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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i hate this... i had an advice column a couple of years ago, but i forgot my password, so i made a new one. that one ended up just not working. now i got another one last night, and now the stupid thing won't let me log on! i got my correct username, correct password, but i sitll can't. ok, so i click on this thing tha says "frgot your password?" and type in my email, but it says there isn't an email like that in the database or something like that... whatthe heck is going on?? why can't i log on? anything i can try that will work? will i be able to log on AT ALL anymore? i don't wanna start over!

Well, check out the FAQ. I think these couple of questions might help you.

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=103
and
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=44

If those don't answer your question, then contact DangerNerd. He should be able to help. Here's his email: dangernerd@gmail.com

My best guy friend Luis asked me out today. I was extremley shocked when I read,''Don't tell nobody but will you go out will me?'' He asked me while I was on the computer. I don''t know what to do now. I mean like if I say no then it might hurt his feelings and I'm afraid he might not ever talk to me again, but if i say yes then he might dump me, and I don't want that.

If you like him, then go out with him. If he really likes you, then he more than likely won't dump you unless you do something horrible.

But if you don't like him, just be as nice about it as possible. Tell him you don't see him in that way & that you think it's better off you stay friends. =) And if he's hurt, sure it'll make you feel bad, but at least you did it nicely.

ughh. im in a very bad mood sometimes. like alot of my friends have boyfriends and stuff. and i admit it..im sooo jealous. well like i used to have one but i dumped him because well its a long story. well anyways. i see how like their boyfriends protect them. and im reading advice things on here and one was on this thing where her best friend wanted to have sex with her and she had a boyfriend. and everyone is like tel lyour boyfriend he would be so protective over you. and i miss all that. and like i can never talk to my friends on the phone because there on with there boyfriends. and if i hang out with them and their boyfriends its awkward. you know? becuase we all used to go on group dates. and now i either go alone or i cant. what do i do to not be in a bad mood? like its really annoying me.

It's easy to be jealous when everyone has a boyfriend but you. I find myself in that situation most months out of the year.

But, is there a guy you like? If so, get to know him [unless you're already friends with him] and hang out with him as much as you can. =) If things go well, then keep the relationship going, and maybe make it go further. The only thing I can tell you is to be patient because a guy will come along.

I'm sure you're really pretty, and that your personality is great, so some guy will become attracted you. Also, try & be confident with what you've got. If you cherish the things you love, and are super confident [not being conceited OR cocky], then guys will line up. Because even if someone isn't good looking, & they have confidence, they're still awesome. =) I hope I helped, and good luck!

My housemate just came home with a chinchilla.

I have borderline severe asthma. I'm allergic to everything with fur and feathers. They didn't consult with me before getting it because "they're hypoallergenic pets".

I've been doing research, and apparently they're not. I'm not just allergic to dander; I'm allergic to saliva, which, oddly enough, ends up in the air.

I'm really ticked off that they didn't talk to me first, knowing what my condition was like (this same guy brought two cats to the house TWICE to stay for weekends, and I ended up in the hospital because of it).

Am I right in being annoyed?

Has anyone been in the same situation (housemate with a pet they're allergic to) and have any tips on how to keep my next 3 years from being miserable?

Tip 1: Kick this guy in the balls. He knows your condition but he keeps doing it anyways.

Tip 2: Whoever is the main roomate, kick the other one out, and find a new one who will respect you. If you can't do that, then move out & get another apartment/house with a roomate who will actually take your condition into consideration.

Or talk to him & ask if he can keep the chinchilla in his room. If you have no reason to go in there, you should be fine. Also, ask him to keep his door closed at all time so the dander, & saliva doesn't get into the air. And so you don't end up in the hospital.

i am a slacker, all i want to do is socialize which is normal for most teenage girls. But, my grades in school are far from adverage. Honestly, i would love to be able to have alright grades so that way i wouldnt be in so much crap with my parents along with the worry of failing out of 10th grade. My parents have some help teacher on my case he never leaves me alone even when i was doin well last semester he bothered me, i hate this guy. Along with that i am constantly faced with the critisms of my parents and half the time i am completely ignored even when i try to speak. The other day my friend told me my mom called hers and said "two more years and she is is out of here."Take that as you will but, it hurt me. I went through a stage where i would run away because at one point my dad use to physically abuse me therefore i ended up in counciling and my parents have me as a registered run away(last year) but i grew out of that and now i just find myself trying to humor them. The problem is it is putting my mental health at risk. i am pretty convinced my parents are tryin to manipulate me. I dont think they want me to grow up and the problem is i feel like no one can help what should i do?
ps. im already in consuling.

I understand you're already in counseling, but it's obviously not helping if the problems are still there. Your counselors are supposed to help you think of solutions to your problems so they can be solved. Your counselor is not doing his/her job correctly, and you should probably get a new one that will.

I'm a slacker too. I procrastinate constantly. I rather be on the computer, listening to music or watching tv than doing my homework. And at school, I rather be sleeping than do the work my teachers give me. I failed most of my classes, and only have faith in my electives to get some credits this year. Don't make the same mistakes I did. I completely regret skipping school, and throwing my homework away, or not doing it. Because I'm about to repeat the 9th grade. I should be in 11th grade next year, but because I fucked up this year & last year, I'm not. I'm gonna be in 9th grade again. And you think I would've learned from last year & got my ass in gear this year. I completely regret not doing my shit right, and next year I'm probably gonna drop out [to get my GED, so I'm not giving up on school all together] because by the time I graduate I'll be 20-21 years old. I hate school enough as it is, so I'm not staying that long.

But don't do what I did. If you realize you're gonna fail, that should be enough to get you in gear to do your stuff. Just come home, do your homework, & study a ton. Work real hard, and even if it kills you, do what it takes for you to pass. Talk to your teachers about extra credit so maybe you can get your grades up higher. If not, you're gonna fail hun.

okay so i have a 5.1 mega fujiflim camara and its got a few scratches on it but it still works and i got it at best buy but i was wondering theres a new version of it out and so i was hoping to trade my camara in for the newer one? is it possible to do that?

I don't think you can trade it in since it's already been used, and it's got scratches. But, maybe you can buy a new, cheaper camera that works just as well.

www.bestbuy.com.

Check the site. =)

alrighty here's the deal

a month and a half ago my girlfriend (let's call her m) broke up with me. we still talked and everything and other stuff like that but it was awkward. personally, i didn't care. i was going to do the same thing in about a week (and no, i DON'T want to get back with her).

two weeks later, i started going out with a friend of m's. let's call this friend k. k told me that m and and another friend of m's (who we'll call s) didn't really care at first. they gradually started being not-so-nice to either of us though.

about a week ago, k called me right after i got back home from water polo practice after school (we go to different schools). she was crying a lot. i found out that m, s, and another "friend" (whom we'll call c) verbally attacked her because of me (remember, m is my ex)

feeling angry at all of them, i verbally attacked k's so-called "friends," who also used to be my friends. now m and s won't speak to k and myself (k and c made up and are still best friends).

i feel like i've ruined my relationships with these people, and that k's losing friends and getting verbally attacked because of me (of course, she says it's not my fault. but i disagree).

what should i do?

thanks for any and all help.

Since you & your ex girlfriend haven't been broken up for a long time, you going out with someone else [especially her friend] is gonna bother her. She might say she's fine with it, but she's not. No girl would be unless they were completely over you. Getting over someone or something takes time, and the amount of time is different for everyone. For her, it's taking a while.

Since she's pathetic, she thought she'd verbally attack your girlfriend. I would just tell your ex that you're done with her, and that she needs to stay away from your current girlfriend. And tell your current girlfriend to get a restraining order from the other girls who attacked her. I realize her best friend was one of them, and they made up so they're okay, but the other two need to be gone. If there's restraining order against them, they can't hurt her feelings anymore. They won't be able to IM her, call her, message her, or even go near her. Verbal attacks may seem like nothing, but it could escalate to more dangerous behavior so that's why a restraining order is needed. You could use one two, and I don't advise you or your girlfriend to go near/talk to these girls anymore.

It's not your fault though, so don't blame yourself for this. Yeah, she's going out with you & it seems like her fault, but it's not. It's not your fault your ex isn't over you. So don't even worry about it.

Ok , I'm still a virgin and I think I'll stay that way until I'm married. But a masturbate sometimes and it feels real good but I want to stop. But I'm just so dirty and I want to do it but I'm too young! (I'm 13 , not 17 just cause of my username). What should I do?

Everyone gets horny, everyone has urges. Some people do something about it, and some people don't. It's completely normal. If you wanna stop, just occupy your time with something else, but masturbation is good because when you finally have sex you can tell them where your spot is.

If you go over your credit limit by 38 dollars how much does that hurt your credit even if youpay the bill back in full.

It shouldn't. If you pay it back in full, then your credit doesn't get ruined. Your credit only gets ruined if you pay it back late, or not at all.

well i really really like this guy and weve been talking for a week and we hung out last night and it was amazing..i had so much fun with him and we kissed and he kept complimenting me and kissing my hand and he was just so fun and nice and i had a great time with him and we were comfortable around each other which is a good sign but heres the thing..he called me today and said he has never felt so strongly about someone and he said hes pretty much in love with me and then all the sudden he said "do you wanna go out with me?" i wanted to say yes but its only been a WEEK and is it just me or is it a little too soon to be saying he loves me? i dont wanna say it back yet cause he might just mean it in a way such as girls say they love each other to each other just a kind way ya know but what do you think it is? and also hes good friends with my ex boyfriend so we have to keep this a secret from my ex boyfriend so he wont get mad and stop being friends with the guy i like so that makes it a little difficult but im willing to do it.anyway what should i do to try to slow things down a bit? obviously talk to him but does anyone have a reason hes moving so fast?

No, I agree with you. He is moving quite fast, but even so, give him a chance. Tell him to slow down though, because you don't want anybody getting hurt.

He might be moving fast because he wants to get in your pants, but he might actually really like you. If he keeps trying to do things with you [sex/oral], then he just wants sex, but if he actually waits until you're ready, then he really does love/respect you.

I have a serious problem and its been going on for years now! When it comes to a guy it seems that i want what i cant have. And when ever i get him i usualy don`t want him anymore no matter how nice or sweet he is. I just end up pushing him away! I don`t know what to do to stop this! HELP PLEASE!?

I think you just like the challenge that you get when you "chase" them. When you finally get them, you're just not interested.

Just give them a chance, I'm sure you'll get over this sooner or later.

Everyone hates me! Well , actually they don't but it feels like it. Everything is going wrong! I wrote a note to my teacher and he took it the wrong way. So now when the class doesn't get to do a certain something because of what I said in the note , they blame me. I don't blame them for blaming me but haven't I suffered enough? I'm depressed and I really need help. I want to be forgiven and I don't want them to hate me and I wish things were normal and I wish I never even wrote that dumb note! I even tried "forgiveness" or mean spells to get revenge on people who hurt my feelings last week , that doesn't help , WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!???

All you can do is make a public apology. Apologize to your teacher & tell him that you didn't mean the note the way he read it, and apologize to everyone because you didn't think everything would get so out of hand.

And if they're actually gonna be that lame over a note, then they're all idiots anyways & you shouldn't consume your time with them; period.

does anybody know this song?

it said soemthing like
'she typed away the best intentions'

it's a guy singing and the song
is kinda fast

help plz =/

Go to www.musicmademe.com. On the left sidebar, you'll see a search thing. Don't type anything in, but click search anyways. You'll see a drop down thing when the page comes up. Select lyric, and then copy & paste the lyric into the search thing. And it'll come up with songs that have those words in them.

I did it, but there's a lot of pages, so I'm gonna let you do it.

does anyone know if AIM is going to be upgraded soon? i cant stand AIM 6.0 because its beta. thanks.

More than likely it will. People always find glitches with everything & change it. Technology changes constantly, so AIM probably will too.

is there any way to make and orgasum more intense?? if so please inform me!!!!!!!!!!!

If you're a guy, I'm not sure since I'm not a dude. And if you're a girl, find your spot & tell the guy to work it there. It'll make you cum a waterful, basically.

Does chocolate make you fat?
How about popcorn?

Well, since it has a lot of sugar & it's obviously chocolate, yeah. Basically anything junky like candies, chocolates, desserts & munchies will make you fat if you eat them enough & don't exercise them off. Just eat junk food sparingly, exercise for 30 minutes a day everyday, and you should be fine. =)

do adults do bj's. like would my parents? or is it just a teen thing?

Adults are humans & people too. So, I'm pretty sure they do.

Yep, so two of my friends and I were discussing the book of revelations in the bible, and from other sources aswell, we found that the world is supposed to end in 2012, with reffernces of fire of a meteor or something?
Could someone please fill me in on this, and how factually based it is, I mean.. it was found in a biblical based book..

Think of this:

Everyone thought the world was gonna end when the millenium [yr 2000] hit because of what was written in the bible.. We're still here. Everyone thought that just last year on June 6th, 2006 the world was gonna end because of what was written in the bible. We're still here. I doubt anything will happen to us in 2012. Maybe we'll get bombed by another country, or maybe we'll find the cure for AIDS, or maybe we'll have a baby boom. But just because something's written in the bible doesn't mean it's accurate. And besides, the bible was written hundreds of years ago by people who experienced this. They indeed have no powers to predict the future.

what i'm i supposed to do when my friend (its a guy)keeps telling me about all of this perverted stuff his g.f is doing and it makes him mad? i told him if its gross not to tell me, but he did anyway. he is the most sensitive guy i have ever met and idk what i should do. i hate to say it but almost everyone from his town are slutty, including his g.f. i tried to tell him that it probably wont work out but he really likes her. and every time i talk to him, even if i dont ask him he spills out his entire life. he's really nice and i want to be friends with him, but i dont want to be his therapist. what should i do?

You're right, because you're his friend, it doesn't require you to be his therapist, but it does require for you to be there for him when he needs you most. How would you feel if he just decided not to do the same for you when you needed him? Don't you think that'd be a little messed up if you went to someone for help & they just didn't help you at all?

Just be there for him. He needs you to help him, and you shouldn't really be upset about that. Be happy that he trusts you enough to let you know what's going on, and that he trusts you to let you help. Just keep being there for him, and help him out. Like you said, he's a nice kid & he basically deserves it. And to warn him about his girlfriend, just tell him casually. Be like "No offense, but your girlfriend gets around, so you might wanna be careful with her so you don't get hurt." If he's really your friend, he'll appreciate the tip. =)

Well, to start off I am 20, and have been with my loving boyfriend for a year and known him 2. he has been in other relationships before and even has a little girl, so I know he has had his share of sex. Well, I am still a virgin and I am ready and confedent in our relationship to try to have sex with him. I almost did once but when it got to it.. I was scared It was going to hurt, im a big babby... I am wondering is there any over the counter creams or anything out there that would really work, to numb or take the pain away.. and i mean really work so i dont feel a thing my first time? Thank you so much, this means alot to me.

-texaschik

I was scared too when I first had sex. I'd get my boyfriend [who is now my ex] all hot, and then when he'd try, I'd get scared & tell him "OH, NEVERMIND." He'd get so pissed at me, and yell "OMFG, IF YOU'RE NOT GONNA GO THROUGH WITH IT, THEN DON'T FREAKING GET ME LIKE THIS." So, I just decided to go through with it one day, and it didn't hurt as bad as I thought. I mean, yeah it hurt because I was a virgin, he was big, and I was tight, but once he kept going, it was alright. There's really nothing to be scared of, and when you first go through with it, you're gonna realize how silly it was to be scared.

I doubt there's any over the counter creams, but you can always have your boyfriend finger you first. My ex did that and it took most of the pain away, and like I said, it only really hurt a little. But, go to your local drugstore & go to the pregnancy aisle where the condoms & pregnancy tests are. They should have some KY Jelly [lubricant], and he can use that so it goes in better & to take pain away. Or just take some tylenol like 20-30 minutes before so it'll kick in on time. =) Good luck, have fun & be safe!

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