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Oh no!
My housemate just came home with a chinchilla.
I have borderline severe asthma. I'm allergic to everything with fur and feathers. They didn't consult with me before getting it because "they're hypoallergenic pets".
I've been doing research, and apparently they're not. I'm not just allergic to dander; I'm allergic to saliva, which, oddly enough, ends up in the air.
I'm really ticked off that they didn't talk to me first, knowing what my condition was like (this same guy brought two cats to the house TWICE to stay for weekends, and I ended up in the hospital because of it).
Am I right in being annoyed?
Has anyone been in the same situation (housemate with a pet they're allergic to) and have any tips on how to keep my next 3 years from being miserable?
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hey- just talk to your room mate, tell him/her about your condition, she/he should understand. maybe have a small animal room in the house not even near where you go- but somewhere on the otherside of the house, you'll come up with something...
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Regardless of the military thing, it was still inconsiderate. she should have consulted you first, she knows about your allergy and the fact that she put you at risk is awful.
I truly think that she needs to get rid of it, she cant be that lonely, she does have a roommate, and you should seriously consider leaving after the lease runs out.
Plus, when you signed the lease, this pet wasnt involved. You had no idea that she would bring a pet home, so your not at fault at all.
I hope that you will talk to her about it and seriously try to arrange the pet an alternate home.
I hope that i've helped even the smallest bit.
Good luck!
--Brandon--
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Right at being annoyed? Absolutely.
You would also be right in making her get rid of it. Putting your foot down on their horrible behavior would be the way to make your next three years not miserable.
I don't care if her whole family just died and she decided to name it after her dead mother. Bringing a pet into a house with someone who has severe allergies is ignorant and cruel. If you've made a hospital trip in the past due to their insensitivity then it isn't as though they aren't aware. Tell them they were wrong about it being hypoallergenic and to take the chinchilla back immediately. Tell them you have no problem with them getting a pet, but you need to be involved in the decision and it must be a pet you can co-exist with. After all, it's your home first, and the pet comes second.
Donâ??t let them keep it a day longer, they will simply get attached and they will have learned that they can walk all over you and ignore your very serious allergies. I promise you, if you let this slide, you will be having a whole bunch more feline guests over, because you will have given these fools the idea that is okay.
It sounds like you are a student, so there may be some resources, a housing or counseling office you can get in touch with if you find you need some adult help in mediating this discussion. Any sensible mediator will tell your roommates the same thing I am telling you: The chinchilla must go.
Also, in most states, a roommate bringing in something that makes it a toxic or hazardeous living enviroment for you would be a valid reason to break a lease. Of course, you don't want it to go that far, but worse case, talk to your landlord, or better yet, a lawyer.
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Why should the next three years of your life be miserable? It's not the chinchilla that is the problem here. The problem is your relatiosnhip with this inconsiderate lout who thinks he can walk all over you and have his way.
He knew of your condition and recent hospitalization. It was his responsibility to consult you and he didn't do it. I don't know what your lease says about you backing out of it but I would start looking for your own place pronto. It's the only way you'll be happy and remain healthy.
Even if this critter is leaving with his girlfriend soon he still should have asked you about it. No matter what the issue be it a pet or something else he has no respect for you and likley the other roomate is the same.
You have to put both of them in their places sooner rather than later about being inconsiderate people. Then announce your departure date and let them learn from that. It's time for some tough love being given out by you. He thinks you are wishy washy or something and until they know they can't screw with you they both will.
Tell him to kindly keep said pet in his room and ask that he give it to her immediately because of your asthma and health. I don't buy his BS over it being a gift and waiting to give it to her.
He could have bought one at any time and handed it off to her for her to have and have someone else take care of it other than him if she's out of the country for a bit.
You have to get a backbone with this guy especially for him to take you seriously. You're right to be pissed off. If you ever want to be happy though you have to put him in his place and move out on your own. You cannot change self-centered people like him easy if at all.
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Tip 1: Kick this guy in the balls. He knows your condition but he keeps doing it anyways.
Tip 2: Whoever is the main roomate, kick the other one out, and find a new one who will respect you. If you can't do that, then move out & get another apartment/house with a roomate who will actually take your condition into consideration.
Or talk to him & ask if he can keep the chinchilla in his room. If you have no reason to go in there, you should be fine. Also, ask him to keep his door closed at all time so the dander, & saliva doesn't get into the air. And so you don't end up in the hospital.
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you should talk to your housemate about how severe your asthma, and how it would probably be better for your health if they got rid of the chinchilla
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