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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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Hi, I was just wondering if anyone knew of any numbing stuff you could buy at any store. I need it for my mouth. Please Help!!! I'm in a lot of pain!
If you have a tooth problem do not hesitate in making a dentist appointment. Many intellegent people have died from a brain infection that started with a tooth. Also the most common reason people overdose on pain medication accidently--is because of a toothache.
i have vaginal inflammation and irritation... but no infection. however, the discomfort is unbearable. what can i do, other than hot-water soaks, to soothe the pain?
Since inflammation is a sign of infection, you really can't know there is no infection unless you go to the Dr. Hot water soaks are good..do not use any soap though. If you are able to take ibuprofen or aleve that will help with the inflammation (if you are not sure ask the pharmacist if it's the right medicaiton for you). You can also use "tucks" pads to wipe with, and apply a cold pack when at rest. If the pain is unbearable, it certainly warrants a vist to the doc for that reason alone.
Me and this guy have been seriously talking latley. We hang out, go to the movies, and flirt a ton. The thing is i am 17 and he is 32, and people seem to have a problem with that. We havent done ANYTHING that can get any of us in trouble, so whats the big deal? Besides, i will be 18 in 2 months.
The big deal is, he has a lot of experience on you and people are probably predicting that he will take advantage of you. Guys like this often have a few young cuties on the side and see an attraction with only that type..."spoil em and they will do anything".
An older woman would more likely be more confident and know how to say "No" to all his demands. Now, I am not saying this is what he is, but to me this borders on being a pedofile. Just watch and observe, is he only attracted to teenagers? What kind of material does he look at, is he into teen porn?
Women peak at sexual intimacy around age 27-30, men are at their peak at 18-25. While you are in your prime, he will be heading down hill. You might not be a good match in the future if you are thinking about a long term relationship. Now I am not trying to be judgemental, but you have to think about your compatibility in years to come. I personally don't want to be with an "old man" before I'm ready. He might be looking for fast comittment because the hands of time are ticking away...and you might need some time to explore the other options and "see the world"
You may wish to take everything into consideration, and whatever you decide I wish you the best.
how one can be most success in ones life?
You know...I think this is a wonderful question, how great that you asked!!! It is a simple question with the biggest potential! Start out by dreaming. Don't ever think that your dreams are too big. Then keep those pictures in your mind and read motivational books and listen to motivational CDs from people that are successful. Stay positive!
So basically I have a gynecologist appointment in a week. What should I expect? My mom told her I haven't had sex, but I have, and there's questions I want to ask her and stuff. So how should I ask the questions, or does she give me a chance to ask her stuff? Any help would be appreciated, thanks.
Yes, the gynecologist will ask you questions, and one will probably be about sexual activity. They know--what Mom's don't know! The most important thing that you can do is to be honest. If you don't want your Mom to know about your sex life, tell the GYN that, she will most likely understand. Make a list of questions on a piece of paper and take it with you to the appointment. That way you will remember what to ask. At any time during the exam, pull the questions out and start asking away! She will not be offended and if she is doing her job, will provide an answer to all your questions. If you need her to explain, tell her that.
i know this might sound kind of weird, but is it normal for one of your boobs to be smaller than the other. Also how long do your boobs keep growing for?
thanks
Yes this is normal. It's just that it is not very noticable in some people. They say that nothing on our body is symmetrical, and if you start to observe body parts closely you'll see that this is true. Our hands/ears/eyes...sometimes nostrils..can be different sizes or turned at slightly different angles. The major growth period of breasts would be complete by about age 18. However throughout life they can change due to weight gain or loss, pregnancy and so on.
My husband has been on cocain since September and has tried rock three times. It has became a real problem in our relationship and we have five kids. He just lock his job Thursday after failing a DT. Now me and my kids are without any money but I need to try and get him some help that he has finally agreed to but cant afford. I need something in Texas can anyone help me find one?
This is the number for Narc-Anon. Last I knew they do not charge, and they are on an out patient (group) basis. This works okay for some and not for others. However, a counselor can do an evaluation on your husband and determine what best suits his needs
1-800-US-NO-DRUGS 1-800-876-6378
A non-profit organization lending a hand to people in need since 1966
Now that your husband is unemployed, and depending on if you are working or not, and how much you make, you may qualify for state assistance. (I am guessing with 5 kids-you would). Please see your local social services to see what help you'd qualify for. They may even pay for a drug rehab inpatient program. Best of luck to you and your family, you certainly deserve to get back on your feet and have your husband be drug free.
Okay, this is kind of gross, but I mean, I really need help, and fast. You see, we've had a long history of breast cancer in my family, and my aunt died of it 2 years ago.
Well, I was taking a shower today, and I got out to dry myself off. I noticed that my chest hurt really bad, and I looked down, and saw this huge lump on the side of my nipple. I felt it and it felt like this huge ball underneath my skin. It hurts realy, really bad. I know that your breasts already hurt if you touch 'em, but this was just like excrusiating pain.
So I have a few questions.
1. Can you get breast cancer at 14 years old? (I just turned 14 on may 30th.)
2. Does anyone else have this?
3. If not, should I get it checked out?
4. If I do need to get it checked out, how should I tell my Mom?
I'm like, really scared. I hope its nothing, but I don't know who to ask. My Mom's not here, and when she does get here, she'll have 3 friends with her. Please help me ASAP!
First of all, I want to tell you it's good that you are aware of the potential for breast cancer. But secondly, I want to tell you not to worry.
Most cancerous breast lumps are not painful initially, and it would be extremely rare for a 14 year old to have breast cancer. This may only be a result of hormonal changes, or could be another benign type of cyst. Now with the best case scenerio in mind, think positive and see your Dr anyway. If it's nothing.. the Dr's visit will relieve some of your fear, and if it needs treatment you will get that too.
Take your Mom aside and tell her you have some sort of "cyst" on your breast, and would like to see a Dr. Don't be embarassed..because you really have no choice at this point, it's just something you have to tell her. In addition, the Dr will not make you feel bad for going, so try to relax and it will be okay.
Let us know how you are doing.
For a while I've been having a really really bad backache in the left reigon of my back, right beside the spinal cord. Also at the base of my neck.
Sometimes I feel like cold water is being dripped down my spine, but it hurts at the same time.
I don't have insurance at the moment to go to the doctor nor can I really afford the bills.
Can anyone help? It hurts really bad somedays, it has just been getting worse. I'm not really sure what is wrong, I haven't done anything to pull any muscles.
Please help.
- Achey breaky in Ohio -
This is not a subistute for medical care however this is what I would do if it were me. Take naproxen sodium per the package directions for several days in a row on a consistant basis (speak to the pharmacist if you have any allergies or other health problems first). Alternate cold packs with heat 3-4 times a day.
If it is upper back pain that goes to the base of your neck it could be caused by stress, working in a position that is not ergonomically correct, or sleeping on the wrong mattress.So of course you want to eliminate the cause in order to cure the problem.
Dr's in the US and Japan are seeing more and more of this type of pain due to people using the computer for long hours.
If all else fails you may have no choice but to go to the Dr or a Chiropractor.
see this link for more info:
http://www.osha.gov/SLTC/etools/computerworkstations/index.html
My jaw makes a dull click sound every time I yawn. Is this just going to go away after a while, or should I be more concerned and go to the doctors?
A lot of people have this. If you have pain in your jaw, or frequent headaches on that side of your head it would be a good idea to see a Dr. Otherwise don't worry about it as you grow and change it might stop on it's own.
I fell and got a big gash on my leg when I was 11, and I didn't get it stitched, but now I have an indentation about 3" by 3". Does anyone know any ways to get rid of it. I'm small framed, so i'm very embarrased about it because to me it looks like cellulite. please help.
Really at this point the mederma or any treatment that you try will not work. If the scar is red or leaves a shadow with a distinct border it will be more noticable. In that case you can cover it with cosmetics. Otherwise your best bet is to see a plastic surgeon, sometimes they can inject the scar to build up the indented area.
To be truthful though as a nurse, I've seen tons of scars on people that are not pretty..but life goes on!
The people who care about you probably don't even notice it. If a stranger asks, make up some really unique story to tell them that will make them sorry they asked. Then..walk away laughing.
hey, this is kind of a gross question, but does anyone know how to treat a blister? Mine is from a burn. Its all filled with liquid. It doesn't hurt, I was just wondering. Some people have told me to pop it and bandage it, some people have told me to just leave it. I need to know how to treat it properly. Thanks. I will rate high for helpful answers.
isis is right, never pop a blister. If it is in a place where it is likely to pop if it gets bumped, you could see the Dr and he/she can pop it under sterile conditions, debride it and give you some medicine. Otherwise the best option is to cover it with a loose dressing. When it does pop on it's own, and they usually do or the fluid is reabsorbed and the blister will go down, apply antibiotic ointment and a bandage. Keep it clean and dry for now. If you are concerned about scarring I would certainly see a doc.
okay so i am 118 lb girl who recently got a hip problem. (idk maybe that information can help)
Recently, my right hip was hurting. Then on friday at school, walking to my 2nd period, it gave out, and now every time i take a step with my right leg (it's my right hip) it pops. I have already confronted my doctor, and they said that it will just pop back in and be fine. It's been poping with just about every step i take since and during Friday.
My question is, is there any way to pop it back in, sort of painlessly? And if not, about how long do you think it takes for it to pop back in, rough guesses are ok.
Thank you so much.
I would guess that at one time you've had some type of injury to the tendons or ligaments, and in addition the muscles around your hip may be weak. Until you strengthen these muscles, you may continue to feel the hip popping. If the Dr didn't do an xray, It would be good to ask for one. You want to make sure there is nothing else going on, like a congenital problem with the joint. I think perhaps a chiropractor would be a good choice for you, he/she can give you some tips on how to keep the hip in place and strengthen the muscles. In addition he/she will probably do an x-ray, and refer you to an ortho if needed.
my sister is always finding ways for me to get in trouble when it's not my fault. She is 16(almost 17) and i'm 14. like now, for instence, i was watching tv and my show was 8:00-8:30. and at 8:15 she comes downstairs screaming and yelling that she NEEDS to watch a baseball game that her boyfriend MIGHT be at. well my show was half over and there are 3 other tvs in our house so i told her i was watching to go watch somewhere else. so she goes outside and makes up some fake story saying that i had been watching tv for 2 hours and she had to watch it it was on a channel we don't get in any other rooms when we could get it everywhere else. so she comes back in saying i have to move. and of course, i'm not going to my shows back on so she literally JUMPS on top of me screaming and fighting and punches me and kicks me then jumps off and runs outside to tell my dad i just hit her. Now i have a bruise on each leg, probably one in between my ribs, and my back hurts when i move and i can't breathe without it hurting. so when my shows over i get up and decide to go outside to tell my dad MY side of the story and as i'm opening the door she laughs and calls back "whipped!". my dad wouldn't even listen to my story and this always happens. why can i do to have them hear my side of the story. and if i'm the one whipped.. why did she have to watch if her boyfriend MIGHT be there? and why did he just call saying he's not and wanted to see what was on SFN or w/e so she's flipping through the 999 channels we have trying to find it..
You need to sit down and have a talk with your parents when your sister is not around. Ask them if they could see both sides of the story, and not just take her side of things. Since I am the youngest of the family, I know how a lot of things got blamed on me, but to listen to my older sister and brother you'd think they got the bad end of the stick. For one thing your sister is trying to solve problems with violence, and that's plain wrong. If all else fails, go to the police who may try to talk to your parents, because if they allow this to go on, they are to blame also.
My mother and I fight all the time. She blames our finacial problems on me all the time. She yells at me if I go out with my friends, but if I stay home me and her fight alot. Most of the time she gets mad at me for something simple like me sleeping in, being on the internet or asking for a friend to come over. I know I do get my way with my dad, but I don't ask her for much and I try to do what she says so I won't make her mad. But no matter what we started fighting like crazy! I'm so sick of it, I hate being with her, what should I do?
Your Mom is probably stressed, and when people are under stress they get cranky! My advice is to volunteer to help your Mom as much as possible so you can show that you are responsible, and it will give her a break. Once she learns to relax a little perhaps the small things won't bother her as much and you won't fight a lot.
okay can you actually SEE sperm. i don't mean cum i mean like the actual sperm, like could you grab it. i thought it wasn't visible to the eye, but someone said you could like grab it!?
thanks!!
One small drop of semen contains millions of sperm. Of course you can't see them with the naked eye, and you'd never be able to grab one. You can see them under a microscope however, and they look like little tadpoles.
Notice that this picture is magnified 600 times. (this means it is 600 times bigger than the normal size)
http://syi.hkcampus.net/~syi-kc/m_sperm.htm
ok so im a freshman in high school (15 yrs old) and like every weeekend someone in our grade has a party at their house.. and of course there's drinking. a lottt of people go.. and it's always the thing that everyone is talking about the week after that in school.. i havent gone to any yet.. but i really want to. what are some tips to like "fake drink" or only drink a little?
I don't like to drink, and ever since I can remember I'll choose a soda instead. If you set a good example, you might be surprised at some others that will choose to refrain. Keep in mind though, even if you are not drinking and if the party is full of minors, you could all get in trouble with the law. The ultimate best would be to avoid these parties all together, or tell your friends to make sure they include you in the non drinking activities.
hi..
i really need ur help..
actually ive missed my period in feb i got it on da 9th and in april i got it on da 22 (dat is 13days late) and da whole of march i didnt get it...
well i havent had sex but yes me and my guy do indulge in oral sex..but he has never inserted it into me. all what he's done is..rubbed his penis onto my pussy on da top.. is it cozof dat i havent got my period...well lately we have even used a condom but not inserted..just for oral sex.. is there a way i could get pregnant and so ive missed my period plz let me know...
Since you have irreglar periods it'd be difficult to tell if you were pregnant by missing one. Yes, there is a way that you could be pregnant, it doesn't always take penetration. The best advice is to buy a home pregnancy test, and then go to the Dr if you are. If you are not pregnant, use a better form of birth control.
I'm 15 years old. I used to be popular, but ever since i switched into a private school i feel like i dont hang out as much, and when i do, its ME making the plans. I especially dont have very many guy friends any more (esp. since i now go to an all girls school). WHAT SHOULD I DO!? and how can i make new guy friends?
Go to places where guys hang out and make small talk with one or two of them. Then exchange numbers or email addresses.
The arcade, a health club, Tae kwondo classes, the lake, a beach, car races...and so on.
Don't focus so much on being popular, just focus on being nice and people will like you anyway.
Me,and my ex broke up about 3 months ago.
Last day of school,i got high and stuff.
I was with one of his friend that well i kinda like.
Well stuff happened,like sexual stuff.
But now he left for the summer,right now.
And my ex just told me,he misses me.
And im not sure what to do.
Because,he always talks about all these other girls and i hate it.
But,now with the whole thing with one of his friends.
I dont know what to do.
And right now,the guy i did stuff with im starting to like his friend.
But the promblem is,his friend only started talking to people because he heard about the stuff i had done.
Can,someone help me with this promblem?
Because,im not sure what to do.
I am having a difficult time understanding your post. So, I will guess.
Are you saying that the friend of the ex only likes you because he knows you have gone all the way? In that case, he's not worth your time. Someone that talks about other girls is not worth your time either. Find someone else!