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Hi. I'm 13/f
My problem is that My mom is really into christianity and all that stuff, but lately I've been getting into witchcraft.(yes, I know the bible says it's an abomination against God) My mom doesn't know, and so she still takes me to church with her every sunday.but whenever I'm in church, I feel like I'm getting a lecture or something like that. She's so into it, she sent me to private school because of the "Moral Values" of it. the truth is, all the kids there are pretty much the same as they would be in public school. We all cuss, some of us smoke and a few of us drink.I mean, I believe in god, but I also believe in spells. I've seen them work before and have succesfully done some. I'm not really sure what to do. Any help??? (link)
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At the moment because you are so young you will have to follow the guidelines that your Mum sets out. There is nothing wrong in getting into witchcraft if that is how you feel. However, I suggest that for now you keep it to yourself. Not because you should be ashamed but because it can be misunderstood.
I suggest finding some books to read at the library to give yourself some background and looking into the various forms of witchcraft. Just because it is called witchcraft does not make it evil - there are many white witches in the world doing good.
Also, at 13 you should not be drinking or smoking because you should value your body and keep in the best condition you can. I believe in God and I also believe in witchcraft. I feel personally that they can co-exist side by side. I wish you all the very best on your journey of discovery.
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My uncle had aid's, he was gay. he died before i was born. I had sex with this guy about 3 weeks ago. he used a condom. but then like 2 weeks ago we were in my bed and he was fingering me but then i think he might have put soemthing in there that wasnt his fingers (his dick) i am not sure though but as soon as i felt it i was afraid so i made him take it out and he said "what baby i was just fingering you" so i dont know but could i have std's or could i have given him std's? (link)
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It is not a good idea to mess around with your health. Although he said he was only fingering you, I too would be doubtful if I thought it was something else.
To put your mind at rest, please go to the doctors or Planned Pregnancy where they will be able to help you with this. Your parents will not be told if you can't face telling them. Never let a guy have sex with you without using a condom. That way you will be reassured that you are protecting yourself against STDs and pregnancy.
At 13 too, you are still far too young to be having a sexual relationship. It is against the law and the guy could end up being prosecuted. You need to have more respect for yourself and say no to any sexual advances. I wish you all the best and hope that it all works out okay for you.
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I have bumps down there. they bleed, hurt and itch. there is no chance im going to tell my parents about this. im only 13, and ive been getting these since i started masturbating. coincidence? i doubt it. what should i do? (link)
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As with every question about health, without actually knowing more details or seeing the problem, it is not possible to give you a constructive answer.
As it bothers you I suggest that you make an appointment to see a doctor or go to Planned Pregnancy. (I don't know if you are male or female) You don't actually have to be having intercourse to get help. They will be able to advise you on the best ointment or tablet to treat the problem. You don't have to tell your parents either and they certainly won't. Good luck.
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i have this weird joint pain inbetween my thumb and pointer finger on my right hand. what could this be?
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If you are right-handed and use your finger to text or play games on the computer then I would suggest it could be RSI (repetitive strain injury). It's when you use one finger more than the others, or for example if you move one set of bones more than the rest. However, as I am not medically trained it is only a guess. The best thing to do if it bothers you is to seek the professional opinion of a doctor or pharmicist.
All the best.
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Last night I drank a half a 2'6 of raspberry vodka. This morning the back / roof of my mouth feels very raw and sore.
Could the drinking and pain be related?
Is there any way I can make it feel better?
I have tried eating icecream because it is cold but it did not work.
Thanks so much for your help :) (link)
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It's very likely that the alcohol had something to do with your sore mouth. I suggest gargling or swilling your mouth out with a weak solution of TCP and water, or a saline solution. Otherwise I suggest sucking on some throat lozenges. Hope that helps.
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I have a really back pain in the back of my head. It won't go away, it is a thumping pain and it just will not go away. i already had tynenol.. i don't what to do... HELP ASAP! (link)
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If it is really that bad and painkillers are not helping, please go to your local chemist/pharmicist and ask for their advice. They will be able to tell you what to take for it or whether you need to see a doctor. Never take chances with your health especially concerning the head. Good luck.
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i jammed my toe. its kind of crewkid now just a little and it hurts and its swollen. i am scared to pop it cuz it hurts so bad. so if i dont will it eventually go back to normal? (link)
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It would probably be better if you took yourself off to the doctors. They will be able to assess the damage and advise on treatment. It sounds to me like it is dislocated and you would find it quite painful to put it back. I am not sure if it would go back on its own and I am not medically qualified to say it would. Getting professional help is probably the best way forward. Good luck.
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wierd question but how do you hint to a guy you DO NOT like him.... there was a guy that i used to like and he knew but he thinks i still like him. how do i imply to him that i dont like him anymore, but not be mean or rude... i wanna be friends, and i want him to know that we will never be more than friends. (link)
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I think you need to tell him that you really value his friendship and would be reluctant to jeopardise that friendship by becoming more intimate.
If you play up the fact that you really like him as a friend you avoid the possibility of hurting him with rejection.
Try pointing out the positives of friendship, for example if you were to date and then finish, you would lose him as a friend altogether.
Hope this helps - good luck.
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where do babies come from? (link)
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I hope this question is a joke!!
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im almost 6 months pregnant, and i feel enormous. i had an extremely flat stomach before, and very toned abs. i miss my old tummy so bad, and NONE of my clothes fit anymore. i went shopping today for clothes, but didnt really have enough time to try them on, i bought t hem way bigger than i needed, cuz i figured i could wear them later, but ALREADY- they dont fit~!! i have become so depressed over my size, although friends and family tell me im barely showing. ive gained so much weight in my hips and butt, its a struggle enough to feel comfortable in anything but pajamas. i think my boyfriend might be losing interest in me slowly becuase of my weight as well. someone please help me!!!!!!!!!!i love this child more than anyone on this earth, but this mama's got her baby blues. (link)
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Yes, I can so relate to how you are feeling. The big bum, the huge tummy and the fat thighs. It will go back to normal once you have had your baby, but remember it takes nine months to get that big and it will take more than a week to get back into shape. Have you asked your partner how you look? - most men don't really notice you putting on baby weight - they tend to see the lovely, blooming mother of their child.
All mothers have their blue days and it is quite a natural thing but the best bit is when you are holding that precious bundle in your arms. It is all worth it in the end. I wish you and your new family a very happy life together.
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i went to my orthodontist a week ago, and they just found out that i only have three front teeth. you know how we're supposed to have two big teeth in the very front, then one more teeth on each side, then the "fangs"? well, i only have three. i didn't notice it either, and my ortho said it doesn't matter so much. but i just wanted to know, is that ok? like, is it not so unique? (link)
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My Son only has three front teeth also. It is something that he inherited from his father so I guess it is not so unique. He has never had any problem with how he looks or anything. Hope that helps.
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hey iam 17 and iam going to universal studios in october and my mom said i could go since my cousin is taking me,but she said i couldn't ride any of the rides while iam there.I mean what's the point of even going if i can't ride the rides that's the whole point of even going she treats me like iam a baby but iam not how can i convince my mom to let me ride some of the rides thankyou. (link)
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Ask your Mum if she means all the rides or just the 'dangerous' ones. There are a lot of easy rides that you can take and so much to see and do there. However, you are 17 and I think you should be able to judge for yourself if you consider a ride to be unsuitable for you.
I think you should also check that you have no health problems that would stop you from going on these rides.
Tell your Mum that you will listen to her request and ask her to trust you to weigh up all the options before taking a ride.
I hope that you have a wonderful time at Universal Studios. Enjoy!!
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If you are trying to conceive, do you still wear condoms? Thanks. (link)
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You should not use any form of contraceptive if you are trying to conceive, so the answer is no.
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Hi I just turned 13 a week ago and when I was 12, this man pulled up in a car beside me and told me he was Jesus. I am sort of gullible, so I thought he was serious because he can a beard and long brown hair. He told me to get in the car so I did because Hey this is Jesus! He then took me out to his ranch where we played Monopoly (I won by the way). Afterwards, he gave me what he said was sparkling cider. I started to feel all woozily and the next thing I knew I was outside of my house playing hopscotch!
Is this normal? (link)
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I think that perhaps you ought to tell your parents what happened so that they can call the police. It sounds to me like he has probably used a drug like Rohipnol to make you forget what happened to you. The likelihood is that you were abused in some way and he needs to be stopped from doing it to someone else.
You were very naive in getting into a complete strangers car even if they said they were Jesus. Please don't ever do that again - the outcome may end up even worse.
You need to be checked over by a health professional in case you have contracted a sexually transmitted disease or a yeast infection.
I strongly urge you to get help with this and if you find the thought of telling your parents horrible, please tell a teacher or another adult that you trust.
Please get help now - I wish you all the best.
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well me and my friend
we arnt sure if we are going out anymore
well his name is eric
and he isnt a virgin but i am and i feel like i am ready to you know...with him
but i am 14 and i dont know i like him a lot an u know he os cool but i think whenever i am with him all we do is kiss or makeout we dont ever get to talk only on the phone and myspace. buti am gonna go see him on sunday and i think that is when we are gonna do it help me an I making the right decision?!?! (link)
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No I really don't think that you are making the right decision. Why? Firstly, I think you are far too young to be contemplating a sexual relationship with anyone at the moment because you are not mature enough either emotionally or physically.
Losing your virginity is something that can never be undone. A lot of people think it is not a great deal but it is. You have to know in yourself that you are ready and if you have to ask then it shows you are not.
Secondly, have you thought through all the implications of having a sex life? You have to consider contraception (don't leave it to the guys)- double protection ie. pill and condom is a must. Does he have any STDs, or HIV or anything else that you could catch? You have to have answers to these questions because your life will depend on his honesty.
Finally, at 14 it is illegal and your guy could end up in jail for having sex with a minor.
Obviously, the ultimate decision is yours but please have pride in yourself and your body and really think it through before you give your most precious asset away.
Good luck with your decision.
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i am not lesbian nor will ever be, but one of my bestfriends is a lesbian, looks exactly like a guy. and people always mistake her for a guy.. anyways my brother always jokes me about being friends with her and says im her girfriend and jokes me about thinking im a lesbian, what can i do or say to make him shut up ? (link)
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Perhaps your brother is uncomfortable with the fact that your friend is a lesbian. Joking around may be his way of coping with his personal discomfort. I could quite easily be wrong - but try telling him that everyone has personal choice and he should not joke about someone elses lifestyle. Ask him to see it from your point of view and you would not demean yourself by taking cracks at one of his friends. In time he will lose interest anyway so if he does continue trying to be funny ask your parents to have a quiet word. Good luck.
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umm this is kinda weird to ask haha. but im serious when i ask this question. is it embarassing at all when you have to take a dump like while your boyfriends at your house or something? i know everyone does but.. it seems embarassing to me. thanks! (link)
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I think that what embarrasses most people about taking a dump is the noise and smell. We are afraid to make a noise when passing a motion and then when we are finished we worry that the bathroom will smell.
There really is not a lot that you can do about it and I am sure that most people have had concerns about the same thing. My own little foible is being unable to use a toilet that is dirty. I would rather hold on until I got home than use a dirty loo.
One solution regarding the noise is to put a little wad of toilet paper into the loo just before you pass a motion - that will stop the splash, and either open a window slightly or take your perfume with you. Most people tend to keep a bottle of bleach or an air freshener in the toilet so just give it a quick blast with that.
It's not a weird question at all because we all worry about something. I hope this has helped.
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Everytime I feel like I'm getting comfortable with a new group of friends... something will happen that will make me feel like it's all a charade. I always feel like I'm on the outside looking in and I'm never really PART of the group. I don't know why! If anyone is in this type of situation hewlp me out... I'm so sick of feeling like I don't have real friends. (link)
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What you are feeling is incredibly common. I think nearly everyone has felt unwanted or unloved by other people at sometime or another.
It is really a matter of confidence in yourself and something that you can achieve with practice. Say to yourself everyday that you are a worthy person and capable of loving and being loved by your friends. Hold your head up at all times and look people in the face no matter how uncomfortable you feel and after a time it should become a natural thing to ooze the confidence you are lacking at the moment.
I hope that this has helped a little. Good luck.
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My boyfriend just told be that he doesn't want to kiss at school.
I don't see why he doesn't want to kiss at school. Maybe if it was making out, because I wouldn't makeout in school either. But just a peck?!
I know he has alot of friends, and maybe it would be a little embarassing to kiss infront of his friends, expectally guys. So I understand from his point of view.
But My heart felt like it was bleeding wide open today. I felt like I needed to be with him, I wanted to kiss him. & now I can't.
I don't get to see him constantly out of school either. =/ And plus I'm almost constantly supervised, expect when I'm in school.
I don't know what I'm going to do.. help? =/
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I can see both sides of this problem - on the one hand you want to demonstrate how you feel about him and on the other he will get very embarrassed if you do.
You need to work out a little compromise that will suit you both. Is it possible to sneak five minutes away from everyone else every day just to have a quick peck? Suggest that you find a special place out of sight of prying eyes.
I know that it can be hard to curb your natural instinct to kiss someone you really like but if you look at it from another angle - how does he feel?
I wish you all the best.
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I hate the way she looks, the way she chews her food gives me cold chills just wanting to smack her in her face. I hate the way she is bipolar and takes pills to help and soon has she gets off I have dreams about how I could kill her. How she makes me do shit she doesn’t want to do! I fucking hate her!!!!!!! I don’t care if she brought me in this world, she going to make me, take my self out of it. If it doesn’t have anything to do with her she doesn’t want to talk about it! She a cyber whore cause she can’t get anyone in person other than my fucked up step dad! If she on the net I could be dieing and she wouldn’t even take her eyes off the computer. She makes me so fucking depressed!!!!!!! She is the reason I need someone to talk to and I have thoughts of killing myself! She even make my little brother want to do the same thing ......I fucking hate her... tell me how to stop hating her
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I suggest you slow down a bit and take a deep breath in and slowly let it out!! Okay so your Mum and you don't get on at all - that is no reason to kill yourself. In a few years time when you are older you will be able to go off and live your life the way you want to live it.
This life you are living at the moment will be gone before you realise. You only have to spend the first 18 years with your parents and then for the next 50 or 60 you can do what you want.
Have you tried talking to a counsellor at school? Do you have a friend that you can talk to or someone in the family that will understand what you are going through?
I know that at the moment your life sucks and the life your little brother is living sucks too. You need to help each other through this and by supporting and talking to each other you may be able to present a united front to your Mum and try to explain how you are feeling. If she won't listen to you then try writing her a letter or even email her.
Whatever happens, please get some adult help and don't consider killing yourself, life will get better. Just hang on in there for a little bit longer and you will be able to walk away and not look back if you don't want to. I wish you and your brother all the very best and if I can help out again please let me know. Good luck.
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