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hes moving way too fast
well i really really like this guy and weve been talking for a week and we hung out last night and it was amazing..i had so much fun with him and we kissed and he kept complimenting me and kissing my hand and he was just so fun and nice and i had a great time with him and we were comfortable around each other which is a good sign but heres the thing..he called me today and said he has never felt so strongly about someone and he said hes pretty much in love with me and then all the sudden he said "do you wanna go out with me?" i wanted to say yes but its only been a WEEK and is it just me or is it a little too soon to be saying he loves me? i dont wanna say it back yet cause he might just mean it in a way such as girls say they love each other to each other just a kind way ya know but what do you think it is? and also hes good friends with my ex boyfriend so we have to keep this a secret from my ex boyfriend so he wont get mad and stop being friends with the guy i like so that makes it a little difficult but im willing to do it.anyway what should i do to try to slow things down a bit? obviously talk to him but does anyone have a reason hes moving so fast?
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He probably really likes you and doesn't notice that he's moving fast. Or maybe he's afraid that you'll move on to another guy. I say that if you like him back, you should just go out with him. You might not have another chance. You don't have to tell him you love him, but you might regret not saying yes to him. If you're positive that this relationship is going way too fast, tell him that. I'm sure if he loves you like he says he does than he will wait for you. But if you've guys already kissed, I think it's okay to go out with him. I would say "it's too soon to know if I love you, but I really like you a lot." Just tell him how you feel, and if you want to go out with him then you can, but if you want to hang out a couple more times to know him better, then that's okay too.
I hope everything works out for you.
-Candace
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maybe he is moving so fast because he think you might be interested in another guy
and he probably thought that if he said i love you to you that you would go out with him and forget the other guy he thought you liked
and about slowing things down, say to him "I like you a lot" or something along the lines of that, instead of "I love you"
he might think you mean it and break up with you
im just guessing on all of that, but i hope it helped!!
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No, I agree with you. He is moving quite fast, but even so, give him a chance. Tell him to slow down though, because you don't want anybody getting hurt.
He might be moving fast because he wants to get in your pants, but he might actually really like you. If he keeps trying to do things with you [sex/oral], then he just wants sex, but if he actually waits until you're ready, then he really does love/respect you.
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