, dont get pissed off at me please. Im just a juvinile delienquent who cant spell, not god. Im not totally useless either.
My interests are philosophy, photography, writing, theology, and animals. My family is more then a little disfunctanal so i know how that feels. I value honesty. Sometimes Im blunt, but i try to help. Im not shocked easily. I definately dont try to be a perfect daughter, person, or anything else. I dont claim to. my morals are.... flexible. I do what i think is right by me. And sometimes im amazed because that ends up being higher then plenty of peoples.
The world would be a better place if everyone would just stop preaching at each other and do something useful like donate some money to homeless kids. Kids would learn better if teachers cared more about teaching and less about controlling everyone. Lying isn't necessarily always a bad thing. Killing someone nearly always is. Its impossible to draw a distinct line between good and bad, actions are not people, dont be cruel to animals. Think before you stick a loaded gun into your pocket. Dont buy your wife a vaccume for her anniversery. Dont feed cows meat, you'll start an epedemic. Like i said, Im not god. Its just called Common Sense, people.
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16 male. I honestly think I am going insane. Things just have been building on me my entire life, and they are starting to just break through to the point where I cannot control my own emotions anymore.
It's like last night, everything inside me just exploded. My mom works on pit crew for my band, and she asked me to help unload the truck. Well, I happen to be the only person who uses the truck that has to unload because she is there. It always makes me a bit upset when she asks, but not like last night. Don't mention this, for it is not the issue. If you do, it is a 1.
What happened to me after scared me. I suddenly had flashback after flashback, showing me how un-normal I am. I have overprotective parents, first off, and began wishing things like they'd stop. I am a quiet person, and I wished that I could speak more. I have not had a girlfriend, I wished I could. I wanted my friends to be a bit closer to me. I wanted somebody to actually be interested in what I say, instead of blatently nodding. I wanted my sister back from her present self where she is dating a guy and is so rebellious that I can no longer stand it.
AKA, I wanted to finally be normal. And it has caused so much depression in me these past days... I feel like my life is going south, and I cannot even look north.
What do I do? (link)
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You didnt list any major reasons for you to be so unhappy here, but lots of times feelings of anger, worthlessness, hopelessness, depression, and other emotional problems are really caused by psycological disorders. Im diagnosed with Chronic Depression, and you sound a lot like what i went through. I used to be so shy and insecure around other people that i could barely talk. I never admitted that i could have something mentally wrong with me, i always blamed the way i felt and delt with things on myself and other things and people going on in my life. Feeling misunderstood and taken for granted are often ways of saying that you feel isolated... Im not claiming to know you or say that i know whats going on. But an estamated 1500million have medical reason for feeling the same way you do, and many of them dont know it. You know, by the year 2010 suicide could be the second leading death in america....
I know its hard to believe, but meds acutually do make a difference. Im not a doctor, an im not saying anything for ceratin [u don have to listen to me im crazy] but lots a ppl feel the way you do... talk to someone about it. Maybe you should try seeing a psycologist. I know it sounds stupid, but it could change the way you feel. Good luck ;-)
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i apologize for this being so long, but i really need to cover important facts so you can help me out on this 1!!Please read very carefully so you understand.
Last year, my bf asked me back out, then in the same sentence told me he had to take another girl to homecoming (as a favor to a friend)(i said no to a guy the year be4 because this same guy and i liked each other, and i didnt want to hurt him)!anyway, I was very hurt and said no. We both cried! He left shortly after, and from that night on, my bf turned into the biggest jerk ever! In less than a week, i found out (months later) he screwed a 14 yr old (he was 17)the 2nd day they hung out. I was so distressed, I didnt want to live! (him and i had a thing for each other since we were in 7th grade, but didnt go out until our soph. year)we had a very physical relationship months later, but not sex! We were totally "IN LOVE" ! Hes been with this now 15 yr old for a year. All he did was brag about what him and her did in the bedroom and say nasty things about me. He was verbally/emotionally abusive towards me. He told me he doesnt like rejection, and thats why he did what he did. He wanted to hurt me so bad, and i pretended it didnt bother me, (but it was killing me inside) 3 months into their relationship, he told me that he loved me and didnt want me to hurt him, he still missed what we had, he dreams about us, thinks about us all the time, and misses crying on me! He even came over 2 times, but i never let on that i still had feelings for him.(he has a gf, why would i, and he screwed her, i just couldnt get that out of my head) I dont talk to him at school, but 1ce in awhile i do online. He never IMs me. Hes not the same with her as he was with me. We loved each other so much, that we cried on each other. He has NEVER cried over her, even when shes broken up with him. He would tell me 50 times a day that he loved me, then we would argue who loved who more. He rarely tells her 1st that he loves her. He will say he loves her when she says it 1st. We were on a field trip and theyre were 5 buses going. We could sit wherever, and i sat on bus 3. He came on shortly and we made eye contact. He sat right behind me. We got off the bus, and we enter the theatre single file into the seats. I ended up sitting right behind him (not by choice) He told his gf that i was stalking him, and that when he sat on the bus behind me he didnt realize it was me until we were half way there. Of course she believed him.(i know youve heard this be4)so i get blamed for everything, He would always put "I LOVE YOU"(then my name)ALWAYS&FOREVER his away messages and profile.(stuff that came from his heart) the stuff he has now about her, comes from his head.Never changes it! Never has it said always&forever with her. Sometimes his away messages say "with s**" and a kissy face, thats it!!! Even after all the shit hes put me through, i still love him! It took me years for my love to grow for him and its a deep love i will never feel for any1 else. I have tons of guy friends, but thats all i see them as, is just a friend! I dont know if i should just let things be, or if i should slowly somehow tell him my feelings for him now after a year. He still wanted me back 3 months after he was with her, but now its been almost a year. Im so confused, but i know deep down inside, i want to spend the rest of my life with him, its just i dont know if things could ever be the same between us again! I want older and wiser people to help me out on this. 18 and older please! Im taking this very seriously, so i dont want stupid advice!! If some1 out there has had something similar, id love to talk! Thanks for you patience and understanding!!! (link)
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Honey, you think that you'll never feel this way about anyone else, but your wrong. its called Love, and it takes a long time to get over, to heal, and to feel whole. But it WILL pass and one day you will fall in love with someone totally sweet and mature, who loves you for everything that you are and will never ever hurt you.
For one thing, this guy seems totally immature and cruel... I can understand that you cant CHOOSE who you fall in love with (you cant) but by being with someone who is verbally/mentally abusive isnt worth it. i know that right now he feels like your whole world, but he's not. You need to know that you deserve so much better, and one day you will have that.
Dont put up with him. Everytime he puts you down he gets something out of it. You need to get out, have fun, flirt with other people, make your highschool years really count. Put him in the past. Block him on your buddylist. Laugh when he insults you. I know its hard, and i know it hurts, but the best way to find happiness is to love yourself before you love anyone else. healthy love is the kind that makes you feel beautiful, intelligent, unique, amazing. Its out there, waiting, it just takes time. If he keeps bothering you maybe you should report him for herassment. There is no reason for him to make you feel badly about yourself. Good luck XoXoXo
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ok,my best friend has a boyfriend and i'm kind of jealous (they're perfect and i'm single). Him and i are friends but i like him a little bit more than that. they just started going out this week. she knows him better then i do and she's liked him longer too. i told her that i like him. now do i tell him that i like him or would that ruin the realtionship between the 3 of us? what should i do???
any help is great.
~~~Chelsey~~~ (link)
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Stop. Think. Do you really want to be the kind of person who goes after your best friends guy? Its ok to have those feelings... but its totally selfish to try to justify acting on them. You both liked him. He chose her. She sounds like she deserved it, since shes had her eyes on him first. What you need to do, is get over it. There are tons of other hott, sweet, caring guys. Get used to seeing them together. Try other things, to get your mind of of it. Remember, crushes only last for a little while. Friends, reputation, and ultimately your own self worth last much longer.
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So i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.. i once broke up with him for two months and he cried.. ALOT.. then we got back together and now all he does is go out with his friends tell my i'm stupid, call me names, and forget about me. He tells me all the time how he doesn't care about me and that really hurts my feelings.. what should i do? (link)
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God, who cares if he likes you or not? He's a jerk, an asshole, someone you definately dont need in your life. He takes you for granted, and he wants to hurt you... he sounds like a sadist to me. i think he' trying to redeem himself for crying when you broke up with him, and show that he's better then you. You dont need that trash. Just by staying with him, your honestly disrespeting YOURSELF. Put him where he belongs... the garbage disposal.
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OK, well im 14 and still havent had a b/f yet. Is there like smething wrong with mme? Im affraid I wont have a b/f the whole 4 years of highschool. Thanks! (link)
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Theres nothing wrong with you, but if you want a boyfriend your probably not giving off the right signals. Do you hang out in a group of all girls? Because i know for a fact its hard to get a boyfriend at all if you dont hang out with any guys... also if you have a certain guy[s] in mind, you have to look interested, not just be interested. You have to be open. Guys look for clues that girls really like them before they ask them out (to minimize chances of rejection). So, if your shy then you probably wont pick up any guys like that! Just be wild, flirty, open, and ultimately yourself. And hey, just for the record, you dont NEED a boyfriend. If your single, and your happy, then just enjoy it. You shouldnt get caught up in the dating as a fad thing, only go out with someone because you are geniunly interested in him...
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ok, i had a dream that i was showing my friend my old house and we went into the ravine in the backyard and a fox jumped out in front of us and ran into a path in the woods. then the fox went running back because a wolf was chasing him. the black wolf bit his snout. then he ran back into the path. then there was a line of 4 wolfs but 3 of the wolfs disappeared. the one on the far right was the black wolf. he came running toward me like he was going to attack. but i kicked his head. then he backed off. but then he was really really friendly and sat by my side. then the fox came out from the path and and the black wolf (which i named Blaster in my dream) looked at me and i said "go ahead..get him" and he attacked the fox. he bit his snout again. but there was no blood. the fox ran away back into the path. and then i walked up the ravine with "Blaster" then we appeared in this yard that i've never seen. there was a swing set and i was on the swing. my brother and sister were in back of me and they took my stuffed animal dog. then i told Blaster to get them and he jumped and bit my sisters arm and my brothers leg. but they didnt seem to mind!! i got my stuffed animal back but it was all dirty and the collar broke off. i went into my dads house and sat at the kitchen table. i started crying just a little bit though. but Blaster was next to me the whole way...then i woke up. does this mean "Blaster" is my animal spirit guide?
also, i want to have another dream about this black wolf...does anyone know how i could possibly make myself have a dream about the black wolf? im very interested in this.
i will rate 5's for everyone! unless your answer sucks. well..if you really tried you would still get a 5. peace out (link)
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Hey i think thats really cool. It depends on how you feel about this wolf, and the dream only means what it symbolizes to you, so dont ask advice about that. I say, go for it.
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Why do atheists have a problem with Christian's trying to spread their religon? They seem to always get so defensive and mean. It really bugs me because they can't have an open mind to what someone else says without flipping out. Like Christian religon says "help those who don't believe in God" or something, and the atheists just FLIP out. I've been open minded to many atheists I know and listen to what they say about it calmly without saying their opinions are dumb, but then when I mention my relgion, they say it's so stupid and get mad at me for talking about it.
Anyway, to sum it all up, you basically just need to read the first sentence. (link)
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Why do Christians have a problem with athiests? I guess its the same thing. How would you feel if someone told you you were so evil because you didnt believe in christ that you will spend the rest of your life burning in agony for your sins? especially when you just came how exhausted from volunteering at the hospital or homeless shelter? What makes someone truely deserve that?
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ok so tomorrow i am goin to the mall to meet up with me boyfriend that i havent seen in 3 weeks.. my friend offered to take me because my BEST friend doesnt like my boyfriend.. i would let her take me except see i mostly will be all over my boyfriend and stuck.. nothin sexually but like me and him want to go to the movies and hang out you noe. and i dont know if i should let her take me because then she will feel all left out and sad and then on the way home she will most likely call me a hoe or something like that because the way i acted. even though i noe she doesnt mean it but still.. my question.. should let her take me to the mall or should i walk there. it is about a 20 minute walk but it isnt difficult.. (link)
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just walk, trust me. Its never fun to be the 3rd wheel, and if your friend thinks that you're all just going to hang out and be friends shes most likely pretty confused. Its hard to be a girlfriend and a good friend at the same time, especially if you havent seen him for 3weeks. He'll most likely enjoy the alone time as well. Have fun.
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What do i do when my mom just cares about her boyfriend and she never wants me and my sister around, and all she says to me and my sister is that were imbarssments, and i hear her having sex all the time with her boyfriend, and i found a vibrater in her room! what do i do i feels like i dont even have a mother!! when i was sick with the flu she didt come home til 6 o'clock in the morning I was rushed in emergancy room, thanks to my sister calling the ambulance! what do i do I NEED HELP!
Ps-she doesnt even make us dinner or anything (link)
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Sit her down and force her to listen to you. Tell her that she is not taking her responsibility as a parent seriously, and one of the staff at your school has threatened to call child services. Be vague, and refuse to name names. Tell her that your really worried.
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I'm 13 years old and I got pregnant. My friends think I'm ready to be a parent, but I haven't told my parents about it yet because they will scold me. Should I go for abortion? WIll it hurt? At least I won't drop out of school, right? I'm really at a loss! I know abortion is wrong but I hate babies! I don't want one!! What do I do?!
Signed,
Helpless (link)
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I really think you should go for the abortion. It cant hurt half as much as child birth. at 13 you are definately NOT ready to be a mother. If you have this baby, your friend will grow up, get a life, go to college, leave the state, and you'll never here from her again. But you wont. If you have this child now you will have to give up any future you could ever have. You would be practically a slave to this child until you are far to old to start again. it will cry, always. It wont care if you dont sleep. Also do you think you have responsible means to raise this child? Money? Transportation? If you dont want to have an abortion, then for the child's sake, please set up an adoption before hand. There are plenty of stable, loving couples who would love to have this baby and for different reasons cant have children of their own. A 13 year old who hates babies will not be able give the child everything it needs to grown into steady stable person. Well, good luck, whatever you do. Take care.
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ok..so there was this girl and she was like my best friend all thro 8th grade...then my b/f broke up with me and she went out with him a DAY later. how horrible is that?! well..he is so mean to her and he talks so bad about me and my other friends..but she wont stick up for us..AT ALL! she sits there and laughs about it. she said she was sorry and i was like.ok..and i have forgiven her and everything but now its like evrything she does gets on my nerves i cant stand this girl. and its hard because she still thinks we are best friends and i dont know how to just tell her..Hey girl..we arent friends...i thought it would be easier to forgive her but it keeps getting harder cause she is like the fakest person in the world. idk what i should do because now we are in a huge fight and she is making it seem like its MYYY fault.and ignoring her doest work because she is good friends with another one of my best friends so its like everywhere i go with my friends she is there too..ughhh please help! (link)
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Ok... like the day after you broke up with your bf was the day that you should definately have told her to get a life, perferably in another state. Tell her, in what ever words you want, that shes a bi_tchy backstabbing a_sslicking hor, and i have no idea how she can even look you in the eye. HOW CAN SHE?? and how can you let her? How can you be CIVIL with her at all? You're a girl. this is when your supposed to start screaming and tear one, or both, of her eyeballs out. Its your right by nature.
Dont worry about hurting her feelings, because she obviously doesnt care about hurting yours. You have every right to stick up for yourself, and everyone knows that dating their 'best friend's' ex is not allowed for at least a month. Two weeks would have shown that she at least cared if you dropped dead. The next day, man you better watch out. This girl is unappropriate language. You let her walk over you. You know you deserve better. But hey- she's the one with the dead meat boyfriend. She has whats coming to her.
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My daughter is 4 years old. Now she is in K1. For the past three years she was in a day care centre. Its been two semester now in the new scool and my daughter is still crying. In fact at first it was only in the mornings but lately the teacher has informed me that she cires for the whole day. I don't undertand . After all she was ok in the day care. I doubt if she is still adapting to her environment for it's been 2 semester now. She is very bright and when i ask her whats wrong or if she doesnt like the school or the teacher she tends to disregard the questions and leave my questions unanswered. The teacher thinks perhaps something at home is causing her to feel this way but she gets everything she wants yet remain unspoiled. She has a very loving family with no conflicts. I do not understand i'm desperate i can see the teacher's fustration causing her work to be difficult What shall i do (link)
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You should get your child into therapy. There could be many, many things going on. She might be having problems with bullying (yes even at that young age), she may even be being sexually abused and too ashamed to tell you. Most young children who are sexually abused avoid answering questions about it. Of course, she may just be sufferning from a majority of things like seperation anxiety, or lonliness. Whatever it is, it is not normal, and unless you get her into therepy to find out whats bothering her and hep her talk about it, to may have a strong negative affect on it as she grows older. Children that young are affected and shaped by their surroundings, and can be easily tramautized, causing them to be shy, withdrawn, or depressed as they grow older.
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do you kno the song concrete angel? ya well that is me! i am sick of getting thrown around please help me!! i need all the help i can possibly get. am i going to die? i hope not! please this is all that i ask you just give me advice i need it so badly!!i mean i have gotting stiches 7 times cause of my mom and dad! please help! (link)
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You need to tell an adult. Tell a teacher. Tell her that you want and need help. Child abuse, any kind of child abuse, is a felony. Be prepared for the results though. It must be really hard for you to have gone through all this... but it isnt all quite over. Understand that temporary or permanent care in a foster home are predictable outcomes, and possibly criminal charges against your parents. You definately need to sit down and talk to a social worker right away. It's probably best to get the situation under control as soon as you can. You need help, and you can't get it on your own. possibly, your parents can need help as well. Go to an authority figure and tell them whats been going on. Good luck.
http://www.jimhopper.com/abstats/
Heres a website about child abuse. It can help you to be certain what exactly qualifies as abuse, and what are some options available to you.
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Ok well the guy I kinda like I just found out has a girlfriend aww i know im sad... I cant get him out of mind, i have a myspace and hes one of my friends on it cause we go to school together and stuff i mean i didnt just meat him or anything and I use to like always look at his sight and leave him friendly comments and stuff but now the picture thats his main is of him and his girfriend kissing... I respect him and respect the fact that he has a girlfriend and all that cause were good friends and Im happy for him i just want to try to think of him as a really good friend and not get sad when i see thier picture... any advide please help...
signed I respect the man (link)
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All things pass with time. its mature that you want to still be friends with him, sometimes that can be harder then just forgetting him. Any crush will eventually fade with time. In the mean time, keep your mind preoccupied so that you dont have time to think about it. Watch TV, read a book, do yoga, or call friends and see movies. The fact that you are still single only opens up more chances to do incredibly fun stuff with your friends or just by yourself. You are free to flirt with the cute guy you run into anywhere and not feel bad about it. You can have long girl night outs where you look through your yearbook and rate all the guys while you paint each other's toe nails. Remember that one day you will meet a totally goregeous guy who will love you truely and deeply for everything that you are. But dont throw urself at anyother guys either- take time to let it pass. After a while it wont hurt anymore to see him with a girl. it wont even matter. Be happy for him, but you know that he missed out. His loss. There are other fishes in the sea though, so dont grieve too long!
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I'd like advice with a matter ive often thought about but never done anything about.
Im just turned 50 now. but during my school years I was often bullied, maybe because i was a quiet shy sort of girl at the time. The sort bullying kids make a bee-line for.
But i went through a thoroughly miserable traumatic time throughout my last 2 years of secondary school between 1968 and 1970. Thats age 13 to 15. I was consistently bullied by gangs of other girls, mostly within the same school year, every day of every week. All the time, all year. It was ceaseless and i never had a moments peace from it. It was sometimes the threat of something awful possibly happening that kept me frightened and nervous, but often it became violent, maybe being pushed down stairs at school or literally punched in the face for absolutely no reason at all. All everyone else did was laugh. I was on my own and couldnt do anything about it. I was all the time afraid and introverted.
My parents didnt understand or believe me, neither did anyone else. The teachers did nothing to help.
I ended being sent to court and sent away into a childrens home twice, Once at 14 and then just before i was actually 15 in may of 1970. Each time it was for a period of 3 or 4 weeks. but it was horrendous, i was scared to death. staff tried to give me internal examinations and once i had to stand naked while the homes doctor looked me over, for what reason i dont know, that was so embarassing and humiliating.
And all this simply because i was too frightened to go to school or left during the day before anything else happened to me. Once i was seen outside by the housemaster, Mr Cleary of Plant Hill High School of Blackley in Manchester. He dragged and pushed me around to get me outside the head masters office, I would have willingly gone there if he had just asked me. But as soon as the headmaster came out,instead of asking me whats wrong, he strapped me on my hands. I was so shocked, i suddenly wet my clothing. I then couldnt go into the class room.so i went crying into the wash room and then went home.
Since then i have been affected by no confidence, I cannot mix well with people. I am insecure, nervous. and still after al these years, think of it all the time. It was such a terrible growing up time. I have no self confidence or self esteem at all. People can easily dominate and patronise me and they often do, and i dont know how to deal with it. If i had felt happy and confident during my growing up this would not be happening. I would have the positive life and be able to cope like the rest of my family.
Is there any way i can be paid compensation for what i suffered then, and have suffered since, due to my experiences?I personally believe i should be paid at least four thousand pounds for what i went through. Maybe a couple of thousand for each year i spent each day filled with fear and taken from my home,being punished for being a victim. I suffered through no fault of my own, and i should be helped to have some happiness and contentment now that i am getting older and should be be having some peace now. I would so much appreciate your guidance on this matter. (link)
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Ok, im only 15. but i went through the most horrible things in my elementary school. i know what you mean. its hell. its cruel. Its not fair. i had something wrong with my mucles.Things havent much changed. I didnt have confidence to stand up for myself. I only went to principles office once, and that was because a group of kids who didnt like me were going to try to get me expelled. i cried the whole time. i sought understanding. it wasnt a mistake id ever make again. After i went on to middle school my defect went away. But i was paranoid, terrified, and just about everything you explained.
i started to plan my suicide when i was 14 years old. I unscrewed the blades from pencil sharpeners and used them to slice my arms, wrists, and legs over and over agian. i got anxiety. i suffered severe depression. We had to spend much money sending me to doctors, buying pills from me. my parents punished me for being terrified, and for not wanting to live.
But with pills and a genious psycologist i finally started to heal. And now, at last, im the person i would have been. i have a life, i have strength. And for a long time i had hatred, but it passed. The very people who made my life hell had forgiven me for being different as a child. And in my own way i had forgiven them. Not forgotten, but let go. Theres no use in holding anger and hatred, dont you see? you've let this hurt you all of these years.... i can imagine how hard its been for you. but money wont take that away. if you sue a school board for what happenend to you in the past, you will only be taking money away from other children like the child you used to be.... They were Wrong, and You suffered for it. Yes. But you cant make that right this way... you need to get help with a seasoned psycologist or therepist to talk about what was done to you. You can recover, and learn confidence and peace. You can speak out and make a difference. By speaking out and sharing your experience you could reach out to other kids who go through the same things every day that you went to. But being bitter still after all these years... dont you see that thats only hurting you farther? Yes, in an ideal world you could be compensated. But the world isnt perfect. Its not even fair. YOU have to take back your life, and moeny has nothing to do with it.
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ok so i cut, so obviously im depressed. i cant decide if i should go to a psychologist and have them give me anti-depressants, or if i should just go to our family doctor and get some from him. what do you think? i dont want my parents in the same room as me if i went to the doctor, so how would i do that? id feel bad if i said i dont want my parents to come in, but is that what im supposed to do? is the doctor going to ask me questions? and would i have to show him my cuts? their really teeny and a little red, so they really arent that noticable, but would he still give me anti-depressants? im not wanting anti-depressants just for my cutting, i am depressed so i have other problems other than cutting. thank youuuu (link)
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Ive been there. If i were you i would got to your psycologist rather then your doctor. If you see your psycologist she will refer you to a pysciatrist which is like a doctor, AND a shrink. He will specialize medicine and depression. That way he'll know all about cutting and stuff. Normal doctors often dont know anything about psycology and they think they do and they say the stupidist things that make you want to kill them like 'this cutting is very immature and stupid' or they'll refer you to a nut house for 'trying to kill yourself' its crazy i swear. Also, they almost anyways agree with youre parents. So i'd stick with the pycologist. good luck.
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ok so there is this guy that i REALLY like..and i talk to him online a lot and tells me im really pretty and stuff..and i think he's really hott but i dont know what to say back to him? because instead of telling me im hott he says that im pretty and beautiful and stuff which i really like because its not insensitive like saying im hott is..so whats a sweet way to tell him he's "hott" or fine or whatever?? (link)
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say some sweet shit like 'aaawwww. Youre so cute.' Unless he's like super emo or thinks hes to hard core for that. but most of the time guys like it.
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well it this me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 1 year and i asked her is i could kiss her and she said no but she likes to take it slow and i said ok and that was about 2 mounths ago should i kiss her yet or wait and if we kiss should i use tounge and is there a special way to use tounge
please help i need it in the next few days
-rockfan23 (link)
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how old are you? if your older then 12, and you've been going out for a year then you definately should be kissing. And if your gf has a problem with that, then im sorry to say, the relationship isnt going to work out. When a girl says that she wants to take it slow, that means respecting her privacy, maybe a WEEK without tongue action (or a little more, ok), and no sex at all untill farther notice, so dont even ask. Thats all normal. The situation you are describing is not.
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17/f ..all the time i cry..about little things and i get upset very easily sometimes i jsut sit in the bathroom and cry...i think about my life and whats going on and i just break down..does anybody know what i can do.or have an idea whats wrong? please help i rate high (link)
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i guess you probably have depression, unless your just really overwhelmed by things at school right now. I had really bad depression too, and i dealt with it in a really bad way before i finally got help. When my parents sent me to a teenager psycologist i fought them as much as i could. But now that im on medication everything is so much better then it was before. Its a disease, and it NEEDS treatment, or it will just get worse on its own. Its not really that anything specifically can be WRONG with your life, its caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It can start at any time and age. Sometimes, its triggered by a tramautic event/time in your life. Sometimes its triggered by nothing at all. Talk to your parents about it, or your school counserlor. I know that sounds so embarrassing or awkward, but your not going to get better alone. You need help. Dont be ashamed, and your not alone. Millions of people just like you have the same problem. :-)
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Okay well there's this guy I really like and I want him to be my boyfriend but the thing is that one of my friends likes him a lot too. So when I told her I liked him she made me promise that I wouldn't go out with him. I think it's kinda stupid for her to make me promise that so I told her that if he asked me out I was gonna say yes. But then she got mad at me and I think she told him that I liked him because he has been avoiding me ever since. I wanna talk to him about it but I haven't gotten a hold of him lately. And since he's avoiding me we aren't really hanging out. I'm really sad since I've liked him on and off the whole year. And I'm kind of jealous of my friend cuz he's been flirting with her a whole lot. So what do I do? Do I talk to him or her. . .Or both of them? Was it wrong for me to not promise I wouldn't go out with this guy since my friend liked him too? (link)
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Ok hon, thats not what you call a 'friend'. Thats what you call a jealous-would-be-girlfriend. Im glad to here that you didnt give into her pressure and stood your ground. If he's avoiding you, then there may be a good chance that she told him something negative about you that wasnt neccesarily the truth. maybe you should try to talk to him about it, and clear up the subject. If he is simply avoiding you because he thinks your interested and doesnt want to be tied down, then the best thing you can do is forget about him and let him go. There are other fishes in the sea, right? In any case, i suggest you corner your friend and demand an explination. Who knows, maybe this guy isnt worth your friendship after all. Ask her how she would feel is he asked her out and she wasnt allowed to say yes? Explain to her that you care about her friendship, but not enough to deny what you truly feel for anyone else. who knows, maybe you might get her to see your side of the argument.
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