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I have a really back pain in the back of my head. It won't go away, it is a thumping pain and it just will not go away. i already had tynenol.. i don't what to do... HELP ASAP!

Coke, like the soda.
Our clinic gives it out if you have a headache.
The caffine bubbles are supposed to relieve the pain, it usually works for me :)

Good Luck

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im a 14 year male and i just quit smoking after about 2 years of heavy smoking and i was wondering how long it will take for my lungs to start to get back to normal when im running and stuff

Everyone's lungs are different.
You'll see an improvement in about 4-10 weeks.

Slowly they'll clear themselves out bit by bit.
This may takes months, it may take years.
Like I said, everyone's different.

However, there is a chance you might now be 100% clean, but I encourage you to work up to running alot. This can help improve your lungs.
Right now, only run about half a mile, and work up to three over a course of a year.

Props on quitting :)
Good Luck

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I am 21 and just recently lost my virginity. About ten minutes after we had sex I started my period. Is this normal? I normally start the first of each month and I already had my period for this month, I had sex on the 24th.

I don't think it's your period.
You're most likely refering to the breaking of your hymen which causes bleeding. Since it was your first time, you "cherry popped" and the skin began to bleed. It shouldn't be too heavy and it shouldn't last more the a couple of days.
If it lasts longer, I would recommend seeing a doctor.

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What color shoes do you wear with a turquoise dress or shirt? What color leggings do you wear with this also?

Black TOTALLY pops with turqoise.
I recommend black leggings and black flats.
If you can find somewith either a white bow or even a turquoise bow would be great!

If you want to accessorize more, you can add an oversized white belt right under your bustline.

Good Luck!

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i think my friend is trying to make me jealous over stupid stuff. why would she do this? how do i just "brush it off"?

When someone tries to make you jealous, it makes them feel more confident if you do fall into the trap.

Shove it back in her face, I know it sounds mean, but if she tries to make you jealous don't let it bother you.

If she's totally bragging about a new shirt, tell her its not your favorite color. Don't be super harsh, but she'll get the picture. I've been through this MANY times with friends.

If she's all excited about her new 100$ jeans, tell her you just saw the same pair at a thrift store for 10$.

Good Luck

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What's a good straightener that doesn't cost like, $100. I had the wet to straight one, but I got it last Christmas and it doesn't work as good so I need a new one.. should I just stick to getting another one of those or and recommendations? & price ranges would be great too. thankss :]

Helen of Troy, Ceramic Series.
Availible at Sally Beauty Supply stores.
I`m in love with it, I always get complitmented on my straight hair!

Its anywhere from 30$-50$ depending on size.
I have the one and a half inch on, it was 45$.
Totally worth it.

Good Luck!

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i want to try to lose about 5 pounds by halloween maybe? i'm like 5'3 or something and around 110 lbs maybe more, maybe less? anyway, today so far i've had regular cheerios with 1% milk(for breakfast around 10:30 ish?) (but i didn't drink the milk, i dont like it), and for lunch(around 12:15) i had a piece of turkey, chesse, and lettuce on whole wheat bread, and a few blue corn tortilla chips. what else should i eat to keep my metabolism up?
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and for excersice i danced to a few songs, and i ran up and down my stairs for about 5 mins. i mainly want to lose weight in my upper inner thighs(ughhh) and my sides a little bit.
sorry if thiss was long
thankss

I'm 14, 115lbs, 5'3".
I'm perfect weight, so are you.

You aren't looking to lose weight, so don't diet.
You're looking to tone up your thighs.
Try riding a bike, it'll help tone up the sides of your thighs.

Also, take an exercise ball and put it in between your legs [while you're sitting] then squeeze it in, hold for five seconds, then squeeze out. Do about 20 reps the first night and SLOWLY work up to 100reps a night.

In addition, if you drink soda, completley take it out of your diet. If you replace three cans a day with water you can loose up to 5lbs a week.

Good Luck

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I'm starting to get really pale again because summer is over : (. So i was wondering which way is the better way to get tan? Indoor or Outdoor tanning. Which one is the safest and will do the least harm to your skin? Thank-you!

30 minutes in a Tanning Bed is equaled to 8 hours of tanning outdoors.

Neither indoor or outdoor tanning are "better" for you. Both have VERY high risks of skin cancer and other problems. I recommend Jergen's Natural Glow tanning lotion.

It's a great alternative and it keeps me looking sunkissed when I want to.

Its about $10 and it comes in different shades to make sure its best for you skin color. If you are very pale start with the Light Skin.

Always exfoliate VERY WELL before applying.
Make sure to wash your hands afterwards.
[I recommend taking a shower right before application]

Results are clearly visible in about 5-8 days of use.

Good Luck

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Is Ben Savage from Boy Meets World dead?

I saw myspace bulletins about his death but I heard it's a joke.

Just another Myspace Prank.
He's still alive

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ok well some of my freinds have started to act like im not there. and well they would tell me everything and now they tell me nothing. my ? is ... should i just stop hanging aroud them???? help

Ever heard the phrase: Communication is key?

This totally applies here, trust me, I've had this problem a million times before. Usually the answer was just a misunderstanding.

If they have myspace, leave it as a message.
If you're bold, confront them at school/hanging out. Simple say something along the lines of:

"I've noticed you guys seem to be avoiding me latley, any reason?"
"Hey, did I do something wrong?"

Most of the time, it was just my imagination overreacting. But just to be sure, just ask!

Good Luck

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I just got my braces off three days ago and I've found that ever since, it really hurts my gums when I brush my teeth. I'm flossing now that I have no braces, and that doesn't hurt. But the brisles hurt very badly on my teeth. Why is this? What can I do to ease the pain?

Advil, Tylenol, or Ibuprofen to ease the pain.

If you would like, put the toothpaste on your finger and gently massage your gums until they become stronger. If the pain is TOO intense I suggest telling your parents.

After a week or so your gums should adjust and become stronger.

Good Luck

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ok so i dont know how common this is but my boobs are two different sizes. It's been that way for about 2 years now but i always figured they'd just even out. Im 14/f and one is a 32A n the other is a 34A. Is that bad or normal or anything?

My left boob is a 36C.
My right is a 36B.

Its not uncommon at all, totally normal.

:)

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all my friends are ragging me that i don't wear any thongs i was wondering why people wear them anyways since they so uncomfortable and what should i do about my friends

To me, they are more comfortable; I would have never of thought that before I tried them. If you think they're comfortable, then by all means, wear them. But if not, it doesn't matter, stick with what you like.

As for your friends, just tell them to stop obsessing about what does or does not cover your butt. That should take care of them.

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please help i like a guy so confused what should i do or acked around him

First off, not to be rude, but its act*
Sorry, I'm just a Grammar Nerd.

Anyways, just be yourself.
Don't worry to much about what your saying or doing. Just breath in slowly and calm yourself down so you don't get TOO worked up and totally embarress yourself. Smile at him, ask him how his day was, ask about his family, his favorite sports team, etc. Show him you're interested in becoming closer to him. Walk with him in the halls, sit with him at lunch, just do what you can to be around him. Don't crowd him though, then you'll look clingy and desperate.

After you two get to know each other better, ask him to go to the movies or bowling with a group of people. This will give you sometime to get to know each other better OUTSIDE of school. Try hanging out with him for a few times, then lay down the heavy flirting.

Touch his arm gently when he tells you something funny and you laugh. If your the corageous type, say "Hey Cutie" when you see him. (Not infront of everyone, that might embarress the BOTH of you) Smile alot, laugh cute-ly when he says something humorous, get to know him better, and just be really friendly with him. If he tells you something personal, be sure to keep it a secret, you don't want to lose his trust.


Good Luck!

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okay, so im on my schools soccer team and even though our season is almost half way done, i still want help.
so basically, at the beginning of every practice we have to run a mile and im always one of the last people in and im dead tired. i want to be a better runner, and overall, FASTER because i need to be able to sprint really fast too. what all should i do that would help me be a better runner??

15/f if it helps...?

If you have a tredmill or you are allowed to go running around your neighborhood, I suggest doing that as frequently as possible.

Sprint 100 feet, Jog 100 feet, Sprint 100 feet, and so on until you're done running.
Do this once a day, and slowly move up the sprinting distance and lower the jogging distance. This will help prepare your heart to make sure it's ready for all that cardiovascular exercises.

Be sure to ALWAYS warm-up as well as cool-down. You can walk about 100feet for this also, never just stop, that can be bad over time.

Breath continuesly when you run. Some of us to not realize it but we may hold our breath for a few seconds when we run. Don't do that, breath in on the count of three, breath out on 5 and 6. This will help train your lungs, also to make sure they are prepared for the running.

The better shape your heart and lungs are in, the more endurance you'll have to run faster, harder, and farther.

Good luck!

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so at school i am very shy with my boyfriend but i will kind of talk to him, but as soon as i try to talk to him on thee phone i cant so i just never pick up his calls. i feel absolutely horrible but how do i make myself more confident for being able to talk on the phone? thank you!

I used to be like this, I hated it.

Now, with my current boyfriend, you can't shut us up. He lets me be myself, he doesn't care if I say something stupid, we laugh it off. So make sure your comfortable with the guy, make sure you know things about him (likes, dislikes, etc)

When your walking with him, imagine its your brother or just another guy friend, this helped me ALOT. If you don't know what to say, ask him how his parents are doing or something simple like asking what his favorite color. This should get conversations rolling.

As for the phone, pick it up. Take a few slow breaths and just relax. Sit down and just concentrate on the conversation. If theres a silence, ask him something simple again, like whats his favorite sports team. Once again, this should get things rolling. Show him your willing to open up to him, maybe by telling him a small secret. (Don't load things on him, that might freak him out) Or, tell him a joke, bust out crazy dancing if thats the kind of person you are, tell him you like his shirt, sing a song, ANYTHING, just show him your outgoing and confident, guys love that, and it'll help you two both open up.

Good luck

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I was wondering if anyone knew of any home remedies/purchasable things that would increase the speed of hair growth (on my head, of course). I want to grow my hair out, and I'm pretty much too impatient to wait a few months.
Thank you.
:)

Most hair grows appx. 1/2 inch a month.
Vitamin E increases strength of the hair, which in some cases does increase hair growth.

However, there aren't any products or anything to buy to purposly make your hair grow faster, it really doesn't work like that.

If your hair is healthier, you will have less split ends which will result in longer hair because you will not have to cut those damaged ends off as often. If you use a flat iron on it, try only doing that at maximum three times a week. Also, I suggest Hydra TLC (Sunsilk) Shampoo and using a heat protectant everytime your blow dry or use any type of iron.

The healthier the hair is the more likley it'll grow longer and have less split ends.

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ok so i have homecoming in 2 weeks and i was wondering what would clear up current and help prevent zits for the next two weeks. thank you very much. i wash my face twice daily and i dont have that much money. i can feel one coming just below my nose. what can i do to get rid of it fast. it hurts really bad.

(f/16)

Heres what I do:

Wash your face, ONCE a day. At night, wash your face with a cleanser (be sure it'll remove ANY makeup from the day) then use a scrub (ex: Clean and Clear blackhead scrub) then finish off with a toner.

In the morning, just rinse your face with hot water, then rinse it again with very cold water. This way you do not aggrivate your pores with scrubbing and you won't get any surprise zits during the day.

Also, dab a mixture of baking soda and water (It should be sorta paste-y) on problem zits at night, then rinse off in the morning.

Good Luck

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well me and my friend

we arnt sure if we are going out anymore
well his name is eric
and he isnt a virgin but i am and i feel like i am ready to you know...with him
but i am 14 and i dont know i like him a lot an u know he os cool but i think whenever i am with him all we do is kiss or makeout we dont ever get to talk only on the phone and myspace. buti am gonna go see him on sunday and i think that is when we are gonna do it help me an I making the right decision?!?!

I must say, you seem to unsure to be ready.
If you must rely on a answer to a question like this from thousands of strangers over the internet, you need to wait.

When you are ready, you'll know for sure. Hopefully, you'll be a little bit older as well.
Maybe, next time you guys hang out, go OUT to dinner. That way you won't be forced to makeout the whole time and you two can talk more in person to connect better. Just wait sweetheart.

Good Luck

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14/f

Last night (Friday), I went to my crushes house. I was there with 5 other guys, and 1 other girl (who left early). Anyways, my crush made it totally obvious that he liked me. The thing is, even though he is really funny, every one is always saying how annoying he is. I've also never had a boyfriend, and I guess you could say I'm pretty, just not hott.

Anyways, I am basically almost positive he likes me, but I don't know its just pretty awkward, and I really dont know what to do.

The other thing is, my group of friends have never really dated either, and its because they don't really hang out with guys. So when I told them I was going to his house with 5 other guys, they were like acting really wierd.
I'm kind of sick of these friends, and I sort of want to hang around with a new crowd (not such a prude-ish crowd)

So I need help on either question: What should I do about my crush, and what should I do about my friends

Aw, I love these questions :)

As for the boy, flirt alot. Who cares what other people say about him? If that REALLY bugs you, then maybe he isn't meant for you after all. Ask him to hang out again, maybe just the two of you. Hold his hand if you get the chance, that way he`ll get the picture you like him too. Or hug him goodbye if you wish. Talk to him alot, laugh cute-ly when he says something funny, Just be super confident, guys love that. Touch his arm when you talk to him, like playfully grab his arm when you get scared. Over time, he should get the picture you like him and hopefully ask you out!

And for your friends, I had the same problem. It was really hard for me to let go of them, but now I'm so glad I moved on. Just find some people that you relate to and people that understand you. You don't have to completley ditch your old friends if you don't want too, but as for me, I'm pretty much done with that crowd. Maybe throw a sleepover for you and your new friends. Everything should be smooth sailing from there :)


Good Luck

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