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Is sex wrong? A question for the religious
First of all, let me clear the air. Im a sexually active 20 year old, Ive never been married, and I personally see nothing wrong with premarital sex, or sex in general.
But.
I have many friends who are Christian or Catholic, and they are (in my opinion) anywhere from sexually repressed at best, to afraid of and disgusted by sex at worst.
I cant really talk to most of them about it, simply because its a very uncomfortable subject.So I pose the question to the masses. For those of you who are religious, what are your views on sex, and why?
Thought provoking answers might get my screen name for further discussion, if you like. Any answers that sound something like
"ur crazy! Sex is uber cool! I LOVE SEX AND THERS NOTHIN WRONG WITH IT!! hope I helped plz rate"
or outright flames will get a 1.
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Personally, I think if you really love the person, sex is fine.
But why not get married? -shrug- Still, if you're in a commeted, monogamous relationship, and truely love one another, why not? Its like marrage anyhow, these days. You can get devorced, ect.
I have no problem with it. I'm half Christian, half Jewish.
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its not that sex itself is wrong, but premarital, yeah it is wrong...its says so in the bible, read it =)
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I'm a Wiccan. Wicca doesn't have a Bible or any other equivalent so therefore say anything about sex, except to very losely suggest that it should be special and the people should love each other. The only thing it says about love is in the Wiccan Rede: 'true in love ever be, unless thy lover's false to thee'.
Even if I wasn't Wiccan, I'd believe that. I think that, no matter what your religion, if you love somebody and are comfortable having sex with them, go ahead. And that you should always be faithful :)
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yes sex is wrong if you are not married. i dont know how to explain it but yes it is wrong!
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Hey, Well this seems like a very good question to ask since many people today do not even think twice about it. The emotions that are attached to having sex with someone are very strong. If the two people in the relationship know that they want to have sex someday, they should be wise enough to know that having sex so early on in a relationship is not really loving the person. We are being selfish when we want to have sex, all we want is temporary pleasure, when if we are learning and understanding Gods word, we will find greater joy in following what he wants for our life. We should always put the other person in the relationship first, as hard as it is, we must. That is love. Sex will harm a person if it is not at the right time. When your commitment to the other person is matched up to how you want to express your love, then it is fine, after marriage. And when we finally understand God, it's not trying to resist the temptation of having sex, it is simply saying Yes to something greater, something that only God can offer.
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well, im Christian, and i believe that sex before marraige is wrong.Why would you want to waste pretty much your best way of showung your love for someone,on probably people you mite not end up with?
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I’m not extremely religious in the traditional Christian sense but I do have a strong belief system. I am a sexually active 20 year old also. A while back I dated a guy who was extremely religious, gradually it came out that I was some how inferior in his way of thinking because of my experience and morals vs. his innocence. I have since pondered over questions similar to what you are posing now.
He told me a very generic reason, God wanted us pure so that we could meet each other in perfect love and happiness… and to be perfectly honest I didn’t believe it. Gradually I came to realize that the idea of sex almost disgusted him… and I didn’t understand that. How can someone be raised to fear sex?
I can understand the romantic notion of saving yourself for your one true love… but when we dissect that statement in today’s culture and throw in that 2/3 of marriages today ends in divorce, the chances of finding your true love and losing your virginity to the ‘one’ you were saving it for seems kind of foolish.
In my humble and unprofessional opinion religion has not evolved, while social and world culture is constantly taking giant leaps. Maybe religion should be expanded as more of a set of moral guide lines and suggested paths to follow than rules that if broken will damn a person.
Personally, I believe that a person’s psychological balance should be the determining factor on whether or not premarital sex is good idea, not what the bible says or what the church has decided… it’s a personal decision that needs to be decided from personal opinions and morals… where those morals originated from can vary, whether they came from a religious stand point or are family rooted, it doesn’t matter… A person should do what’s good for them because of how THEY feel not because of what an institution tells them they should do.
I hope this at least gives you something to ponder or consider good luck in your quest for knowledge.
Frost
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As someone who is studying to be a minister, I have to answer this question a lot. First of all, I am engaged and I do have sex with my fiance. He is the only person with whom I have had sex. I do not believe sex before marriage is wrong; however, I think that indiscriminate sex is harmful (not theologically, but psychologically).
Many people site lists of sins from Scripture which include "fornication and adultery" as sins in the eyes of God. They list these as commandments against premarital sex. Other people also note the verses about one's body is a temple to God. In thinking about these passages, one could come to some different conclusions.
One's body is a gift, whether from God or nature, depending on your view of it. It is best to treat it well. This would include eating well, regular exercise, occaisional doctor visits, daily flossing, comfortable shoes...etc. Many people (many religious people even) do not come close to this. It is not is the spirit of the Law to mistreat your physical body daily, but claim it as a temple to God in only one area.
Secondly, many religious people argue against masturbation, citing the story from Genesis 38. In this story, God kills Onan for "spilling his seed on the ground" instead of impregnating his sister-in-law as the law required. Onan was not killed for using the withdrawal method, but because he did not honor the law and the commands of God. This is not a story forbidding masturbation, which is certainly safer, fun and acceptable than random sex.
Thirdly, there are many people who are caught in a divide between spirit and body. They believe time on Earth is time to be passed before being with God and all things should be done for God's glory. God's glory is set. God does not need us to do things for God, but requires of us good deeds toward our neighbor.
Sadly, love and making love is infused with our human intentions and manipulations. We want so to care for those whom we care about, but we always seem to fall slightly short.
What does all this have to do with sex? In short, I believe sex is good when it is between two consenting people (and I do have a fine line on consent) who mutually care about each and wish to grow in love together. Sadly, these relationships do not always work out, but I believe it is better to hope for that future. While I know many people who have one-night stands or random hookups or booty calls and seem to have no adverse affects, there are many others for whom this later proves to be psychologically damaging. In general, I am an advocate of sex within a committed relationship.
I hope this gives at least some interesting food for thought. Best wishes.
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if you believe there is nothing wrong with it then no one can tell you what to believe but i believe that it is wrong.
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I still have my virginity, but I am very opinionated. I believe that pre-marital sex is fine. Nowhere in the bible does it say "Thou shalt not commit sex before you are bonded through sacrament!". It's only 10 commandments, not 11. (Why did I say sacrement? Presbyterians don't believe marriage to even be a sacrament... Whatever.)
Sex is an affirmation of love for another person. And you can love a person before you are married. If you didn't, marriage would never exist. Then again, some do it for fun. And what is wrong with fun? If that's bad, then "Thou shalt not play basketball!" is the exact same thing. I'm sure someone could make an argument on why that's bad.
Oh, and 1 more thing:
"ur crazy! Sex is uber cool! I LOVE SEX AND THERS NOTHIN WRONG WITH IT!! hope I helped plz rate"
:P I know what you're talking about. Those answers are painful.
-Steven
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I do not believe in God, nor practice any form of religion.
However, I do understand why people would think it's wrong, as my boyfriend (whom I lost my virginity to at a very young age) pointed this out to me.
He told me that sex is in a way a bond between two people and should only really be shared between two people who love eachother. And, when two people get married, it should be a bond shared between the two of them as a first time experience for both of them.
Although, neither of us think there is anything wrong with premarital sex, we can both understand why someone would save themselves for marriage.
I believe that if you TRUELY love a person and want to take your relationship to the next level, so be it. Sex is such an emotional thing (to me at least) because you get emotionally attached to the person.
But, I do see that it's wrong when you find 12, 13 year old girls going out and having sex to be "cool", because that my friend, is the most retarded thing I've ever heard.
When I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, the timing was WAY off. We were pretty much both horny teenagers that just wanted to do a quickie and get it over with. Your first time is supposed to be special, mine wasn't.
Anyway, those were just my views on it, even though you asked for someone who was religious.. I felt I had something to contribute to the question.
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I'm 29 years old . When I was 20 I was very sexually active and still am. I don't think there's anything wrong about talking about sex or haveing it. I have sex with my huband fousr or five times a day. And I still want more. So don't feel ashmend about it. hope I helped.
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Fuck god. Just have sex. Not everything revolves around the bible.
--Social Suicide
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Well, are you having sex with guys you're with or random guys you hook up with. If it's the latter, then yes it's wrong. Sleeping with random guys is pretty slutty. As long as you're just sleeping with boyfriends (and this doesn't mean he asks you out during the day and you're doing it that night), then there shouln't be anything wrong with it.
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I've been sexually active since I was young and I don't see much wrong with it. Yes, I regret some of the occasions, but who says that adults never do things they regret? I have always been mature for my age and so far have not gotten myself into any trouble with it. I have made mistakes concerning it but learning things the hard way always ingrains them even deeper and I feel I am a stronger person for it. I like to think of myself as open minded rather than a slut. I do what I want to do, and I don't let the inhibitions of society decide my life for me on this subject. I think that sex is a beautiful thing and if a person is smart about it, it makes life all the more worthwhile. It is always infinitely better if the people are in love, though- I don't care what anyone says about lust.
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I am a Christian and believe sex before mariage to be a sin. I am guilty of it myself, being human, but nevertheless, recognize it for what it is. There is a verse in the New Testament(1Corithians, I believe) that prohibits "chambering" (KJV). I interpret this to be either prematital sex or living together without benefit of a formal marriage. There are those, also, who interpret the Old Testament as stating that once two pwople "lie together" they are married.
It is ultimately your decision as there is also a verse which states that what is a sin to some is not a sin to others. I believe this verse refers to such things as the eating of meats that had been previously been determined to be unclean, but which God had now given us permission to eat provided it was blessed first. (The origin of our mealtime "blessing")
My personal opinion is that it is an act of love between two people and is not to be used for simple recreation as is happening more and more today.
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I am Catholic and I think women should only have sex with one person their whole life. If you have sex before marriage, it's not good...but if you end up staying with that person and eventually marry them then it isn't as bad as just sleeping around.
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i am catholic. i don't really follow my religion as strictly as others do, but do feel very strongly about my beliefs..but i don't expect everyone to share them. i'm not sure how you would catagorize my feelings towards sex, but here they are.
i have decided not necessarily to wait until marriage, but to wait for the person i want to spend the rest of my life with. you may think, yes..that would be waiting until marriage..but it isn't. it's very hard to explain. but it would have to be someone that i care enough about that i would be certain not to regret giving away that little piece of me to if things don't work out.
so pretty much, i won't have sex with any of my boyfriends in high school, or with anyone other than a serious, long-term boyfriend in college.
i'm just going to stop it there. i could go on for a while..but its just too difficult and i'm too tired. haha.
if you give me your sn in your feedback i can go into more detail or discussion.
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I am Catholic. Pre-martial sex in my religion is looked at as wrong until married. But I have had sex before, with one person only and that's my boyfriend whom I know I am spending the rest of my life with. I don't see a problem with having sex if your ready for it and you love the person your with. If you think that you two are meant to be and aren't married yet then I don't see a problem. Sex is a part of a relationship, its not everything, but it fits right in there, and I think before you get married you should explore things with your partner and make sure your 100% sure you want to be with them. Now, I am not saying test the sex and then decide if they are good enough. Sex shouldn't determine if you love someone, it should let you know afterwards how strong your feeling progress for them. As for me, after sex with my boyfriend I feel so much closer to him because we already have a special bond now, that when we have sex it grows even more. So I respect people who have at least found someone they love to share such an intimate moment with.
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Well i'm a Christian so maybe you'll consider my opinion. I believe that sex before marriage is wrong and a sin. I know that God has specifically outlawed premarital sex because it's not honoring the body God has given us. It's not like we're afraid of sex or whatever, it's that we're trying to honor God by doing what He's told us to do. So that's my view. I don't mind having discussions either about it. Hope i helped!!!
4Him, Disciple
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