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"I think that being a good person will get you some place equally as good."--I dont understand what you're saying..what place is this that no one talks or knows about?
"I don't look at God as a person watching our every move,"--God is not human.
"God is more of a guiding force."--Could you explain that..?"
It is the moral code that is buried deep in the human conscience."--sayy what?
"I can’t look at God as this man sitting on a throne in the sky… he… it... is more than that,"--No!God is not human He cant be..He created us. God is more than we can comprehend.

---Im a Christian, and im not trying to force what I believe down your throat at all, please dont take this the wrong way,im not trying to offend you,im just interested in what you say you believe.

I would love to discuss these topics with you... feel free to IM me... my AOL is Killingfrost18
Frost

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You wrote "just try to be a good person and it'll all fall into place." Being a "good" person will not make things ok. Anyone who believes that is just kidding themself. If being a good person would make everything ok, there wouldn't be empty lives asking questions about the purpose of life. No matter how good a person seems to be, there is always something not good. We're human. We're not perfect. But Jesus is perfect and accepting His sacrifice is the only thing that can cover our imperfections. THEN serving Him with our good deeds counts.

That is your opinion and perfectly acceptable. You have the right to believe whatever you consider to be true. I maintain that same right... and what I believe differs from what you believe... which is fine... I accept my imperfections, I ponder my existance and the purpose of life... and I firmly believe that God (not jesus or Buddha or Mohamed) is the Immanent Will to serve and is all forgiving and all loving...Take what you will from what I say, I'm not trying to tell you your religion or faith is wrong... you asked a question open to all answers and the responce I gave was how I have come to understand it.
Luck to you
Frost

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Do you think that being a good person will get you to heaven? And that God dosen't know what you do?

I think that being a good person will get you some place equally as good. The way I view God is slightly different than how most people view it... I don't look at God as a person watching our every move, although I am sure that whatever God is it is aware of our actions... God is more of a guiding force. I don't have the words to describe it. It is the moral code that is buried deep in the human conscience. It is the basic understanding that hurting another person is wrong… I can’t look at God as this man sitting on a throne in the sky… he… it... is more than that, its embedded into our lives, performing miracles and guiding people where they will have it.
I hope that makes sense… you don’t have to agree with me… it’s just what makes sense to me.
Luck to you
Frost

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Ok, first of all my girlfriend and I are both sophomores in High School. We've been together for just over two months but we've known each other for almost four years and everything is going okay. But i'm in the middle of a depression right now and its making me reconsider a lot of things. For your information we don't have a typical on-off high school sort of romance. See we've determined that we are soulmates and intend to marry when we can (we even made these cheap little pretend rings to wear until then); in short, we're very serious for teenage romance. My question centers around the speed of the relationship. We've basically done everything aside from sex and being a guy, I feel I should try to get it to that point, you know? But for some reason all I really want to do is slow down. I feel if I tell her this, she will think I'm not ready for the kind of relationship she wants. And if she does, she might want to find someone else. My question is should this relationship take a step back or stay where it is now?

My best advice to you is to take it slow... and if she is offended that you want to take it slower you can simply say 'if we are truly soulmates we will have the rest of our lives to savor eachoter in all ways.' my biggest concern is that time changes a lot of things, (maybe I'm just old and bitter :D ) and when I was a sophmore in highschool I rushed head first into a lot of situations that would have been easier to cope with had I slowed down a bit... two months isn't all that long a time to have been together not when you are talking about spending the rest of your lives together... so take it easy and do what you think is best for everyone..
I wish you both the best.
Luck to you both
Frost

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Me and my boyfriend had sex 3 times on monday. The first with a condom, and then the second, he started off without a condom (I dunno if there was any pre-mature ejaculation) but then finished that with one on. Then the last time we did have a condom. And he only pulled out the first time. I just got finished having my period Saturday. So I was wondering is there a possibility that I could possibly get pregnant? And know yall say well get a pregnancy test, but how long should I wait to get one?

So my two questions:
1) Could I possibly be pregnant?
2) When to get a pregnancy test?

THANKS!

From what I understand he had a condom on each time he reached climax... while I must say wear a condom at all times, the chances that you are pregnant are very small... as long as he had one on correctly each time he came you should be fine... most of those tests won't come out accurate until either a few days before your period or just after. I best advice to you is to wait until you are suppose to get your period and then if its more than a week late get a test. Hope that helps.
luck to you
Frost

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I am Catholic..but I very interested in finding out about different religions..is that weird? hah

My question is: How many sects (right word?) does the Protestant church branch out to? (ex: Baptist, Methodist, Lutherans, etc..) How are their beliefs different from the other Protestant sects..(ex: How are Baptists different from Presbyterians?..etc) How are they all different from the Catholic Church?

Thanks so much!

first, no it isn't wierd.
second, protestants and all the other branches or all the non-catholic christians (depending on how you want to look at it) are so numerous I wouldn't know what number to give you... many have broken into individual groups as your mentioned lutheran and methodist but many of them have branched off within their own group... religion is an ever growing thing and changes to accomidate peoples minds as they change.
Third, the largest differences I have noticed between the catholic church and the other groups are that catholics take the wine to blood and bread to flesh literally... while most of the others I've researched view it more as a metaphor. Also the Catholic churchs acts as a monarchy within its own systerm where as the other groups are much more democratic in their actions...
I don't know if any of that made sense or helped any... I mean no offense to either side as I don't practice either side specifically... hoped that helped!
luck to you
Frost

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I am completely confused about what I am. In regards to religion. I know i am christian, but I know nothing about it. I have never read the bible..and I know that most of the stuff in it I don't truly believe. And does God look down upon me for choosing not to believe parts of the bible?

The bible, no matter how you look at it has been picked apart and rewritten and edited since the first day it was considered a holy text. Man was not meant to contain divine thoughts of God and if there are parts of the bible you don't believe or consider to far fetched just remember that the bible no matter how divinly interpretted was written at the hands of man... and mortal men are prone to flaws and biases. So I wouldn't worry to much about God looking down on you... just try to be a good person and it'll all fall into place.
Luck to you
Frost

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do guys like it better when girls shave "down there?" i've tried before w/ a razor but it stung sooo bad and i got razor burn horribly! does anybody know any ways you can shave w/ out it leaving bumps everywhere or stinging? thanks in advance! i rate 5s for good answers!

In my experience shaving is going to leave those marks, the more you shave the less you should get.. as far as the hair product removers go nair and veet wonderful in their own right burn sensitive skin... I can't even use those products on my legs never mind that areas... I think the best way I ever found was waxing... which hurts... goodness it hurts... but if you really want that area hairless its the best way to go.

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but my friend is a chrisitan. He wants me to go to church with him every week, and im not all that enthusiastic. I feel guilty for even thinking about saying no because i get all self concious when i think of him thinking of me as a sinner. Anyways we were having a very good time at a footbal game and then we were talking about stuff and somehow the topic just came up about dying. He was like, no offense but if you died right now i think you'd go to hell. He was being really serious. Well, it depressed the hell out of me. Im a nice person, i dont try to judge people, i like to share, my morals are higher then anyone elses and then i get depressed because i cant live up to them. I was really hurt but i didnt let on. He wouldnt elaborate, he said we could talk about it on the phone sometime. Well, do you think it was right of him to say that? Or am i just being dumb? I cant help but feel like im some kind of 'project' hes trying to save...

No... I don't think that it was right of him to say that. And I think he's wrong, if you are like you say, a generally good person who tries not to judge other and treats others decently than heaven is just as reachable for you as it is for him. It is my firm belief that undernieth it all we are all trying to reach the same place and just have different ways of getting there. No one path is better than the other, and in something as philisophical and untouchable as religion no one has the right to throw stones...
What you need to do is find the grounds that you are comfortable on, the morals that you believe are imortant and the ideals that matter the most to you and try to live up to them because YOU want to not because your christian friend tells that you need to believe them. You need to find what works for you, and if someone ever tells you that your going to hell you say to them "I know I'm a good person, and I know that I will go some place equally as good" and leave it at that. If you want feel free to throw in "I'll see you there!"
I hope that helps, and feel better because whatever Immanent Will you believe in or follow will know you better than an mortal man.
Good Luck
Frost

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First of all, let me clear the air. Im a sexually active 20 year old, Ive never been married, and I personally see nothing wrong with premarital sex, or sex in general.

But.

I have many friends who are Christian or Catholic, and they are (in my opinion) anywhere from sexually repressed at best, to afraid of and disgusted by sex at worst.

I cant really talk to most of them about it, simply because its a very uncomfortable subject.So I pose the question to the masses. For those of you who are religious, what are your views on sex, and why?

Thought provoking answers might get my screen name for further discussion, if you like. Any answers that sound something like

"ur crazy! Sex is uber cool! I LOVE SEX AND THERS NOTHIN WRONG WITH IT!! hope I helped plz rate"

or outright flames will get a 1.

I’m not extremely religious in the traditional Christian sense but I do have a strong belief system. I am a sexually active 20 year old also. A while back I dated a guy who was extremely religious, gradually it came out that I was some how inferior in his way of thinking because of my experience and morals vs. his innocence. I have since pondered over questions similar to what you are posing now.

He told me a very generic reason, God wanted us pure so that we could meet each other in perfect love and happiness… and to be perfectly honest I didn’t believe it. Gradually I came to realize that the idea of sex almost disgusted him… and I didn’t understand that. How can someone be raised to fear sex?

I can understand the romantic notion of saving yourself for your one true love… but when we dissect that statement in today’s culture and throw in that 2/3 of marriages today ends in divorce, the chances of finding your true love and losing your virginity to the ‘one’ you were saving it for seems kind of foolish.

In my humble and unprofessional opinion religion has not evolved, while social and world culture is constantly taking giant leaps. Maybe religion should be expanded as more of a set of moral guide lines and suggested paths to follow than rules that if broken will damn a person.

Personally, I believe that a person’s psychological balance should be the determining factor on whether or not premarital sex is good idea, not what the bible says or what the church has decided… it’s a personal decision that needs to be decided from personal opinions and morals… where those morals originated from can vary, whether they came from a religious stand point or are family rooted, it doesn’t matter… A person should do what’s good for them because of how THEY feel not because of what an institution tells them they should do.

I hope this at least gives you something to ponder or consider good luck in your quest for knowledge.
Frost
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Okay, you probably already know this, but my best friend in the whole world is Mormon. She believes she's a Christian, but I know that Mormons are not. I also know a lot of her friends too. I am worried about them. I want to be able to tell them what is wrong with it, but I don't want to be like "I have been your friend for a whole year and I love you and by the way, you are going to hell." Cuz that would really suck. I recently made a comment on someone's site saying that I believed Mormonism to be non-Christian, as did the owner of the site. My friend has seen it, and now she wants to know what I am talking about. I really want to save my friend, but she is a strong mormon with a strong mormon background, and I don't know what to do... I hate thinking that someday I may never see her again if she were to get in a car accident or something.

Sites if you want to know more:

http://www.icubed.com/~rpoe/mormons.htm

http://www.concernedchristians.org/

http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/mormon1.html

http://mormonconspiracy.com/

http://www.mormon.org/

http://lds.org/

http://www.gracevestal.org/truth.htm

All of those sites may not be legit, or even helpful, but I really want to be able to do something about this. It is entirely possible that she doesn't know that she does not believe what other Christians believe. I have read so many books and such and it just kills me to know that she is involved with this and doesnt even know how bad it is.

I am not saying that Latter-day saints are bad, because most of them are really nice....I just know that their interpretation of Jesus is different and I wish there was a nice way to show them what I believe and help them.

Some of the main differences between mormons and christians:

belief that the trinity is 3 separate gods vs. the trinity is 3 persons in one god.

belief in salvation through works vs. salvation in believing in jesus christ

reguarding the book of mormon as more important than the bible vs. reguarding the bible as the only true book from god.



this has been bugging me for the last year and i really want to do something without jepordizing my friendship with her. she is curious now because of the comment on that other person's xanga.

also, if you know who i am talking about, please do not tell her i am going behind her back, because i am afraid she will be mad. i am simply trying to help her and her family and friends because i care so much about her that i never want to be uncertain of what will happen if she were to pass.... and i have a feeling that the person whose xanga i commented on will feel the same way, if not more of you....

In my honest opinion I don't think your friend needs saving. I don't think she is going to hell, just as you aren't either. While Jesus is a very important aspect of christianity, his teachings focused on acceptance and love, he travelled across the middle east doing good deeds in the name of God saving people and helping where he could, but it was his diciples who did the baptizing and the word spreading, his diciples created the religion that branched off from judiasm. So the way I see it religion is more of a tool, a guideline to becoming or being a good person so that you might please God.
ok all that is meant to say, that if you believe in a greater good, like God, and take the steps to being a good and accepting person, that you aren't going to hell... we are all trying to get to the same place in the end, christians mormons muslims ect. we all just have a different way of getting there.
Good luck to you.

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Why do atheists have a problem with Christian's trying to spread their religon? They seem to always get so defensive and mean. It really bugs me because they can't have an open mind to what someone else says without flipping out. Like Christian religon says "help those who don't believe in God" or something, and the atheists just FLIP out. I've been open minded to many atheists I know and listen to what they say about it calmly without saying their opinions are dumb, but then when I mention my relgion, they say it's so stupid and get mad at me for talking about it.

Anyway, to sum it all up, you basically just need to read the first sentence.

Religion or any belief system is personal, and I know a lot of people not just atheists who become defensive when the topic of religion comes at hand. I don't think it's just an atheist thing, I know christians who get defensive when I talk about my beliefs (which are more eastern). I think people has a whole do not like being forced out of their comfortable way of thinking.
Luck to you
Frost

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Ok well the guy I kinda like I just found out has a girlfriend aww i know im sad... I cant get him out of mind, i have a myspace and hes one of my friends on it cause we go to school together and stuff i mean i didnt just meat him or anything and I use to like always look at his sight and leave him friendly comments and stuff but now the picture thats his main is of him and his girfriend kissing... I respect him and respect the fact that he has a girlfriend and all that cause were good friends and Im happy for him i just want to try to think of him as a really good friend and not get sad when i see thier picture... any advide please help...
signed I respect the man

Just keep doing what you were doing, be his friend, and be there for him... I think the best advice I have for this one is just to tough it out, you'll stop feeling sad after awhile, I can't promise it'll be easy, but it will get better. If things should happen to not work out between the two of them, having maintained your calm and composer will show him that you respect him and his decisions... I hope that helps some
luck!
Frost

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I liked a guy && I'm pretty sure he likes me..but we NEVER have anything to talk about on the phone, any ideas?

you can play the 'what if' game... its seems dumb but this can take up hours on the phone and you can find out a lot about a person by there answers
they questions can be basic or complex, anything from
"what if you had a million dollors" to "what if you had to fight in a war." you can come up with literaly thousands of questions just be creative... and alternate questions.. you ask one then him.. and so on... luck to you!

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Why should people become Christains? Like what iss the purpose in it?

Honestly I don't know why people should become christians, I've always found it particualrily constraining.... ex. " you have to believex,y and z before you can go to heaven and only christians go to heaven." That is really quite the opposite of the way I see things... Perhaps they become christian because they need something solid with a strong foundation which that religion has, perhaps they want to feel united through their religion with other people. Whatever the reason, its not a bad thing to be christian, its just another group of people trying to get the same end nearly everyone else is working for... luck to you!

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Hey, ok. i have a babysitting gig tomorrow night. And its 2 years old...what the heck do you do with a 2 year old?!?!?! i've only babysat kids over 5! HELP!!!!!

just get on the floor and play with them... I've got a two year old brother and he loves having somone to push toy cars around with or someone to build towers with blocks that can be knocked over...its easy honest!

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hey, im turning 16 on thursday and im havin a gathering.. with about 30-40 people at my house for a few drinks and wat not.. what are some precautions i can take to ensure its not boring and what can we do all night asides from sitting around drinkin?

Have several different things going at once so people can break off into smaller groups, with one large group there is bound to be someone who is unhappy but with lots of options for activities it will maintain several different interest types. For my Sweet Sixteen and I had about 50 people there give or take a few I had a bon fire, music, dancing, poker, incredibly stupid games that you never outgrow, movies, and a lot of other stuff, I didn't hear of any complaints afterwards.

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can the air i breathe give me respiratory conditions? like if i breathe pollutants.. what conditions could it give me?

The air you breathe can result in respiratory conditions. I would think unless there is something you are alergic to in the air that it would take a while to truly be noticable. But I do know that in certain places such as Atlanta GA the air can get so bad that they reccomend those with poor lungs to remain indoors if at all possible. Hope that helps some.
~Frost

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Sorry this is long but i'm really confused about what this dream means..her it is:
I was at this place that i had supposedly walked to from my house. It was completley empty except for one or two mirrors on the wall. I saw this guy that i know named Eric standing next to me and he was hugging me and we were looking in the mirror. Then all of a sudden i had to go, then as soon as i said that he disappeared. I had to get the keys to lock the doors so i ran upstair that appeared from nowhere. Then came back down and it was raining or gloomy outside. So i left the place and locked it up. As I was walking down the street i saw this bald fat guy behind me coming toward me slowly with a bat. I was trying to run but i couldnt i ran to slow and he picked up the bat and swung it and hit me in the back of the head. I suddenly awoke. Then i fell back asleep and I was behind a store where there was trash flying around it was humid and i had just came out of a glass door, and locked the place up again. Then the same guy climbs over the fence and watches me and comes toward me slowly and I tried to run again and again and again and i was motionless i felt like i was locked in the same place and the guy kept getting closer and suddenly he hit me in the head with the bat he carried with him. I awoke again and it was very hard to fall back asleep.

A lot of glass and mirrors that stood out in your dream? I don't know what it means but I have those in my dreams to, there is always glass and mirrors. As for the strange man with the bat, maybe you are under stress or a deadline that is hounding you. Sometimes dreams can be very obvious things in your life that stress you out and end up plagueing your subconcious, locks could mean something to, after dreams like this it sometimes helps to write down the little things that you noted in your dream, like the mirrors and the glass door and locking and unlocking the door. All the little things can sometimes add up to more than what the major events in the dream mean... once you have a list of the little things, you can go to the library and they should have a dream dictionary in the newage section and you can look up the little things in there.. it might tell you why you paid attention to the glass door or locking and unlocking the other door.

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Arite everyone, i was able to last about a week with out looking at porn but just like 20 minutes ago, i cracked and i couldnt handle it. a week is probably the longest time ive ever been able to do it. But i still need help

Why is looking at porn a bad thing? Sexuality is a natural part of the human function and if your a guy so is getting off, if your a girl I applaud you most women won't look at the stuff, but chances are you are a guy. If you think what is going on is bad, don't try to quit cold turkey that is one thing the body doesn't tolerate well, ease off it slowly, once a day, every otherday, every third day once a week, so on and so forth. Good luck to you on whatever you decide

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