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Question about my virginity and sex
Well, to start off I am 20, and have been with my loving boyfriend for a year and known him 2. he has been in other relationships before and even has a little girl, so I know he has had his share of sex. Well, I am still a virgin and I am ready and confedent in our relationship to try to have sex with him. I almost did once but when it got to it.. I was scared It was going to hurt, im a big babby... I am wondering is there any over the counter creams or anything out there that would really work, to numb or take the pain away.. and i mean really work so i dont feel a thing my first time? Thank you so much, this means alot to me.
-texaschik
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I was scared too when I first had sex. I'd get my boyfriend [who is now my ex] all hot, and then when he'd try, I'd get scared & tell him "OH, NEVERMIND." He'd get so pissed at me, and yell "OMFG, IF YOU'RE NOT GONNA GO THROUGH WITH IT, THEN DON'T FREAKING GET ME LIKE THIS." So, I just decided to go through with it one day, and it didn't hurt as bad as I thought. I mean, yeah it hurt because I was a virgin, he was big, and I was tight, but once he kept going, it was alright. There's really nothing to be scared of, and when you first go through with it, you're gonna realize how silly it was to be scared.
I doubt there's any over the counter creams, but you can always have your boyfriend finger you first. My ex did that and it took most of the pain away, and like I said, it only really hurt a little. But, go to your local drugstore & go to the pregnancy aisle where the condoms & pregnancy tests are. They should have some KY Jelly [lubricant], and he can use that so it goes in better & to take pain away. Or just take some tylenol like 20-30 minutes before so it'll kick in on time. =) Good luck, have fun & be safe!
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Omg i am the biggest baby in the world and i felt the same way, trust me it really didn't hurt. But you could probably get teething gel (you know the stuff you put on babies gums when they are teething) down there because that numbs. Also take some advil or tylonal about 20 minutes before hand.
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No, there aren't any creams to dull pain experienced during sex. Besides, if you numbed your vaginal area it would defeat the point. You wouldn't be able to have any pleasure at all silly if you did that.
Pain usually exists because a woman's vaginal are and vagina aren't lubricated. If a male puts his peis in a female's vagina and thrusts and she's not wet down there the friction will cause discomfort and or pain.
The other issue is with the hymen. If it hasn't been stretched thrugh tampon use or masturbation it will hurt when stretched through intercourse. The amount of discomfort however, will not affect things that much and is nothing to worry over. It's minor.
The best thing you can do is buy a water based lubricant designed for sex that can be used on the inside and outside of the condom to ensure there is enough lubrication so you are more comfortable. You won't need to worry as excruciating pain just doesn't happen.
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